Welcome back to The Rebel’s Way podcast—your no-BS guide to breaking the rules, trusting yourself, and building a life that actually feels like yours. I’m your host, Starlyn, and today we’re unpacking one of the sneakiest ways we sabotage our own peace: expecting people to magically know what we need.

Inspired by a solo mountain getaway (that wasn’t quite as solo as planned) and my ongoing battle with mom guilt, we’re talking boundaries, expectations, and why silent resentment isn’t the vibe.

In this episode, we dive into:

Why unspoken expectations will wreck your peace every damn time

The real reason people aren’t meeting your needs (hint: they don’t know them)

How mom guilt keeps us stuck in default mode

My not-so-glamorous lesson in screen time, FaceTime, and setting boundaries

The uncomfortable magic of actually sticking to your boundaries

This episode is your reminder that no one’s a mind reader—and if you want space, peace, or support, you’ve got to say it. The badass life you’re building? It starts with clear expectations and owning your own damn needs.

Challenge for You:

What do you need that you haven’t said out loud? Your mission this week: tell one person exactly what you need—without guilt, apology, or hoping they’ll just guess.

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Welcome back to The Rebel’s Way podcast—your no-BS guide to breaking the rules, trusting yourself, and creating a life that actually feels like yours. I’m your host, Starlyn, and today’s episode is part pep talk, part construction confessional, and all about the real truth of slow progress.

Recorded mid-drive to the mountains (because inspired chaos is kinda my brand), this one’s for anyone staring down a long-ass goal wondering if it’s ever going to come together. Spoiler alert: It will. But not on your timeline—and that’s okay.

In this episode, we dive into:

🛣️ The myth of “should be further along by now”

💥 What HGTV won’t tell you about real transformation

⚡ How to keep going when the finish line disappears

💡 The invisible progress that’s just as important as the flashy wins

🎯 The radical pride of doing hard shit yourself—slowly

This episode is your reminder that you're not behind—you're building something that actually matters. And that kind of work? It takes time. It takes guts. And it makes you a total badass.

Challenge for You:

Make a list of all the hard shit you’ve done that no one claps for (especially YOU). The inner work. The learning curves. The almost-gave-up moments. Then look at it and say, “Damn, I did that.”

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Welcome back to The Rebel’s Way podcast—your no-BS guide to breaking the rules, trusting yourself, and creating a life that actually feels like yours. I’m your host, Starlyn, and today we’re ripping the mask off something sneaky that’s been stealing your joy: people-pleasing.

This episode is a truth-teller, a wake-up call, and a gut-check—because if you’ve ever felt like you’re constantly deferring, defaulting, or disappearing in your own life… you’re not alone. And no, you’re not “just easygoing”—you’ve been taught to abandon yourself.

In this episode, we dive into:

Why “I’m fine with whatever” is actually a red flag

How people-pleasing is the most socially acceptable form of self-abandonment

What it really means to use your voice—and why it’s so hard to do

A simple experiment to start breaking the habit today

Why speaking up for your needs is the boldest rebellion of all

This episode is your reminder that your voice matters, your wants are valid, and you’re not here to play the supporting role in someone else’s story. You get to be the main character. Period.

Challenge for You:

Today, when someone asks you what you want—pause. Check in with yourself. Then say it out loud. No apologizing. No over-explaining. Just the truth. Try it. Let it feel awkward. Let it feel powerful.

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Welcome back to The Rebel’s Way podcast—your no-BS guide to ditching the rules, trusting your gut, and building a badass life on your terms. I’m your host, Starlyn, and today we’re talking about the art of getting shit done without selling your soul to hustle culture.

Inspired by tax season (ugh), home reno chaos, and the sheer magic of micro moves, this episode is a love letter to every rebel who’s been frozen by overwhelm and sick of the productivity pressure.

In this episode, we dive into:

🧠 Why your nervous system freaks the hell out when you stare down big goals

👣 The power of micro actions (a.k.a. tricking yourself into doing the thing)

🔥 Why “motivation” is a scam—and what actually gets things moving

💪 How to reclaim your power by making your own rules

🏡 The real-life story of how I slayed taxes and installed a kitchen floor like a damn queen

This episode is your permission slip to stop waiting for perfect energy, perfect timing, or perfect plans. You don’t need to bulldoze your way to the finish line—you just need one rebellious little step at a time.

