The Oasis Space

As we continue our [EM]Bracing for Impact Series, and how we transform conflict to peace with our children, it's important to discuss when our children make choices that not only impact themselves, but another human life they are now responsible for.
 
In this episode, TeenMoms2 Beyond Founder, Roberta Axson, shares her personal journey as a teen mom, and why it was important for her to accept the assignment of breaking the generational curse and make choices that would change the direction of her life.  Additionally, we discuss:
- Perceived Fear Tactics Communicated By Teen Moms
- The Necessity to Revisit the Past to Identify Strategies to Change the Cycle
- Sex Education in the School System
- Signs/Suggested Timeframe to Discuss Sex with Your Children
- Forgiving Yourself as a Teen Mom
- Having "Destiny Dialogues" to Push Forth Change in the Next Generation

Key Quotes/Takeaways:
"I just believe in being able to come to the table, being able to invite my children to the table, and have those conversations of what we can do better as a family. What didn't work or what's not working and then being able to be the solution to those problems or those issues." - Roberta

We can't be afraid to ask them [our children] what they need, and not be shocked at their response. i think sometimes, the fear of the unknown is why we put up the smoke screens and not dissect what is needed." - Roberta

"I couldn't show up for him and give him me, because I couldn't give me, me." - Roberta

"When you think about generational curses, they are rooted in generations from our forefathers, the ancestors, and we only know sometimes what's before us or maybe just a generation behind us. But we are still held responsible of what came before that, and that's why the forgiveness and the healing has to be a daily decision. -Roberta

"We don't generally have those conversations because it really calls to the forefront the things that we likely may have already believed in ourselves anyways.  It potentially affirms what we already thought." - Patrice

"We talk about generational curses, but you create a new generational blessing by opening up those dialogues that can be passed on." - Patrice

"Oftentimes, when we are evolving, we want people to evolve or be accepting of us on our timeline, not giving people the space to come into terms, to review the perspective, to kind of look at it from a different lens, in their own space." - Patrice

"I couldn't grow in pride." - Roberta

"We self-sabatoge our own peace by not allowing people to support us or asking for the help when we know we need it. It doesn't make us less of a person, it doesn't make us any less of a mother, it doesn't make us any less of a wife, it doesn't make us any less of a co-worker. We are still phenomenally us, even if we're getting the support." - Patrice

Rapid Value Questions

What is one thing you like to do to sustain or reset your peace?
- Sleep and write

Name one book or song that's helped you to define peace.
- Starting Here Today by Roberta Axson

How do you define peace for yourself now?
- Being still.

Fill in the blank:
My name is Roberta Axson and without peace, I'd probably be lost, but with peace, I am free.
***********************************************************************************************
LINKS:
Engage with Patrice/Inquiries:
www.sociatap.com/ThePeaceCurator

Connect with Roberta:
Instagram: ra_axson

Support the show

One of the most important relationships that we'll have and cultivate is the relationship with our children.  We realize that parenting can be challenging in itself, but what happens when you're informed of your child's unique learning ability that inevitably rocks your world?  How can we as loved ones and educators actually change the narrative and create impact by EMBRACING their differences instead of simply bracing ourselves for what can feel like an inconvenience or an unwelcomed challenge in our world?

In this episode, we're joined in The Oasis Space with Amanda Gittens, where she shares with us the importance of collaboration + comprehension between the parent, student, and educator and how it's necessary to evolve over time so that we don't take it personal, but recognize the optimal goal is to help the child build transferrable skills into adulthood.

