The Parenting Reframe

The holidays can be a stressful time, especially for your children who are used to their routines. We want a perfect holiday, but sometimes we need to adjust our expectations of how that looks. Here are some tips on helping you enjoy the holidays a little bit more. 

Tips for a less stressful holiday:

• Adjust your expectations of how the holidays should look.
• Don’t force the thank you. They do not understand why.
• Let them know why they should be thankful, and model it for them.
• Tips on how you can say thank you after the fact.
• Consider where and what you are saying yes to.
• Check in with yourself on what really matters, not trying to have everything perfect. Make a list of have-to’s and then what you tell yourself has to be done but doesn’t. 
• Try to stick to a schedule. It’s ok if you can’t. Don’t beat yourself up. 
• Have a grounding practice to help stay calm. Check out Ep 7 for more tips on this from my friend Harmony Slater.
• Don’t add more to your plate; look to simplify things. Even a 2 min meditation can help. Whatever works best for you. 
• Starfish breathing benefits kids when they need to relax or start the day. 
• At the end of the day, anchor yourself and look back at 3 things that were wins that day. 

Resources: 

Here is the link to join The Parenting Reset, which will start on January 13th, there are only a few spots left.

https://theparentingreframe.com/the-parenting-program/

Check out Episode 7 with Harmony Slater on how to help stay calm. This is a good one to listen to this time of year. 

https://theparentingreframe.com/podcast-episodes/episode-7-tools-to-help-parents-and-kids-manage-stress-with-harmony-slater/

Here is the app I use for mediation.

https://apps.apple.com/us/app/the-breathing-app/id1285982210

I hope you found this episode helpful; for more parenting tips, check out my website and blog for more information. https://theparentingreframe.com/

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MetroParent asked me to write an article on The 5 Things I Would Never Do as a Parenting Coach, and I thought it would be fun to join the TikTok trend. I go over my top 5, and ways to reframe the situation to help you and your kiddos thrive. 

The 5 Things I Would Never Do as a Parenting Coach:

• Why I don’t make kiddos apologize for their behaviors.
• We go over why this is not teaching your children empathy.
• Even though your child’s behavior is not always great, this does not mean you have a bad kid or are doing a bad job as a parent.
• Why I will never feel afraid of making mistakes as a parent.
• How to use the 80/20 rule when you feel bad for yelling at your child.
• Why using the moments when you aren’t doing your best parenting is the perfect time to help teach your child about how to reset and repair the situation. 
• Why giving yourself grace is so essential for you and your kiddo.
• Why confidence is gained through competence.
• It’s hard, but we must let our kids go through struggles. 
• What experience stacking is and why it’s important.
• 5 - 6-year-olds should have better coping skills and fewer tantrums; if not, they just need extra help dealing with difficult situations.
• How I still have a hard time not stepping in to help with my grown children.
• Why I never try to control the outcome. 
• Your child’s path may be very different from what you expected. Pay attention to the reasons why.
• I tell a story from a professor from my college days about why giving our kids the space to learn works and is important for the learning process. 
• Why I would never parent from a rigid place.

Resources: 

MetroParent article - The 5 Things I Would Never Do as a Parenting Coach - https://www.metroparent.com/parenting/advice/what-a-parenting-coach-would-never-do/

Here is the link to join The Parenting Reset, which will start in January.

https://theparentingreframe.com/the-parenting-program/

I hope you found this episode helpful; for more parenting tips, check out my website and blog for more information. https://theparentingreframe.com/

Make sure to sign up for my weekly newsletter and get other free resources. https://theparentingreframe.com/free-resources/

Follow me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theparentingreframe/

If you would like a personalized approach to help reframe how you parent, check out my coaching options https://theparentingreframe.com/parent-coaching-packages/

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Staying calm as a parent isn’t always easy, I go over 3 of the reasons I see the most with this. It’s so important to discover triggers and blocks that you have to help reframe how to stay calm during stressful situations as a parent. We will go over this and so much more! 

What we cover on why it’s hard to stay calm as a parent:

• Why understanding your parenting triggers is so important in helping to stay calm.
• What my trigger was when my children were young and how I reframed it.
• How using my PARR method helps with dealing with your parenting trigger.
• Question yourself about how you stay calm when triggered; this will help how you address the behavior
• Work on identifying your parenting block, the things you tell yourself about how to be a good parent.
• Having a demanding job does not mean you are doing a bad job as a parent.
• Get clear on what you and your family really need.
• Why I do what I do as a parenting coach.
• There have been two very different parent camps, very judgemental and list to follow or the free-spirited, with no structure.
• Why you shouldn’t be ashamed that your child is lying.
• Why being able to get a handle on your ability to stay calm helps you to be a better parent.
• You can only work on how you respond to what you can’t control.

