The Partnership Podcast

In this deeply honest episode of The Partnership Podcast, Lauren and Trey revisit the rupture they first discussed after their NYC trip — but now, they’re speaking from the other side of a powerful coaching session with their person, Dr. Joli Hamilton.

They explore how separating roles in their partnership has transformed the way they handle feedback, support, and stress. Lauren introduces the term “Vision Carrier,” a phrase that finally captures the role Trey has long played in her life. At 10:42, Lauren shares the moment she felt real validation — when their coach and Trey both affirmed that her critique of Trey’s self-awareness wasn’t too much, it was spot-on.

They discuss how denial of her feelings touched on old wounds of gaslighting from her first marriage, and how they are both working to repattern their safety-seeking behaviors in real time.

And even though the work is hard (Lauren shares she felt physically sick before the session), they’re recommitting to a partnership where love is prioritized over comfort.

Timestamps:

00:00 NYC rupture recap & coaching session reflection

04:51 “Vision Carrier” and role separation

10:42 The moment Lauren felt less “crazy”

14:45 The difference between critique and cruelty

20:30 Trey's repatterning work

26:00 Love vs. comfort in partnership

✨ Want to learn relationship tools like the ones we shared today?

Request a free 15-minute consult at: www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult

About Us: Lauren and Trey are partners living in Central Virginia where Lauren owns and operates, SEX ED FOR YOU. She provides comprehensive sexuality education and embodied coaching to individuals, partners, and parents.

Through a biopsychosocial approach, Sex Ed for You works to restore positive and respectful approaches to sexuality and sexual relationships, as well as increase the possibility of having pleasurable and safe sexual experiences, free of coercion, discrimination and violence. (WHO)

Sexual health is fundamental to the overall health and well-being of individuals, couples and families, and to the social and economic development of communities and countries. (WHO) When individuals are blocked from sexual health they are stunted from developing a sense of sensual play and enjoyment.

• Learn more about Sex Ed for You at ⁠⁠https://www.sexedforyou.com⁠⁠

• Schedule a FREE CONSULT with Lauren today: ⁠⁠https://www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult⁠⁠

• Learn more about partnered communication best practices on Sex Ed For You’s Instagram Page: ⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/sex_ed_for_you/⁠⁠

• Subscribe for more videos about sex, partnership, communication, and love.

Reminders: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how they" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own! Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you. Lauren is NOT a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator and Embodied Intimacy and Relationship Coach.

#relationshiptools #couplescoaching #repatterning #nervoussystemhealing #visioncarrier #emotionalrepair #attachmentwork #thepartnershippodcast

Can you play The 3-Minute Game without it leading to arousal?

In this powerful episode, Trey and Lauren demonstrate how to play a completely platonic version of the 3-Minute Game - a core practice from Dr. Betty Martin’s Wheel of Consent®. They explain how this version builds self-awareness, trust, and clear boundaries without courting arousal or triggering old patterns.

At minute 18:23, tune in to watch them play live, bringing real-time curiosity, discomfort, and delight to the table. They show how clear requests and responses can strengthen relational dynamics - even when it’s not about sex.

They also unpack a vulnerable moment from a recent Sunday morning where the game went sideways. When Trey said “do whatever you want,” it sparked confusion and disconnection. Lauren shares how this moment felt like desire smuggling - and what helped them find clarity and repair.

Stay through the end as they offer creative ideas for body-based requests, explore their most challenging quadrants from the Wheel of Consent, and reflect on why this practice is one of the most transformational tools in their relationship.

Want to learn more about the 3-Minute Game?

📚 Read The Art of Receiving and Giving by Dr. Betty Martin and Robyn Dalzen → https://amzn.to/3Gq3HND

🎧 Watch on YouTube or Spotify at minute 18:23 to see Trey and Lauren play in real time!

💬 Curious how this might help your partnership?

Request a free 15-minute consult with Lauren at:

👉 www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult

About Us: Lauren and Trey are partners living in Central Virginia where Lauren owns and operates, SEX ED FOR YOU. She provides comprehensive sexuality education and embodied coaching to individuals, partners, and parents.

