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When something doesn’t go so well in your world, do you tend to bounce back or fall apart?

You can navigate change and bounce back from adversity by learning skills and strategies to become more resilient.

Resilience is all about you harnessing the inner strength to help you rebound from setback or challenge. When you lack resilience, you might dwell on problems, feel like a victim, become overwhelmed or turn to unhealthy coping strategies…

Let’s be clear here, Resilience won't make your problems go away but resilience can give you the ability to see beyond them, find more enjoyment in life and better handle your stress. If you aren't as resilient as you'd like to be, you can develop skills to become more resilient…

There are many roadblocks that stand in the way of resilience that you need to become aware of before you add new skills. Let’s take a look at some of them and see what rings true for you.

Unhealthy habits, mindsets, thoughts, self-talk and behaviour. They all get in the way.

Having a low level of emotional understanding and not being able to respond to events in a healthy way.

This can all leave you vulnerable to distress and burnout.

Resilience can help protect you from various mental health conditions, such as depression and anxiety. Resilience can also help offset factors that increase the risk of mental health conditions, such as being bullied or previous trauma. If you have an existing mental health condition, being resilient can improve your ability to cope. By the way, please seek help from your health professional before employing any strategies that you hear from me.

Here are some of the results that you can have when you overcome the roadblocks.

- You can go from unhealthy habits to exercising self-care

- You see things as they really are, keeping them in perspective.

- You become more able to change direction without breaking

Resilience is the ability to roll with the punches.

In fact, being able to reach out to others for support is a key component of being resilient.

Let’s unpack what it takes to be resilient and then chat about some things that have helped me personally go from stressed to strong.

Resilience is perseverance and diligence in the face of setbacks and there are 5 crucial ingredients to becoming more resilient.

Let’s take a look at these ingredients and set an intention for where we are going to go over the next few weeks.

Number 1 is Getting More Clarity

Number 2 is Taking Care of yourself

Number 3 is Building your Confidence

Number 4 is Staying in Control and

number 5 is maintaining strong Connections.

So where do you see yourself on the RESILIENCE scale? Is this something you could benefit from working on? I would love to read your thoughts and questions in the comments below.

So that’s it for another week. Over the coming weeks we will continue the conversation around resilience and go deeper on the 5 crucial ingredients. See you then!

Our work can involve physical demands that can certainly take their toll; working long hours, working indoors, travel, doing repetitive tasks, heavy-lifting, a fast-paced environment, sitting at a computer for long periods of time…the list goes on.

All of these things require varying levels of physical resilience, not just so that you can get through the day, but also so that you can feel that the work we do is truly valuable. It’s important to keep a close eye on signs of fatigue and make shifts in your environment and work conditions as needed so that your quality of life is not negatively impacted.

Hi, this is Grant Herbert, International Influencer and Sustainable Performance Coach, and this week I want to have a conversation with you around Physical Resilience.

For FREE resources and coaching from one of the leading personal development experts in the world, visit: https://www.grantherbert.com

Get the FULL TRANSCRIPT here:

https://www.grantherbert.com/blog/developing-physical-resilience

Become A Coach and grow your influence, income, and impact here: https://www.peoplebuildersinstitute.com.au  

When something doesn’t go so well in your world, do you tend to bounce back or fall apart?

You can navigate change and bounce back from adversity by learning skills and strategies to become more resilient.

Hi this is Grant Herbert, International Influence and Sustainable Performance Coach, and today I want to have a conversation with you about resilience.

For FREE resources and coaching from one of the leading personal development experts in the world, visit: https://www.grantherbert.com

Get the FULL TRANSCRIPT here:

https://www.grantherbert.com/blog/developing-resilience

Become A Coach and grow your influence, income, and impact here: https://www.peoplebuildersinstitute.com.au  

Do you ever ask yourself “Why am I thinking this way?” or “Why am I behaving this way?” I know I do. There is so much empowerment in knowing the answer to these questions.

Hi this is Grant Herbert, International Influencer and Sustainable Performance Coach, and today’s I want to have a conversation with you around the invaluable competency of ‘Self Awareness’.

There have been many times in my career where I was confused about the things I was saying or doing, and how the way I saw myself was constantly different to the perception of others.

My lack of understanding caused me, and those who I worked with, a lot of pain and suffering. My inability to see the signs, oblivious to what was really going on with my inner game, made it feel like driving down the road at night with my lights off.