Resources: 

Here is the link to join The Parenting Reset, which will start in January.

https://theparentingreframe.com/the-parenting-program/

I hope you found this episode helpful; for more parenting tips, check out my website and blog for more information. https://theparentingreframe.com/

Make sure to sign up for my weekly newsletter and get other free resources. https://theparentingreframe.com/free-resources/

Follow me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theparentingreframe/

If you would like a personalized approach to help reframe how you parent, check out my coaching options

 https://theparentingreframe.com/parent-coaching-packages/

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This was such a great conversation with my friend Elizabeth. We go over so many important topics: being a mom and an entrepreneur, dealing with the loss of parents and how it changes you, the importance of having a tribe in your life to help support you, societal norms that need to change, putting yourself first is not selfish but needed and so much more. Elizabeth goes over so many ways of thinking that have been normal for so long that need to change to help moms (and dads) live happier and healthier lives. 

What we cover on mompreneur, grief, community, and redefining mom life:

• We go over Elizabeth’s incredible journey and her multiple businesses.
• Stepping away from a 9-5 job and promotion to pursue her dreams with her business.
• How she dealt with the loss of both of her parents.
• Dealing with the grieving process.
• How she started Detriot Mom and the importance of community.
• Why finding your tribe is so important.
• Entrepreneurial life can be lonely, and ways to support yourself.
• Why done is better than perfect.
• Reasons why we need to have boundaries and stop people pleasing.
• Why Elizabeth has a coach and how it is essential to her success.
• Why focusing on yourself first is NOT selfish.
• Reframing “life balance” and how it is not always an even balance.
• Why independent play is essential for your children and you.
• Giving the right tools to your children that you didn’t get.
• Why changing societal norms is needed.
• Why expressing your needs is so important.

Learn more about Elizabeth:

Detroit Mom: https://detroitmom.com/

Lansing Mom: https://lansing.momcollective.com/

Retreat to Reclaim: https://pepper-hen-n7dc.squarespace.com/

Personal Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/iamelizabethlewis/

Detroit Mom Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/detroitmoms/

Lansing Mom Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/retreattoreclaim/

Retreat to Reclaim Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/retreattoreclaim/

Resources: 

I hope you found this episode helpful; for more parenting tips, check out my website and blog for more information. https://theparentingreframe.com/

Make sure to sign up for my weekly newsletter and get other free resources. https://theparentingreframe.com/free-resources/

Follow me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theparentingreframe/

If you would like a personalized approach to help reframe how you parent, check out my coaching options https://theparentingreframe.com/parent-coaching-packages/

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In this episode, we are talking with Stephanie Steinberg about her incredible career and being a new mom as an entrepreneur. We had a great conversation about juggling maternity leave while running two businesses. We discuss The Detroit Writing Room and how writers and creatives can find resources there. I loved learning about Stephanie’s journey and her approach to being a new mom. 

What we cover on entrepreneurship and motherhood:

• Juggling maternity leave as an entrepreneur.
• How to delegate while on maternity leave.
• How to navigate your work schedule with a newborn at home.
• The struggles with the formula shortage and not being able to feed your baby.
• We talk about how Stephanie created The Detroit Writing Room.
• The shift in The Detroit Writing Room due to Covid.
• What is next for Stephanie.
• What is Coaching Detroit Forward, and how it came about.

Learn more about Stephanie:

Stephanie Steinberg is the founder and CEO of The Detroit Writing Room, which offers professional writing coaches, workshops, book talks and more. She’s also the executive director of the nonprofit arm Coaching Detroit Forward, which organizes free writing and photography programs for Detroit high school students. Stephanie has been a journalist for over a decade and was previously the managing editor of SEEN Magazine. She also served as a features reporter at The Detroit News and a health and finance editor at U.S. News & World Report in Washington D.C. Stephanie is a University of Michigan alum, where she majored in Communication Studies and was the editor-in-chief of The Michigan Daily student newspaper. She is the editor of the book “In the Name of Editorial Freedom: 125 Years at the Michigan Daily” that was published by the University of Michigan Press in 2015. Throughout her career, she's contributed to various publications, including The New York Times, The Boston Globe, USA Today, CNN.com, The Huffington Post and others. 