Through a biopsychosocial approach, Sex Ed for You works to restore positive and respectful approaches to sexuality and sexual relationships, as well as increase the possibility of having pleasurable and safe sexual experiences, free of coercion, discrimination and violence. (WHO)

Sexual health is fundamental to the overall health and well-being of individuals, couples and families, and to the social and economic development of communities and countries. (WHO) When individuals are blocked from sexual health they are stunted from developing a sense of sensual play and enjoyment.

• Learn more about Sex Ed for You at ⁠⁠https://www.sexedforyou.com⁠⁠

• Schedule a FREE CONSULT with Lauren today: ⁠⁠https://www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult⁠⁠

• Learn more about partnered communication best practices on Sex Ed For You’s Instagram Page: ⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/sex_ed_for_you/⁠⁠

• Subscribe to our YouTube channel for more videos about sex, partnership, communication, and love: ⁠⁠https://youtube.com/@thepartnershippodcast⁠⁠

Reminders: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how they" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own! Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you. Lauren is NOT a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator and Embodied Intimacy and Relationship Coach.

#ThePartnershipPodcast #WheelOfConsent #3MinuteGame #PlatonicTouch #ConsentEducation #DesireSmuggling #BettyMartin #SomaticConsent #HealthyRelationships #SexEdForYou

After Lauren’s standing-room-only Soho House event, she and Trey pull back the curtain on what happened behind the scenes—and why big wins can sometimes bring up big shadows.

Lauren introduces her inner "Sissy," the part of her that believes she's only lovable if she's working hard, never celebrating. She opens up about the shame spiral that followed her success and how it led to a painful rupture with Trey. Trey shares his raw truth about feeling like “the help” while everyone else gets the best version of Lauren—and the resentment that can build in silence.

They explore their shadow stories, like “I’m never enough” and “I don’t get to want,” and how irrational beliefs can hijack real connection. They break down the missteps and miscommunications, the tender repair, and the nervous system reset they found on a long walk (and a 5-minute oral sex session that helped them stop over-talking).

Lauren reflects on the power of being surrounded by people who help her level up—and cries as she thanks Trey for being her dream man, the one who keeps showing up.

Don’t miss the emotional moment at minute 42 where Lauren names, with full heart, the partnership they’ve built—and the gratitude she feels for the man who keeps cheering her on.

💬 Book a free 15-minute consult with Lauren at www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult

About Us: Lauren and Trey are partners living in Central Virginia where Lauren owns and operates, SEX ED FOR YOU. She provides comprehensive sexuality education and embodied coaching to individuals, partners, and parents.

Through a biopsychosocial approach, Sex Ed for You works to restore positive and respectful approaches to sexuality and sexual relationships, as well as increase the possibility of having pleasurable and safe sexual experiences, free of coercion, discrimination and violence. (WHO)

Sexual health is fundamental to the overall health and well-being of individuals, couples and families, and to the social and economic development of communities and countries. (WHO) When individuals are blocked from sexual health they are stunted from developing a sense of sensual play and enjoyment.

• Learn more about Sex Ed for You at ⁠⁠https://www.sexedforyou.com⁠⁠

• Schedule a FREE CONSULT with Lauren today: ⁠⁠https://www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult⁠⁠

• Learn more about partnered communication best practices on Sex Ed For You’s Instagram Page: ⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/sex_ed_for_you/⁠⁠

• Subscribe to our YouTube channel for more videos about sex, partnership, communication, and love: ⁠⁠https://youtube.com/@thepartnershippodcast⁠⁠

Reminders: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how they" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own! Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you. Lauren is NOT a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator and Embodied Intimacy and Relationship Coach.

#ShadowWorkInLove #BehindTheScenesHealing #ConsciousPartnership #SuccessAndSelfSabotage #LevelingUpTogether

“So, we’re on the elevator—and we’re angry.”

In this raw and revealing follow-up to last week’s episode, Lauren picks up right where they left off: the hotel hallway tension, the slammed door, and the unforgettable, rage-fueled sex that followed. Clothes were ripped off, bodies thrown against walls, and a deep desire to be chosen and wanted took over.

