In today's episode of The Recovered Dad Podcast, we unpack a powerful story that reveals a deeper truth about fatherhood, emotional regulation, and pxxn addiction recovery. What begins with frustration over a young child dropping food from a high chair—and later, an 18-year-old missing trash day—becomes a clear illustration of how easily we mistake learning for rebellion and react from emotion instead of awareness.

We explore how recovery isn't about control or willpower—it's about pausing, understanding what's actually happening, and building systems that support growth. This episode breaks down the curse of prior knowledge, why "common sense" is learned and not automatic, and how the same internal skills used to quit pxxn apply directly to parenting, leadership, and responsibility. Through real-life examples, we connect pxxn addiction recovery with fatherhood, showing how mismanaged triggers create conflict—and how pausing creates freedom.

[00:15] Welcoming listeners back and reflecting on a recent recovery retreat.

[01:55] Introducing the curse of prior knowledge—why we forget what it's like to not know something.

[02:25] Why "common sense" is not common and must be learned through repetition.

[05:34] A raw early-fatherhood moment: rage and frustration watching a child drop food repeatedly.

[08:08] The realization that changes everything—the child wasn't rebelling, he was learning about gravity.

[09:06] How mislabeling learning as defiance damages connection with our kids.

[11:12] A present-day parenting test: trash day, expectations, and emotional restraint.

[12:03] Letting go of control and allowing responsibility to develop through systems.

[14:44] Applying the 4RAC framework to both parenting and porn addiction recovery.

[22:33] Why relapse isn't about being a bad person—it's about a system failing.

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In today's episode of the Recovered Dad Podcast, we dive into the concept of emotional weightlifting and why it is one of the most important skills a father can build on the recovery journey. What begins as a conversation about fitness and discipline opens into a deeper truth. Most men are not struggling with pxxn because of desire. They are struggling because they were never taught how to sit with pain.

We explore how recovery is not about suppressing urges or controlling behavior. It is about building the capacity to stay present with uncomfortable thoughts and emotions without reacting. Using powerful metaphors from physical training, real life stories from fatherhood, and hard earned recovery wisdom, this episode breaks down how emotional intelligence becomes the strongest defense against relapse.

This conversation challenges fathers to stop chasing relief and start building strength. Strength that creates safety in the home. Strength that protects children. Strength that leads with peace and power instead of anger and reactivity.

If you are a dad struggling with pxxn, emotional overwhelm, or feeling out of control under stress, this episode will reframe recovery as a discipline that changes every area of life.

[00:33] Welcome back to the Recovered Dad Podcast and the introduction of emotional weightlifting.

[01:40] Why most fathers think they have a pxxn problem when the real issue is unresolved pain.

[02:10] Pxxn explained as a coping mechanism that almost works and why that makes it dangerous.

[03:09] Emotional expansion as a core principle of healthy masculinity and recovery.

[04:24] The physical training analogy that explains how emotional capacity is built.

[06:20] Recovery defined as learning to sit with uncomfortable thoughts and emotions.

[07:46] Emotions as an early warning system instead of something to suppress.

[08:45] A raw story about fatherhood, anger, and the danger of reacting without awareness.

[11:33] Why emotional intelligence is the strongest defense against pxxn relapse.

[18:02] How recovery work protects children and why fathers must take responsibility.

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In today's episode of the Recover Dad Podcast, we unpack a moment every father can relate to—but few know how to handle well. What starts as a story about a 10-year-old girl auditioning for the role of Annie becomes a powerful lesson on emotional resilience, pxxn addiction recovery, and how fathers pass emotional patterns to their children—whether they intend to or not.

This episode confronts a hard truth: pxxn isn't the root problem—it's the painkiller. Emotional pain, fear of exposure, shame, and the inability to sit with hard emotions are what drive men back to pxxn again and again. Through the lens of fatherhood, recovery, and real-time emotional leadership, we break down why healing yourself is the only way to become a safe place for your kids.

You'll also learn the 4RAC Formula, a practical emotional regulation framework taught inside the Liberation Boot Camp, designed to help men interrupt compulsive pxxn use and respond to pain with clarity, discipline, and integrity.

This is an episode about ending the double life, building emotional mastery, and becoming the kind of father your children will run toward—not hide from—when life hits hard.

[00:02] Welcome back to the Recover Dad Podcast—real conversations for fathers committed to integrity and freedom.

[01:00] A real-time story: a 10-year-old daughter auditions for Annie—and the emotional weight fathers feel watching their kids hope.

[02:58] The danger of over-analyzing outcomes and how emotional spirals begin early—long before addiction ever shows up.