Navigating in the dark creates collisions and conflict, but knowing why is the key ingredient in any form of change and it takes a higher level of Self Awareness.

Self Awareness will empower you to recognise and understand the links between what you believe, your thoughts, self-talk and what you say and do. It removes the confusion and creates clarity and certainty.

So what is Self Awareness? 

The Oxford Dictionary defines it as “Conscious knowledge of one's own character and feelings” and you receive many benefits in your career, and every area of your life, when you develop these skills for yourself.

When you see the signs you can make the adjustments you need to bring your thoughts and behaviour back on track so you can achieve the results you want. It gives you a start point for positive growth and change with a roadmap to follow, allowing you to navigate with confidence.

Self Awareness is knowing your internal states, your preferences, your resources and intuitions. It brings the inside out, shining the light on you strengths and shortcomings.

So how do you increase your current level of Self Awareness? Let’s unpack 3 big ideas around this that have helped me, and the thousands of others I have had the privilege of working with in this area. 

Number 1: Invest in your own self reflection - You know you better than anyone else so take charge and ask yourself the difficult questions.

Just like any medical condition, diagnosis is critical before you can make the changes you need to get back to full health. Make Self Awareness a priority, allowing space for forward focussed reflection throughout the day. It may help you to journal your thoughts so you can notice when certain things are more likely to surface or what people trigger your unhealthy thoughts and behaviours. Recognise patterns in your thoughts, feelings, and behaviour. Call yourself out when you see yourself indulging in negative self talk that can spiral into emotionally charged reactions.

Number 2: Be open to feedback - Every one of us has ‘Blind Spots’, things we cannot or will not see in ourselves that stands out in a spotlight for others. Self Awareness is a process that involves others, trusting them, being vulnerable and teachable, recognising that what they see is their perception of reality. Listen to learn, suspending judgement and the need to defend. It’s a bit like my mum making me take a large spoonful of castor oil each day when I was a kid. It tasted terrible but it was good for my inner health. Asking others for feedback is a bit like that. It may not feel good at the time but it’s good for you, and the people around you.

Number 3: Use what you learn - Awareness without action is pointless. In fact, it can be even more frustrating to know things about yourself and do nothing with it. The only value you receive from your newfound level of Self Awareness comes in making the change it illuminates for you. Set an intention to make incremental change over the long term, avoiding band aid fixes that never last. Get some people around you who can give you the support and accountability you need to make it happen. A family member, a colleague or even a coach like me. Someone who cares about you and wants you to succeed. Self Awareness is not a one time deal, it’s something you have to condition yourself to walk in every day.

People who have Self Awareness are emotionally aware, they accurately assess their abilities and they have a strong sense of self-worth. This translates into more satisfying relationships and a career where you have more influence, make a bigger impact and receive a higher income. It’s time to become more aware!

So that’s it from me for another week. Next week we are celebrating Mental Health Week by kicking off a series on Resilience. See you then.

Do you ever ask yourself “Why am I thinking this way?” or “Why am I behaving this way?” I know I do. There is so much empowerment in knowing the answer to these questions.

Hi this is Grant Herbert, International Influencer and Sustainable Performance Coach, and today’s I want to have a conversation with you around the invaluable competency of ‘Self Awareness’.

There have been many times in my career where I was confused about the things I was saying or doing, and how the way I saw myself was constantly different to the perception of others.

My lack of understanding caused me, and those who I worked with, a lot of pain and suffering. My inability to see the signs, oblivious to what was really going on with my inner game, made it feel like driving down the road at night with my lights off.

Navigating in the dark creates collisions and conflict, but knowing why is the key ingredient in any form of change and it takes a higher level of Self Awareness.

Self Awareness will empower you to recognise and understand the links between what you believe, your thoughts, self-talk and what you say and do. It removes the confusion and creates clarity and certainty.

So what is Self Awareness? 

The Oxford Dictionary defines it as “Conscious knowledge of one's own character and feelings” and you receive many benefits in your career, and every area of your life, when you develop these skills for yourself.

When you see the signs you can make the adjustments you need to bring your thoughts and behaviour back on track so you can achieve the results you want. It gives you a start point for positive growth and change with a roadmap to follow, allowing you to navigate with confidence.

Self Awareness is knowing your internal states, your preferences, your resources and intuitions. It brings the inside out, shining the light on you strengths and shortcomings.