Lauren and Trey reflect on the erotic electricity of that night—what made it so charged, why they’ve never had sex like that before, and how it left them both breathless… and then laughing when Trey had to wear Lauren’s sweatshirt home after the fire alarm went off. (Yes, really.)

But this episode isn’t just a sex story. They unpack the difference between hot and healthy. They name the ingredients that made that encounter intense and why they’ve agreed not to repeat it. Together, they explore the psychology of angry sex, make-up sex, and what happens when arousal is driven by disconnection instead of desire.

They then shift into what’s coming next: their plans for an upcoming Manhattan rendezvous—one that blends familiarity and mystery—and Lauren’s exciting speaking gig at Soho House. She opens up about her growth, the mantra she's holding—"I am good enough"—and how she’s preparing to do Live Sex & Relationship Coaching on stage.

Trey shares his excitement and support for Lauren’s so-called “National Tour,” and they talk about what it means to keep showing up for each other, especially when the stakes are high.

This conversation blends sexual healing, relationship advice, and emotional intimacy, offering tools for couples who want to better understand the intersection of sex and conflict. Whether you're curious about sex after a fight, make-up intimacy, or how communication can turn rage into repair, this episode delivers insights you won’t hear in couples therapy or your group chat.

🎧 Don’t miss this one—and if it resonates, leave a comment, subscribe, or share it with someone navigating intimacy and conflict in real time.

💬 Book a free 15-minute consult with Lauren at www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult

About Us: Lauren and Trey are partners living in Central Virginia where Lauren owns and operates, SEX ED FOR YOU. She provides comprehensive sexuality education and embodied coaching to individuals, partners, and parents.

Through a biopsychosocial approach, Sex Ed for You works to restore positive and respectful approaches to sexuality and sexual relationships, as well as increase the possibility of having pleasurable and safe sexual experiences, free of coercion, discrimination and violence. (WHO)

Sexual health is fundamental to the overall health and well-being of individuals, couples and families, and to the social and economic development of communities and countries. (WHO) When individuals are blocked from sexual health they are stunted from developing a sense of sensual play and enjoyment.

• Learn more about Sex Ed for You at ⁠⁠https://www.sexedforyou.com⁠⁠

• Schedule a FREE CONSULT with Lauren today: ⁠⁠https://www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult⁠⁠

• Learn more about partnered communication best practices on Sex Ed For You’s Instagram Page: ⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/sex_ed_for_you/⁠⁠

• Subscribe to our YouTube channel for more videos about sex, partnership, communication, and love: ⁠⁠https://youtube.com/@thepartnershippodcast⁠⁠

Reminders: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how they" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own! Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you. Lauren is NOT a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator and Embodied Intimacy and Relationship Coach.

#AngrySexExplained #SexAndConflict #IntimacyAfterFights

Why is hotel sex so hot? In this juicy and joy-filled episode of The Partnership Podcast, Trey and Lauren explore the psychology behind the passion—why sex in a hotel room often feels freer, more exciting, and more connected.

Trey opens with a hilarious hotel story from Amarillo, TX, and shares how heightened sensations and novelty make intimacy feel brand new. Lauren adds her insights about anticipation, freedom from responsibility, and the gift of being cared for instead of caretaking. She breaks down the difference between support and caretaking, referencing their past episode and the cultural conditioning that teaches women to be “human givers.”

At minute 10:47, Lauren introduces “Noel,” the sexy Christmas gift she sends Trey every year—and the conversation takes off from there. Together, they explore how hotel sex removes pressure while opening up the possibility of pleasure.

Lauren names the unique freedom hotel stays offer:

- Sex as a place we go, not something we do

- A break from obligations and identity

- The opportunity to abandon roles and expectations

- A container for connection, not performance

They even touch on hotel sex that goes wrong—and how even those moments strengthen the bond and create hilarious, memorable stories. The episode ends just as Lauren shares the start of a fight she picked with Trey about his wedding ring… but to hear the juicy resolution, you’ll need to tune in next week for Part Two.

