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November 05, 2020The Noble Man Leads Himself (Guest: Carlos Santiago) | Episode 33
Carlos Santiago, Writer and Content Developer for Family Life, wrote an article which captured my attention about How to Raise a Boy to be a Man. It triggered the questions many fathers of sons might have. How do I begin leading my son into godly manhood? When do I start? How young is too young? What principles do I begin with? Carlos dives into these answers, and most importantly we talk about how to begin by leading ourselves.

Leadership is developed before you get married, because to lead others, including our wives and children, we must lead ourselves first. That might be easier said than done when it comes to things like understanding your heart, asking for help, controlling your emotions, and taking responsibility. But Carlos leads us through practical examples of how to begin doing these things ourselves so that we can lead our sons.

“Manhood is under attack everywhere you go. People don’t have examples readily available, and others are getting torn down.”

If you’ve ever felt a void in what it means to be a godly leader as a man, whether personally, in culture, or even in the church, you’re not alone. I hope you’ll listen in for Carlos’ valuable insight on leading the next generation of boys into biblical manhood.

Resources:
How to Raise a Boy to be a Man by Carlos Santiago
Family Life – Be sure to sign up to receive helpful resources for your family.
Your Ever After – Carlos and Tanya Santiago
Family Life app in Google Play and the Apple Store
YouVersion Bible app – search for plans by Carlos Santiago and Family Life

Join us next week with Keith Tulley of Family Life and Weekend to Remember, as we talk about how The Noble Man Leads His Wife.

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October 29, 2020 The Noble Man Invests in Faithful Men (Guest: Mike Mehaffie) | Episode 32
Mike Mehaffie and his wife Sharon have faithfully invested in young men and women for the last 44 years on the staff of Cru at North Carolina State University. In this episode, Mehaffie recalls how the ministry began on the N.C. State campus with 30 students total and has grown large enough to have 220 students in leadership positions last year.
“God is working, and we try not to mess it up.”
His incredible faith story began at age 16 when he was just too tired to change the TV channel after football practice. He saw Billy Graham on TV and wrote him a letter requesting the gospel of John.
“It started an adventure for me of walking with Christ.”
As a new believer, he didn’t know what to do, so he sought out a Bible study. He was faithful in showing up, good with people, and willing to reach out and share his faith. God used one faithful man, who recognized him as being FAT – faithful, accountable, and teachable, to disciple him for three years and encourage him in ministry.
But it is the power of prayer that resonates over every aspect of his life, marriage, and ministry.
“Little prayer equals little power, much prayer equals much power, and no prayer equals no power.”
Mehaffie’s whole life changed when he read the book of John he received from Billy Graham’s ministry. If you would like a free copy of the gospel of John from Noble Warriors, send an email to [email protected] today.
“Jesus is the greatest model of manhood we could ever hope to look at and emulate our lives after.”
Resources:
The Transferable Concepts booklets
Knowing God Personally
4 Spiritual Laws by Bill Bright
The Master Plan of Evangelism by Robert Coleman
Prayer: Experiencing Awe and Intimacy with God by Tim Keller
The Practice of the Presence of God by Brother Lawrence
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October 23, 2020The Noble Man Invests in Faithful Men (Guest: Bernie Ritterbush) | Episode 31
I met Bernie Ritterbush around 2005 at a National Coalition of Ministries to Men conference in Washington D.C., and as he reminds me, it was before the official launch of Noble Warriors. In this episode, we discuss the difference between discipleship and disciple-making with Bernie, who has been an intentional disciple-maker for almost 50 years. He’s worked with Christian Business Men’s Committee (now Connection), founded the Men’s Ministry Network in 1996, and he’s the creator of (re)THINK Disciplemaking: Seeing God’s Map for Becoming and Making Mature Disciples.
“The one thing that will end is our disciple-making – life on life. When we are gone, our life can’t be part of that picture anymore. The main purpose God has us on the planet is to reproduce.”
Disciple-making is the intentional process that produces a disciple. Over time, Bernie learned to reverse-engineer the discipleship process and emphasize the core competencies of what it means to walk with Jesus in obedience and humility and implement His Truth in our lives.
We want to be Jesus-followers, not just scholars.
Don’t be afraid of making a mistake; He will redeem that. Judas betrayed Jesus. Men may not turn out the way that you want, but be obedient to what the Lord wants you to do in terms of investing in other men. He grows and gives the increase.
Resources:
(re)THINK Disciplemaking by Bernie Ritterbush
Every Man a Warrior Navigator Series
Find 5 Bibles we recommend and other resources from The Noble Man is a Man of the Word [Podcast Ep. 11].
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October 13, 2020The Noble Man Invests in Faithful Men (Guest: Carey Bates) | Episode 30
As we carry on our theme this month, I am joined by Carey Bates, my former pastor and a man who faithfully invested in me. We met Carey when we first moved to Richmond over 20 years ago.
Before Carey even knew what discipleship really was, he started a group of men studying the Bible in his dorm room. Through the mentorship in his own life, he became passionate about reproductive discipleship. It became part of his DNA and ministry to look for the guy or the group he could invest in, and it all started when a man willing to disciple him said, “Come with me.”
We often don’t feel qualified to disciple others, but Carey helps us understand that as long as we have prayer, a biblical foundation, and fellowship with other men, we’ve got what it takes to begin. He recommends many resources to help us get kicked off. While there is nothing magical about any one resource, it’s a track to run on and get you started. As you listen, I pray you gain confidence to take that first step.
When they deliver you over, do not be anxious how you are to speak or what you are to say, for what you are to say will be given to you in that hour. For it is not you who speak, but the Spirit of your Father speaking through you. Matthew 10:19-20
“We are prompted by the Holy Spirit, but we are prepared by our mind.”
Resource Recommendations:
The Bible – Serendipity Bible, or check out Resources on Episode 11: The Noble Man is a Man of the Word
Point Man – one of my favorites to begin with
Master Life series – the resource Carey used when he began discipling me
Navigator material – including The Alongsiders, 2:7, and Design for Discipleship
Survival Kit by Ralph W. Neighbor, Jr.
Growing Up: How to Be a Disciple Who Makes Disciples by Robby Gallaty
Operation Timothy
Tally Ho The Fox! (The Foundation for Building World-Visionary, World-Impacting, Reproducing Disciples) by Herb Hodges
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October 06, 2020The Noble Man Invests in Faithful Men (Guest: Ed Gomes) | Episode 29
Our guest this week is Dr. Ed Gomes, Director of Spiritual Development for the Flames, Liberty University's football team. He’s a man who lives out our theme this month, The Noble Man Invests in Faithful Men. You may know Dr. Gomes from The Noble Man / ISI workshops, but if this is the first time you are hearing from him, you’re going to love this guy!