So how do you increase your current level of Self Awareness? Let’s unpack 3 big ideas around this that have helped me, and the thousands of others I have had the privilege of working with in this area. 

Number 1: Invest in your own self reflection - You know you better than anyone else so take charge and ask yourself the difficult questions.

Just like any medical condition, diagnosis is critical before you can make the changes you need to get back to full health. Make Self Awareness a priority, allowing space for forward focussed reflection throughout the day. It may help you to journal your thoughts so you can notice when certain things are more likely to surface or what people trigger your unhealthy thoughts and behaviours. Recognise patterns in your thoughts, feelings, and behaviour. Call yourself out when you see yourself indulging in negative self talk that can spiral into emotionally charged reactions.

Number 2: Be open to feedback - Every one of us has ‘Blind Spots’, things we cannot or will not see in ourselves that stands out in a spotlight for others. Self Awareness is a process that involves others, trusting them, being vulnerable and teachable, recognising that what they see is their perception of reality. Listen to learn, suspending judgement and the need to defend. It’s a bit like my mum making me take a large spoonful of castor oil each day when I was a kid. It tasted terrible but it was good for my inner health. Asking others for feedback is a bit like that. It may not feel good at the time but it’s good for you, and the people around you.

Number 3: Use what you learn - Awareness without action is pointless. In fact, it can be even more frustrating to know things about yourself and do nothing with it. The only value you receive from your newfound level of Self Awareness comes in making the change it illuminates for you. Set an intention to make incremental change over the long term, avoiding band aid fixes that never last. Get some people around you who can give you the support and accountability you need to make it happen. A family member, a colleague or even a coach like me. Someone who cares about you and wants you to succeed. Self Awareness is not a one time deal, it’s something you have to condition yourself to walk in every day.

People who have Self Awareness are emotionally aware, they accurately assess their abilities and they have a strong sense of self-worth. This translates into more satisfying relationships and a career where you have more influence, make a bigger impact and receive a higher income. It’s time to become more aware!

So that’s it from me for another week. Next week we are celebrating Mental Health Week by kicking off a series on Resilience. See you then.

Do you ever ask yourself “Why am I thinking this way?” or “Why am I behaving this way?” I know I do. There is so much empowerment in knowing the answer to these questions.

Hi this is Grant Herbert, International Influencer and Sustainable Performance Coach, and today’s I want to have a conversation with you around the invaluable competency of ‘Self Awareness’.

For FREE resources and coaching from one of the leading personal development experts in the world, visit: https://www.grantherbert.com

Get the FULL TRANSCRIPT here:

https://www.grantherbert.com/blog/self-awareness

Become A Coach and grow your influence, income, and impact here: https://www.peoplebuildersinstitute.com.au  

The mental health of corporate Australia shows almost one third of people are suffering from some form of mental illness.

Of those, 36% were suffering from depression, 33% from anxiety and 31% from stress.

A decade ago only one in five Australians were found to be suffering from a mental illness. It’s time to turn things around.

Hi this is Grant Herbert, international speaker and sustainable performance coach, and today I want to continue our conversation around stress by helping you get to a point where you feel more empowered to ask for the help you need.

I’ve had a couple of weeks where I have had to take my own medicine as a lot of travel and being unwell had really taken it’s toll. That’s why I missed our conversation last week and am coming to you a week later. I am currently in the beautiful city of New Delhi in India where I am about to run a 3 day leadership intensive with the top 100 leaders of a very large corporate.

So let’s have a chat about asking for help.

Mental illness appears to have increased by a third in the last decade. Depression is now the primary mental health disorder.

This is the first time depression has exceeded anxiety which has traditionally been twice as common as depression. Australia’s last official figures list anxiety at 14.4% and depression at 6.2%. The program, using data from 3,500 employees across 41 organisations from a range of industries, was conducted by the mental health technology group Medibio.

Now studies and statistics are one thing. We can dismiss them because of sample size or many other rationalisations we choose to use to avoid the issue. However I have the privilege of working with thousands of individuals and teams in these organisations every year and I can attest first hand that this is definitely a true reflection of what is going on right now.

People are hurting and therefore so are their families and the bottom line of the companies they work in.

A couple of weeks ago we celebrated RUOK day. A special day set aside each year where we are encouraged to ask our fellow humans how things are, and hope they respond in a way that we feel empowered to deal with.

Well my question is, what do we do on the other 364 days?