Key Takeaway/Quotes:

"It isn't until a piece of that village is actually removed, that you realize how much of an impact these teachers are making and how you're able to better show up authentically yourself at work." - Patrice

"A lot of times things have to fall apart in order for them to come together." - Patrice

"You have to remember we're here for the kids and whatever fits best for them.  it's not about me, it's more about them being able to access the education  that i'm providing." - Amanda

"I had to remember that God didn't put you at this table just for you, your seat was made for you."  - Amanda

"I think we just have to figure out ways that we can help them so they can be successful in life.  It's not just about 7th grade... It's about teaching these kids & working with the parents, & having them realize that these skills are transferrable to adults." - Amanda

"You tell yourself all these things that ultimately just make you feel worse about yourself as a parent, but ultimately does not serve the child, and ultimately, I think it removes the ability for you to see that the child is still capable and well equipped to conquer all the goals that they need to accomplish." - Patrice

"I think that we need to update the narrative...if you haven't heard it's 2021, and special education has evolved and the keyword is inclusion." - Amanda

"Everyone has their own journey and timing.  But we're all going to get there.  It doesn't make someone else superior because they got there first." - Patrice

"It doesn't matter when we get to it, as long as we learn the lesson.  But applying ourselves, being willing to learn, and put in the work helps us to get there quicker than maybe we even anticipated." - Patrice

The Oasis Space Rapid Value Questions

What is the one thing you like to do to sustain or reset your peace?

- Walking

Name one book or song that's helped you to define peace.

- Thank You by Marvin Sapp

How do you define peace for yourself now?

- As an adult, i think peace is where I strive to continue to be.  It's not somewhere I visit, i want to reside there so it's taking the road to get there and stay there.

Fill in the blank:

- My name is Amanda, and without peace I would be extremely lost and with peace, I feel whole.

*************************************************************************************

LINKS:

Engage with Patrice:

www.sociatap.com/ThePeaceCurator

Instagram: ThePeaceCurator

Email: [email protected]

FB Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theoasisspace

Support the show

SEASON 2 PREMIERE
 
How many of you have done something that you believe is with good intention?  You believe it's a triumph, but in reality it's a trauma response?

In this episode, we talk about that very thing.  How it can be detrimental to our peace if we don't actually define the source of the celebration which can be rooted in self love or self pity. 

Key Takeaways/Notable Quotes:

- 9:16: Being a "Miracle Baby," but not Recognizing Myself As One.
- For my parents, I was always known as their "miracle baby," but I hadn't always celebrated or even been celebrated as such.  That didn't come from them, my parents celebrated me. But I was not always celebrated, nor did I celebrate myself b/c I didn't act like I was a miracle."

11:22 - I told myself and tried to convince myself the day i was born, the day i was told i was a miracle baby, i really wasn't a miracle.  I was just another person on this earth that just so happened to be here. I was just another person taking up space and had to purchase a gift for.

13:52 - "it was my way to create these celebrations to brace what was gonna come. Trying to brace for the disappointment that may happen."

14:20 - "I had to come to the realization that instead of allowing the opportunity to be celebrated, i ultimately robbed my friends and family of that by trying to control the outcome myself."

14:50 - How Self Love Becomes Problematic When It's Actually Birthed Out of Self Pity

15:32 - The Difference with Self Care or Self Love is that it's preventative care. It is care and love and compassion that you are showing to yourself to sustain your well being.  You're doing it just b/c you deserve it.  Not b/c you performed, achievement, or did anything.

17:00 - "What i've learned is we will try to manufacture peace because we don't want to do the real work that it would take to eliminate us from continuing to mask the pain."

17:28 - "Who you trying to prove this to? Me or you?"

17:32 - "We put on the facade so that we don't have to do the real work to sit with the pain of "i'm really putting on this party or showing out like this b/c i'm afraid that if i don't, i'm going to be disappointed."

19:59 - "We as humans will try to mask things with clothes, or jobs or accomplishments to mask the things that are really hurting us."

25:52 - "A lot of Great Things are Birthed out of pain, but if your behaviors and actions are consistently showing up as a result of wounded pain, then you can't be operating in peace."

26:35 Unleash the Peace Method - Proclaim, Evaluate, Articulate, Comprehend, Empower

27:05 - "I was trying to manufacture peace, trying to manufacture triumph, in this situation instead of recognizing it was a trauma response."

29:02 - "How much more freeing is it to know that people love you that much that they want to take the time out celebrate you, because they always say you were the miracle, but you just didn't see it yourself."

