You Can’t Fill a Black Hole — So Stop Trying

In this episode, I dive into the emotional, mental, and spiritual exhaustion that comes from dealing with what I call “black holes of need”—people, workplaces, relationships, or entire systems that can never be satisfied, no matter how much you give.

I open up about my own stress, my struggles with workplace hierarchy, and the pressure to accept environments that drain you. I also explore the myth of “lazy generations,” the power dynamics behind those stereotypes, and the universal truth that toxic expectations exist everywhere.

You’ll learn how black holes of need operate—through manipulation, guilt, fake praise, and endless demands—and how to recognize when you’re being pulled into one. Most importantly, I share practical, real-life strategies for protecting your time, energy, sanity, and self-worth.

This episode is for anyone who has ever felt:

•overworked and underappreciated

•guilty for setting boundaries

•pressured to overperform

•manipulated by praise followed by demands

•emotionally drained by people who take and never give

•stuck in environments where exhaustion is glorified

If you’ve ever wondered why certain jobs, relationships, or people leave you feeling depleted, this episode will feel like someone finally put your experience into words.

Your time is valuable. Your energy is irreplaceable. And you can’t fill a black hole—so stop trying.

Tune in, take a breath, and reclaim your power.

Host: Lois Lane (Miami) | The Purple Kool-Aid Podcast

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In this episode, I talk about how backwards people have become — the way they think, react, and ignore what’s happening right in front of them. I came across a story about 60 trafficked children in Tampa, and it broke me. Then I looked around and realized… this kind of pain is everywhere. Homeless people on the corners, kids in broken systems, veterans sleeping on sidewalks — and somehow, people still find time to argue about politics and religion while pretending not to see what’s real.

I’m not trying to preach — I’m trying to understand. How did humans become so numb? So disconnected? We scroll past suffering and convince ourselves we’re good people because we “care” about faraway problems. But what about the people right here who need us?

This episode isn’t about negativity — it’s about awareness. It’s me asking why humanity has lost its heart, and what it would take for us to turn it back on.

🎙️ I’m Lois Lane Miami, and this is The Purple Kool-Aid Podcast

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What’s up everybody—it’s Lois Lane Miami, and today I’m talking about why I quit chasing the influencer dream before it ever really started for me. I spent years trying to get the right lighting, angle, niche, and music—everything the experts said would get me views. But after all that effort, the platform just wasn’t pushing me out, and I had to face the truth: it wasn’t worth it.

Here’s what I noticed. I saw people with thousands—even millions—of views who still couldn’t afford to fix their teeth, upgrade their homes, or stop working regular jobs. They were grinding all day at work, then coming home to grind all night on TikTok, YouTube, and Instagram—feeding platforms that paid them almost nothing back. Some were exhausted, unhealthy, even falling behind on basic self-care, all while trying to keep up appearances online.

And the algorithm? It doesn’t care about your story or your effort. Its only goal is to keep people hooked. If you want to grow, you basically have to turn your entire life into one gimmick, one niche, one brand—and even then, unless you’re already famous, the odds aren’t on your side. I saw it in my own traffic: my videos pushed to the wrong audiences, my lives doing worse each time, and the constant sense that I was being strung along just to keep me posting.

When I added up the hours I was pouring into content versus what I got out of it, the math didn’t work. For about 95% of people, social media isn’t a path to freedom—it’s a second job with no benefits. So I decided to walk away before it consumed me.

That doesn’t mean this is the end of the conversation. I’ll be talking more about what I learned, because there are a lot of layers to why I chose to stop. And look—if it’s working for you, if you’re happy, making money, and finding success, that’s a great thing. For me, it just wasn’t going anywhere. Maybe my videos weren’t good enough, or maybe it’s simply not for me. Either way, that’s why I gave up—and why I’m okay with that choice.

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I’m Lois Lane Miami, and today I’m ripping the bandage off America’s favorite double standard: “Love thy neighbor” … as long as the neighbor doesn’t need a visa stamp.

I’ve sat in break-rooms with folks who can barely pronounce “hello,” yet they cackle when ICE buses haul other families away. I’ve watched people whose own grandparents sneaked through Ellis Island act brand-new, bragging that their illegality is ancient history—so it somehow doesn’t count.

Here’s the part no meme will tell you:

• Stats over slogans. In Texas—the epicenter of “border panic”—U.S.-born citizens are 2× more likely to be arrested for violent crimes, 2.5× for drug crimes, and 4× for property crimes than undocumented immigrants.  
• A national review shows immigrants—documented and undocumented—commit crimes far less often than native-born citizens, across every category.  
• Even ICE admits fewer than 10 % of people in its own cages have a violent-crime record; most are guilty of nothing but “driving while foreign.”  

