Abby and I argued for years over one, surprising thing: to avoid having an impact on the other person that wasn’t purely positive.

Wait, what?! Why would we fight about this?

Because we were both trying to be selfless. We really wanted to serve the other person and take care of them and in the process we stopped taking care of ourselves (because wasn’t that the other person’s job now that we are married?)

So we stopped asking for things we wanted, like time alone or time with other friends (without our spouse), and even time together.

We tried to become selfless and this only resulted in more arguments and less connection.

In this episode we refer to Dr. Becky Kennedy as one of our parenting heroes, you can find her here: https://www.goodinside.com/about/

Have a question or comment to share?We would love to hear from you!

You can send us an email at:[email protected]

Want to book a free coaching call?

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Here’s where you can find us online:

Websites:

https://www.colemanhousefield.com/

https://www.thenaturelabschool.com/

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What was it like for you growing up?

Did you feel like you were adequately prepared and supported as you transitioned from being a child to growing into an adult?

What about life skills? As an adult did you find that you knew how to manage yourself and your life so you could feel at peace and safe no matter what happens?

Were you given autonomy and agency as you entered your teenage years or did your parents tighten the reigns of control over you even more?

Whatever your experience, I bet we all can agree that there are things we would want to improve on for our kids!

Now let’s talk about what you want for your kids.

How would you like your kids to transition from being a child to becoming an adult?

How would you like to support them in this very important life shift?

What would it look like for you to create a rite of passage for your kids?

Our oldest turned 12 this year and we’ve built a rite of passage plan for her that will span this next year with challenges and tasks for her to complete along the way. We want to welcome her into the world of women and make sure that she feels supported by her community!

The book we refer to in this episode is called 12 Tasks.

Have a question or comment to share?We would love to hear from you!

You can send us an email at:[email protected]

Want to book a free coaching call?

Find a time here → https://calendar.app.google/CnogbPVEiXvThLeCA

Here’s where you can find us online:

Websites:

https://www.colemanhousefield.com/

https://www.thenaturelabschool.com/

Substack:colemanhousefield.substack.com

Instagram:abbyhousefieldcoleman.housefield.coaching

Abby and I are no longer in the baby and toddler season of parenting but we remember it fondly and with a lot of pain. 😂

It wasn’t until our 3rd and final child was a toddler that we started practicing the most important skill and man, it made all the difference. Before that we were often blown by the winds of chaos when our first two daughters were babies and toddlers because we didn’t know how to do it any other way.

In this episode we’ll share how you can survive and even feel better in the midst of the chaos and sleep deprivation of the baby and toddler season of parenthood.

As we reflect on that season of our lives, there were 3 things we learned and started practicing that made the most positive difference for our well being, our own peace and sanity during this demanding season of life.

If you’re a parent of babies or toddlers, we see you. We made this episode for you!

Our hope is that your season of parenting the little ones can be even better than ours since we didn’t learn some of these skills until our youngest was a toddler.

Ready to make one of the hardest seasons of life a lot better? Listen now!

Have a question or comment to share?We would love to hear from you!

You can send us an email at:[email protected]

Want to book a free coaching call?

Find a time here → https://calendar.app.google/CnogbPVEiXvThLeCA

Here’s where you can find us online:

Websites:

https://www.colemanhousefield.com/

https://www.thenaturelabschool.com/

Substack:colemanhousefield.substack.com

Instagram:abbyhousefieldcoleman.housefield.coaching

Are you a ventaholic (yes, we made up a word)?

Do you enjoy a good vent session? I know I do. 😬

Do you find yourself venting about the same things, people, challenges over and over again?

IT’S A TRAP! 🪤

Venting is a trap. We find ourselves eating tasty treats but after we’re done venting nothing has actually changed (in the real world) unless we do something about it. So we stay stuck in the venting cycle which has non trivial downsides to it.

If you’re curious and want to learn more about how venting isn’t all that healthy for you or your relationships, this episode is for you!

Have a question or comment to share?We would love to hear from you!

You can send us an email at:[email protected]

Want to book a free coaching call?

Find a time here → https://calendar.app.google/CnogbPVEiXvThLeCA

Here’s where you can find us online:

Websites:

https://www.colemanhousefield.com/

https://www.thenaturelabschool.com/

Substack:colemanhousefield.substack.com

Instagram:abbyhousefieldcoleman.housefield.coaching

When’s the last time you heard or said, “I’m really tired” or maybe, “why am I so tired today?”

How about when someone asks how you’re doing and you answer, “Tired”.

We wear tiredness like a shield and saying we’re tired often lets us opt out of naming what’s really, truly going on for us.

In this episode Abby and I get personal, sharing our own stories of shielding ourselves with “tired” instead of admitting that we’re feeling lonely or mentally drained.

We’ll share some of the tools we use to help us recover when we’re feeling physically, mentally or emotionally tired. The treatment is different based on which tired you’re feeling and it’s very personal, based on your temperament and personality.

If you want to learn how to recover quickly when you’re feeling tired and get to the root of what you’re feeling, (the thing underneath the tired) then you’ll love this episode!

Have a question or comment to share?We would love to hear from you!

You can send us an email at:[email protected]

Want to book a free coaching call?

Find a time here → https://calendar.app.google/CnogbPVEiXvThLeCA

Here’s where you can find us online:

Websites:

https://www.colemanhousefield.com/

https://www.thenaturelabschool.com/

Substack:colemanhousefield.substack.com

Instagram:abbyhousefieldcoleman.housefield.coaching

What if you could put something on your calendar or decide to do it and know that it was as good as done?!

When we first heard this phrase, it was irritating. Sounds nice, like a fairytale land for people without children!

Then we started doing our own work and both of us have worked with professionals (therapists and coaches) to help us grow.