29:25 - Operating as "A Miracle."

30:45 - Shoutouts to my Mom & Dad!

31:24 - What Areas of Your Life Have You Been Responding in Trauma instead of Triumph?

LINKS:

Engage with Patrice:
www.sociatap.com/ThePeaceCurator
Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/ThePeaceCurator
Email: [email protected]

Join The Oasis Space - PEACE PURSUITS FB Community:
https://www.facebook.com/groups/theoasisspace

Advertising, Booking or Questions for Patrice:
Email: [email protected]

Support the show

We all have a reason for the things we do in life, right?  A reason for why we chase after certain dreams, aspire for perfect careers, pray for specific relationships, set goals for our bodies, but...WHY?

The why is so important because it's what separates mere interest or intrigue from passion and purpose.

The Oasis Space isn't just a hobby for me.  It's a lifestyle.  It's an experience.  I am The Oasis Space, and The Oasis Space is me.  The Oasis Space is a physical manifestation of me walking in my purpose.

So, in this season finale episode, I thought it was only fitting to wrap up by sharing with my fellow Peace Pursuits my story...my "why."   I realize I've shared many stories with you about chaos that disrupted in others' lives, but have yet to let you into my world when that pivotal moment of chaos led me to peace.

In my story of heartache, pain, disappointment, and identity crisis, I hope the major takeaway that you gain from it is that there is greatness on the other side & a method to Unleash The Peace!

LINKS:

Engage with Patrice:
www.sociatap.com/ThePeaceCurator
Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/ThePeaceCurator
Email: [email protected]

Follow My Live Like a Local (LLAL) Tour Journey!
IG Stories: http://www.instagram.com/ThePeaceCurator
Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCvcsC5TX-mjEUGjOk1ZowjQ

Join The Oasis Space - PEACE PURSUITS FB Community:
https://www.facebook.com/groups/theoasisspace

To advertise on the podcast:
Email: [email protected]

If you have questions about booking Patrice or sponsoring the podcast:
Email: [email protected]

Support the show

Don't front...we've all been there!  We use spirituality, religion, astrology, or even a fortune cookie to try to finesse our way into believing the person we are in relationship with is divinely or purposefully connected to us, when in actuality, it's just us trying to appeal to our senses of physical attraction, loneliness, or fear of never finding "the one."

The problem with appealing to our senses is that it oftentimes leaves us in a bigger state of confliction that leads to affliction and ultimately disrupts our peace. 

In this episode, I discuss the importance of recognizing when we're appealing to our senses vs. spirituality, identifying the motivation or intent of the relationship, why it's important to set goals for your relationships instead of simply hashtagging #RelationshipGoals, and the signs to recognize healthy relationship conflict vs. conflict due to misalignment. 


LINKS:

Engage with Patrice:
www.sociatap.com/ThePeaceCurator
Instagram: ThePeaceCurator
Email: [email protected]

Join The Oasis Space - PEACE PURSUITS FB Community:
https://www.facebook.com/groups/theoasisspace

To advertise on the podcast:
Email: [email protected]

If you have questions about booking Patrice or sponsoring the podcast:
Email: [email protected]

Support the show

How many of you have went through the cycle of dieting?  Now, how many of you have SUCCESSFULLY met the goals of that diet? We always talk about relationships with others, but what about the relationship with your body?  Even more, how has the relationship with your body defined your self worth?

In this episode, I am joined in The Oasis Space with Evelyn LeVasseur, where we discuss body image and the effects of childhood can carry over into our adult lives,  overall physical health and the improved mindset required to actually yield the desired results, changing our relationship with food by eliminating deprivation that comes along with dieting, the willingness to be vulnerable when chaotic events disrupt in our lives and manifest in our bodies, and how our health behaviors influence and indirectly teach our children when we may not realize they're paying attention.

The Oasis Space Rapid Value Questions

What is the one thing you like to do to sustain or reset your peace?
- Log off social media and get outside.

