How much of your personality is actually YOU and how much of it was built to protect you?

In the Season 3 premiere of The Quiet As Kept Podcast, Shawnti B. asks one uncomfortable question: Who would you be if nobody hurt you?

We’re going beneath the labels we proudly wear—strong, independent, guarded, ambitious, unbothered, perfectionist, people pleaser—and asking where those traits actually came from.

Drawing from her memoir Quiet As Kept, Shawnti explores how childhood rejection, emotional neglect, bullying, abuse, disappointment, and the need to belong shaped the woman she became—and what happened when she finally started separating her authentic identity from her survival identity.

This episode also explores research on childhood trauma, self-esteem, emotional regulation, resilience, and adverse childhood experiences.

Grab your journal.

Because maybe you aren't “just like that.”

Maybe you became that way.

And if you learned it to survive, you might also be able to unlearn what you no longer need.

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Shawnti Boswell is an Award Winning Master Certified Mental Health Coach, Keynote Speaker, and Author of the best-selling book, “Quiet As Kept”, specializing in guided journaling for mental wellness. After overcoming severe depression and anxiety through journaling, Shawnti developed her own program, empowering individuals to heal and thrive without medication. She is the creator of Shawnti Refuge Journals, which carries a series of guided journals designed to help others release past traumas. With her relatable, no-nonsense approach, Shawnti's mission is to inspire personal growth and self-awareness. She is the founder of Stayin' Stuck Ain't Cute Coaching and a passionate advocate for mental health in both business and community settings.

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This season we've talked about emotional exhaustion, carrying invisible burdens, healing, peace, and what happens when you ignore yourself for too long.

Today, I'm pulling back the curtain.

This isn't just a conversation about rebranding my business.

It's a conversation about rebranding my life.

In this season finale of The Quiet As Kept Podcast, I'm sharing what has changed behind the scenes, lessons from divorce, what healing still looks like in real time, and why I've decided to stop performing strength and start embracing authenticity.

If you've been feeling called to reinvent yourself, let go of old versions of who you used to be, or finally choose yourself, this episode is for you.

Plus, I'll share what's next, including my free Clarity Calls, one-on-one coaching openings in August, and when you can expect Season 3.

Let's talk about it.

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Shawnti Boswell is an Award Winning Master Certified Mental Health Coach, Keynote Speaker, and Author of the best-selling book, “Quiet As Kept”, specializing in guided journaling for mental wellness. After overcoming severe depression and anxiety through journaling, Shawnti developed her own program, empowering individuals to heal and thrive without medication. She is the creator of Shawnti Refuge Journals, which carries a series of guided journals designed to help others release past traumas. With her relatable, no-nonsense approach, Shawnti's mission is to inspire personal growth and self-awareness. She is the founder of Stayin' Stuck Ain't Cute Coaching and a passionate advocate for mental health in both business and community settings.

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At some point, your mind, body, and spirit stop whispering.

They start screaming.

The anxiety.
 The burnout.
 The resentment.
 The exhaustion.
 The feeling that you've somehow lost yourself.

None of it happens overnight.

It happens when you've spent years ignoring your own needs while showing up for everyone else.

In this episode of The Quiet As Kept Podcast, Shawnti Refuge explores the consequences of self-abandonment, why so many people lose themselves while trying to save everyone else, and how to begin reconnecting with the version of yourself you've neglected for far too long.

If you've ever looked in the mirror and wondered, "What happened to me?" this episode is for you.

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Shawnti Boswell is an Award Winning Master Certified Mental Health Coach, Keynote Speaker, and Author of the best-selling book, “Quiet As Kept”, specializing in guided journaling for mental wellness. After overcoming severe depression and anxiety through journaling, Shawnti developed her own program, empowering individuals to heal and thrive without medication. She is the creator of Shawnti Refuge Journals, which carries a series of guided journals designed to help others release past traumas. With her relatable, no-nonsense approach, Shawnti's mission is to inspire personal growth and self-awareness. She is the founder of Stayin' Stuck Ain't Cute Coaching and a passionate advocate for mental health in both business and community settings.

