This is a conversation that does not try to fit you into a box…it breaks the box…then hands you the tools to build your own world on purpose.

Jordan Alexandra Blizzard Planit joins Ryan to explore Planit Butter…a playful, immersive world made out of peanut butter…built to normalize non conventionality through her philosophy…intucentricism.

This episode is part philosophy…part creativity…part identity work…with a recurring invitation that lands hard…

If Planit Butter is her world…what is your world made of?

…“You are here to think when you’re visiting Planit Butter.”
…“Your into centric way is your path to your ideal self.”
…“It’s not easy…but we can choose to make it fun.”
…“Presitude is being present through thankfulness.”

Jordan Alexandra Blizzard Planit
Creator of Planit Butter and the philosophy of intucentricism

Blissy
Planit Butter’s mascot…a disco ball of self reflection

Steve Lang's Marketing Agency LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/stevelangauraaiagency/

Jordan’s website…Planit Butter: https://planitbutter.com

Jordan’s book…iNtucentric: https://a.co/d/0iaHoJDz

If you felt yourself pause during this episode…good.

Sit with this question for a day…

If her world is made out of peanut butter…what is your world made of?

And if you have a name suggestion for Ryan’s world…drop it in a comment or message it to him.

In this episode, Jay Conner breaks down the private money system that changed everything after his bank closed his line of credit in January 2009…with zero notice. Instead of chasing banks or pitching deals, Jay learned how to raise private money by teaching ordinary people how to earn strong returns backed by real estate.

This is a conversation about funding…yes…but it is also a conversation about response, responsibility, trust, and building relationships that create freedom.

Links Mentioned in the Episode

Jay Conner’s free private money scripts…including the Curiosity Opener
 https://www.jayconner.com/scripts  

Get Jay Conner’s book…Where to Get the Money Now…free plus shipping
https://www.jayconner.com/book-details   

Jay Conner’s main website
https://www.jayconner.com   

Jack Canfield’s E plus R equals O explanation
https://jackcanfield.com/blog/the-formula-that-puts-you-in-control-of-success/   

People and Books Referenced

Jack Canfield…The Success Principles
Dan Sullivan and Dr. Benjamin Hardy…Who Not How
Dr. Benjamin Hardy…Be Your Future Self Now

Quotable Moments

Enough is never enough when it’s not about you
The private lenders need us more than we need them
We never pitch deals…we separate teaching from funding
Time kills deals
Own the real estate between your ears

  About Jay Conner

Jay Conner is a real estate investor, educator, and private money teacher who built his funding system after being cut off by the bank in 2009. Since then, he has helped thousands of investors learn how to fund deals without chasing banks or pitching investors.

Why do we avoid discomfort…even when it’s the very thing that leads to growth?

In Part 2 of this conversation, Ryan, Jessica, and David go deeper into one of the most misunderstood ideas in personal development and relationships…the difference between emotional safety and emotional comfort.

This episode explores how nervous system regulation, shame, and internalized survival strategies shrink our sense of choice…and how building capacity rather than chasing comfort restores agency, connection, and self-trust.

You’ll learn why discomfort is not danger, why reactivity isn’t failure, and how cultivating Self-energy allows people to navigate conflict, parenting, leadership, and intimacy without collapsing into shame or control.

• Why emotional safety does not mean emotional comfort
• How dysregulation reduces choice…and increases conflict
• The role of the nervous system in shame responses
• Why “fixing yourself” doesn’t work…and what does
• How to transform the Shame Triangle into the Self-Love Triangle
• Inner critic → inner coach
• Escapers → inner nurturers
• Shame → raw experience without storyline
• How self-energy becomes the foundation for healing and growth

• Self-energy and embodied awareness
• Capacity vs avoidance
• Emotional regulation vs emotional suppression
• Parenting, leadership, and relational repair without shame
• Restorative vs adversarial frameworks

• Transforming the Shame Triangle
• The Self-Love Triangle
• Legacy burdens and inherited shame
• Restorative justice principles applied to relationships

• Courses and immersive learning: 

• Jessica Fern’s work and writing: https://www.jessicafern.com 
• David Cooley’s restorative relationship model: https://www.restorativerelationship.com 

What if shame isn’t something to eliminate…fix…or outgrow?

