The Purple Couch — S1. EP.10

We’re Not Just Arguing—Our Childhoods Are

Two people can love each other and still struggle because they were raised in completely different households.

In this episode, Bree breaks down how childhood experiences shape the way we handle love, conflict, money, parenting, affection, household responsibilities, family boundaries, apologies, and emotional safety.

Bree also shares her personal experience of growing up in an abusive home, how it affected her relationships and boundaries, and why she intentionally parents her children differently.

Your childhood may explain your behavior, but adulthood makes you responsible for examining it.

You are not responsible for the home you were raised in—but you are responsible for the home and relationships you create now.

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🎙️ Episode 9: Virgos: Y'all Swear Y'all Know Us... You Really Don't ♍💜

Hey Besties! 👑

Happy 4th of July! 🇺🇸 Whether you're celebrating with family, relaxing at home, grilling out, or working through the holiday, I hope you have a safe, peaceful, and amazing day.

Now... let's talk about Virgos.

People swear they know us... but do they really? 🤔

In this episode, I'm clearing up some of the biggest misconceptions about Virgos. Are we really mean... or are we just honest? Are we judgmental... or simply observant? Why do people misunderstand our boundaries, loyalty, and high standards?

We're diving into friendships, relationships, communication, healing, personal growth, and why protecting your peace isn't something you should ever apologize for.

Expect laughs, sarcasm, real talk, and probably a few moments where you'll say...

"Dang... she got me." 😂

Whether you're a Virgo or not, this conversation is for anyone who's ever felt misunderstood, judged, or expected to shrink themselves just to make other people comfortable.

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🎙️ Episode 9- Frenemies, Friends or Foe?

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Be kind to yourself, protect your peace, and remember—everyone who calls themselves a friend isn't always rooting for you.

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🎙️ Episode 7: Healing Isn't a Destination... It's a Decision

Healing isn't about becoming someone who never hurts again—it's about choosing yourself, over and over again.

In this deeply personal episode, I open up about my journey through therapy, what healing has taught me, and why choosing peace isn't a sign of weakness—it's one of the greatest acts of self-love. We talk about boundaries, forgiveness, accountability, breaking generational cycles, and why surviving isn't the same as truly living.

If you've ever questioned your worth, struggled to let go, felt guilty for putting yourself first, or wondered if therapy could help you, this conversation is for you.

Remember, Bestie... healing isn't a destination. It's a decision you make every single day. 💜

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🎙️ Episode 5: One Decision. Two Families. A Mother's Perspective

In today's episode of Come Here Bestie: The Purple Couch, I'm speaking from my heart—not as a judge, not as a juror, but as a mother and as a Black woman raising children in today's world.

The tragic case involving Karmelo Anthony and Austin Metcalf left two families forever changed. One family buried a son. Another watched their son lose decades of his life. As parents, how do we teach our children to navigate conflict, regulate their emotions, and understand that sometimes the strongest decision is simply to walk away?

This episode isn't about choosing sides. It's about choosing conversation, accountability, compassion, and prevention.

Grab a seat on the Purple Couch as we discuss pride, consequences, parenting, emotional regulation, and why one decision can change countless lives forever.

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Episode 4: Dear Dad — You Listened, But You Never Heard Me

Some wounds don't come from strangers.

Some wounds come from the people we love the most.

In this deeply personal healing episode of The Purple Couch Podcast, I share my truth about growing up with a father who should have been my first example of love but instead became one of my greatest sources of pain, confusion, disappointment, and heartbreak.

For years, I carried anger, resentment, unanswered questions, and unspoken words. This episode is not about revenge, blame, or destroying anyone's reputation. It's about finally giving a voice to the little girl who spent years feeling unheard.

I discuss:

💜 Growing up in a household filled with fear, control, and emotional pain

💜 The lasting impact of physical, verbal, and emotional abuse

💜 Watching my mother endure more than any woman should have to endure

💜 The pain of infidelity and how it affects an entire family

💜 Losing our home and the scars that followed

💜 Feeling spoiled with material things but starved for love and emotional connection

💜 Learning that love and disappointment can exist at the same time

💜 Forgiveness, boundaries, and choosing healing over bitterness

This episode is raw.

It's emotional.

It's uncomfortable.

But it's honest.

For decades, I viewed my father through the lens of anger. Today, I view him through the lens of truth. I no longer hate him, but that doesn't erase the pain. Healing isn't about pretending something didn't happen. Healing is about acknowledging it, learning from it, and refusing to allow it to define the rest of your life.

If you've ever struggled with a complicated relationship with a parent, carried childhood wounds into adulthood, or found yourself grieving the parent you needed but never truly had, this conversation is for you.