We take responsibility for our own well-being and ask others for help.

Now I know why a lot of you do not feel comfortable to do this. You feel that asking for help means you failed or you aren’t good enough. That’s what held me back before my burnout forced me to ask.

But I don’t want that for you so as we round off this series on Stress, let me encourage you with 7 key strategies that will help you escape the statistics and enjoy a more healthy and happy life.

It’s time for you to grow your support network.

1. Cast a wide net.  

When it comes to your social support, one size doesn't fit all. You may not have someone you can confide in about everything  — and that’s okay. Maybe you have a colleague you can talk to about problems at work, and a neighbour who lends an ear when you have difficulties with your kids. Look to different relationships for different kinds of support. But remember to look to people you can trust and count on, to avoid disappointing, negative interactions that can make you feel worse.

2. Be proactive.  

Often people expect others to reach out to them, and then feel rejected when people don’t go out of their way to do so. To get the most out of your social relationships, you have to make an effort. Make time for friends and family. Reach out to lend a hand or just say hello. If you’re there for others, they’ll be more likely to be there for you. And in fact, when it comes to longevity, research suggests that providing social support to friends and family may be even more important than receiving it.

It’s nice to sit down with a friend face-to-face, but it isn't always possible. Luckily, technology makes it easier than ever before to stay connected with loved ones far away. Write an email, send a text message or make a date for a video chat. Don’t rely too heavily on digital connections, however. Face-to-face interactions are definitely the most beneficial.

Do you like to hike, sing, make stuff, play sport, get involved in local events? You’re more likely to connect with people who like the things you like. Join a club, sign up for a class or take on a volunteer position that will allow you to meet others who share your interests. Don’t be discouraged if you don’t make friends overnight. Try to enjoy the experience as you get to know others over time.

If you’re dealing with a specific stressful situation  —  such as caring for a family member or dealing with a chronic illness  —  you may not find the support you need from your current network. Consider joining a support group to meet others who are dealing with similar challenges.

 If you feel awkward in social situations and just don’t know what to say, try asking simple questions about the other person to get the ball rolling. If you’re shy, it can be less intimidating to get to know others over shared activities — such as a bike ride or a cooking class — rather than just hanging out and talking. If you feel particularly anxious in social situations, consider talking to a professional coach with experience in social anxiety and social-skills training.

If you lack a strong support network and aren’t sure where to start, there are resources you can turn to. Places of worship, community centres, local libraries, refugee and immigrant groups, neighbourhood health clinics and local branches of national mental health and support organisations may be able to help you identify services, support groups and other programs in your community.

So that’s a wrap on this current conversation series on stress. I hope you have a few take aways that you are committed to implementing in your own life. Thank you for the privilege of being a part of your journey so far and if you haven’t yet grabbed your copy of my free resources on stress reduction then CLICK HERE and get started now. You deserve to live a life with less stress and conflict.

Well that’s it from me this week. Next week we will be back with a conversation around self awareness. See you then. 

The mental health of corporate Australia shows almost one third of people are suffering from some form of mental illness.

Of those, 36% were suffering from depression, 33% from anxiety and 31% from stress.

A decade ago only one in five Australians were found to be suffering from a mental illness. It’s time to turn things around.

Hi this is Grant Herbert, international speaker and sustainable performance coach, and today I want to continue our conversation around stress by helping you get to a point where you feel more empowered to ask for the help you need.

I’ve had a couple of weeks where I have had to take my own medicine as a lot of travel and being unwell had really taken it’s toll. That’s why I missed our conversation last week and am coming to you a week later. I am currently in the beautiful city of New Delhi in India where I am about to run a 3 day leadership intensive with the top 100 leaders of a very large corporate.

So let’s have a chat about asking for help.

Mental illness appears to have increased by a third in the last decade. Depression is now the primary mental health disorder.

This is the first time depression has exceeded anxiety which has traditionally been twice as common as depression. Australia’s last official figures list anxiety at 14.4% and depression at 6.2%. The program, using data from 3,500 employees across 41 organisations from a range of industries, was conducted by the mental health technology group Medibio.

Now studies and statistics are one thing. We can dismiss them because of sample size or many other rationalisations we choose to use to avoid the issue. However I have the privilege of working with thousands of individuals and teams in these organisations every year and I can attest first hand that this is definitely a true reflection of what is going on right now.