So why the collective eye-roll when families are yanked out of schools at 6 a.m.? Because “illegal” is the new magic word—say it, and suddenly empathy is optional. But remember: slavery, wife-beating, and banning women from the polls were once totally legal, too. Legality isn’t morality; it’s paperwork.

Inside this episode:

I Black-and-white thinking, purple Kool-Aid style. I connect the dots between bad laws and bad behavior—and why “just following orders” never ages well.

Human cost, unfiltered. Kids waking to empty houses, workers dumped in towns they’ve never seen, neighbors cheering because they think it’ll never be their problem.

Reality-check questions to ask the next time someone cracks an immigration joke at work. (Spoiler: most of them won’t have answers.)

Boundary scripts for calling out hypocrisy without lighting the office on fire—unless you want to light it, in which case I’ve got matches.

A meditation on discipline & empathy. From lazy entitlement to lost civility, how we became a nation that values Wi-Fi more than decency—and how to reverse the slide.

By the end, you’ll understand why America’s “legal/illegal” obsession is less about safety and more about scapegoats.

Check out the YouTube video

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It’s pouring outside, and I’m kicked back, soaking up every rumble of thunder while this rant brews. 🌧️ Something about the rain makes me reflect on the people who drain us the most—those “black holes of need” who stay hungry no matter how much you pour into them. You know the type: one missed favor after years of bending over backward and suddenly you’re the villain.  

In this episode of The Purple Kool-Aid Podcast, I’m calling out Greedy & Ungrateful People—why they behave the way they do, how their bottomless appetites infect friendships, family, and especially the workplace, and the silent toll it takes on the rest of us. From bosses who expect you to “work miracles with no resources” to friends who ghost the minute you set a boundary, I’m breaking down the patterns so you can spot them early and dodge the emotional shakedown. 

What you’ll hear inside:

• Red-Flag Radar: The subtle (and not-so-subtle) warning signs that someone’s greed will swallow you whole.
• Workplace Reality Check: How companies slash staff, pile on duties, and still wonder why quality tanks—and what to do before burnout burns you out.  
• Boundary Boot Camp: Practical scripts for saying “Nope” without guilt, plus my own blueprint for exiting toxic jobs strategically, not impulsively.
• Family & Friends Edition: Why some loved ones will never be satisfied—and how to protect your peace without starting WWIII.
• Karma’s Clock: A reminder that greed pays temporarily—but only until reality (or karma) sends the bill.  

I’m sharing raw stories from my workplace, the moments coworkers showed their true colors, and the lessons I learned pulling myself out of thankless trenches. If you’ve ever wondered whether it’s you or them, this episode hands you the flashlight—and the exit map.

So grab your coffee, lace up those rainy-day slippers, and press play. Let’s talk truth, set brutal boundaries, and reclaim the energy we keep giving to people who don’t deserve it. Trust me: by the end, you’ll know exactly when to keep giving—and when to raise your anchor and sail on.

🎧 Hit that Listen button, share the episode with someone who needs a backbone boost, and leave me a review if this tough love sparked an “aha!” moment. Because around here, we don’t sugar-coat the Kool-Aid—we serve it straight up.

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In this episode, I’m sharing one of the most personal stories of my life—the story of chasing a dream with everything I had, and still falling short. For over 20 years, I dedicated my life to music. I performed in stadiums, had songs on the radio, worked with Def Jam, wrote for Isaac Hayes’ label, got featured on Trina’s first album, and even had a shot with Sony Europe. I went from freestyle battles in Ohio to recording in studios where legends like Busta Rhymes and Lil’ Kim were just down the hall.

But even with all that momentum, I never “made it.” At least not in the way I had hoped.

I wasn’t lazy. I showed up. I sacrificed. I was first in and last out of the studio. I dropped everything for the chance to be heard. But life has a way of humbling you, especially when your dream becomes unsustainable. I found myself broke, burned out, raising kids, and still being pulled back into something that wasn’t working. Eventually, I had to walk away. And it broke me.

I even joined the Army just to escape the temptation to go back.

I talk about what that kind of loss does to your spirit, how it creates fear around trying new things, and how it made it hard for me to commit to any other career path—even though I’ve tried nearly everything. From welding and web development to SEO and insurance sales, I’ve done it all. But nothing ever filled the space that music once held.

If you’ve ever given your all to something—your art, your business, your dream—and it didn’t work out, I want you to hear this: You are not a failure. That experience still matters. You still have something inside you, even if the world didn’t give you the title, the contract, or the money.