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Have you ever prayed for peace... and then felt uncomfortable when you finally got it?

Have you ever found yourself questioning healthy relationships, overthinking good situations, or creating problems where there weren't any?

You might not be addicted to drama.

You might be addicted to familiarity.

In this episode of The Quiet As Kept Podcast, Shawnti Refuge explores why peace can feel unsettling when you've spent years surviving chaos. We'll discuss trauma, nervous system conditioning, self-sabotage, hypervigilance, and the uncomfortable truth that healing often feels boring before it feels beautiful.

If you've ever wondered why calm makes you nervous, this conversation is for you.

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Shawnti Boswell is an Award Winning Master Certified Mental Health Coach, Keynote Speaker, and Author of the best-selling book, “Quiet As Kept”, specializing in guided journaling for mental wellness. After overcoming severe depression and anxiety through journaling, Shawnti developed her own program, empowering individuals to heal and thrive without medication. She is the creator of Shawnti Refuge Journals, which carries a series of guided journals designed to help others release past traumas. With her relatable, no-nonsense approach, Shawnti's mission is to inspire personal growth and self-awareness. She is the founder of Stayin' Stuck Ain't Cute Coaching and a passionate advocate for mental health in both business and community settings.

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You slept.

You took a day off.

You tried to rest.

So why are you still tired?

Because not all exhaustion is physical.

Sometimes your body isn't asking for sleep. It's asking for relief.

In this episode of The Quiet As Kept Podcast, Shawnti Refuge explores emotional exhaustion—the kind of tired that doesn't go away after a nap. We'll discuss the signs people miss, what research says about chronic emotional stress, how emotional exhaustion affects your relationships and self-worth, and why so many high-functioning people are secretly running on empty.

If you've ever felt like you're surviving instead of living, this conversation is for you.

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Shawnti Boswell is an Award Winning Master Certified Mental Health Coach, Keynote Speaker, and Author of the best-selling book, “Quiet As Kept”, specializing in guided journaling for mental wellness. After overcoming severe depression and anxiety through journaling, Shawnti developed her own program, empowering individuals to heal and thrive without medication. She is the creator of Shawnti Refuge Journals, which carries a series of guided journals designed to help others release past traumas. With her relatable, no-nonsense approach, Shawnti's mission is to inspire personal growth and self-awareness. She is the founder of Stayin' Stuck Ain't Cute Coaching and a passionate advocate for mental health in both business and community settings.

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Everyone can see when you're physically tired.

What they don't see is the mental load you're carrying every single day.

The appointments. The deadlines. The worries. The emotional labor. The constant responsibility of being the one everyone depends on.

In this episode of The Quiet As Kept Podcast, Shawnti Refuge explores the invisible weight so many people carry while still showing up, smiling, and functioning. We'll discuss what the mental load really is, how it impacts mental health, why so many women find themselves emotionally exhausted, and what healing looks like when you've spent years carrying everybody else's burdens.

You'll also receive guided journaling prompts to help you identify what's weighing on you and practical steps to begin putting some of that weight down.

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Shawnti Boswell is an Award Winning Master Certified Mental Health Coach, Keynote Speaker, and Author of the best-selling book, “Quiet As Kept”, specializing in guided journaling for mental wellness. After overcoming severe depression and anxiety through journaling, Shawnti developed her own program, empowering individuals to heal and thrive without medication. She is the creator of Shawnti Refuge Journals, which carries a series of guided journals designed to help others release past traumas. With her relatable, no-nonsense approach, Shawnti's mission is to inspire personal growth and self-awareness. She is the founder of Stayin' Stuck Ain't Cute Coaching and a passionate advocate for mental health in both business and community settings.

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Healing isn’t aesthetic. It’s uncomfortable, messy, emotional, and deeply personal.

In this episode, Shawnti Refuge closes out Mental Health Awareness Month with a raw conversation about what healing actually requires: accountability, honesty, boundaries, grief, and the willingness to stop romanticizing survival mode.

If you’ve been saying you want peace, growth, or healing—but keep repeating the same cycles. This episode is your wake-up call.

