Part 2 goes even deeper. Sarah explains how the subconscious attempts to “solve” trauma, why anxiety loops persist, and how remedial hypnosis helps people release lifelong patterns...often in just a few sessions.

She also shares one of her most profound client breakthroughs and explores how childhood moments become identity anchors. The conversation closes with powerful reflections on self-worth, identity, and why unconditional self-love is the foundation of meaningful change.

Trauma: why the subconscious keeps replaying it

The hidden logic behind anxiety and self-sabotage

Why addictions aren’t the problem ... they’re the attempted solution

How food becomes emotional safety for children

How the reticular activating system filters reality

Dissolving subconscious loops through conscious awareness

Inner child work + the psychology of self-acceptance

The musician whose life changed after clearing a childhood belief

Why liking yourself is the first step to success

Who remedial hypnosis helps most

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Inner child work

CBT trauma frameworks

Tim Box anxiety training

In Part 1 of this powerful conversation, Sarah Wellband shares her journey from mortgage broker and equine-assisted coach to becoming a remedial hypnotherapist. She breaks down how subconscious programming is formed, why childhood experiences shape adult behavior, and how remedial hypnosis creates rapid change without trance.

If you've ever wondered why you react the way you do, or why certain fears or beliefs persist long into adulthood, this episode will give you a completely new understanding of your mind.

How Sarah transitioned from corporate finance to subconscious transformation

Why the first 10 years of life form 90 percent of your subconscious beliefs

How irrational fears, like snakes, are rooted in subconscious “copies” of adult behavior

The difference between traditional hypnosis and remedial hypnosis

Why you don’t need trance to rewire the mind

How ideomotor responses (automatic finger movements) allow the subconscious to “speak”

The analogy of the Captain and the Crew: conscious vs. subconscious

How childhood comments, even harmless ones, create lifelong patterns

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If You Enjoyed Part 1…

Part 2 dives deeper into trauma, addiction, subconscious communication, and real-life transformation through remedial hypnosis.

In this powerful and eye-opening episode of The Personal Success Podcast, Ryan Watts sits down with Dr. Diane Mueller, also known as The Libido Doctor — a double doctorate, board-certified sexologist, author of the upcoming book Want to Want It, and a leading voice in helping long-term couples reclaim intimacy, connection, and desire.

This conversation dives into the science, psychology, and real-life dynamics behind desire — why it fades, how it changes, and what create lasting passion in long-term relationships.

Whether you’re in a committed partnership, seeking deeper intimacy, or simply want to understand how desire works… this is a must-listen.

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• What the 2023 Harvard study uncovered about relationships and long-term happiness
• Why desire fades in long-term relationships and what actually drives it
• The chemistry of dopamine, novelty, and excitement
• The surprising difference between desire and arousal
• Why mismatched desire is normal — and fixable
• How to talk about intimacy without triggering shame or shutdown
• The role of stress, hormones, pelvic floor health, and circulation
• How couples can create intentional space to reconnect
• What causes “low desire” (the real reasons, not the myths)
• Practical tips to reignite desire — even with limited time, kids, or exhaustion
• Why sex and intimacy are core pillars of a successful, fulfilling life

This episode is grounded in research, full of actionable insights, and delivered with deep compassion for what couples face in the real world.

Dr. Diane Mueller is on a mission to improve one million relationships by helping couples understand desire, pleasure, and connection through science-based, shame-free education. She brings decades of work in relationships, intimacy, and human connection — as well as her own personal story — to transform how couples think about and experience intimacy.

Explore her work and resources here:

• Her book Want to Want It:
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For this holiday week, we are bringing back a fan favorite conversation from The Personal Success Podcast: my in depth interview with Heather Richard, now Heather Whelan following her recent marriage.

This episode resonated powerfully when it first aired because Heather brings a rare blend of clarity, practicality, and heart. As an entrepreneurial coach working with companies from mid six figures to eight figures, Heather helps leaders understand their numbers, build strategic plans, and strengthen the interpersonal skills that actually move businesses forward.