Website:http://www.stephaniesteinberg.com/

Detroit Writing Room: https://www.detroitwritingroom.com/

Coaching Detroit Forward: https://www.coachingdetroitforward.org/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/steph_steinberg/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/DetroitWritingRoom/

Resources:

I hope you found this episode helpful, for more parenting tips check out my website and blog for more information. https://theparentingreframe.com/

Make sure to sign up for my weekly newsletter and get other free resources. https://theparentingreframe.com/free-resources/

Follow me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theparentingreframe/

If you would like a personalized approach to help reframe how you parent, check out my coaching options https://theparentingreframe.com/parent-coaching-packages/

The Parenting Reframe Podcast is edited by JAG Podcast Productions: https://jagpodcastproductions.com/

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In this episode, we discuss anxiety in kids and parents with Kate Cornish, a clinically trained therapist and parent coach. Kate has a lot of expertise to lend to this conversation, as she works with parents of anxious, neurodiverse, sensitive, and misunderstood children. She’s also the parent of a neurodiverse child.

Anxiety can be incredibly hard to navigate. We want our kids to have the tools to work through challenging moments, but we also want to validate each experience. Kate weighs in and explains how parents need their own support system and framework so they can be the anchor for their child.

What we cover on ways to parent an anxious child:

• At what point is anxiety considered a disorder, where specialized support is needed?
• How can parents help their child work through anxious thoughts.
• How can parents reflect and examine their own anxiety and how it impacts their children.
• Why parents need their own framework and support to navigate anxious thoughts.
• Tips and tricks to help the whole family work through anxiety rather than being consumed by it.

Learn more about Kate:

Her mission is to help parents overcome their stress, frustration, and overwhelm, and instead become the calm, connected, confident parent they hoped to be. 

For more information, or to find out about working with Kate, you can visit her website at www.katecornish.com or find her on Instagram @mskatecornish. 

Resources: 

I hope you found this episode helpful, for more parenting tips check out my website and blog for more information. https://theparentingreframe.com/

Make sure to sign up for my weekly newsletter and get other free resources. https://theparentingreframe.com/free-resources/

Follow me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theparentingreframe/

If you would like a personalized approach to help reframe how you parent, check out my coaching options

 https://theparentingreframe.com/parent-coaching-packages/

The Parenting Reframe Podcast is edited by JAG Podcast Productions: https://jagpodcastproductions.com/

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This was such a great conversation with Nicole about enneagrams and how they affect parenting. Nicole is a Leadership Coach, Enneagram Expert, and Team Dynamics Consultant. She has so much knowledge and insight on the different types of enneagrams and how they affect your personal life, business, and relationships. If you are newer to enneagrams, she does a beautiful job explaining what they are and how to navigate life and parenting best while using them. 

What We Cover on Enneagrams & Parenting

• What exactly is an enneagram.
• Can your enneagram number change over time.
• How health and stress can give you a different number.
• We go over my enneagram results and how accurate they are.
• How parenting can affect your enneagram number.
• The tool that Nicole uses to help with challenging moments with her kiddos.
• How PARR was a tool that helped me with challenging moments.
• How long do you need to use the enneagram tool to get the best results.
• Nicole discusses if we should use the  enneagram on children.
• How enneagram comes into play with partners in parenting.
• Why having two different enneagram types as parents is a good thing.
• Why letting your children make mistakes is so important.

Find out more about Nicole: 

Free Guide:

Unlock Your Leadership Superpowers

https://myleadershipsuperpowers.com/

Enneagram Typing Sessions:

https://nicolemcdonoughcoaching.com/enneagramtyping

Website:

https://nicolemcdonoughcoaching.com/

IG:

https://www.instagram.com/nicoledianemcdonough/

FB:

https://www.facebook.com/nicole.mcdonough.925/

Resources: 

I hope you found this episode helpful; for more parenting tips, check out my website and blog for more information. https://theparentingreframe.com/

Make sure to sign up for my weekly newsletter and get other free resources. https://theparentingreframe.com/free-resources/

Follow me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theparentingreframe/

If you would like a personalized approach to help reframe how you parent, check out my coaching options https://theparentingreframe.com/parent-coaching-packages/

The Parenting Reframe Podcast is edited by JAG Podcast Productions: https://jagpodcastproductions.com/

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The most common parenting pain points are burnout and exhaustion. This is due to overthinking, resulting in indecisiveness (analysis paralysis) which then leads to being completely overwhelmed. Once we feel this way, we’re more likely to overreact or underreact. In this 6-week Program, we will tackle these issues and pull back the lens to see why this is happening. 