Because healing isn’t always pretty… but staying stuck will cost you your peace.

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Shawnti Boswell is an Award Winning Master Certified Mental Health Coach, Keynote Speaker, and Author of the best-selling book, “Quiet As Kept”, specializing in guided journaling for mental wellness. After overcoming severe depression and anxiety through journaling, Shawnti developed her own program, empowering individuals to heal and thrive without medication. She is the creator of Shawnti Refuge Journals, which carries a series of guided journals designed to help others release past traumas. With her relatable, no-nonsense approach, Shawnti's mission is to inspire personal growth and self-awareness. She is the founder of Stayin' Stuck Ain't Cute Coaching and a passionate advocate for mental health in both business and community settings.

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Not every mother-daughter relationship feels safe, and that’s a truth many people struggle to say out loud.

In this episode, Shawnti Refuge unpacks the complexity of loving your mother while still needing healing, boundaries, or distance. From emotional neglect to generational trauma, this conversation explores the “mother wound” and the silent guilt that often comes with it.

If you’ve ever felt conflicted, hurt, or unsure how to navigate your relationship with your mother—this episode will help you make sense of it.

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Shawnti Boswell is an Award Winning Master Certified Mental Health Coach, Keynote Speaker, and Author of the best-selling book, “Quiet As Kept”, specializing in guided journaling for mental wellness. After overcoming severe depression and anxiety through journaling, Shawnti developed her own program, empowering individuals to heal and thrive without medication. She is the creator of Shawnti Refuge Journals, which carries a series of guided journals designed to help others release past traumas. With her relatable, no-nonsense approach, Shawnti's mission is to inspire personal growth and self-awareness. She is the founder of Stayin' Stuck Ain't Cute Coaching and a passionate advocate for mental health in both business and community settings.

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Motherhood is praised publicly… and suffered through privately.

In this episode, Shawnti Refuge gets real about the emotional weight of being “a good mother” and how unrealistic expectations, silent pressure, and unprocessed trauma can slowly break you down.

Backed by research and lived experience, this conversation dives into mom guilt, burnout, identity loss, and the mental load that nobody talks about—especially in communities where strength is expected and struggle is hidden.

If you’ve ever questioned whether you’re doing enough… while running on empty—this episode is for you.

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Shawnti Boswell is an Award Winning Master Certified Mental Health Coach, Keynote Speaker, and Author of the best-selling book, “Quiet As Kept”, specializing in guided journaling for mental wellness. After overcoming severe depression and anxiety through journaling, Shawnti developed her own program, empowering individuals to heal and thrive without medication. She is the creator of Shawnti Refuge Journals, which carries a series of guided journals designed to help others release past traumas. With her relatable, no-nonsense approach, Shawnti's mission is to inspire personal growth and self-awareness. She is the founder of Stayin' Stuck Ain't Cute Coaching and a passionate advocate for mental health in both business and community settings.

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Everybody keeps saying they’re “fine.”
 But anxiety is loud. Burnout is real. And functioning doesn’t mean you’re okay.

In this episode, I’m breaking down what mental health actually looks like when you’re the one everybody depends on. The strong one. The reliable one. The one who “got it.”

Because just because you’re showing up doesn’t mean you’re not silently drowning.

We’re talking high-functioning anxiety, emotional suppression, survival mode, and what your body starts doing when your mind keeps ignoring what’s real.

If you’ve been pushing through instead of healing… this episode is for you.

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Shawnti Boswell is an Award Winning Master Certified Mental Health Coach, Keynote Speaker, and Author of the best-selling book, “Quiet As Kept”, specializing in guided journaling for mental wellness. After overcoming severe depression and anxiety through journaling, Shawnti developed her own program, empowering individuals to heal and thrive without medication. She is the creator of Shawnti Refuge Journals, which carries a series of guided journals designed to help others release past traumas. With her relatable, no-nonsense approach, Shawnti's mission is to inspire personal growth and self-awareness. She is the founder of Stayin' Stuck Ain't Cute Coaching and a passionate advocate for mental health in both business and community settings.

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