He begins with his own story of coming to know Christ at the age of 17, then earning a basketball scholarship in 1974 to Liberty Baptist College, or what is now Liberty University. Two faithful men, John and Russell, invested in him, taught him the Word, and modeled faithfulness to him by the way they lived their life.

“There was something about them that seemed irresistible simply by the way they lived.” Dr. Gomes has copied what they showed him, and his heart for ministry brought him back to the school in the 90’s where he has served the Flames football team faithfully.

Dr. Gomes is a living example of a faithful man who builds up other faithful men just like Paul admonishes us in 2 Timothy 2:2, “And what you have heard from me in the presence of many witnesses entrust to faithful men, who will be able to teach others also.”

He drops great nuggets of wisdom in this episode. Listen for how he applies these and more as he serves the Flames football players year after year. “The greatest joy is seeing our young men walk with truth, taking the truth that was invested in them and investing it in others.”

And check out his awesome Shoe Shine Ministry!

Top Tips:

Every single one of us has a story. Let God take your story, so He can make it His story, so we can encourage someone else in their story.

“It’s not about having it all together, it’s about moving in the right direction.”

Pay attention to what God is trying to do in and through the local church. God has you there with purpose.

Be faithful where you are to make a difference.

Focus on how you can be a blessing and an encouragement.

We are at our best when we focus on others and are paying attention to what’s going on around us.

Instead of waiting to be blessed, take the initiative to be a blessing. Ask 'how does God want to use me to help someone else grow in their faith?'

The bottom line is about serving. It's about what He wants. It’s not about what I want.

Many times, the reason men don’t get involved is because no one asks them.

When it comes to “Training Champions for Christ,” the Liberty motto:

It starts with example.

It’s about accountability, relationship, discipleship, and passing the baton.
Identify leaders, guys intentional about their relationship with God.
Focus on servant leadership. Earn the right to speak into their life.
Ask them to step up and provide greater spiritual leadership – man-to-man conversation.
Prepare them for what they’ll face ten years down the road. Look at where they're going to be when they graduate. Have a game plan academically, athletically, socially, spiritually.

Look at where they can be and not where they’re at.

