The Refined Collective Podcast

By Kat HarrisSociety & Culture Religion & Spirituality Christianity

The Refined Collective Podcast episodes

May 11, 2022 When You Feel BURNED OUT
How do you seek God when you don’t know if you believe the way you used to?

How do you move forward in your faith when it feels like it’s in shambles?

How do you experience God outside of Sunday church?

I’m no expert, but I would love to offer you a few meditations and prayers that have been a lifeline for me over the past few years. The next three episodes of TRC will be guided meditations. First up: meditation for burnout.

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12 min
May 04, 2022Deconstruction Part III: What Would Jesus Do?
This is Part III of a series on deconstruction. In Part I, we ask “What exactly is deconstruction + how do I know if I’m experiencing it?” In Part II, we ask “Can I completely deconstruct my faith and still be a Christian?” This week, we’ll be asking “What would Jesus do? How then shall we live?”

Reflection Questions:

What has your relationship to doubt been?

What would it look like for you to replace certainty with faith?

Did anything resonate with you in the ocean + boat metaphor? If so, what?

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47 min
April 27, 2022 Deconstruction Part II: Am I Still a Christian?
This is Part II of a series on deconstruction— if you missed Part I, go ahead and listen to that here. In Part I, we ask what exactly is deconstruction + how do I know if I’m experiencing it, and the resources that have helped me in my own process. Today, we’ll be moving through the question “Can I completely deconstruct my faith and still be a Christian?”

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30 min
April 20, 2022 Deconstruction Part I: What Is It + How Do I Know I’m Experiencing It?
This week, we’re stepping into a series on deconstruction. I avoided talking about this in depth on the podcast before, because I am no expert. When I polled my Instagram audience, 76% said they are currently deconstructing. And everyone’s experiences within deconstruction have been extremely varied. How do I know if I’m experiencing deconstruction? If I start deconstructing, will I lose my faith altogether? These are very real and human questions that we are all asking. I can’t give you a ton of answers, but I can be with you here as we ask meaningful questions.

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34 min
April 13, 2022 I Guess I Haven’t Learned That Yet with Shauna Niequist
I am completely fangirling over today’s podcast guest— I have read all of her books over the years and I can’t wait for you to get to know her. Shauna Niequist is the NYT Bestselling author of Cold Tangerines, Bittersweet, Bread & Wine, Savor, Present Over Perfect, and I Guess I Haven’t Learned That. Today, we’re talking about trusting your gut feelings, the hard parts of deconstruction that people don’t really talk about, embracing learning instead of shaming not knowing, and what prayer looks like in a season of deconstruction.
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1 hr 2 min
April 06, 2022 Sex Ed 101: Vibrators, Positions + Oral… OH MY! with Dr. Celeste Holbrook
Our favorite sexologist, Dr. Celeste Holbrook, is back on the podcast to give you some more sex education! As many of you know, I spent a lot of time coming to terms with the shame I felt around my sexual desire. Since I grew up in purity culture, I didn’t receive a proper sex education. And because I didn’t get a proper sex education, I found myself in some uncomfortable situations because I didn’t know what I didn’t know. Knowledge helps you develop a muscle of consent and the language to communicate your boundaries. So if you can relate, this episode will help fill in some of the many gaps in your sex education.
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1 hr 3 min
March 30, 2022 He Said/She Said: Submission with Manwell Reyes
In episode 170 of TRC, Manwell Reyes said “I love strong women but they come with a lot of pride and you’re gonna have to argue them into submission.” To say I was uncomfortable with that comment is a wild understatement. We didn't have time to unpack it during that episode, so I brought Manwell back to talk about it in full context. We take a deep dive into the history of the word submission, why it’s important to acknowledge the problem before moving forward, and how we can move forward in a way that embraces the beauty of submission.

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1 hr 13 min
March 23, 2022 Dear Diary: Am I a Good Kisser? with Tutti del Monte
This week my bestie, Tutti del Monte, is returning for another Dear Diary episode. This time, instead of spending the full episode reading old diary entries, we’re chatting about things we chat about in real life: how to know if you’re a bad kisser and how we define sex differently. Plus, we talk about if I’m still waiting for marriage to have sex and Tutti’s current pause on sex in her relationship.
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49 min
March 16, 2022 Ask Kat: Tithing During Deconstruction? Faith Compatibility in Dating + More
Welcome back to the Ask Kat series! It’s basically like my Mentor Monday IG story series (which you can keep up with here), but this is the first time where you get to send in an audio file of your questions and I answer them live on air!

If you want to submit your question for the next Ask Kat episode, go to speakpipe.com/trc.

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56 min
March 09, 2022 Leaving the Church to Find Jesus
I’m really nervous for you to listen to this episode. This week, I’m sharing my story of how and why I kinda accidentally left the church during the pandemic, and why I haven’t chosen to go back. I share with you what I have learned and am learning from my separation from the church, why I believe God is really with me in this place, the 3 main reasons I’m not a part of the church right now, and what church and community is actually looking like for me these days.
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1 hr

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In The Refined Collective podcast, host and author of Sexless in the City, Kat Harris creates a safe space to have honest conversations around faith, sexuality, relationships, politics, identity,…