What if shame is actually information…a map pointing toward what matters most?

In Part 1 of this powerful two-part conversation, Ryan sits down with therapist and author Jessica Fern and restorative relationship facilitator David Cooley to explore how shame operates inside us, why it becomes invisible, and how it quietly shapes our relationships, productivity, self-worth, and sense of agency.

This episode introduces their groundbreaking framework, The Shame Triangle, a parts-based model rooted in Internal Family Systems (IFS) that reveals how the inner critic, shame, and escapist strategies work together to keep people stuck…even after years of personal growth work.

Rather than pathologizing shame, this conversation reframes it as a signal, one that becomes transformative once it’s understood rather than avoided.

• Why shame is not the enemy…but avoidance is
• The difference between shame as an emotion and shame as a system of parts
• How the inner critic develops…and what it’s actually trying to protect
• Why high-achievers often hide shame behind productivity, perfectionism, or over-functioning
• How early relational moments become lifelong internalized voices
• Why awareness alone doesn’t dissolve shame…and what does
• How relationships become the primary medium for raising consciousness

• The Shame Triangle…inner critic, shame, and escapers
• Internal Family Systems (IFS) and parts-based awareness
• Identity vs behavior…and why confusing the two fuels shame
• Social conditioning, attachment, and internalized voices
• Agency as the antidote to reactivity

• Transforming the Shame Triangle
• Internal Family Systems (IFS)
• Restorative Relationship Conversations
• Attachment theory and relational development

• Learn more about Jessica Fern: https://www.jessicafern.com 
• Learn more about David Cooley: https://www.restorativerelationship.com 
• Explore upcoming courses via:

Part 2 takes the conversation deeper…and more personal.

Fred Joyal shares the moments that taught him boldness isn’t about bravado…it’s about emotional resilience. From missed opportunities to painful regrets, and from speaking when it mattered to staying silent when it didn’t, this episode explores what actually haunts people later in life…and how to prevent it.

Ryan and Fred unpack the hidden cost of playing small, the neuroscience behind hesitation, and why boldness practiced when the stakes are low prepares you for the moments that define who you become.

This episode isn’t motivational.
It’s clarifying.

What You’ll Learn in Part 2
• Why regret hurts more than failure
• How emotional resilience makes boldness sustainable
• The difference between discomfort and danger
• Why embarrassment is often a choice
• How to train boldness like a muscle
• The PRIDE Method…Fred’s framework for everyday bravery

Key Quote
“The boldest moment is when trying and failing feels better than not trying at all.”

Framework Discussed
• PRIDE Method…Preparation, Relaxation, Insights, Dosage, Everyday Action
• Boldness spectrum…starting where you are, not where others are

Connect with Fred Joyal
• Website… https://www.fredjoyal.com 
• Free Audiobook via the SuperBold App… https://www.fredjoyal.com/app 

Your Next Step
If you are tired of negotiating with yourself…
If you feel successful on paper but restless underneath…
If you know there’s more in you and you’re done waiting…

👉 Free 30 Minute Coaching Session
https://www.ryanwattslifecoaching.com/schedule 

In Part 1 of this powerful conversation, Ryan sits down with legendary entrepreneur and author Fred Joyal, co founder of 1-800-DENTIST, to dismantle one of the most common myths about success…that confidence comes first.

Fred shares how boldness, not confidence, became the skill that shaped his career, his relationships, and ultimately his philosophy on living without regret. From launching a business he was wildly unprepared for, to redefining failure as a training ground rather than a verdict, this episode reframes boldness as something learnable, trainable, and available to anyone.

This is not about being fearless.
It is about acting before certainty…and discovering who you become on the other side.