In this conversation, we explore
• Why so many entrepreneurs struggle not with strategy, but with self trust
• The difference between consulting and coaching
• How to empower teams instead of overpowering them
• What real leadership looks like beneath the buzzwords
• The hidden obstacles founders face as they grow
• The role of interpersonal skill building in scaling a sustainable, people aligned business
• How childhood experiences shaped Heather’s path into entrepreneurship and coaching
• Why understanding your numbers can completely transform your company
• How clarity, autonomy, and accountability create empowered teams

Plus, Heather shares the personal story of her father’s entrepreneurial journey and how it inspired her deepest purpose as a coach. It’s one of the most heartfelt and meaningful moments we have had on the podcast.

This episode is a perfect listen for the holiday week if you are resting, traveling, or reflecting on who you want to become as a leader in the year ahead.

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This Thanksgiving week, we bring you one of the most powerful stories ever shared on The Personal Success Podcast. In this episode, Ryan sits down with Drew Ann Long, the mom from small town Alabama who transformed heartbreak, exhaustion, and years of rejection into a global movement that now supports millions of families.

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Drew Ann is the creator of Caroline’s Cart, the adaptive shopping cart named after her daughter that has reshaped accessibility in retailers worldwide. Her journey is nothing short of extraordinary... marked by courage, faith, relentless perseverance, and a refusal to accept “no” as the final answer.

This conversation will move you deeply. Whether you are a parent, a caregiver, an entrepreneur, or someone standing on the edge of a vision you’re afraid to pursue, Drew Ann’s story will stay with you.

• How a single unmet need in a grocery store sparked a global movement
• The brutal early years... from zero resources to half a million dollars in debt
• Why every major manufacturer and retailer said “no”... and how that rejection became fuel
• The pivotal moment Michelle Obama encountered Caroline’s Cart
• How social media became the backbone of a worldwide accessibility revolution
• The courage it takes to take risks that terrify you
• Why naivete is sometimes your greatest strategic advantage
• How Caroline’s Cart now supports both special needs families and senior adults
• What still needs to change... and why major retailers like Costco continue to resist
• How listeners can directly support Caroline’s Cause

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(No salaries... every dollar goes directly to the families.)

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“Caroline may never walk or talk, but she was ordained to leave a legacy that would outlive us all.”

“You have to be fearless. Not because you’re brave, but because you have no choice.”

“I wasn’t an inventor... I was a mom who refused to let the world stay the way it was.”

“You might not change the world, but you can absolutely change someone’s world.”

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In Part 2, Ryan and Russell move from the foundations of resilience into how it plays out in real organizations and a full on VUCA world... volatile, uncertain, complex and ambiguous. Russell introduces VUCA and VUCA Prime and explains why leaders need vision, understanding, clarity and agility to navigate constant change.

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They explore the difference between true resilience and simply becoming numb or calloused, the impact of information overload and smart phones on our nervous systems, and why attention control is now a critical leadership skill. Russell shares how resilient individuals learn to manage their relationship with technology, choose where to place their focus and build support networks that actually nourish them.

The conversation turns to burnout, the long slow impact of endless efficiency drives and “do more with less,” and Russell s invitation to shift from an efficiency culture to an effectiveness culture that still delivers results while honoring human limits. They also touch on history, scarcity thinking, the darker sides of “be yourself” in leadership, and why Russell believes that engaging deeply with resilience is a main route to making business a force for good.

Ryan closes by inviting listeners to get curious about their own resilience and to begin with small, grounded steps... like clarifying a family purpose, resetting their relationship to screens, or starting honest, optimistic conversations at work.

In Part 2 you will hear

• What VUCA really means and how VUCA Prime gives leaders a practical response
• Why vision is less about a statement on the wall and more about real situational awareness and attention control
• The difference between resilience and being numb or calloused, and why emotional intelligence sits at the core of genuine resilience
• How overwhelming levels of information and constant digital stimulation erode our ability to spring forward with learning
• A simple starting point for families... creating a shared purpose and asking “What do we want to be known for as a family”
• Patterns Russell sees in burnout... from years of efficiency drives to the missing human side of continuous improvement
• The case for shifting from efficiency culture to effectiveness culture, and why best practice never gets a chance to embed when people are exhausted
• A brief dive into scarcity mindsets, power, and the darker triad of personality traits that can drive collapse in societies and organizations
• Why Russell places such emphasis on optimism grounded in reality, not toxic positivity, and how to lead more optimistic conversations with your team
• What it is like to work with Russell through one to one coaching, group programs and organizational work, and how the Resilience Wheel and strengths sit at the core
• Russell s hope for his legacy... a world where more leaders and businesses really do act as a force for good

In Part 1 of this conversation, Ryan sits down with UK based resilience coach and facilitator, Russell Harvey, whose mission has been to positively affect one hundred thousand people through his work on resilience, leadership and business as a force for good. In July twenty twenty five, he hit that number and is now exploring his next chapter of purpose.