🎧 Subscribe, share, and leave a review if this one got you thinking!

💬 Want to work with Lauren? Book a free 15-minute consult at www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult

About Us: Lauren and Trey are partners living in Central Virginia where Lauren owns and operates, SEX ED FOR YOU. She provides comprehensive sexuality education and embodied coaching to individuals, partners, and parents.

Through a biopsychosocial approach, Sex Ed for You works to restore positive and respectful approaches to sexuality and sexual relationships, as well as increase the possibility of having pleasurable and safe sexual experiences, free of coercion, discrimination and violence. (WHO)

Sexual health is fundamental to the overall health and well-being of individuals, couples and families, and to the social and economic development of communities and countries. (WHO) When individuals are blocked from sexual health they are stunted from developing a sense of sensual play and enjoyment.

• Learn more about Sex Ed for You at ⁠⁠https://www.sexedforyou.com⁠⁠

• Schedule a FREE CONSULT with Lauren today: ⁠⁠https://www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult⁠⁠

• Learn more about partnered communication best practices on Sex Ed For You’s Instagram Page: ⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/sex_ed_for_you/⁠⁠

• Subscribe to our YouTube channel for more videos about sex, partnership, communication, and love: ⁠⁠https://youtube.com/@thepartnershippodcast⁠⁠

Reminders: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how they" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own! Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you. Lauren is NOT a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator and Embodied Intimacy and Relationship Coach.

#HotelSexExplained #IntimacyTips #RelationshipPodcast

In this vulnerable follow-up to last week's episode on opening up their relationship, Lauren and Trey share how they’re really doing—and the deeper attachment patterns that were activated in the aftermath.Lauren opens up about her coach’s reflection that she often strives to “do it all” to protect Trey from pain. Trey reveals his own avoidant tendencies, formed in childhood, to escape disappointment and judgment when others fail him. Together, they explore how these strategies, shaped by their families of origin, play out in long-term partnership.They unpack why words from outside voices—coaches, mentors, and therapists—can land differently than when they come from within the relationship, and how external perspectives help them grow as individuals and partners.This episode dives into the quiet pitfalls of committed relationships: fusion, business-mode, the death of mystery, and the pressure to keep each other comfortable. Lauren reflects on how “the unknown” is part of her erotic landscape, and why being curious—and remaining unknown—to each other keeps their desire alive.They quote their friend and colleague Dene Logan: “The desire to keep another comfortable is not love, it is attachment.” From here, they explore their biggest turnoffs (Trey’s is caretaking, Lauren’s is sameness), and at minute 17:20 Lauren asks a pivotal question: What’s the difference between caretaking and offering support? The answer leads them to a powerful realization about infantilization, helplessness, and the ways gendered expectations keep us stuck.They close with an honest conversation about asking for help, why men often don’t, and how true partnership means a dynamic flow of giving and receiving—where no one has to carry it all alone.Timestamps:00:00 – How last week’s episode impacted them06:15 – Childhood wounds & attachment strategies11:40 – Why outside voices matter14:50 – Fusion, sameness & the death of mystery17:20 – Caretaking vs. offering support23:00 – The fear of asking for help26:30 – Challenging “women’s work” and old beliefs🔗 Subscribe for more conversations on long-term love, repair, and intimacy💬 Curious about working with Lauren? Request a FREE 15-minute consult at sexedforyou.com/freeconsultAbout Us: Lauren and Trey are partners living in Central Virginia where Lauren owns and operates, SEX ED FOR YOU. She provides comprehensive sexuality education and embodied coaching to individuals, partners, and parents.Through a biopsychosocial approach, Sex Ed for You works to restore positive and respectful approaches to sexuality and sexual relationships, as well as increase the possibility of having pleasurable and safe sexual experiences, free of coercion, discrimination and violence. (WHO)Sexual health is fundamental to the overall health and well-being of individuals, couples and families, and to the social and economic development of communities and countries. (WHO) When individuals are blocked from sexual health they are stunted from developing a sense of sensual play and enjoyment. • Learn more about Sex Ed for You at ⁠⁠https://www.sexedforyou.com⁠⁠• Schedule a FREE CONSULT with Lauren today: ⁠⁠https://www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult⁠⁠• Learn more about partnered communication best practices on Sex Ed For You’s Instagram Page: ⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/sex_ed_for_you/⁠⁠• Subscribe to our YouTube channel for more videos about sex, partnership, communication, and love: ⁠⁠https://youtube.com/@thepartnershippodcast⁠⁠Reminders: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how they" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own! Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you. Lauren is NOT a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator and Embodied Intimacy and Relationship Coach.