And we realized, it’s totally possible to commit to something and know that it’s as good as done because we know how to follow through!

In this episode we’ll share with you the tools we use to get things done, consistently and to make a new change in our lives and show up consistently even when we don’t feel like it.

Turns out, we were blaming our kids and it wasn’t their fault. We just didn’t have the tools or skills we needed to commit to something and follow through!

Have a question or comment to share?We would love to hear from you!

You can send us an email at:[email protected]

Want to book a free coaching call?

Find a time here → https://calendar.app.google/CnogbPVEiXvThLeCA

Here’s where you can find us online:

Websites:

https://www.colemanhousefield.com/

https://www.thenaturelabschool.com/

Substack:colemanhousefield.substack.com

Instagram:abbyhousefieldcoleman.housefield.coaching

In this episode we’re talking about the enneagram!

How does knowing our personality type and temperament impact our relationships?

How does it impact our parenting?

What about our work?

The truth is, your personality and temperament impact every facet of your life and yet so few people take the time to become aware and understand their motivations.

Why do you do what you do?

Why are some things easy for you while other things are harder?

If you want to unlock the next level of your personal, relational, and professional and you’ve never explored the enneagram this episode is for you!

Here’s a few Enneagram resources we recommend:

Enneagram Test: https://enneagramuniverse.com/

Enneagram Types Explained: https://enneagramuniverse.com/enneagram/learn/enneagram-types

Enneagram Podcast: Typology

Enneagram Book: The Road Back To You

Have a question or comment to share?We would love to hear from you!

You can send us an email at:[email protected]

Want to book a free coaching call?

Find a time here → https://calendar.app.google/CnogbPVEiXvThLeCA

Here’s where you can find us online:

Websites:

https://www.colemanhousefield.com/

https://www.thenaturelabschool.com/

Substack:colemanhousefield.substack.com

Instagram:abbyhousefieldcoleman.housefield.coaching

When we return to a moment that felt bad and add connection and emotional safety, we actually change the memory in the body. - Dr. Becky Kennedy

… and this is the power of repair. The power to change the memory in the body by adding connection and emotional safety.

I know too many parents who feel like they are failing their kids.

They feel like:

* They yell too much

* They lose their temper too much

* They are sarcastic when they could have been kind

* They correct when they could have connected

* They pickup their phone instead of engaging with their kids

It feels awful to tell yourself that you’re failing as a parent. No one wants to feel like a failure and yet, we often do feel this way as parents.

What can we do?

Two simple things:

Learn how to feel successful as a parent

Learn how to repair

If you want to be successful as a parent and learn how to turn those parenting failures into parenting wins this episode is for you!

Have a question or comment to share?We would love to hear from you!

You can send us an email at:[email protected]

Want to book a free coaching call?

Find a time here → https://calendar.app.google/CnogbPVEiXvThLeCA

Here’s where you can find us online:

Websites:

https://www.colemanhousefield.com/

https://www.thenaturelabschool.com/

Substack:colemanhousefield.substack.com

Instagram:abbyhousefieldcoleman.housefield.coaching

I used to think that parenting was like math, something like A + B = C. In fact, it seems like a lot of advice and content out there for parents will argue that parenting is like math too.

“If you use this parenting method your kids will never have meltdowns or tantrums”.

“If you follow the parenting advice in this book your kids will turn out to be good adults.”

And so it goes, we end up thinking that there are a lot of wrong ways to parent and only a few right ways and so many of us think we’re doing it wrong.

Now, I realize that parenting is actually more like an art. There’s a lot of ways to make art and there’s a lot of right ways to parent your kids.

Could this be true? If it is true how would you show up differently as your kid’s mother or father?

This is what we’re talking about in this week’s episode!

Joins us as we take you on our own journey and how we’ve decided on purpose what kind of parent we want to be.

Parenting mastery = you knowing what kind of parent you want to be and showing up consistently as that kind of parent more often than not.

Have a question or comment to share?We would love to hear from you!

You can send us an email at:[email protected]

Want to book a free coaching call?

Find a time here → https://calendar.app.google/CnogbPVEiXvThLeCA

Here’s where you can find us online:

Websites:

https://www.colemanhousefield.com/

https://www.thenaturelabschool.com/

Substack:colemanhousefield.substack.com

Instagram:abbyhousefieldcoleman.housefield.coaching

We’ve all heard the phrase, “Work/Life Balance” and thought, yeah I want that but I don’t know how to get it, in fact some of us think it’s a nice idea that’s not feasible for us.

Maybe it’s possible for other people but not me, not my life. Or maybe, we’ve just resolved ourselves to grinding it out and trudging through our lives.

We think things like:

* There’s no time for me to have hobbies

* There’s no time for a morning routine

* There’s no time for anything else, I’m already working a full time job, being a spouse and parent and everything else that comes up in a given week.

* There’s just no time to take care of myself, I’m too busy taking care of everyone else

This episode is here to say, “it’s all a lie”.

It’s a lie we tell ourselves to make us feel better about the grind we live in. It’s a lie we tell ourselves because we don’t know how to live any differently.

But it’s not true.

You can take care of yourself in every season of your life (even the most challenging and demanding ones, ask me how I know).

If you want to learn how to truly and authentically take care of yourself in any season of life, no matter how hard this episode is for you!

Have a question or comment to share?We would love to hear from you!

You can send us an email at:[email protected]

Want to book a free coaching call?

Find a time here → https://calendar.app.google/CnogbPVEiXvThLeCA

Here’s where you can find us online:

Websites:

https://www.colemanhousefield.com/

https://www.thenaturelabschool.com/

Substack:colemanhousefield.substack.com

Instagram:abbyhousefieldcoleman.housefield.coaching