What We’ll Cover on addressing common parenting points:

• Why overthinking is one of the most common pain points and what it leads to.
• Are you counting to 3, but don’t know what to do when you get there?
• The importance of knowing how to respond to daily challenges.
• What is your response pattern? Do you overreact or underreact?
• Understanding your parenting story and how it can shift the way you parent.

What you’ll gain from my 6-week Empowered Parenting Program:

• How to understand what your parenting triggers are
• Stop overthinking
• Change the story you tell yourself about parenting
• Tools to help you navigate your daily challenges so you aren’t overacting
• Practical strategies that you can implement in your home immediately with big results
• Themes for each week: sleep, bedtime routines, morning routines, gaining cooperation, learning how to stop negotiating, sibling battles

You can join the waitlist for this 6-week program here! I hope to see you there!

https://theparentingreframe.com/the-parenting-program/

Resources: 

Join the waitlist for this 6-week program that was discussed in this episode. https://theparentingreframe.com/the-parenting-program/

I hope you found this episode helpful; for more parenting tips, check out my website and blog for more information. https://theparentingreframe.com/

Make sure to sign up for my weekly newsletter and get other free resources. https://theparentingreframe.com/free-resources/

Follow me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theparentingreframe/

If you would like a personalized approach to help reframe how you parent, check out my coaching options 

https://theparentingreframe.com/parent-coaching-packages/

The Parenting Reframe Podcast is edited by JAG Podcast Productions: https://jagpodcastproductions.com/

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I loved having this conversation with Alex, my nephew, on how to improve schools. Alex has a unique way of seeing things and wants to improve his school for the better. There are so many outstanding teachers out there. This conversation is not meant to discredit teachers. This is a different way to look at reframing things from the eyes of the student. 

What we go over on how to make school better:  

• Dirty water fountains, the school should have safer water for kids.
• Reframing how teachers ask if there are any questions
• Positive ways to encourage kids to ask questions
• Alex disagrees that recess should go away as a punishment. Kids need movement to get their energy out so they can focus in class
• Fun fact from Alex - the kids riding their bikes to school are more focused than those who don’t
• Teachers should be teaching about financial literacy
• Kindergarten was fun because the learned kids learned through doing and participating in activities
• Alex’s favorite subject is reading. We discuss ways to make reading fun and still educational
• Standardized testing is outrageous, in Alex’s words. Too much pressure on kids and not a great measure of what children actually know
• Ways to spend more time on socialization to help kids make new friends and learn how to be social

Resources: 

I hope you found this episode helpful; for more parenting tips, check out my website and blog for more information. https://theparentingreframe.com/

Make sure to sign up for my weekly newsletter and get other free resources. https://theparentingreframe.com/free-resources/

Follow me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theparentingreframe/

If you would like a personalized approach to help reframe how you parent, check out my coaching options https://theparentingreframe.com/parent-coaching-packages/

The Parenting Reframe Podcast is edited by JAG Podcast Productions: https://jagpodcastproductions.com/

Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

If you have been wondering the best way to get your child to sleep in their own bed, this episode is for you. It is so important for the entire family to get the right amount of sleep and if co-sleeping isn’t cutting it for your family anymore, I am going over some helpful ways to get your child in their own bed in their room! 

What I cover on how to get your child to sleep in their own bed: 

• Adjusting expectations when starting this process (it can take longer depending on how long your child has been sleeping with you)
• Using smart goals for success
• Why a reward for the child works in this process
• Reasons why sleep is so important for your child (and you)
• The importance of choosing the right incentive
• The power of positive talk to your child and being excited with them
• Some super helpful tips on bedtime routines to help them go to bed easier
• End result: New lease on life for the family when you all get good sleep, everyone is less reactive & overwhelmed. The benefits are endless for the parents and the child.

Resources: 

I hope you found this episode helpful, for more parenting tips check out my website and blog for more information. https://theparentingreframe.com/

Make sure to sign up for my weekly newsletter and get other free resources. https://theparentingreframe.com/free-resources/

Follow me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theparentingreframe/

If you would like a personalized approach to help reframe how you parent, check out my coaching options https://theparentingreframe.com/parent-coaching-packages/

The Parenting Reframe Podcast is edited by JAG Podcast Productions: https://jagpodcastproductions.com/

Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.