I’m learning that the pain of failure doesn’t mean the end. Sometimes it just means it’s time to shift. To evolve. To take what you learned and use it in a new way. And that’s what this episode is about—turning failure into something that still has value.

You’re not alone. And we don’t have to stay stuck in the past.

Let’s find a way forward—together.

—Lois Lane Miami 💜

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Ever been asked to train someone at work—only to find out later that they were your replacement? Yeah. That’s what I call a business okie-doke.

 In this episode of The Purple Kool-Aid Podcast, I share a raw, real-life breakdown of how employers use good employees, all while plotting to replace them behind their backs. I talk about how personality differences, personal boundaries, and even having ambition can make you a target—no matter how great you are at your job. 

I also offer tips on how to protect yourself, keep your power, and avoid falling for the okey-doke.

This episode kicks off a whole series of eye-opening truths about getting used, misled, and manipulated in everyday life—and how to avoid it.

Tune in. Stay sharp. And don’t fall for the okie-doke.

If you’d like to watch the YouTube video version of this episode, follow this link: https://youtu.be/RL5M4Vq_bJQ?si=ue4UEXha5cXidFXh

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In this episode of The Purple Kool-Aid Podcast, I dive headfirst into something that’s been bothering me for a while: why are so many people just plain mean these days?

From women shoulder-checking me in public to pushy, self-entitled patients at my day job, I break down what it feels like to navigate a world where kindness is rare and attitudes are nasty. Whether it’s complexion bias, classist arrogance, or just plain emotional nastiness, I’m sharing real stories and real frustration.

This isn’t just a vent session — it’s a reality check. People are walking around with ugly energy, rude behavior, and inflated egos with nothing to back them up. I talk about how being mean AND needy is not a flex, how people misjudge others based on surface-level nonsense, and why a smile and a little respect still go a long way.

And if you’re one of those people who thinks you’re better than someone just because of where you live, who you date, or how much money you make… this one might sting.

Listen now on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, Amazon Music, and more. Just search “The Purple Kool-Aid Podcast.”

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In this raw, unfiltered episode of The Purple Kool-Aid Podcast, I dive into a controversial but all-too-familiar topic: cheating. Specifically, I unpack the myth of who’s really “winning” in a love triangle involving a man, his wife or girlfriend, and the woman he’s cheating with.

So many women claim victory because “he comes home to me,” while others proudly declare “I don’t have to deal with his mess.” But the truth is, nobody’s winning but him—the one doing the lying, deceiving, and disrespecting both women. I break down how manipulation keeps women fighting each other while he reaps all the benefits, often living double lives with equal intimacy, care, and deception.

This isn’t just theory—it’s lived experience. I’ve been the wife, the side, the in-the-dark, and the hurt. I’ve seen what happens behind closed doors, and I’ve felt the heartbreak that hits so hard it knocks you to your knees. This episode is part story, part truth serum, and all fire.

If you’ve ever been in a situation where someone made you feel like you had to fight for love, compete with another woman, or question your worth because of someone else’s betrayal, this one is for you.

Because this isn’t about judging women. It’s about exposing the pattern—and the man—at the center of it all.

And no, just because he “comes home to you” doesn’t mean you’re winning.

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In this episode of The Purple Kool-Aid Podcast, I’m breaking down something I learned the hard way—why you should never share your hopes and dreams with the people at your 9-to-5 job. I know it might seem harmless to talk about your goals, your side projects, or the bigger vision you have for your life—but in most work environments, that kind of transparency can do more harm than good.

The reality is, when you speak openly about your dreams in places that aren’t built to support them, you open the door to judgment, envy, and even sabotage. I’ve seen it firsthand. People will smile, nod, and tell you they’re rooting for you—but behind closed doors, they’ll talk about you, doubt you, or worse, work against you. Some will even go out of their way to block your progress because they can’t handle the idea that you want more from life than they do.

This isn’t just about jealousy. It’s about mindset. When your co-workers can’t imagine more for themselves, they’ll struggle to imagine more for you. They can’t connect the dots between where you are and where you’re headed. And because they can’t see it for themselves, they’ll assume it’s impossible for you too.

In this episode, I share real experiences, raw truths, and the unfiltered perspective that you’ve come to expect from me. I talk about how your dreams can trigger people, how confidence is often mistaken for arrogance, and how some folks just want everyone around them to stay stuck so they feel better about not moving.

You’ll hear why it’s smarter to move in silence, protect your vision, and save your energy for the spaces and people that get it. Because trust me—if you’re dreaming big while working a job surrounded by small minds, you’re putting a target on your back.

So grab your drink, get comfortable, and listen in while I get personal about ambition, energy, and why the break room is the last place you should be talking about your future.

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