What does it actually mean to live in alignment? In this episode, Claire and Trudi unpack the idea of alignment—not as a buzzword, but as a deeply personal way of living that honors your values, instincts, and energy.

They share personal stories, client insights, and real-life examples of what it feels like to be in alignment… and what happens when you're not.

Inside this episode:
~ Claire’s story of a job that looked aligned but turned out to be anything but
~ Trudi’s experience navigating parenting friendships that no longer matched her values
~ The signs you’re out of alignment (and why people often ignore them for years)
~ How verbal processing can reveal what’s true for you
~ A client story that reframed what it means to “do enough” as a parent
~ Simple questions like “what’s working?” and “what’s not?” that can shift everything

You’ll walk away with language to name what you’re feeling, tools to clarify what matters, and permission to choose what truly serves you.

If this landed or sparked something for you, we’d love to hear it. Reach out at [email protected].

What does it really mean to choose yourself? Especially when the world (and your family) is constantly pulling at your attention?

In this episode, Claire and Trudi unpack the importance of self-care without guilt. From school holidays to squash courts, from forgotten hobbies to burnout signals, this conversation dives into how easy it is to lose yourself in the service of others and what it looks like to gently reclaim your own time, space, and energy.

Inside this episode:
~ Claire’s honest moment during the Easter holidays and why she instantly regretted it
~ Trudi’s realization that she had no hobbies and what that revealed
~ A powerful metaphor: your phone needs charging, so do you
~ How women are conditioned to feel guilty for having needs
~ Practical ways to rebuild routines that actually feel good
~ Why choosing yourself doesn’t mean abandoning others

This is for the ones who show up for everyone else but are finally ready to include themselves in the equation.

If this landed for you, we’d love to hear from you. Reach out at [email protected].

Main takeaway:
 Choosing yourself isn’t selfish. It’s essential. The more you meet your own needs with compassion, the more fully you can show up for the rest of your life.

In this episode of The Power of Choosing, Trudi and Claire dig into one of the most overlooked drivers of how we experience life: the language we use.

The words we speak—out loud and in our heads—shape our choices, our emotions, and our outcomes. The problem is, most of us use disempowering language without even realizing it.
In this episode:

~ Why the word “should” keeps you stuck in guilt and obligation (and what to say instead)
~ Why “try” signals non-commitment and drains your energy
~ How one simple shift in phrasing can change how you feel and how you show up (ex: I should go to the gym vs. I choose to go to the gym)
~ A real-time moment where Claire catches herself using “should”—and how that in-the-moment awareness helps rewire old patterns
~ Why words are not neutral—they carry energy and they either support or sabotage the life you want to create

Why this matters:
 If you don’t pay attention to your language, your words will quietly shape your reality in ways you didn’t choose. Small shifts in language = big shifts in experience.

Challenge:
 This week, listen to yourself. Catch where you use “should” or “try” and swap it for “choose,” “want,” or “commit.” Notice what happens.

In this episode of The Power of Choosing, Trudi and Claire unpack one of the most powerful shifts you can make: moving from the belief that life is against you to seeing how life is actually working for you.

It’s not about pretending everything is easy. It’s about choosing the lens that helps you move through challenges with more resourcefulness, connection, and trust.

In this episode:
~ Why your perspective determines how you experience life’s challenges
~ Claire’s story of creatively trading sellotape for biscuits—and what it teaches about resourcefulness and trust
~ How asking for help opens unexpected doors (and why people are often more willing to help than we think)
~ Moving from “How do I get through this?” to “How is this working for me?”
~ Why being present with others matters more than trying to fix them
~ How choosing to look for the good and the helpers changes how you move through the world
~ A simple practice: saying aloud “The world is working for me” and noticing the shift it creates

Why this matters:
 If you walk through life believing the world is against you, you’ll find evidence everywhere to prove it. But if you choose to see how the world is working for you, life opens in ways you couldn’t predict. The choice is yours.

Challenge:
 Say it out loud this week: “The world is working for me.” Then pay attention to how your experience shifts.