Pull up a seat on the Purple Couch and let's talk about it.

Because sometimes the best healing starts with being heard. 💜

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Episode 3: The People I Had To Let Go... But Never Stopped Loving

Some heartbreak doesn't come from romantic relationships.

Sometimes it comes from friendships.

Sometimes it comes from family.

And sometimes it comes from people who are still alive but no longer part of your daily life.

In this deeply personal episode of The Purple Couch Podcast, I open up about the people I've had to let go while still carrying love for them in my heart.

This episode is dedicated to my niece, Amber, who remains one of the most important people in my life. No matter the distance, no matter the circumstances, my love for her has never changed.

I also reflect on friendships that shaped me, challenged me, taught me valuable lessons, and ultimately broke my heart.

💜 Amber – My niece, my baby, and someone I think about, pray for, and miss every single day.

💜 Julia (Former Best Friend) – A friendship that taught me lessons about support, gratitude, growth, and the complicated reality of loving someone while accepting that not every friendship is meant to last forever.

💜 Mina (Former Best Friend) – A friendship built on years of trust that ended in a way I never expected, teaching me difficult lessons about boundaries, loyalty, trust, and loving people from a distance.

💜 Denise (Former Childhood Best Friend) – A friendship rooted in history, memories, and shared experiences that taught me that sometimes love and history are not enough to sustain a relationship.

I also discuss:

• Friendship heartbreak and grief • Family relationships and difficult boundaries • Learning to choose yourself without guilt • The pain of disappointment • Trust, loyalty, and forgiveness • Why healing sometimes requires distance • Loving people while protecting your peace • Letting go without hatred

This is not an episode about blame.

This is not an episode about revenge.

This is an episode about healing.

It's about acknowledging the people who mattered, the lessons they taught me, the pain they caused, the love that still remains, and the woman I became because of it all.

Because sometimes the people we let go never stop being part of our story.

Pull up a seat on the Purple Couch and let's talk about it.

Because sometimes the best healing starts with being heard. 💜

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Episode 2: The Woman I Am Today

For years, I spent so much time being who everyone else needed me to be that I almost forgot who I was.

In this episode of The Purple Couch Podcast, I share the journey that shaped the woman I am today—the lessons, heartbreaks, disappointments, victories, healing, boundaries, growth, and self-discovery that transformed me.

There was a time when I believed being strong meant carrying everything on my own. I thought love meant overextending myself. I thought loyalty meant staying longer than I should. I thought fixing people was my responsibility.

Life taught me differently.

I learned that being a good person doesn't mean being available to everyone all the time. I learned that boundaries are necessary. I learned that protecting my peace isn't selfish—it's survival.

In this episode, I discuss:

💜 Learning to choose myself without guilt

💜 Setting boundaries and standing on them

💜 The importance of peace over chaos

💜 Why reciprocity matters in relationships

💜 Letting go of people who no longer align with your life

💜 Becoming comfortable being alone without feeling lonely

💜 Understanding my worth and refusing to settle for less

💜 The non-negotiables I now live by

💜 Why healing changed everything

I also share how I learned that not everyone deserves unlimited access to me simply because we've known each other for years. Some of my greatest lessons came from realizing that history does not automatically earn a front-row seat to my future.

The woman I am today no longer begs for respect—I require it.

I no longer chase people—I let them walk.

I no longer apologize for choosing myself.

The woman I am today isn't perfect, but she is stronger, wiser, more self-aware, and unapologetically committed to protecting her peace.

If you're learning to choose yourself, set boundaries, heal from your past, or simply become the best version of yourself, this conversation is for you.

Pull up a seat on the Purple Couch and let's talk about it.

Because sometimes the best healing starts with being heard. 💜

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Why I Created Come Here Bestie

In this very first episode of The Purple Couch Podcast, I share the story behind Come Here Bestie and why creating this platform became so important to me.

Life has taught me that many people are carrying silent battles—heartbreak, trauma, anxiety, depression, loneliness, family struggles, relationship challenges, and the weight of simply trying to hold it all together. Too often, people feel unheard, unseen, and misunderstood.

Come Here Bestie was created to be a safe space where people can feel supported, encouraged, and reminded that they are not alone.

In this episode, I discuss:

• The inspiration behind Come Here Bestie • My personal journey and experiences • Why creating safe spaces matters • The importance of being heard without judgment • How healing often begins through conversation and connection • My vision for the future of the Come Here Bestie community

Whether you're struggling, healing, growing, or simply looking for encouragement, this podcast is for you.

Pull up a seat on the Purple Couch and let's talk about it.

Because sometimes the best healing starts with being heard. 💜

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