In this raw and deeply honest episode, Lauren and Trey open up about a conversation they’ve never shared publicly before—one that rocked the foundation of their partnership. At minute 06:49, you’ll hear Trey’s exact words at the bar: “What would it look like if we opened our relationship?” What followed was a weekend of intense reflection, body-based reactions, and tender reckoning.

Lauren, a professional sexuality educator and relationship coach, shares the real-time emotional and physical impact of that moment—not the polished version, but the full, human one. At 10:29, she reveals just how vulnerable it felt to speak from her truth, not her title.

They discuss how sex can become currency in relationships, the concept of “creative monogamy,” and the invaluable tools they've learned from Dr. Joli Hamilton. Trey reflects on his own missteps and the fear beneath his desire, while Lauren wonders aloud if it might be easier to live alone.

Together, they explore:

✨ What it means to choose partnership when it doesn’t give you everything you want

✨ How “ugly journaling,” vibrational alignment, and Human Design can support deep repair

✨ What full-bodied honesty looks like—even when it’s messy

This episode is tender, complex, and full of grey. It’s for anyone navigating modern love, boundaries, and the courage it takes to grow together—without losing yourself.

💬 Considering opening your relationship—or navigating the complexities of one that already is? If you're looking for thoughtful, non-judgmental, and deeply nuanced support, Lauren offers free 15-minute consults to explore if coaching is right for you.

👉 Request yours today at www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult

About Us: Lauren and Trey are partners living in Central Virginia where Lauren owns and operates, SEX ED FOR YOU. She provides comprehensive sexuality education and embodied coaching to individuals, partners, and parents.

Through a biopsychosocial approach, Sex Ed for You works to restore positive and respectful approaches to sexuality and sexual relationships, as well as increase the possibility of having pleasurable and safe sexual experiences, free of coercion, discrimination and violence. (WHO)

Sexual health is fundamental to the overall health and well-being of individuals, couples and families, and to the social and economic development of communities and countries. (WHO) When individuals are blocked from sexual health they are stunted from developing a sense of sensual play and enjoyment.

• Learn more about Sex Ed for You at ⁠⁠https://www.sexedforyou.com⁠⁠

• Schedule a FREE CONSULT with Lauren today: ⁠⁠https://www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult⁠⁠

• Learn more about partnered communication best practices on Sex Ed For You’s Instagram Page: ⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/sex_ed_for_you/⁠⁠

• Subscribe to our YouTube channel for more videos about sex, partnership, communication, and love: ⁠⁠https://youtube.com/@thepartnershippodcast⁠⁠

Reminders: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how they" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own! Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you. Lauren is NOT a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator and Embodied Intimacy and Relationship Coach.

#openrelationship #creativepartnership #modernlove #relationshippodcast #wheelofconsent #emotionalintimacy #humanresponse #relationshiptools

This week, Lauren and Trey dive into a big, juicy topic: breaking up—but not with each other. (Don't worry, they're still together!)

When Trey invites Lauren to share about a date night she requested, the conversation turns deeply personal. Lauren opens up about a core pattern in her attachment style: the fear of being “too much” and the impulse to protect others from her bigness—especially when she’s on the edge of growth.

She shares the origin of that story, the somatic response our bodies have to perceived threats to attachment, and how those old beliefs can sneak into even the most loving partnerships. As her business, Sex Ed for You, takes off—and more people ask her to write a book—Lauren admits that even sexy texts from Trey on her weekend off can feel like pressure, not pleasure.