[05:27] A defining shift: choosing to celebrate or grieve with your child instead of minimizing their pain.

[06:46] The truth bomb: "You don't have a pxxn problem. You have a pain problem."

[07:15] Pxxn as a digital sedative—how it temporarily numbs emotional overload but deepens long-term damage.

[08:23] Anger, rage, and emotional suppression in fathers—and why kids expose what we never healed.

[08:52] Introduction to the 4RAC Formula taught inside the Liberation Boot Camp.

[10:46] R1 – Remember the Pain: confronting the fear, secrecy, and anxiety pxxn creates inside marriage and fatherhood.

[11:37] R2 – Refocus on Paradise: why children are often the real "why" behind recovery.

[12:33] R3 – Resolve Your Commitment: choosing freedom over shame, intimacy over fear.

[12:56] R4 – Reflect on What You're Needing: learning to identify exhaustion, loneliness, hunger, and emotional overwhelm.

[13:39] A – Ask Yourself What Else: how to meet emotional needs without reaching for pxxn.

[14:18] C – Choose the New Behavior: discipline, action, and integrity over impulse.

[19:17] The parenting trap: telling kids "it's not a big deal" and why that damages emotional safety.

[20:09] A powerful realization: what feels small to adults can be massive to a child.

[21:02] Emotional leadership starts with self-regulation—not control.

[21:33] Becoming a safe place for your children begins with facing your own unresolved pain.

[24:27] The long road to emotional intelligence—and why most men don't learn it until midlife.

[25:06] Final call: Your family is worth the battle. Your children are worth the battle.

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In today's episode of the Recovered Dad Podcast, we unpack a deceptively simple family vacation story that turns into a powerful lesson on emotional regulation, nervous system overload, and pxxn addiction recovery.

What should have been a relaxing cruise became a live demonstration of how exhaustion, lack of sleep, and constant stimulation can quietly dismantle a man's emotional defenses. In the middle of a beautiful island day, a sudden internal collapse revealed a deeper truth: most relapses aren't driven by desire—they're driven by dysregulation.

This episode breaks down why men often think they have a pxxn problem, a sex drive problem, or a dopamine problem—when in reality, there's something deeper happening beneath the surface. We explore how fatigue hijacks the nervous system, how the brain becomes an unreliable narrator when overwhelmed, and how recovery skills allow men to pause instead of reacting or escaping.

This is a grounded, real-world conversation about masculine responsibility, self-awareness, emotional intelligence, and why recovery is about skill—not willpower.

[00:02] Welcome back to the Recovered Dad Podcast and the importance of real-life recovery stories.

[01:27] Why fatherhood has no "dress rehearsal" and why the stakes are always high.

[03:52] The truth about family vacations, exhaustion, and nonstop demand on dads.

[05:25] Chronic sleep deprivation and why the body clock doesn't care that you're on vacation.

[08:15] A sudden emotional collapse on the beach: "a tsunami of thoughts and emotions."

[09:06] The classic internal story shows up—unappreciated, unseen, and carrying all the weight.

[10:57] Recognizing dysregulation: when the nervous system is completely overwhelmed.

[11:26] How exhaustion silently causes emotional defenses to evaporate.

[13:00] "When you're exhausted, your brain is lying to you—it's an unreliable narrator."

[14:15] Choosing regulation over reaction to protect your family from emotional fallout.

[16:41] "You think it's a pxxn problem, food problem, or screen problem—but there's something deeper going on beneath the surface."

[18:36] Why fatigue is often the hidden driver behind urges, cravings, and relapse behavior.

[20:33] Emotional intelligence as a core masculine skill—not weakness.

[21:29] Grief and gratitude: losing decades to pxxn addiction but gaining life-saving skills.

[22:29] Harnessing masculine fire—how regulation turns destructive energy into power for good.

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In today's episode of the Recovered Dad Podcast, we unpack a seemingly small parenting moment that revealed a much bigger truth about emotional pressure, triggers, and porn addiction recovery. What started as a frustrating home project—resetting WiFi light bulbs—spiraled into an emotional overreaction toward a child, exposing how unprocessed stress builds beneath the surface and eventually demands release.

We explore how porn addiction isn't about lust or lack of discipline—it's about emotional overload, nervous system dysregulation, and a lack of awareness around what's really going on inside. We break down how pressure stacks quietly through unfinished responsibilities, self-betrayal, and frustration, until a minor trigger sets off a disproportionate reaction. The same mechanism that leads a father to snap is the one that drives men back to porn.

This conversation connects fatherhood, leadership, and pornography recovery into one core truth: a man who doesn't understand his inner pressure becomes unsafe—to himself and the people he loves.