If you would like to get in touch with either Claire or Trudi, you can reach us both at [email protected]

In this episode of The Power of Choosing, Trudi and Claire hit the core of it all - the stories we tell ourselves.

We walk around making up stories all day long. About what people think of us. About what something means. About why things happened. Problem is we usually believe those stories like they’re fact.

And when we do that, the story quietly runs our life.

In this episode:
~ Why your brain loves to make up stories (and why it usually spins the negative ones first)
~ How Trudi caught herself making up a story about a woman at an event and what happened when she questioned it
~ How stories shape even basic stuff (like why Claire went from hell no to hell yes on camping)
~ Why seeing a thought as “just a story” instantly gives you power over it
~ A simple, powerful question to use when you feel triggered or stuck: “What story am I making up?”

Why this matters:
 Most of your emotional suffering isn’t coming from what’s happening. It’s coming from the story you’re telling about what’s happening. The minute you spot that, everything shifts.

That wraps our first 4-episode release.
 Now you’ve got the core tools: question your identity, question the world, question your assumptions, question your stories. This is the foundation for choosing the life you actually want - not the one your old programming would hand you.

New episodes coming soon on Wednesday. Stay tuned.

In this episode of The Power of Choosing, Trudi and Claire tackle the sneaky stuff -assumptions.

Some assumptions keep us safe (yes, it’s smart to assume that crossing a busy street takes awareness). But far too many assumptions run beneath the surface, keeping us small without us even realizing it.

Public speaking? Relationships? Parenting? Leadership? If you aren’t questioning the assumptions you’ve built around these things, they are running the show. And usually, they aren’t running it well.

In this episode:
~ How assumptions are formed and why they get sticky
~ The difference between useful assumptions and ones that block growth
~ Claire’s story of overcoming her public speaking fears (and how talking to 3-year-olds cracked the code)
~ How past experiences create assumptions that shape our present choices
~ Practical ways to start catching and questioning your assumptions before they box you in

Why this matters:
 Assumptions can become invisible cages. Once you see them, you get to choose what stays and what goes.

Up next:
 We’ll take this even deeper in The Story I’m Telling Myself because most assumptions aren’t about the world. They’re about us. And those stories? They’re the ones that will keep you stuck… or set you free.

Welcome to the first episode of The Power of Choosing. Trudi and Claire kick things off with a conversation about identity - how the labels we wear (and the ones we don’t even notice we’ve picked up) quietly shape our lives.

Sometimes the words sound harmless. Sometimes they sound flattering. But left unchecked, they can run the show.

In this episode:
The labels that sneak into your identity without you realizing it
~ Why Trudi chose to ditch “Tired Trudi”
~ How “Cute Claire” became a box Claire had to break out of
~ How language influences healing (Trudi shares her experience with MS)
~ The subtle ways identity drives how we show up and how we can shift it

Why this conversation matters:
 If you don’t choose your identity, life will choose it for you. And you’ll end up living by a story that may not fit anymore.

Up next:
 In the next few episodes, we’ll keep pulling on this thread - how to question the identities, assumptions, and stories you’re carrying, and what changes when you do.

In this episode of The Power of Choosing, Trudi and Claire go straight at a muscle most people don’t use nearly enough - the ability to question everything.

Most of us walk around living stories we never chose. Careers. Beliefs. Roles. Parenting choices. Even what we eat for dinner. If you don’t learn to question what you’ve been handed, you’ll keep living on autopilot.

In this episode:
~ Why Claire left a “safe” sales career at 26 and what happened when she stopped following the expected path
~ The “boiling frog” trap and how it keeps people stuck in lives they’ve outgrown
~ How small questions (yes, even “What music do I actually like?”) build the muscle to question bigger things
~ Why most people can’t answer “What do you want?” and what that reveals
~ The power of questioning parenting advice and tuning into your own intuition
~ Why starting with tiny choices builds real self-trust

Why this matters:
 The more you practice questioning, the more you wake up to what’s actually possible in your life and stop living someone else’s story.

Up next:
 We’ll keep pulling this thread with our next episode: Assumptions. What happens when we start questioning what we assume is true—about ourselves, about others, about life itself.