Challenge for You:

What’s that one thing you’ve been putting off? Don’t tackle the whole mountain—just take one tiny action that feels doable right now. Even if it’s just opening a damn tab.

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If this episode called you out (in the best way), leave a quick review! It helps more wild women find this space and stop spiraling in hustle shame.

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Welcome back to The Rebel’s Way podcast—your no-BS guide to breaking the rules, trusting yourself, and creating a life that actually feels like yours. I’m your host, Starlyn, and today we’re throwing out the one-size-fits-all approach to life, goals, and growth—and replacing it with your unique roadmap.

Inspired by a road trip and my love for a good metaphor, we’re talking about what it really means to build a life (and hit your goals) your way. Because spoiler alert: someone else’s plan isn’t your path.

Why following someone else’s roadmap will only lead to burnout and disappointment

The hidden danger of doing things just because “that’s how it’s done”

How to know if you’re abandoning your joy for someone else’s version of success

The mindset shift that makes goal-chasing sustainable and satisfying

Why trusting your own body, energy, and intuition is the ultimate rebellion

This episode is your reminder that you don’t have to suffer your way to success. You can slow down, take detours, enjoy the views, and still get exactly where you’re meant to go.

Look at one goal you’re working toward right now. Are you following someone else’s plan because you think you should? What would it look like to pursue that goal in a way that actually feels good to you? Make one tiny shift toward your own path today.

If this episode spoke to your rebel soul, take a second to rate and review the show! It helps more badass women find the podcast and start building lives they actually love.

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Welcome back to The Rebel’s Way podcast—your no-BS guide to breaking out of your comfort zone, building resilience, and stepping into your most powerful self. I’m your host, Starlyn, and today, we’re diving into something most of us avoid like the plague—discomfort.

We live in a world designed to keep us comfortable. We have instant access to entertainment, food, distractions—anything to keep us from sitting in a moment of challenge or unease. But here’s the truth: when you avoid discomfort, you avoid growth.

In this episode, we dive into:

Why our modern world has made us weaker when it comes to handling discomfort

The difference between numbing yourself and truly living

How cold plunging, strength training, and silent walks have transformed my resilience

Why embracing discomfort is the key to confidence, fulfillment, and badassery

The challenge that will push you to reclaim your power

This episode is your reminder that if you want to live an extraordinary life, you have to stop running from hard things. Growth doesn’t happen in comfort. The life you want? It’s on the other side of discomfort.

This week, do one thing that makes you uncomfortable.

Take a cold shower.

Sit in silence with your thoughts for 10 minutes.

Push yourself harder in a workout—or finally start moving your body if you’ve been avoiding it.

Stand in a checkout line without pulling out your phone.

Whatever it is, embrace the discomfort and notice how it shifts your mindset. Because once you realize discomfort won’t kill you, you become unstoppable.

If this episode hit home, take a second to rate and review the show! It helps me reach more rebel women who are ready to embrace discomfort and reclaim their power.

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Welcome back to The Rebel’s Way, the podcast for rule-breakers, system-shakers, and anyone tired of living life on someone else’s terms. I’m Starlyn, and today, we’re getting deep—but in the simplest way possible.

It all started when my 11-year-old daughter hit me with a question over breakfast: Mom, what’s your favorite word? That one little question sent me spiraling in the best way. Because words carry weight. They shape how we move through the world. And the ones we love? They define us. The ones we hate? They tell us what we refuse to accept.

So, what’s your favorite word? And what’s the one that makes you cringe? Your answers might just be the key to living a life that actually fits.

Why my daughter’s least favorite word is perfect—and why that’s genius

Why freedom is my favorite word—and control can go straight to hell

How words reveal your deepest values (without all the self-help fluff)

The sneaky ways we live out of alignment without even realizing it

How to use this trick to call out your own bullshit and course-correct fast

Think about your favorite word. Now think about the one that makes your skin crawl. What do they tell you about how you really want to live? And are you actually living that way? Be brutally honest with yourself.

