The Re-Sourced Podcast

Why do so many women stay in relationships that leave them exhausted, lonely, and questioning whether they’re asking for too much?

In this episode of The Re-Sourced Podcast, Tatiana sits down with her dear friend, fellow therapist, and business coach Kelly Wilt, founder of Rad & Rooted, to unpack the barriers that keep women in relationships that aren’t meeting their needs.

They explore everything from financial insecurity and unequal domestic labor to self-doubt, cultural expectations, and the hope that a partner will eventually become the person they know they could be.

They also talk about why women need more examples of thriving single women, how to recognize when they're abandoning themselves to keep a relationship, and what it means to build a life where partnership is a choice—not a requirement for feeling whole.

If you've ever struggled with finding the courage to leave, this conversation is for you!

Connect with Kelly Wilt:

Kelly is a therapist, clinical supervisor, and practitioner coach who helps people build lives and practices that align with who they really are.

You get one life. You get to decide what matters to you, what kind of relationship you want, and what you are no longer willing to sacrifice to keep someone else.

• Website: https://radandrooted.com/
• Instagram: http://instagram.com/radandrooted

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Reminder: Tatiana is a licensed mental health therapist, able to practice in AZ, MN, and OH; however, she’s not acting as your provider. All discussions are for educational purposes only. They are not substitutes for individual therapy or medical advice. 

What if the thing standing between you and the life you want isn’t a lack of effort—but the energy you’re bringing to it?

In this episode, Tatiana gets personal about a season of prolonged stress, unexpected expenses, family challenges, and the profound helplessness that came from realizing her usual strategy of working harder, staying hypervigilant, and trying to control everything wasn’t working anymore.

She explores the deeper lesson she’s been learning: you don’t have to earn safety, rest, peace, or deservingness. And sometimes creating more of what you want requires doing the opposite of what your old coping strategies tell you to do.

For Tatiana, that has meant slowing down instead of immediately jumping into action, asking for help instead of carrying everything alone, allowing other people to manage their own problems, protecting time for rest and pleasure, shifting her attention toward gratitude, and learning that she can be safe and happy even while difficult things are still unresolved.

The goal isn’t to magically eliminate hard things from your life. It’s to stop putting your life on hold until everything is fixed.

• Why working harder and trying to control everything can become a coping strategy for feeling unsafe
• The difference between earning your deservingness and embodying the belief that you already deserve what you want
• How over-functioning can keep you stuck in frantic, depleted energy
• Why slowing down can be a form of trust rather than avoidance
• Asking for help and recognizing that you don’t have to be responsible for everything
• Giving other people their problems back instead of automatically taking the hit for them
• Why constantly rehashing a story of helplessness can keep you mentally stuck
• Protecting time for rest, pleasure, and the things that make your life feel good—even when there are still things on your to-do list
• Rebuilding the “muscle” for gratitude when your brain has become highly skilled at scanning for problems
• The powerful realization that you can be safe, happy, and free while hard things are still happening
• How small “trust falls” can help you break lifelong patterns and teach your nervous system that a different way of living is actually safe
• The difference between over-functioning and under-functioning—and how the “medicine” may be different for each

Ultimately, this episode is about moving from “I’ll be okay when everything is handled” to “I can be okay even when everything isn’t handled.”

Because maybe the life you want doesn’t require you to work harder to prove that you deserve it.

Maybe it requires you to start living like you already know you do.

Remember to Stop chasing. Start choosing.

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Boundaries aren’t about controlling other people. They’re about deciding what you will and won’t allow yourself to be exposed to—and what you'll do when a boundary is crossed.

In this episode, Tatiana breaks down five rules for setting boundaries in a way that is thoughtful, realistic, and sustainable.

Tatiana also shares practical tips for having difficult boundary conversations.

Ready to stop second-guessing your boundaries? Tatiana’s upcoming live mini-workshop will walk you through her step-by-step formula for defining, scripting, and confidently communicating your hardest boundaries.

Because boundaries aren't about making other people behave. They're about making sure you stop abandoning yourself.

Stop chasing. Start choosing.

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Why are so many women still carrying the majority of the financial, domestic, and mental load of family life?

In this episode, Tatiana breaks down a practical approach to making that imbalance visible—and changing it.

For couples, she walks you through documenting every task that contributes to the family, estimating the time each person spends on those tasks, and then redistributing the workload so each partner truly owns their responsibilities.

For divorced or separated parents, Tatiana explores ways to create more equitable co-parenting by setting boundaries around parenting time, documenting patterns, advocating for appropriate financial support, and using legal agreements when necessary.

The goal isn't to get better at doing everything. It's to stop automatically picking up the pieces when someone else doesn't do their share.

Because you deserve a relationship—and a family system—in which responsibility is shared, not silently handed to you.

Stop chasing. Start choosing.

In this episode, Tatiana welcomes Desirée Maultsby, spiritual guide, transformational coach, ordained Animus Minister, and founder of the Sacred Circle Institute, for a conversation about creativity, self-trust, healing, and liberation.