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Russell shares the story behind becoming The Resilience Coach... from teaching English in Hong Kong and feeling the magic of other peoples light bulb moments, to being made redundant six times and finally deciding to build a practice that centers human behavior, learning and leadership. He and Ryan explore why resilience is not just about pushing through hard times, but about springing forward with learning so that challenges actually change how we live and lead.

They dig into Russell s Resilience Wheel and strengths based coaching, unpacking why your homework is not to fix your weaknesses but to spend more time in the work that energizes you. Along the way, Russell draws a sharp line between genuine resilience and the toxic version that just tells people to keep going and stay positive.

In Part 1 you will hear

• Why Russell set a goal to positively affect one hundred thousand people and what it looked like to actually reach it
• How a year of traveling and teaching in Hong Kong revealed his love for creating light bulb moments in others
• The career journey from learning and development into launching The Resilience Coach after repeated redundancies
• Why strengths based work matters and why your lowest scoring strength is rarely where you should spend most of your time
• How to think about being “good enough” at some tasks so you can spend more time in your natural strengths
• Russell s definition of resilience as springing forward with learning, not just bouncing back to who you were before a challenge
• A tour of the Resilience Wheel... attitude, purpose, confidence, adaptability and agility, support network, self talk and energy
• Why most people only think about resilience once something unpleasant happens and what it looks like to build resilience before that point
• The early signs of toxic resilience at work... “you just need to be resilient and positive”... and why that message is so dangerous

Connect with Russell

• Website... theresiliencecoach.co.uk
• LinkedIn... search Russell Harvey The Resilience Coach

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In Part 1 of this conversation, Ryan sits down with UK based resilience coach and facilitator, Russell Harvey, whose mission has been to positively affect one hundred thousand people through his work on resilience, leadership and business as a force for good. In July twenty twenty five, he hit that number and is now exploring his next chapter of purpose.

Share this Episode: https://www.ryanwattslifecoaching.com/podcasts/the-personal-success-podcast-with-ryan-watts/episodes/2149114031

Russell shares the story behind becoming The Resilience Coach... from teaching English in Hong Kong and feeling the magic of other peoples light bulb moments, to being made redundant six times and finally deciding to build a practice that centers human behavior, learning and leadership. He and Ryan explore why resilience is not just about pushing through hard times, but about springing forward with learning so that challenges actually change how we live and lead.

They dig into Russell s Resilience Wheel and strengths based coaching, unpacking why your homework is not to fix your weaknesses but to spend more time in the work that energizes you. Along the way, Russell draws a sharp line between genuine resilience and the toxic version that just tells people to keep going and stay positive.

In Part 1 you will hear

• Why Russell set a goal to positively affect one hundred thousand people and what it looked like to actually reach it
• How a year of traveling and teaching in Hong Kong revealed his love for creating light bulb moments in others
• The career journey from learning and development into launching The Resilience Coach after repeated redundancies
• Why strengths based work matters and why your lowest scoring strength is rarely where you should spend most of your time
• How to think about being “good enough” at some tasks so you can spend more time in your natural strengths
• Russell s definition of resilience as springing forward with learning, not just bouncing back to who you were before a challenge
• A tour of the Resilience Wheel... attitude, purpose, confidence, adaptability and agility, support network, self talk and energy
• Why most people only think about resilience once something unpleasant happens and what it looks like to build resilience before that point
• The early signs of toxic resilience at work... “you just need to be resilient and positive”... and why that message is so dangerous

Connect with Russell

• Website... theresiliencecoach.co.uk
• LinkedIn... search Russell Harvey The Resilience Coach

Connect with The Personal Success Podcast

• Subscribe on YouTube... youtube.com/@thepersonalsuccesspodcast
• Learn more about Ryan s coaching work... ryanwattslifecoaching.com

In part two of my conversation with Todd Sarner, MFT, we move from theory into practice...exploring how to bring attachment-centered parenting to life every day. Todd explains the developmental journey of individuation and integration...how children grow from a sense of “we” into healthy independence without losing connection.