Name one book or song that's helped you to define peace.
- Untamed by Glennon Doyle
https://www.amazon.com/Untamed-Glennon-Doyle-Melton/dp/1984801252/ref=sr_1_1?crid=IY3NQWQIXNBP&dchild=1&keywords=untamed+by+glennon+doyle&qid=1622512038&sprefix=untamed+by+g%2Caps%2C180&sr=8-1

How do you define peace for yourself now?
- Loving myself for who I am regardless of anyone else's opinion.

Fill in the blank:

- My name is Evelyn LeVasseur, and without peace, I would probably be in a dark place, but with peace I am living the life that I'm supposed to be.
*************************************************************************************
LINKS:

Engage with Patrice:
www.sociatap.com/ThePeaceCurator
Instagram: ThePeaceCurator
Email: [email protected]

Join The Oasis Space - PEACE PURSUITS FB Community:
https://www.facebook.com/groups/theoasisspace

To advertise on the podcast:
Email: [email protected]

If you have questions about booking Patrice or sponsoring the podcast:
Email: [email protected]

*******************************************************************************
Connect with Evelyn:
Instagram: evelyn_levasseur_fitness
Facebook: Evelyn LeVasseur Fitness

Website:
www.evelynfit.com/nomorediets

Support the show

How many of you actually love your job?  So often, we find ourselves in bondage to a company, organization, position, or climbing the corporate ladder simply for a paycheck at the exchange of our peace. 

In this episode, I am joined by Bryan McClean, where we discuss the importance of defining and continuously refining your skillset, increasing your income while decreasing your expenses, when it's necessary to be secure in yourself enough to make sacrifices that don't serve your ego, and how prioritizing peace over the paycheck is actually a necessity!

*************************************************************************************************************************************************

The Oasis Space Rapid Value Questions

What is the one thing you like to do to sustain or reset your peace?
- Clean Up

Name one book or song that's helped you to define peace.
- The Big Leap by Gay Hendricks
https://www.amazon.com/Big-Leap-Conquer-Hidden-Level/dp/0061735361/ref=sr_1_1?crid=3FS3S816TRK2A&dchild=1&keywords=the+big+leap+by+gay+hendricks&qid=1621908991&sprefix=the+big+leap%2Caps%2C176&sr=8-1

- Joy of Genius by Gay Hendricks
https://www.amazon.com/Joy-Genius-Next-Step-Beyond/dp/1947637649/ref=sr_1_1?dchild=1&keywords=joy+of+genius&qid=1621908863&sr=8-1

How do you define peace for yourself now?
- When it's quiet. 
- Knowing I have some money in the stash (emergency fund)
- Being able to eat what I want to eat. 

Fill in the blank:

- My name is Bryan, and without peace I'd probably be just all over the place with no direction, but with peace, I am focused and determined to make the lives of the people around me better!
 
*************************************************************************************************************************************************
LINKS:

Engage with Patrice:
www.sociatap.com/ThePeaceCurator
Instagram: ThePeaceCurator
Email: [email protected]

Join The Oasis Space - PEACE PURSUITS FB Community:
https://www.facebook.com/groups/theoasisspace

To advertise on the podcast:
Email: [email protected]

If you have questions about booking Patrice or sponsoring the podcast:
Email: [email protected]


*******************************************************************************

Connect with Bryan:
Instagram: IamHerc
Twitter: hercthagod

Support the show

In this digital age, you've likely encountered people with "attention-seeking" behaviors?  But did you ever think their "attention seeking" behaviors was a cry for help?  Or love?  Guidance?  Affection?  Validation?  Whatever the reason for their behaviors, we have to seek to understand their behaviors rather than immediately attach a negative connotation to it.

In this episode, I am joined in The Oasis Space by Licensed Family & Marriage Therapist, Shardae Washington, where we discuss the deficit in creating space for people to seek attention and ask for help in various ways, misdiagnosis amongst minority populations, cultivating trust between therapists and clients, and how to identify signs when you or your "strong friend" may need professional support.