If this episode hit home, do me a favor—rate and review the show. It helps bring more rebels into the fold.

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Welcome back to The Rebel’s Way podcast—your no-BS guide to breaking free from what no longer serves you and stepping fully into the life you actually want. I’m your host, Starlyn, and today, we’re talking about something too many of us ignore—the moments we abandon ourselves because we think we should settle.

When was the last time you said yes to something that you knew wasn’t right for you? Maybe it was a job, a relationship, an opportunity that looked good on paper but felt off deep in your gut. That happened to me recently, and in this episode, I’m sharing how I got sucked into the trap of doing what I thought I should do instead of what actually aligned with me.

The sneaky ways we convince ourselves to stay in situations that aren’t right

Why I took (and quickly quit) a job that went against everything I want

The truth about money and why earning it the wrong way isn’t worth it

How to recognize when you're settling—and what to do about it

Why people-pleasing and guilt cannot dictate your decisions anymore

This episode is your reminder that you don’t have to accept what’s handed to you—you get to choose what aligns with your values, your energy, and your purpose. If something feels off, trust that feeling. You are not here to play small, to settle, or to squeeze yourself into spaces that aren’t meant for you.

Take a moment today to ask yourself: Where am I settling? Is it in your job? Your relationships? Your daily routine? Once you identify it, make a small shift toward something better.

If this episode resonated with you, take a second to rate and review the show! It helps me reach more rebel women who are ready to step into their power.

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Welcome back to The Rebel’s Way podcast—your no-BS guide to breaking free, showing up fully, and living life on your terms. I’m your host, Starlyn, and today, we’re getting real about something that most people shy away from—vulnerability.

We’re taught to put on a strong face, keep it together, and push through—but real strength? That comes from being seen in your raw, messy, and unfiltered truth.

Why vulnerability is the ultimate rebellion in a world that wants you to hide

My personal struggle with depression and why I finally asked for help

Learning that not everything can be fixed—and why that’s okay

The mindset shift from “I have to do this alone” to “I don’t have to carry this by myself”

How sharing your struggles can create more compassion and connection

This episode is an invitation to drop the mask, speak your truth, and trust that the right people will hold space for you. If you’ve ever felt like you had to keep it together for everyone else, let this be your reminder that you don’t have to carry it alone.

Think of one thing you’ve been struggling with but keeping to yourself. Who’s one person you can open up to this week? Even if it’s just a simple “Hey, I’ve been feeling off lately.” You don’t have to have the answers—just let yourself be seen.

If this episode resonated with you, take a second to rate and review the show! It helps me reach more rebel women who are ready to embrace their truth.

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Welcome back to The Rebel’s Way podcast—your no-BS guide to breaking the rules, redefining success, and making life actually work for you. I’m your host, Starlyn, and today, we’re throwing out the rigid goal-setting playbook and talking about how to create change in a way that feels good. Ever feel like your goals are sucking the fun out of life instead of adding to it? Or that social media is hijacking all your free time? Same. In this episode, I’m breaking down how I’m approaching growth without rigid rules, why I’m experimenting my way through the year, and how setting small, intentional habits has made a huge difference.

• My wild success (and obsession) with reading more books
• How setting screen time limits made me realize I do have time for things I love
• Why your goals should come from a place of growth—not guilt
• My latest challenge: jumping into an ice-cold lake just for fun (WTF am I thinking?!)
• How to rethink your intentions so they actually feel good

Plus, I have a little permission slip for you: You don’t have to do things the way everyone says you should. Want to start fresh in February instead of January? Do it. Want to toss out goals that feel gross? Toss ‘em. Your life, your rules.

Take a look at your daily habits and ask yourself: Am I doing this because I love it, or because I feel like I should? Then, make one small shift toward something that actually lights you up.

If you loved this episode, take a second to rate and review the show! It helps me spread this message and inspire more women to break free and live life on their terms.

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🎧 Listen now and DM me on Instagram —I want to hear how you’re making life more you!