[00:28] Welcome back to the Recovered Dad Podcast and the core mission of pornography recovery and fatherhood.

[01:25] How recovery tools learned in brotherhood improve marriage, parenting, and leadership—not just porn sobriety.

[03:07] A small frustration with household lights reveals a deeper pattern of delayed responsibility and self-frustration.

[06:20] Emotional pressure explained: when frustration stacks silently until the system is already overloaded.

[08:57] A minor parenting moment becomes the breaking point—and an emotional explosion follows.

[11:36] "I did overreact"—the moment of clarity that revealed the real issue wasn't the child at all.

[12:21] Porn as a trigger, not the root problem—understanding the fire and the spark.

[15:16] The connection between emotional buildup and relapse: conditions + triggers = escape.

[17:06] Why a father who doesn't know what's irritating him becomes emotionally unsafe.

[20:09] The Noble Code principle: returning to the path after emotional failure instead of escaping.

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In today's episode of the Recover Dad Podcast, we dive headfirst into why so many men fail at change—especially when it comes to pxxn addiction recovery—and what actually creates lasting freedom. Using a personal story about weight loss, "Quitter's Day," and fatherhood, this episode breaks down the three non-negotiables for real transformation: rock bottom, belief, and environment.

What starts as a reflection on New Year's resolutions quickly turns into a raw conversation about the all-or-nothing trap, why white-knuckling never works, and how men repeatedly sabotage themselves by relying on willpower instead of structure. We explore the data behind accountability, why environment always beats discipline, and how recovery becomes urgent when your children are watching.

This episode is especially for fathers and high-performing men who are tired of repeating the same cycle every year—and are ready to take responsibility, lead their families with integrity, and finally break free from pxxn for good.

[00:01] Welcome back to the Recover Dad Podcast and a reflection on why this time of year is dangerous for men trying to change.

[01:01] A personal story about weight gain, failed resolutions, and the illusion of "This is the year."

[02:31] Introduction of "Quitter's Day" and why most resolutions collapse within weeks.

[03:30] "I tried quitting pxxn for 34 years—and it never worked."

[05:37] The rock bottom moment: seeing the future clearly and realizing change is non-negotiable.

[07:47] How witnessing someone else's transformation created belief and hope.

[09:14] The three keys to real change: rock bottom, belief, and environment.

[11:44] Why accountability groups work—and why recovery cannot happen in isolation.

[16:02] The statistics behind success: why accountability raises your odds to 95%.

[18:29] A direct call to fathers: your recovery matters because your children are watching.

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In today's episode of The Recovered Dad Podcast, we unpack a powerful, unexpected moment that reveals what real recovery actually produces—not just sobriety, but deep connection, emotional regulation, and trust inside the family.

What begins as a simple text message from an 18-year-old son—"I vacuumed out the car for you"—opens the door to a much deeper conversation about fatherhood, pxxn addiction recovery, and the long-term impact of daily habits. This episode explores how recovery work shows up in real life: calmer responses, safer emotional space, and relationships with our children that don't disappear as they grow older.

We break down why the opposite of addiction isn't just abstinence—it's connection, and how daily recovery rhythms like exercise, journaling, meditation, and brotherhood create the emotional stability our families can feel. This conversation is a roadmap for men who want to quit pxxn, reclaim their integrity, and become the kind of fathers their kids actually want a relationship with as adults.

[00:59] Welcome back to The Recovered Dad Podcast and the mission of recovery, fatherhood, and living life as a recovered dad.

[01:25] A real-life story that shows the "fruit" of pxxn addiction recovery—not theory, but lived experience.

[02:42] An unexpected text from an 18-year-old son sparks an emotional moment of connection and gratitude.

[06:21] Why this small act of generosity reveals emotional safety, awareness, and trust in the parent-child relationship.

[08:30] A powerful reminder: by age 12, dads have already experienced most of the time they'll ever spend with their kids.

[09:52] Recovery as legacy—building relationships that last beyond childhood into adulthood.

[11:08] How pxxn addiction recovery pays real-world dividends in emotional regulation and presence.

[14:20] The "Core Four" daily recovery habits: exercise, reading, journaling, and meditation.

[18:24] The Three C's of recovery: Core Four, Community, and Connection.

[26:56] "The opposite of addiction is connection"—and why safe emotional space changes everything at home.

