2 Architecture For Self-Formation - How the Mother and Father Concept Shape You

- the mother function; mirroring, boundary, self sense

- mother failure; identity disturbance, false self, merger

- the father function; triangulation, social function

- dead father; the locked room, reality-testing

- OLNE's open communication; requiring three

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- definition of end-run

- reframing your ego to switch goals

- the mechanism of endrunning

- how to turn your ego into your cheering section

- failure vs. iteration

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- the difference in withdrawal vs. deactivation

- avoidance vs. mortification

- how to tell the difference with a simple question

- the collapsed-covert switching

- akhtar & Cooper table (1989) - inferiority, object relations, passive aggression

- the schizoid-avoidant distinction

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- the voice in your head; what is it

- how the 'ego program' gets installed in your mind

- the meaning of "words"

- the two insidious mistruths

- the critical voice (entrainment & neural sync..)

- authority and responsibility

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- developmental types: clingy, dramatic, vicarious, borderline-oscillating, counter-dependent.

- 6th type: situational/late-onset codependency

- what makes the distinction between developmental types

- why the second relationship is more dangerous

- overflow vs. desperation

- Why a Cluster B upbringing is damaging and what it looks like

- Adult children patterns: hypervigilance, fawn, boundary confusion, etc

- What Reparenting actually is

- Key techniques and Pete Walker's framework

- The somatic importance

- Key frameworks: Pete Walker (CPTSD/4Fs), Janina Fisher (Structural Dissociation), Dick Schwartz (IFS), Gabor Maté (attachment/ACEs), Sam Vaknin (Cluster B internal world, betrayal trauma, dead mother concept)

- OLNE 3 pillars

- When to get a therapist vs. self-directed work

- the concepts of black hole, empty core, and dead mother

- maternal mirroring origin

- the delusional origin

- death narcissism - self-erasure

- external regulation: why you become colonized

- empty schizoid vs. schizoid personality disorder

- are they both toxic in the same way

- abandonment anxiety vs. identity diffusion

- collapse into primary psychopathy

- behavioral equivalence error

- the death drive of a narcissist

- the false self is "unbecoming"

- how the drive shows up as destruction and consuming

- death narcissism and the void

- recovery from narcissism

The God Inside The "Machine": How Covert Narcissists Communicate, Why You Feel Empty

- The mimicry problem

- How to tell when a narcissist confabulates

- headline intelligence vs. deep learning

- The Turing Test

- Qualia - human being-ness