What You’ll Learn in Part 1
• Why confidence is a result of action, not a prerequisite
• The early bold moves behind building 1-800-DENTIST
• Why waiting to feel ready quietly erodes momentum
• How boldness expands your comfort zone without burning you out
• The difference between playing it safe and living aligned

Key Quote
“When you’re confident, boldness isn’t required. Boldness is taking action when you don’t know how it’s going to go.”

Mentioned in This Episode
• SuperBold by Fred Joyal
• The idea of boldness as a life skill, not a personality trait

Connect with Fred Joyal
• Website… https://www.fredjoyal.com 
• Free Audiobook via the SuperBold App… https://www.fredjoyal.com/app 

Next Episode
In Part 2, we go deeper…into regret, emotional resilience, and the moments that shape a life when boldness actually matters most.

Your Next Step
If this episode stirred something in you…don’t ignore it.

👉 Free 30 Minute Coaching Session
https://www.ryanwattslifecoaching.com/schedule

In Part 2, the conversation deepens.
We explore what becomes possible when we stop trying to fit… and start listening inward.

Ryan and Victoria move from diagnosis to discernment… examining how personal power is reclaimed not through force… but through alignment… nervous system safety… and self trust.

This episode is about agency… not rebellion.
About choice… not opposition.
About learning how to bend… instead of break.

• What healthy power actually feels like in the body
• Why control often masks fear… not leadership
• How nervous system regulation changes decision making
• The difference between resilience and self abandonment
• Parenting… leadership… and identity beyond performance
• Choosing curiosity where resistance once lived

This is the continuation of a single conversation split intentionally… allowing space for integration rather than overload.

We invite you to move differently.

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In Part 1 of this conversation on The Personal Success Podcast, Ryan sits down with Victoria Lenormand to explore what happens when human complexity collides with rigid systems.

This episode is an honest inquiry into power… compliance… parenting… education… leadership… and what it means to raise and lead humans who do not fit neatly into predefined boxes.

Rather than rushing toward answers, this conversation slows down. It asks better questions.

Together, Ryan and Victoria explore how systems are often designed for efficiency… not humanity… and why so many high performing adults quietly feel like they failed at something they were never meant to succeed in.

• Why not fitting in is often a sign of health… not failure
• How systems reward compliance over curiosity
• The hidden cost of forcing humans to harden instead of adapt
• Parenting and leadership as acts of listening… not control
• Why softness is not weakness… but intelligence
• The early formation of identity inside systems that cannot pivot

This is Part 1 of a two part conversation.
Part 1 lays the groundwork… naming the problem… and surfacing the tension many people feel but cannot yet articulate.

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Website: https://geminidirections.co.uk/ 
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/victoria-lenormand-2129227b/ 
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/geminidirections.co.uk/ 
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/geminidirections

Part 2 goes deeper into the lived experience behind the work…Anthony’s illness…what surrender really means…how the first seven years shape the rest of life…and why breathwork is powerful enough to demand discernment.

You will also hear the origin story of ASHA…a real world healing campus in Tuscany built to regenerate community…not just host retreats.

Alchemy of Breath…https://alchemyofbreath.com 
Free breathwork every Sunday…access via the Alchemy of Breath site
ASHA…Alchemy School of Healing Arts…retreat center in Tuscany: https://asher.global 
Book: Outer Chaos, Inner Calm…available wherever books are sold
Free one to one breathwork session offer…Buy the physical book…take a photo with the book…and email it to Anna
Email…[email protected] 

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If Part 2 hit you…do not just “think about it”…take a small step:

What happens when you hit the peak…and it still does not feel like it was supposed to
In Part 1, Anthony Abbagnano and Ryan unpack the shift from chasing success to living from presence…using the Hero’s Journey as a map for why overwhelm is not a dead end…it is often the doorway.

Alchemy of Breath…https://alchemyofbreath.com 
Free breathwork every Sunday…found via the Alchemy of Breath site
ASHA…Alchemy School of Healing Arts in Tuscany…https://asher.global 
Book…Outer Chaos, Inner Calm…available wherever books are sold

Subscribe on YouTube for full episodes and clips…youtube.com/@thepersonalsuccesspodcast
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