Trey offers a surprising solution: "What if we just broke up?"

Not with each other—but with outdated roles and stories.

In a twisty, tender, and hilarious conversation, they explore the freedom that comes with redefining relationship agreements. Trey reflects on his own experience in football operations, how watching the NFL used to feel like work—and how that mirrors what Lauren’s going through now.

He reminds Lauren that he wants her to chase her dreams—that "that’s" the woman he fell in love with.

✨ This episode is a heartfelt, real-time unraveling of the beliefs that keep us stuck—and a powerful reminder that sometimes, love means letting go… of everything except each other.

🎧 Listen in, then tell us: What old roles or stories are you ready to break up with?

👉 Want support in breaking up with your own outdated patterns?

Lauren is currently offering Free 15-Minute Consults to help you learn the exact tools and somatic practices discussed in this episode.

💻 Request yours at www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult — and start creating the relationships you actually want to be in.

About Us: Lauren and Trey are partners living in Central Virginia where Lauren owns and operates, SEX ED FOR YOU. She provides comprehensive sexuality education and embodied coaching to individuals, partners, and parents.

Through a biopsychosocial approach, Sex Ed for You works to restore positive and respectful approaches to sexuality and sexual relationships, as well as increase the possibility of having pleasurable and safe sexual experiences, free of coercion, discrimination and violence. (WHO)

Sexual health is fundamental to the overall health and well-being of individuals, couples and families, and to the social and economic development of communities and countries. (WHO) When individuals are blocked from sexual health they are stunted from developing a sense of sensual play and enjoyment.

• Learn more about Sex Ed for You at ⁠⁠https://www.sexedforyou.com⁠⁠

• Schedule a FREE CONSULT with Lauren today: ⁠⁠https://www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult⁠⁠

• Learn more about partnered communication best practices on Sex Ed For You’s Instagram Page: ⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/sex_ed_for_you/⁠⁠

• Subscribe to our YouTube channel for more videos about sex, partnership, communication, and love: ⁠⁠https://youtube.com/@thepartnershippodcast⁠⁠

Reminders: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how they" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own! Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you. Lauren is NOT a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator and Embodied Intimacy and Relationship Coach.

#relationshipgoals #breakup #attachmentstyles #sexeducation #partnershippodcast #selfgrowth #entrepreneurship #somatichealing #marriedlife #oldstorynewstory #boundaries

What do you do when your partner’s ego takes the wheel? In this deeply honest episode, Lauren and Trey explore how to handle ego in real-time partnership. Trey opens up about recent struggles with his inner critic, replaying imaginary arguments, and how it’s made him short-tempered. Lauren gently suggests this might not be "stupid" behavior—but actually part of the work of real, evolving partnership.

They unpack a pivotal moment that came to a head over ice cream, when Trey’s defensiveness flared in response to their 14-year-old. Lauren accessed anger in a way she rarely does, and for the first time, Trey dropped his walls. What followed was a meaningful, healing conversation that helped them both grow.

Lauren connects this moment to Trey's childhood patterning—specifically, the safety-seeking behaviors he developed when his mother would yell at him in the car. She wonders if “The Baby” might actually be the healing balm for his mother wound. Trey admits Lauren can provoke him like no one else—and maybe that's a good thing.

Later, they share details from a playful, connected date where they revisited the 3-Minute Game. The experience was so profound that it might have sent them into a state of DROP—a physical, emotional, and chemical crash that can follow intense pleasure. Lauren explains how the nervous system reacts to intense intimacy, why we sometimes feel disoriented or exhausted afterward, and how important it is to close the container.

They wrap up by discussing what they’ll do differently next time to stay connected and grounded—and how to better support each other through the mess and magic of long-term love.

🔗 Need tools for navigating hard conversations with your partner? Request a free 15-minute consult at sexedforyou.com/freeconsult and get the support you deserve.

About Us: Lauren and Trey are partners living in Central Virginia where Lauren owns and operates, SEX ED FOR YOU. She provides comprehensive sexuality education and embodied coaching to individuals, partners, and parents.