People are hurting and therefore so are their families and the bottom line of the companies they work in.

A couple of weeks ago we celebrated RUOK day. A special day set aside each year where we are encouraged to ask our fellow humans how things are, and hope they respond in a way that we feel empowered to deal with.

Well my question is, what do we do on the other 364 days?

We take responsibility for our own well-being and ask others for help.

Now I know why a lot of you do not feel comfortable to do this. You feel that asking for help means you failed or you aren’t good enough. That’s what held me back before my burnout forced me to ask.

But I don’t want that for you so as we round off this series on Stress, let me encourage you with 7 key strategies that will help you escape the statistics and enjoy a more healthy and happy life.

It’s time for you to grow your support network.

1. Cast a wide net.  

When it comes to your social support, one size doesn't fit all. You may not have someone you can confide in about everything  — and that’s okay. Maybe you have a colleague you can talk to about problems at work, and a neighbour who lends an ear when you have difficulties with your kids. Look to different relationships for different kinds of support. But remember to look to people you can trust and count on, to avoid disappointing, negative interactions that can make you feel worse.

2. Be proactive.  

Often people expect others to reach out to them, and then feel rejected when people don’t go out of their way to do so. To get the most out of your social relationships, you have to make an effort. Make time for friends and family. Reach out to lend a hand or just say hello. If you’re there for others, they’ll be more likely to be there for you. And in fact, when it comes to longevity, research suggests that providing social support to friends and family may be even more important than receiving it.

It’s nice to sit down with a friend face-to-face, but it isn't always possible. Luckily, technology makes it easier than ever before to stay connected with loved ones far away. Write an email, send a text message or make a date for a video chat. Don’t rely too heavily on digital connections, however. Face-to-face interactions are definitely the most beneficial.

Do you like to hike, sing, make stuff, play sport, get involved in local events? You’re more likely to connect with people who like the things you like. Join a club, sign up for a class or take on a volunteer position that will allow you to meet others who share your interests. Don’t be discouraged if you don’t make friends overnight. Try to enjoy the experience as you get to know others over time.

If you’re dealing with a specific stressful situation  —  such as caring for a family member or dealing with a chronic illness  —  you may not find the support you need from your current network. Consider joining a support group to meet others who are dealing with similar challenges.

 If you feel awkward in social situations and just don’t know what to say, try asking simple questions about the other person to get the ball rolling. If you’re shy, it can be less intimidating to get to know others over shared activities — such as a bike ride or a cooking class — rather than just hanging out and talking. If you feel particularly anxious in social situations, consider talking to a professional coach with experience in social anxiety and social-skills training.

If you lack a strong support network and aren’t sure where to start, there are resources you can turn to. Places of worship, community centres, local libraries, refugee and immigrant groups, neighbourhood health clinics and local branches of national mental health and support organisations may be able to help you identify services, support groups and other programs in your community.

So that’s a wrap on this current conversation series on stress. I hope you have a few take aways that you are committed to implementing in your own life. Thank you for the privilege of being a part of your journey so far and if you haven’t yet grabbed your copy of my free resources on stress reduction then CLICK HERE and get started now. You deserve to live a life with less stress and conflict.

Well that’s it from me this week. Next week we will be back with a conversation around self awareness. See you then. 

The mental health of corporate Australia shows almost one third of people are suffering from some form of mental illness.

Of those, 36% were suffering from depression, 33% from anxiety and 31% from stress. A decade ago only one in five Australians were found to be suffering from a mental illness. It’s time to turn things around.

Hi this is Grant Herbert, international speaker and sustainable performance coach, and today I want to continue our conversation around stress by helping you get to a point where you feel more empowered to ask for the help you need.

Get the FULL TRANSCRIPT here:

https://www.grantherbert.com/blog/ask-for-help

Become A Coach and grow your influence, income, and impact here:

https://www.peoplebuildersinstitute.com.au

Stress is a normal part of life.

Many events that happen to you and around you and many things that you do yourself put stress on your body.

Hi this is Grant Herbert, international speaker and sustainable performance coach, and I want to continue our conversation around stress this week by looking at Physical Stress.

For FREE resources and coaching from one of the leading personal development experts in the world, visit:

https://www.grantherbert.com

Get the FULL TRANSCRIPT here:

https://www.grantherbert.com/blog/physical-stress

Become A Coach and grow your influence, income, and impact here: https://www.peoplebuildersinstitute.com.au