The Perspective Journal

Toxic love VS Healthy Love 

Inspired by J.K.S. 

Ever find yourself caught up in a toxic relationship and wonder why you keep attracting it? Or what brings you to it? 

Well here’s my thought process that’s bounced around my brain 

I feel Toxic love is addictive because when you crave that it means you don’t really love yourself. You love comfortability and live for the euphoric highs forgetting about the lows or bad times with the toxicity, not to mention there is no self growth or self reflection just repetition of toxic cycles. 

Healthy love is hard because you have to keep growing and be the best version of yourself in order to keep it around! You can be handed something beautiful but if you’re not ready for it, you won’t see it for what it’s worth nor will you appreciate it! 

Remember doing the same thing over and over again expecting a different result is insanity! 

• Albert Einstein

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You ever notice when people become comfortable with you is when they start to show their true selves and their bad tendencies? 

Ever notice when you’re too comfortable you don’t want to move or leave? You become stagnant and okay with everything going on around you? 

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What someone thinks of you versus which you know that you are are two entirely different things I feel like sometimes people get caught up on what people or someone or society thinks of them versus them knowing who they actually are what someone thinks should not affect who you actually are because if you know yourself and you stand on what you believe in and know who you are as a person what someone thinks of you shouldn’t matter it doesn’t affect anything it’s just like when you know you’re going to get something or you know you’re gonna do something nothing is going to stop you we had that attitude of nothing will stop me because I’m going to get it and it’s the same thing with you knowing yourself and knowing who you are and the thought of others should not affect who you are!

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New Years resolution 

What is your New Years resolution? Is it something that you tell yourself every year? Or is it something that will change your life in a year and create longevity in your life? 

Thinking so far ahead you forgot how to take the first step 

You ever get so caught up in a situation that you just get tense or wound up? You see so many different possibilities or scenarios of how things could go wrong you forget that you need to take to the first step to see how things will go. 

Believe in yourself take things one step at a time. 

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I feel like everyone or I should say most people have things in their families that they don’t like or some may have grown up in dysfunctional families and only realized it when they got older. 

I wanted to ask you guys what is a generational curse in your family that you’d want to break? And how do you want to go about it? It’s okay if you don’t know now but atleast know part of the problem helps solve the issue feel me? 

For me and my family our generational curse was not expressing love in the correct way. I grew up with my family bickering a lot and arguing. My mother and I noticed whiles I was  young that’s not what We wanted so I got a bit distant with them. 

But I’ve come to learn to make a change you have to start with yourself and then your family the closest ones around you! How can expect to help strangers and not the people closer to you first feel me? 

So with this, me, my mother and my cousins of the new younger generation spread love to each other in the ways we want and wanted to be loved. We lead by example and tell each other we love one another ever time we talk no matter the situation. Always help one anther and support one another no matter the situation and if we have nothing nice to say we don’t say it at all. We learning to be positive and uplift one another and I must say it has been working wonders the last 10 years lol! We’re growing and flourishing and I love it! Big shout out to all my immediate cousins Loraine Gands y’all know who y’all are and especially a big shout out to my MOTHER! I love you dearly! Thank you for breaking the curse and loving me unconditionally and teaching me what it is to know unconditional love! 😘🤞🏾

And with that I just want to ask you guys again. What are your families generational curse or curses that you want to break? 

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You ever get mad at someone you love not only because of what they did but more because you know that whatever they did, it won’t stop you from loving them?  

Love is hard sometimes man. So hard! You have to battle

Through your emotions on your worse days to remember you love that person and why. Sometimes it’s just not your day or 

you’re just not feeling it. 

But that doesn’t mean act on emotion and ruin what you love. 

Love is remembering that whatever happens it is not enough to stop you from loving. 

Even when it’s a hard day or a bad day or

you’re just flooded with emotions & just down right don’t feel it. 

There are days like that don’t let anybody fool you. 

Love is tough and it’s hard but it’s always a choice. 

Make the choice that’s best for you because what’s always easy isn’t always good or what you need in your life. 

The better things in life are always worth fighting for or through 🤞🏾

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You guys ever had a realization that you’re about to be flooded emotions and at first you don’t know the feeling but after you recognize what the feeling is you don’t accept it? 

It’s like you don’t want to believe you can felt that way or be made feel that way so you kinda reject it or don’t accept it? 

What feelings are difficult for you to accept or acknowledge? 

I know for me it’s jealously. That’s one emotion I avoid and hate feeling. I would deny it up and down and never tell anyone they made me feel that way. To me jealously made me feel less than or that I was not enough because I’m being jealous of another person.  

I needed to realize feeling through your emotion is healthy and needed. If you don’t ever feel this emotion then I don’t think you feel strongly about anything if that makes sense? 

Jealousy has shown me that i can feel strongly about something and know that if it makes me feel this way I actually care and want to do better! 

So again guys I ask you What feelings are difficult for you to accept or acknowledge? 

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Being a pioneer is doing what others are scared to do! Doing what everyone wishes they could do and making the mistakes that everyone is scared to make to that they can learn what to do and what to not do. Being a pioneer is doing what everyone says is impossible until it’s done. 

Do what you believe in. Be a pioneer. Lead the way for others that need a little light. Make the mistakes so that they can learn. Walk so that others can run. Being a pioneer is love. 

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