We discuss what it means to “collect before you direct,” the simple yet powerful act of reconnecting before giving instruction or correction, and how guilt and repair can become transformative instead of shame-based. Todd offers practical examples for parents of toddlers through teens, emphasizing that presence, empathy, and leadership—not perfection—are what truly shape a child’s sense of safety and belonging.

We also talk about how to name a child’s specialness in ways that stick, how to use mirroring to build emotional security, and how small moments of genuine connection ... a look, a sentence, a hand through the hair ... can leave lifelong imprints of love. Todd shares how individuation shows up differently in twins, siblings, and only children, and how parents can support healthy separation without disconnection. He explains why feeling attached actually allows children to explore, take risks, and return stronger, and how families can create a “village” of extended connection with teachers, mentors, and relatives to reinforce this sense of belonging.

You can explore Todd’s work at transformativeparenting.com  and pre-order The Calm and Connected Parent here . For deeper study, visit the Neufeld Institute , ICEEFT , and the PACT Institute .

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In this first part of my conversation with Todd Sarner, MFT, we dive into what it really means to be a calm and connected parent in a world full of distractions... technology... and overwhelm. Todd shares his journey from helping children directly to realizing that the most powerful way to support them is by helping parents strengthen attachment... the glue that makes every other parenting strategy work. We talk about why connection always comes before correction... what it means to stay in the “alpha” or leadership position as a parent... and how the simple act of getting in your child’s face in a friendly way can change everything. Todd also unpacks how attachment provides the foundation for all healthy development... how behavior-based parenting often backfires... and how secure connection allows children to grow into confident... capable adults.

We explore the challenge of parenting in the digital age and how screens and AI can quietly replace human connection if we’re not intentional. Todd helps us see that technology isn’t evil—it’s just low vulnerability—and that our presence is what helps our kids develop emotional depth and relational intelligence. Along the way, we discuss the difference between managing behavior and nurturing relationship... the importance of mirroring and empathy... and the simple daily habits that make kids feel seen and special.

Learn more about Todd’s work at transformativeparenting.com and find his upcoming book The Calm and Connected Parent (releasing November 18, 2025) here. We also discuss Gordon Neufeld’s Hold On to Your Kids, the Neufeld Institute , and the teachings of Dr. Stan Tatkin’s PACT Institute , Dr. Sue Johnson’s ICEEFT, and Dr. Rebecca Jorgensen’s EFT training resources.

Todd also reflects on how his time at the California Institute of Integral Studies  shaped his integrative approach to therapy and shares stories about raising his son in a Waldorf environment through Summerfield Waldorf School and Farm .

You can subscribe to the show on YouTube  to catch part two and future episodes of The Personal Success Podcast.

In Part 2, Joe continues revealing the deep wisdom that nature offers for leaders, entrepreneurs, and seekers of success. Drawing from decades of research and personal experience, he explains how the discipline of martial arts, the hierarchy of predators, and the quiet power of observation all mirror the principles of true leadership.

This is a masterclass in strategy, balance, and humility ....  through the eyes of someone who has lived both the fight of the ring and the serenity of the savannah.

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Key Themes:

The connection between discipline in nature and discipline in leadership.

How “strength can be a weakness” applies to business, relationships, and self-mastery.

The neuroscience of patience and power: learning from the kudu and cheetah.

Leadership versus dominance — why true leaders listen before acting.

Conservation as a metaphor for sustainable human success.

Quote from Joe:

“Nature survives through discipline — every animal knows its place, its time, and its purpose.”

Why You Should Listen:
Joe’s philosophy bridges science, strategy, and spirituality. Whether you lead a team, a family, or yourself, his insights will inspire you to move with wisdom rather than force — and to find strength in stillness.

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