Desirée shares how her upbringing and the powerful women in her life shaped her commitment to helping people reconnect with their own wisdom and freedom. She also explains how process art and intuitive painting can become a powerful pathway to self-discovery—without judgment, perfectionism, or the pressure to create something “good.”

Together, Tatiana and Desirée explore:

• Why creativity can help us access parts of ourselves that words can't reach
• How perfectionism keeps us from experiencing freedom
• The transformative power of “making a mess”
• Learning to trust your body, intuition, and inner wisdom
• How creative expression can support healing and emotional release
• Why we sometimes use creativity to survive rather than to truly liberate ourselves
• The connection between process art, parts work, and the subconscious
• What happens when we give ourselves permission to explore without knowing the outcome
• Desirée's advice for women: trust yourself more

Desirée also shares about her upcoming residential art retreat on Mt Lemmon, and her monthly Paint Your Heart Open sessions in Tucson.

Connect with Desirée
Sacred Circle Institute: https://sacredcircleinstitute.com/home
Instagram: @SacredCircleInstitute
Desirée: @DesireeSaffronMoon

And as always, this episode is an invitation to stop chasing perfection and start listening to the wisdom that's already inside you.

What if manifestation isn’t about simply thinking positive thoughts or wishing hard enough for the life you want?

In this episode, Tatiana Thompson takes the conversation from last week’s exploration of the science behind manifestation into the practical steps we can use to break negative cycles and intentionally create different outcomes.

Looking at manifestation through the lens of biology, beliefs, and behaviors, Tatiana shares how slowing down, healing subconscious beliefs, regulating your nervous system, processing emotions, and changing your habits can help you become more available for the life you actually want.

And while we may not understand every mysterious or “magical” aspect of manifestation, there is plenty we can influence through the way we train our brains, bodies, and beliefs.

• Why slowing down may be the most important first step when you're in a negative spiral
• How rest, meditation, and gratitude can strengthen positive neural pathways
• Why your intuition becomes easier to hear when you're no longer operating from anxiety and overwhelm
• How subconscious beliefs can keep you recreating the same patterns
• Therapeutic approaches including EMDR, Internal Family Systems (IFS), and Deep Brain Reorienting
• Using nervous-system regulation to increase your capacity for positive experiences
• Why learning to process your emotions is essential to getting unstuck
• How reducing dopamine-flooding behaviors can help you reconnect with simple pleasure and satisfaction
• Why you don't need to implement every strategy at once—small, consistent habits matter

BEHAVIORS

• Slow down and rest
• Meditate
• Stop criticizing and practice genuine gratitude

BELIEFS

• Explore subconscious healing through modalities such as EMDR, IFS, or Deep Brain Reorienting
• Consider accessible tools for reparenting and belief work, such as To Be Magnetic: https://login.tobemagnetic.com/a/2147524106/NCUFQefn

BIOLOGY

• Soothe your nervous system
• Learn to metabolize and process emotions
• Consider reducing dopamine-flooding behaviors

The goal isn't to control everything that happens to you. It's to become increasingly conscious of the patterns you're participating in—and develop the capacity to choose something different.

Because when your biology, beliefs, and behaviors begin working for you instead of against you, you create more space for the life you actually desire.

Stop chasing. Start choosing.

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What if manifestation isn’t about magic at all—but about the way your biology, beliefs, and behaviors shape the reality you experience?

In this episode of The Re-Sourced Podcast, Tatiana takes a grounded look at the idea that what you focus on grows and exploring the neurological and behavioral mechanisms that can cause us to unconsciously recreate the same patterns over and over again.

She'll break down three powerful forces influencing the life you experience:

• Your biology: Why our brains are wired to look for threats and problems—and how trauma, stress, and constant dopamine stimulation can reinforce those patterns.
• Your core beliefs: How beliefs formed in childhood about your worth, safety, relationships, and what you can have in life can continue directing your choices long into adulthood.
• Your behaviors and social interactions: How the way we feel and show up affects how other people respond to us, creating feedback loops that can either reinforce our existing beliefs or help us create something different.

She’ll also explore why you might repeatedly find yourself in relationships or situations that confirm your deepest fears—even when you consciously know you want something completely different.

But let's make one thing clear: you are not responsible for the trauma, abuse, poverty, or other painful experiences that happened to you. But once those experiences have shaped your nervous system and beliefs, understanding those patterns can give you more power to change what happens next.

This episode is Part One of a two-part conversation. Today, we’re looking at why we inadvertently create our reality. In the next episode, Tatiana will walk you through practical strategies for breaking these patterns and beginning to use your biology, beliefs, and behaviors to create more of what you actually want.

Because you deserve a life where you can stop chasing and start choosing.

Resources mentioned:

• Dopamine Nation by Dr. Anna Lembke
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Sending a child into the world can be one of the most beautiful and heartbreaking transitions of parenthood.

In this episode of The Re-Sourced Podcast, Tatiana Thompson explores the complicated emotions that can arise when children leave home for college or begin building independent lives. Drawing from her own experience of sending her oldest daughter to college, she talks openly about the grief, pride, fear, joy, and identity shifts that can all exist at the same time.

