American poet, Jane Kenyon, was only forty-seven years old when she died in 1995. Her death, like all who die so young, was tragic, and it resonated throughout the literary community. A few years afterward, I became a teaching assistant for a professor in graduate school who knew her widower personally, fellow poet Donald Hall, and I had the pleasure of briefly meeting him at an event on campus. Hall even signed a copy of a collection of his poems I had. He wrote, “For Jason. With pleasure. All these poems. Donald Hall.” I was particularly fond of his poem, “Names of Horses” for its rustic beauty, powerful nostalgia, and I returned to it often when I needed to feel something about the passage of time in my own life. Hall's message was universal. The minutes, hours, days, and eventually years wait for nobody. Perhaps this is something all artists struggle with – try to articulate, understand, frame with words or music or paint or what have you. It is central to the artistic impulse – indeed, the human experience – and so generation after generation of artists size it up and give it their best shot. Hall wrote about horses. His wife, Jane Kenyon, wrote about light. The poem, “Let Evening Come” is worth quoting in its entirety:
Let the light of late afternoon
shine through chinks in the barn, moving
up the bales as the sun moves down.
Let the cricket take up chafing
as a woman takes up her needles
and her yarn. Let evening come.
Let dew collect on the hoe abandoned
in long grass. Let the stars appear
and the moon disclose her silver horn.
Let the fox go back to its sandy den.
Let the wind die down. Let the shed
go black inside. Let evening come.
To the bottle in the ditch, to the scoop
in the oats, to air in the lung
Let it come, as it will, and don’t
be afraid. God does not leave us
comfortless, so let evening come.
When I recorded this episode, I was not yet fifty. As you, dear listeners, hear my voice now, know that it comes from somebody who has reached the half-century mark. Understandably, this is cause for some serious reflection. To be sure, it feels as if I have stepped outside of myself and all that it entails to regard the state of a man – me – who has experienced many milestones and wonders about the next steps – in point of truth, observes other soon-to-be or recent empty-nesters for clues as to how to act, what to feel, how to ultimately be. At fifty. An age that had previously been mythic, unreal, impossible yet now, the exact opposite. Right now. In my face. Actual.
Of course, I am in good and great company. Not alone in this endeavor at all. Which is why Kenyon’s poem intrigues me. Hers is not a raging against the dying of the light as Dylan Thomas would have it in his 1951 poem, “Do not go gentle into that good night.” No, hers is a letting go, a peaceful acquiescence to what cannot be avoided. As it should be. But I, for one, do not fault Dylan Thomas for his rage. It is a part of the grieving process, after all. Kenyon is simply on the last step: acceptance. There are many things that cannot be changed or reversed.
But should we leave it there? Should we shrug our shoulders and relax into the unknown?
When I was younger – graduating from high school, heading off to college, starting my career – I was optimistic. It was practically palpable. Even today, a scent or sound might bring on that familiar sensation had so long ago. There is Hall’s nostalgia. Is my only response to give in like Kenyon?
Optimism, almost by definition, is future oriented. If we situate our physical death as the endpoint of our existence then optimism shrinks as we age. When we are young with so many years ahead of us, we can afford to be grandly optimistic. As we get older, optimism diminishes. Possibility corresponds with time. This is a manner of thinking that is of the world. It is why Thomas rages, after all. If we can manage to see past our earthly demise and into a future that God holds out for us, then optimism can only abound. It is an optimism we can scarcely imagine.
So, perhaps, when Kenyon writes that “God does not leave us comfortless,” she is nodding toward the bliss of eternity with Him. Where our earthly milestones stop, God’s promise begins. While the evening will come for us all, so, too, will the morning light. This, dear listeners, is the hard-earned wisdom of the Godly and aged.