After divorce, many people find themselves asking a confusing question: “I’m not an angry person… so why does my temper feel louder now?”

In this episode of the Off White Podcast, we explore anger not as a character flaw, but as a form of communication—especially in the aftermath of relational rupture. Drawing from the perspective of Marriage and Family Therapy, we unpack why anger often surfaces after divorce and what it may actually be protecting.

We discuss how anger frequently acts as a secondary emotion, shielding deeper feelings like grief, fear, and shame. Through conversations about attachment wounds, relational trauma, and nervous system responses, we explore why emotional reactions can feel more intense after a relationship ends—even when the divorce was the right decision.

We also examine the cultural and relational dynamics that shape how people express anger, including gender expectations and the roles people were allowed to play within their marriages.

Rather than trying to eliminate anger, this episode reframes healing as learning to listen to what anger is trying to tell us—developing awareness, boundaries, and healthier ways of responding.

If you’ve ever wondered why your reactions feel different after divorce, this conversation invites you to approach anger with curiosity instead of shame.

In season 2's debut episode, Angie brings us the topic of Loyalty vs. Attachment.

This stems from a post by a wonderful Instagram follow, @devin.the.one.

Angie, Scott and Shane take Devin's post and expound upon its brilliant position and apply it to their lives and histories in the therapy space.

If you have a favorite Instagram account that you think the Off White Team should be following for more content like this, drop it in the comments of our post!

And a special thank you again to Devin for his video being the inspiration for season two's first episode!

A little welcome back for season two of the Off White Podcast.

Angie, Scott and Shane are back to continue the conversations, build new ones and respond to listener feedback, questions and topics.

Tune in the 1st and 15th of every month for our regularly scheduled episodes.

In the meantime, please do us the favor of giving us a rating and review wherever you listen to your podcasts. We thank you!

Shane is joined for the third time by his wife, Stephanie on this latest episode of the Off White Podcast.

The two discuss career changes and the affects it has or can have on a partnership.

They tackle this conversation from the standpoint of both having been the partner who is changing careers and the partner who has been the supporter or cheerleader of said change.

Future episodes on this topic will be discussed amongst your favorite co-hosts, Angie and Scott in later releases!

It's Season 2 with the start of 2025!

Angie, Scott and Shane talk about the difference in fighting to be right, versus fighting for a common resolution (fighting nice).

We all want to be heard in argument and dispute, but do we sometimes allow our own voice and desires to cloud our judgement for what is genuinely right? Do we make it harder for folks to open up to us? Do we fight like we are in court? Is there a way to share your feelings and still be open to hear the other party?

We've all been here. This is a skill to be developed and practiced consistently in an effort to have strong and healthy communication patterns with others in our lives.

Angie, Scott and Shane take a moment to talk on Person of the Therapist (POTT), or Self of the Therapist. A key component to the successful practice of MFT's, POTT acts as the mirror to the therapist to ensure they can recognize, or identify pressure points in their own world that may prohibit them, or challenge them in providing quality assistance to their clients.

If you as a client ever feel that your therapist is responding in a questionable fashion, or they are less balanced in their mood or energy, this topic may help you to understand the why and encourage you to voice the concern constructively.

This is not just for the therapist and it can be applied to all people. To know yourself can often be the most challenging pursuit. Being honest with yourself about all aspects of life and how they may impact you is not easy. POTT can help with this by encouraging intentionality when it comes to the self check-in!

Thank you for supporting us for our first year of podcasting! This will be a wrap on season 1, the year 2025. Please do us the favor of liking, subscribing and commenting your favorite episode(s) on Spotify or Apple Podcasts! Every review means the world. Good or bad, we appreciate it all the same!

Angie, Scott and Shane go into the power of positive thinking. In a world that presents its own challenges and hurdles to remain positive, it is often our own negative talk that hinders us the most.

In this episode we talk about controlling our own narratives and accepting the challenges that life presents as opportunities to grow, learn and feel everything life has to offer.

Our challenge to you is to take a few minutes each day and practice gratitude. Author a different version of the negative talk that comes to your brain. Be intentional about positivity and gratitude each day.

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Angie, Scott and Shane begin the conversation on notes to/from our younger selves.

The benefit of hindsight, or phrases like, "if I only knew then what I know now..." all come to mind as we play the game of revisionist history in our own lives and legacies. If we COULD pass along our own lessons, or give ourselves permission to learn from, or accept the elements of lessons learned in the past, how much positive impact could that have on us in the here and now?

Here from the OWP team on some of their own stories or lessons.

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Angie, Scott and Shane talk the stress of the holiday season. Family. Finances. Overcommitments. Gift Giving. Traditions maintained. Traditions to break.

How do you cope with the stress of the holidays? Share with us on Instagram @off.white.podcast

Continuing our look into bad therapy, our founder and leader of the Off White Podcast Experience, Angie gives her thoughts and perspectives!

Angie dives into her own experience as the client, as well as elements she has learned from being a clinician in the field and working around other folks.

If you've enjoyed our show thus far, please consider rating and reviewing the podcast on whatever platform you listen! It's truly wonderful to hear the feedback and notes from your listening experience as we continue to evolve and touch on new and interesting topics.