*************************************************************************************************************************************************** 

The Oasis Space Rapid Value Questions

What is the one thing you like to do to sustain or reset your peace?
- Vacations or working out

Name one book or song that's helped you to define peace.
- Anything by DMX

How do you define peace for yourself now?
- Being content with where I am in life.  Not worried about what I don't have & or worried about where the future is taking me.  Just pushing forward.  Being content with what I have right now because I could lose it all.

Fill in the blank:

- My name is Shardae, and without peace I'd probably be drunk somewhere, but with peace, I am able to conquer the world!
 
*************************************************************************************************************************************************
LINKS:

Engage with Patrice:
www.sociatap.com/ThePeaceCurator
Instagram: ThePeaceCurator
Email: [email protected]

Join The Oasis Space - PEACE PURSUITS FB Community:
https://www.facebook.com/groups/theoasisspace

To advertise on the podcast:
Email: [email protected]

If you have questions about booking Patrice or sponsoring the podcast:
Email: [email protected]

Support the show

Have you ever experienced rejection? Unworthiness? Lack of identity?  I believe a lot of times these deep rooted characteristics show up in people who identify as over achievers.  The desire to perform your way into the hearts of those closest to you for accolades oftentimes outweighs any true desire to perform due to actual passion, which ultimately ends up disrupting your peace.   

In this episode, I am joined in The Oasis Space with Lindsay Rae Perry, where we discuss ditching the performance based complexes, being clear in the vision we have for our life because simply knowing what we DON'T want isn't good enough, the necessity to forgive, and the requirement to heal and find identity if we desire any form of success.

The Oasis Space Rapid Value Questions

What is the one thing you like to do to sustain or reset your peace?
- Bubble baths, good neo-soul playlist, candles lit, and glass of red wine

Name one book or song that's helped you to define peace.
- Redefining Wealth for Yourself by Patrice Washington
https://www.amazon.com/Redefine-Wealth-Yourself-Chasing-Finally/dp/0985908068/ref=sr_1_3?crid=24TPL2U3999N3&dchild=1&keywords=redefining+wealth+for+yourself&qid=1620099154&sprefix=redefining+wealth%2Caps%2C151&sr=8-3
- Amazing by Tank
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=A50FdeQnpO4

- The Refiner feat. Chandler Moore & Steffany Gretzinger
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UGFCbmvk0vo


How do you define peace for yourself now?
- Jesus. Peace is a person. Peace has a name.  Knowing i'm seated in heavenly places. I'm in the palm of God's hand.

Fill in the blank:

- My name is Lindsay Rae Perry, and without peace, I'd probably be hustling, grinding, and unfulfilled and not really making an impact in this world, but with peace I am living the life of my dreams, i have the family of my dreams, living in peace, building an abundant life in business with grace  and ease and i'm living in prosperity.
 
*************************************************************************************
LINKS:

Engage with Patrice:
www.sociatap.com/ThePeaceCurator
Instagram: ThePeaceCurator
Email: [email protected]

Join The Oasis Space - PEACE PURSUITS FB Community:
https://www.facebook.com/groups/theoasisspace

To advertise on the podcast:
Email: [email protected]

If you have questions about booking Patrice or sponsoring the podcast:
Email: [email protected]

*******************************************************************************
Connect with Lindsay:
@LindsayRaePerry on all Social Media Platforms

I AM Quotient Facebook Community
https://www.facebook.com/groups/776356643276433

Website:
https://www.lindsayraeperry.com/book-online

Support the show

One important factor in embodying peace is manifesting the life that you deserve.  However, sometimes as humans we can find that to be easier said than done. 

In this episode, I discuss the importance of being receptive to manifestation even if it doesn't come from the expected source you intended to receive the manifestation. 

LINKS:

Engage with Patrice:
www.sociatap.com/ThePeaceCurator
Instagram: ThePeaceCurator
Email: [email protected]

Join The Oasis Space - PEACE PURSUITS FB Community:
https://www.facebook.com/groups/theoasisspace

To advertise on the podcast:
Email: [email protected]

If you have questions about booking Patrice or sponsoring the podcast:
Email: [email protected]

Support the show