I had the privilege of sitting down with the celebrated soccer coach, Demir Muftari. Demir has over 20 years of experience coaching soccer in various environments, spanning from youth soccer to semi-professional levels. He is a celebrated coach who is most respected for developing the players he works with to achieve the greatest level of success. He loves his job and helping players develop, overcome self-limiting beliefs, and learn how to thrive and trust themselves in high-pressure environments. He has helped place over 500 players in college soccer and has placed over 40 players in professional soccer. 

Demir was the Director of Coaching for the Vardar Soccer Club Developmental Academy since 2000. He led Vardar SC U18 to the US Development Academy national title in 2010 and was named US Soccer Developmental Academy Coach of the Year in 2009 and 2010. 

In addition to his youth coaching experience, Demir has coached at both the collegiate and semi-professional levels. Demir was the head coach of the Michigan bucks, currently the Flint City Bucks for six seasons, winning five national championships during that span. He was also named National Coach of 2014 and 2016 and finished runner-up in 2019.

Currently, Demir is the ECNL girls Director of coaching for the Liverpool Football Club International Acedamy 

What we cover on navigating sports and competition with our kids:

• Cultivating a competitive spirit in our kids, but healthily.
• Teaching the importance of the process and the journey
• What parents should consider when thinking about the best environment for their child to thrive
• Paying attention to what your kids are doing versus what they’re saying
• How lessons in sports can translate into our everyday lives
• And the most important question to ask your kids
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And on a side note, Demir is also my brother and one of my favorite people in this world. I lean on and turn to him often. We talk about my kids, Adrian and Hana, who play soccer at competitive levels. He has guided me through so many ups and downs on this journey, and I know you will find his words as helpful as I have. Without further ado, here is today’s conversation. 

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When I coach parents, they often describe how and why they give their children choices. This idea is well-intended, and I know parents are trying to achieve positive results. There are some things parents need to be aware of when it comes to giving their kids choices. In this episode, I cover the three things every parent needs to know before they start offering choice after choice in hopes that it will tame their strong-willed, independent child. 

What we go over on giving kids choices and how it can backfire:

• When you offer a choice matters
• Why are you offering a choice
• Offering choices constantly will backfire
• How are you presenting the choice

Resources: 

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The minute we become parents we feel like we have to have all the answers. Not only do we have to have all the answers, but we also need to right! In this episode I reframe what it means to "be right" and what would happen if we considered approaching parenting dilemmas with from a different perspective. We explore why this one simple minset shift has drastically changed the way I parent and live. 

What we unpack in this episode:

• Learn to listen and tune in to each unique situation
• Connect with your kids and others by gaining presence
• Reconsider how you approach parenting dilemmas
• Learn to pause and consider before responding

Parenting is hard. Let's reframe this process together. 

Resources: 

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Welcome to the parenting reframe podcast. I'm your host, Albiona Rakipi. I have been lucky enough to work with children and families for over 20 years. My bachelor's degree is in early childhood education and my master's is in speech and language pathology. I currently work as a pediatric speech and language pathologist.

And prior to that, I was an early childhood teacher for over 12 years and I loved every single minute of it. I'm also a parent to two wonderful humans. Parenting grants me the opportunity to make mistakes, learn, laugh, and sometimes cry. But I gained unlimited insights from my personal and individual growth. I need my kids just as much as they've needed me. Despite bearing the title of "Mom," they've helped me evolve in more ways than I could imagine.

On this podcast, we'll explore solutions to some of the biggest parenting challenges. ie, tantrums, potty training, challenging behaviors, neurodivergent learners, teenagers, bedtime, homework, expectations, et cetera. We'll chat with experts, parents, and even kids about what it means to parent and to be parented.

My hope is to create a safe space where parents can feel seen, heard, and supported through this wild journey that is parenting. There is so much information at our fingertips. How do we quiet the noise, dig deep and find the answers within to reclaim joy, peace and balance in our homes, at least most of the time? My only ask is that you stay open and curious. Welcome aboard, and let's reframe together.

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