Fact: Everyone does something to get personal gain. Also Fact: It's the INTENT of doing something for someone else + not expecting anything in return that separates the USERS from the CHOOSERS. In this episode, we discuss 3 characteristics of a user + a chooser along with some real life experiences that you can relate to any type of relationship you may have in your own life. Ask yourself this question: are you surrounding yourself with people that are just using you or choosing to be with you?

Does commitment make you feel like you're committed? Do you wear a "members-only" jacket or a straitjacket in your relationship? In this week's episode, we debunk 3 common myths about being in a committed relationship. Our hope is that as you become more aware of these myths, it gives you + your partner the power to overcome them together. Ask yourself this question: are you just interested or are you fully committed to your partner?

Happy Valentine's Day! In today's episode we talk about what you should + shouldn't do this Valentine's Day. We also share our most memorable Valentine's Day we've experienced together — some romantic + some downright hilarious! Question for you: do you celebrate Valentine's Day? Share your memorable V-day story with us on Instagram + use the hashtag #ourvdaystory

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Do you have expectations for what your relationship will be like in the future or how your partner will respond to you? Will you be okay if your expectations aren't met? In this episode, we talk about the differences of having an unrealistic expectation in a relationship versus facing the reality of what is actually happening in your life. As yourself this question: are you trying to control what life has given you to make it meet your expectations, or will you appreciate what life really has to offer?

3 things need to happen in order to create habit: a cue, an activity + a reward. But how does anger become a habit inside a relationship? In this episode, we find out that anger becomes a habit because you, as individuals or as a couple, have trained yourself to always default right back to it when an unexpected situation occurs. However, we discuss 3 ways to create new habits in order to have a better result. Ask yourself this question: is this really worth getting angry over while potentially hurting the one you love?

Source mentioned in this episode:

The Power of Habit: Why We Do What We Do in Life and Business by Charles Duhigg

https://www.amazon.com/dp/081298160X/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_i_618tCbZZ4MMFG

Knowing HOW to argue is just as important as knowing how to love your partner. How do you apologize without any resentment or making it worse? In this episode, we discuss ways to form an authentic apology along with the power of compromise. Ask yourself this question: do you want to be right, or do you want to be happy?

Source mentioned in this episode: 

theamericanview.com

Have you ever tried to change who you are to be in a relationship with someone? Or have you ever assumed your love could change a person? In this episode, we dig deep as to why we change ourselves for others + why we expect others to change for us. Ask yourself this question: If someone cannot accept + love you as you truly are, then do they even deserve to be in a relationship with you?

Source mentioned in this episode:

The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz

Happy New Year! It's just as important to set relationship goals as it is to set personal goals. In this episode, we openly talk about the Top 3 Goals we have for our relationship along with the steps you can take to create your own set of goals with your partner. Don't wait for the "right time" to start working towards your goal. Start right now! Ask yourself this question: where do you see your relationship one year from today?

Who are PnJ? In the very first episode of the PnJ Podcast, we tell our love story of how we met, what happened after we broke up + how we got back together as an even stronger couple. After almost 14 years of marriage + 2 kids later, we continue to experience struggles while learning valuable lessons along the way. The P+J Podcast is here to give you tangible advice & tools to help you navigate through those struggles with the people most important in your life.