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In this transitional episode, after four years of the Porn to Purpose Podcast, Matt Sinkovitz and Coach Yeadon Smith officially launch the first episode of the Recovered Dad Podcast, introducing a refined vision for the community and the men it serves. This conversation explains the inspiration behind the branding shift and why the mission had to expand beyond simply quitting porn into helping fathers recover from the deeper pain, pressure, and isolation driving addiction in the first place. Drawing from years of work with men in recovery and informed by Yeadon's own journey as a husband and father, the episode clarifies that porn addiction is not a behavior problem but a pain problem rooted in unmanaged stress and emotional disconnection. Rather than centering on one personal story, this episode sets the foundation for what Recovered Dad stands for: recovery that strengthens marriage, deepens fatherhood, restores integrity, and equips men with the emotional regulation and leadership skills needed to show up fully at home and in life. This is not about white-knuckling sobriety—it's about becoming a grounded, present, emotionally regulated father with the courage to do the work that truly changes a family's future.

[00:15] Introducing the first episode of the Recovered Dad Podcast [01:45] Why Porn to Purpose evolved into Recovered Dad [03:56] Yeadon's recovery journey as a father and why it matters [05:03] The reality of raising kids in a world of unlimited pornography access [07:52] Identifying the true avatar: fathers with the most at stake [10:45] Why guilt, fear, and shame-based approaches don't work [12:13] "It's not a porn problem—it's a pain problem" [14:35] How recovery skills improve fatherhood, marriage, and leadership [16:27] Why fathers can't afford to avoid their inner work [21:32] Becoming the dad you needed growing up

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In today's episode of the Porn to Purpose podcast, I sit down with Coach Yeadon to have a raw and honest conversation specifically for fathers—the men who carry the most pressure, the most responsibility, and often the deepest unspoken pain. Together, we break down the truth that porn isn't the real problem—pain is, and we explore why so many fathers turn to porn not for pleasure but for relief from stress, loneliness, and the weight of feeling unseen. Coach Yeadon and I dig into the idea of counterfeit validation, the power of daily habits, and the sobering reality that the wounds we ignore in ourselves become the emotional inheritance we hand to our children. My hope is that this episode gives you clarity, conviction, and the courage to step into the healing and leadership you were meant for.

[00:35] Introduction to today's focus: why fathers have the most at stake in porn recovery.

[01:05] The emotional truth about fathers carrying invisible pressure while feeling unappreciated.

[03:29] The core insight: "You don't have a porn problem—you have a pain problem."

[04:10] How urges that feel sexual are really driven by stress, fear, fatigue, and loneliness.

[05:55] Coach Yeadon explains porn as "fake validation" when life feels overwhelming.

[07:28] Why porn "almost works"—and why that makes it a dangerous emotional coping mechanism.

[08:41] Insight #2: recovery is a marathon, not a sprint—freedom comes from daily consistency.

[10:05] The tooth-brushing metaphor: why emotional and spiritual maintenance matters daily.

[14:51] Community data showing that consistent habits predict consistent sobriety.

[17:18] The generational truth: unhealed wounds in fathers become inherited trauma in children.

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In today's episode of the Porn to Purpose Podcast, I sit down with Coach Yeadon to break down why the holiday season is one of the most dangerous times of year for men in recovery—not because of porn itself, but because of the disrupted routines, emotional pressure, family dynamics, late nights, and hidden pain that make us vulnerable long before a relapse ever happens. We talk openly about how the "middle circle" becomes a trap during Thanksgiving and Christmas, how fatigue and overwhelm quietly pull you off track, and why most slips start with being tired, stressed, or out of your normal rhythm. This conversation is about getting honest, preparing before triggers hit, staying committed to your core habits, and learning to course-correct quickly and gracefully instead of spiraling into shame. If you want to stay strong through the holidays, protect your integrity, and stay aligned with your recovery, this episode gives you the clarity and tools to do exactly that.

[08:38] Matt explains the "middle circle" danger zone and why hanging out there long enough almost always leads to inner circle behaviors. [09:36] They reveal how porn addiction often starts with simple drift—fatigue, overeating, staying up too late, or feeling emotionally overwhelmed. [10:51] A powerful reminder: "We don't have a porn problem. We have a pain problem. Porn is the pill we take to manage the pain." [12:19] The guys break down how skipping routines and habits lowers emotional resilience, making triggers harder to handle. [14:28] Practical tools for planning ahead, managing urges, and interrupting patterns before they escalate. [19:11] What to do when you've already "gone off the rails" and how to course-correct without shame. [22:09] The importance of telling on yourself early and using visibility to break the power of secrecy. [23:09] Simple reset strategies: movement, water, breath, environment change, and rest. [24:31] Why checking in with community removes the emotional charge and brings clarity back online. [25:36] How to extract the lesson from a slip, rebuild quickly, and return to self-compassion and accountability.

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