This episode isn't about losing a child. It's about the very different kind of grief that comes with watching someone you have spent 18+ years protecting, guiding, and loving begin to need you differently.

Tatiana discusses why conflict can sometimes increase as a child prepares to leave, how grief naturally moves between periods of intense sadness and ordinary life, and why proactively tending to your nervous system can make this transition easier for both parents and children.

She also explores one of the most important questions for mothers during this stage:

Who are you when your child no longer needs you in the same way?

When motherhood becomes a primary identity, launching a child can feel like losing a part of yourself. Tatiana discusses the importance of developing friendships, hobbies, interests, purpose, and identities outside of motherhood—not only for the parent's well-being, but because it gives children the freedom to grow into who they actually are without feeling responsible for their parent's happiness.

The episode also explores the delicate balance between expressing grief and creating guilt. Parents don't have to pretend they're thrilled about their child's departure in order to support them. They can honestly say, "I'm going to miss you terribly," while also communicating, "I am so proud of you, and it is your job to go."

Ultimately, launching our children requires us to loosen our grip while remaining deeply connected. Our job isn't to define who our children become or protect them from every difficult experience. It's to provide a secure foundation from which they can discover themselves, make mistakes, and build lives of their own.

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What if anger isn't an emotion we need to get rid of, but an important source of information about our boundaries, needs, and experiences of being harmed?

In this episode of The Re-Sourced Podcast, Tatiana Thompson explores why so many women have been taught to fear and suppress their anger—and what that suppression can cost us.

Women are often socialized to see anger as hysterical, unfeminine, or threatening. As a result, many learn to disconnect from their anger rather than understand it. But anger serves an important biological purpose: it alerts us that something is wrong or that a boundary may have been violated, while giving us the energy needed to respond.

Tatiana explores what happens when anger isn't expressed, including resentment, irritability, passive-aggressive behavior, emotional explosions, and remaining stuck in relationships or situations where our needs aren't being met.

She also emphasizes an important distinction: feeling anger and acting on anger are two different things. Learning to process an emotion creates space between the feeling and the response, allowing us to understand what our anger is telling us and choose how we want to act.

The episode includes a practical process for working with anger:

• Name the emotion and the sensations in your body.
• Notice the stories you're telling yourself.
• Safely move some of the physical activation.
• Allow yourself to feel the anger without judging it.
• Identify the more vulnerable emotion underneath it.
• Determine the boundary your anger is highlighting.
• Make a plan for addressing the problem.
• Communicate the boundary when appropriate and safe.

Learning to express anger is a skill, not a personality trait. The goal isn't to become an angrier person—it's to become more connected to the information anger provides so that it can help rather than harm.

Because sometimes your anger isn't the problem.

Sometimes it's trying to tell you what needs to change.

What does it really mean to stop chasing and start choosing?

In this deeply personal episode, licensed therapist Tatiana Thompson shares the story that led her to dedicate her life to helping others heal from trauma, build emotional and financial independence, and create relationships from choice instead of desperation.

For years Tatiana believed that love, safety, and security could only come through earning the approval of emotionally unavailable men. Growing up in a family impacted by addiction shaped her nervous system in ways she couldn't recognize until adulthood. Like so many people, she unconsciously recreated the very relationship dynamics she desperately hoped to escape.

This episode explores how childhood experiences become our blueprint for adult relationships, why we often mistake familiar for healthy, and how trauma recovery can completely transform the way we experience love, safety, and self-worth.

Tatiana also shares the tools that finally helped her heal at the source of those wounds, including EMDR and Internal Family Systems (IFS).

If you've ever felt like you're constantly chasing love, approval, security, or validation, this episode offers another possibility:

You can stop chasing what you were taught you needed and start choosing a life that already feels rich, meaningful, and deeply aligned.

• What "Stop Chasing, Start Choosing" really means
• Why healing became Tatiana's life mission
• How growing up in an alcoholic family shaped her nervous system
• The hidden ways childhood wounds influence adult relationships
• Why we unconsciously choose partners who feel familiar instead of safe
• The difference between normal relationship struggles and abusive dynamics
• Why EMDR and Internal Family Systems (IFS) helped create lasting change
• The connection between healing trauma and becoming emotionally and financially independent
• How self-worth changes every relationship in your life

Healing isn't about finding the right partner. It's about becoming someone who no longer needs another person to prove they're worthy of love.

Your nervous system is wired toward what feels familiar, not necessarily what is healthy. Without healing, we often recreate the same painful dynamics we experienced growing up.

Real change happens when we heal at the level of the nervous system, not just through insight. Understanding your patterns intellectually is important, but lasting transformation comes when your brain and body begin to experience safety differently.

Ultimately, healing allows you to stop chasing validation, approval, and rescue—and start choosing the people, opportunities, and life that truly align with who you are.

• EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing)
• Internal Family Systems (IFS)
• You Can Heal Your Life by Louise Hay

If this episode resonated with you, share it with someone who is ready to stop settling and start healing.

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Because healing doesn't just change one life.

It changes families, relationships, and eventually communities.

And it all begins when we stop chasing...and start choosing.