“Keep conversation Christ-centered. All lives matter because that is how Jesus looks at life. Jesus unifies us, not the color of our skin. When Jesus is the focal point, we can ask each other the tough questions.”

Dr. Gomes’ Resources:

Building a Legacy Student Guide

Leaving a Legacy Leader’s Guide

Discipleship for Student Athletes

Authentic Manhood: 33 Series

View Show Notes: NobleWarriors.org/Episode29
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September 29, 2020 The Noble Man Needs Honest Brothers to Walk in Sexual Integrity (Guest: Nate Larkin) | Episode 28
Nate Larkin of the Samson Society shares with Mike how his life and marriage were saved when he understood the importance of being in relationship with other brothers in Christ.

He thought he was completely alone in his struggle with pornography, which eventually led him down a dark road into prostitution and a suicide plot. But by God’s grace he was finally “caught.” He wasn't aware that what he needed was healing, not forgiveness.

“I was always begging for forgiveness that was already mine because I didn’t understand the Gospel.”

Porn was just a medicator for the deep wounds in his life. He needed connection. Porn offers the illusion of connection, but in reality, it cripples us from creating emotional connections. “Lust kills love.”

Like many of us, Nate tried to fight a solo battle.

“I wanted this ‘me and Jesus’ relationship that wouldn’t require me to expose myself or connect with anyone else.”

But Nate was freed by learning we are part of a body – we can’t walk alone. Jesus called two men to follow Him, and then he called 10 more.

“For where two or three are gathered in my name, there am I among them.” Matthew 18:20

“Then the LORD God said, It is not good for man to be alone.” Genesis 2:18a

Resources:

Read Nate’s full testimony in his book, Samson and the Pirate Monks: Calling Men to Authentic Brotherhood, or listen to it on Audible.

Attend a newcomer Zoom meeting at the Samson Society, a fellowship of Christian men who are serious about authenticity, community, humility, and recovery. Meetings take place every day.

Download your free copy of Covenant Eyes’ Your Brain on Porn eBook to learn about how porn rewires the brain and kills love.

Tune in to The Noble Man Podcast next week for The Noble Man Invests in Faithful Men.
View Show Notes: NobleWarriors.org/Episode28
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September 24, 2020The Noble Man Makes a Covenant with His Eyes (Guest: Sam Black) | Episode 27
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“I get to live in freedom, and freedom feels good!”
This week on the podcast Sam Black joins us from Covenant Eyes screen accountability software. You’ve got to tune in to this one to get perspective and tips on how to protect your family online. It’s not just about building walls, it’s about community.
Protecting Our Kids: “Our relationships with our kids help porn proof them.”
We don’t want to take away their innocence, we want to take away their ignorance.
Shame them if you want to keep them from talking and promote compulsion.
It’s not just a men’s issue. We need to talk to our daughters as dads.
It’s imperative to talk to kids starting very young.
Model accountability. They need to see the importance of having others in your life.
Behaviors to Model: “Freedom is real, and victory is intoxicating!”
Accountability is great, but we need to help each other identify and change ritual behavior.
Build distance between you and the behaviors and create a new habits.
Success happens through community; it requires community to create healing.
God makes community in the church, but you have to step into it.
Don’t feel defeated. Decide today starts my path for victory.
Resources:
Protecting Your Family Online: A Parents How-to Guide
Hobbies and Habits: Learn how healthy hobbies and habits can help you break free from porn
Connected: How Strong Family Relationships Lead to internet-Safe Kids
Your Brain on Porn: 5 Proven Ways Pornography Warps Your Mind and 3 Biblical Ways to Renew It
40-Day Challenge – Takes you on your first 40 days of freedom from porn.
FREE SHE Virtual Recovery Summit on Oct 5-9 – Conference for women to Support, Help, and Empower.
More resources – all free!
Join us next week to hear Nate Larkin from the Samson Society, a fellowship of Christian men who are serious about authenticity, community, humility & recovery. 
View Show Notes: NobleWarriors.org/Episode27
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September 15, 2020 The Noble Man Has a Renewed Mind (Guest: Steve Etner) | Episode 26
“Be sure your sin will find you out.” Numbers 32:23
“I tried to hide it, but sin has repercussions in every area of life.”
This week on the podcast in The Noble Man has a Renewed Mind, you’ll hear a very raw and real testimony from Steve Etner of the The Purity Coach as he openly shares about his lifelong battle with porn, lust, and masturbation. It’s a story that affected him, his marriage, and the churches that he pastored for decades, but praise God that’s not where the story ends. Steve’s life is a living testimony to the redemptive work of Jesus Christ on the cross.
“Our Savior came to earth on a mission of redemption and reconciliation. You cannot do this on your own.”
After years of seeking help, God used a man, not a pastor or a counselor, but a man who loved the Word and pointed Steve to it daily. “He just began to open up the Word of God, and he showed me the God of the Scriptures, who was a God I never knew.” For anyone who has wrestled with the guilt of sexual sin, Steve offers scripture after scripture to dive into and memorize to renew your mind.
“You cannot change your behavior until you first change your heart.”
Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it. Proverbs 4:23 NIV
Resources for Help:
Steve’s recommended Bible reading: 2 Cor 10:5, Psalm 23, 25, 27, and 51.
The Purity Coach
Free Purity App
Extreme Mind Makeover by Steve Etner
Steven’s workshop, Transforming Sinful Habits into God Pleasing Life Patterns – The Noble Man Virtual Event – Richmond
If you need help now, call Steve Etner at 574-360-1141, or seek a local counselor.
Join us next week on the podcast for The Noble Man Has Made a Covenant With His Eyes.
View Show Notes: NobleWarriors.org/Episode26
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September 09, 2020 The Noble Man Pursues a PROVEN Path (Guest: Marshall Shank) | Episode 25
This week as we discuss how The Noble Man Pursues a PROVEN path to Purity, we hear from the Director of Outreach for Proven Men Ministries, Marshall Shank. Tragically, we now see evidence that the average age of first exposure to porn is 8 years old, and it’s imperative that we know how to equip our families and ourselves in this battle. Proven Men is on a mission to see a revival of sexual integrity among the entire bride of Christ. Join Mike and Marshall as they talk about creating an environment for sexual integrity in our homes.