Through a biopsychosocial approach, Sex Ed for You works to restore positive and respectful approaches to sexuality and sexual relationships, as well as increase the possibility of having pleasurable and safe sexual experiences, free of coercion, discrimination and violence. (WHO)

Sexual health is fundamental to the overall health and well-being of individuals, couples and families, and to the social and economic development of communities and countries. (WHO) When individuals are blocked from sexual health they are stunted from developing a sense of sensual play and enjoyment.

• Learn more about Sex Ed for You at ⁠⁠https://www.sexedforyou.com⁠⁠

• Schedule a FREE CONSULT with Lauren today: ⁠⁠https://www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult⁠⁠

• Learn more about partnered communication best practices on Sex Ed For You’s Instagram Page: ⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/sex_ed_for_you/⁠⁠

• Subscribe to our YouTube channel for more videos about sex, partnership, communication, and love: ⁠⁠https://youtube.com/@thepartnershippodcast⁠⁠

Reminders: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how they" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own! Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you. Lauren is NOT a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator and Embodied Intimacy and Relationship Coach.

#RelationshipAdvice #EgoInRelationships #EmotionalTriggers #GreatSex

In this episode of The Partnership Podcast, Lauren and Trey share how they've learned to say "No" to sex — without creating distance, resentment, or feelings of rejection.

They start by introducing a powerful game from Dr. Betty Martin 's WHEEL OF CONSENT: -Like A Pro Training called "No Three Ways," and reflect on how it helped rebuild trust between them after a traumatic experience at a tantra party earlier that year. (Catch that story HERE)

Lauren and Trey explore:

- How childhood experiences around "No" shaped their adult relationships

- How they're working to honor their 14-year-old's boundaries

- Personal responsibility for orgasm (and why it matters!)

- How they navigate saying "No" inside their partnership — and when it does or doesn’t feel like rejection

They also model different communication tools they've found incredibly helpful, like:

➔ "Not now, but then"

➔ "Not that, but this"

➔ "I'm interested"

➔ "This benefits me"

The conversation gets juicy as they discuss why touch and sex often get conflated — and how unspoken "No’s" can create distance over time. They even do about 8 minutes of role-playing, modeling how to gracefully decline sexual invitations while still keeping intimacy alive.

At 43:00, they shift into an honest conversation about the differences between solo sex and partnered sex — and why they aren't in competition.

Trey asks at 45:15, "If I fantasize about another woman or use porn to orgasm, why don't you take it personally?" Lauren offers a fresh perspective, likening erotic materials to fast food 🍔 — satisfying, but not competing with fine dining 🍷.

Lauren closes by sharing the one time porn use made her sad — and why it was really about broken expectations, not the porn itself.

✨ If you want more tools to communicate your desires for sex and your boundaries without rejecting your partner, request a free 15-minute consult with Lauren today: www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult

About Us: Lauren and Trey are partners living in Central Virginia where Lauren owns and operates, SEX ED FOR YOU. She provides comprehensive sexuality education and embodied coaching to individuals, partners, and parents.

Through a biopsychosocial approach, Sex Ed for You works to restore positive and respectful approaches to sexuality and sexual relationships, as well as increase the possibility of having pleasurable and safe sexual experiences, free of coercion, discrimination and violence. (WHO)

Sexual health is fundamental to the overall health and well-being of individuals, couples and families, and to the social and economic development of communities and countries. (WHO) When individuals are blocked from sexual health they are stunted from developing a sense of sensual play and enjoyment.

• Learn more about Sex Ed for You at ⁠⁠https://www.sexedforyou.com⁠⁠

• Schedule a FREE CONSULT with Lauren today: ⁠⁠https://www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult⁠⁠

• Learn more about partnered communication best practices on Sex Ed For You’s Instagram Page: ⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/sex_ed_for_you/⁠⁠

• Subscribe to our YouTube channel for more videos about sex, partnership, communication, and love: ⁠⁠https://youtube.com/@thepartnershippodcast⁠⁠

Reminders: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how they" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own! Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you. Lauren is NOT a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator and Embodied Intimacy and Relationship Coach.

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