“We’ve got a lot of work to do to guard our hearts, minds, children, and the gates of our homes.”

What is the PROVEN path?

“Freedom is found through an intimate and consistent relationship with Christ.”

Passionate for God

Repentant in spirit

Open and honest

Victorious in living

Eternal in perspective

Networked with other godly people

Resources:

ProvenMen.org – Encouragement Resources and 12-week study

Good Pictures Bad Pictures: Porn-Proofing Today’s Young Kids - Protect Young Minds

James 5:16

“Therefore, confess your sins to one another and pray for one another, that you may be healed. The prayer of a righteous person has great power as it is working.”
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September 03, 2020 The Noble Man Knows He's in a Purity Battle | Episode 24
This week on the podcast, our guest, Mike, shares his transparent testimony with us about how a childhood tragedy and a chance stumble upon pornographic magazines kicked off a decades-long battle with grief and addiction. In this authentic and sincere conversation, Mike opens up about how he believed he was alone and unique in his struggle and even felt betrayed when he attempted to seek help, but he ultimately found freedom in Christ. His story is a great reminder that The Noble Man Knows He’s in a Purity Battle, and we can be victorious.

“There truly is hope for this addiction, and there is true freedom.”

Themes to Listen For:

You are not alone – that is a lie the enemy wants you to believe.
Sin progresses if we don’t seek help. Addictive behavior and repetitive patterns form, and it will become more graphic, more real, and more live.
Know your triggers. When and where are you vulnerable? Don’t stay there when you trip and stumble, share it.
Realize we can’t do it on our own. When we live in isolation we get into stinking thinking. We need help.
He wants us to be in community. Sometimes it just takes picking up the phone.
The church needs safe places for men to battle.
No matter your experience with the church, Christ will never fail you.

Resources to Help:

Covenant Eyes

Proven Men

The Purity Coach

Every Man's Battle: Winning the War on Sexual Temptation One Victory at a Time by Fred Stoeker

Promises to Stand On:

Romans 6

We know that our old self was crucified with him in order that the body of sin might be brought to nothing, so that we would no longer be enslaved to sin. For one who has died has been set free from sin. (v. 6-7)

Romans 8

There is therefore now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus. (v. 1)

1 John 1:5-9

This is the message we have heard from him and proclaim to you, that God is light, and in him is no darkness at all. If we say we have fellowship with him while we walk in darkness, we lie and do not practice the truth. But if we walk in the light, as he is in the light, we have fellowship with one another, and the blood of Jesus his Son cleanses us from all sin. If we say we have no sin, we deceive ourselves, and the truth is not in us. If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness. If we say we have not sinned, we make him a liar, and his word is not in us.
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