The Relate Podcast

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  • Episode 29: Emotion Coaching--A Tool to Help us all When Emotions Run High

    We all know how things can go south quickly when emotions are running high with our kids, with ourselves, and even with our adult relationships. In this episode, we introduce the “Window of Tolerance” and we discover ways this concept can help us all (even at a young age) understand what is happening and get to the other side of it.

    Discussion Questions

    1. When you picture a window where you can tolerate your emotions, how big or small does your window seem right now, compared to what it normally is?
    2. What goes on inside of you when someone you are engaging with shatters their window of tolerance?
    3. How does knowing about the window of tolerance help you stay within your own window?
    4. Which practical tool would you like to try in the next 30 days, like Joe suggested? Is it the 5 things that Margaret told us about? Is it intentional breathing? What would work for you and your family?

      5. Resources

      The Whole-Brain Child by Daniel Siegel

      The Window of Tolerance

      https://lindsaybraman.com/window-of-tolerance/

      https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/lifespan-psychology/202004/expanding-the-window-tolerance

      5 Things You Can See

      https://www.mayoclinichealthsystem.org/hometown-health/speaking-of-health/5-4-3-2-1-countdown-to-make-anxiety-blast-off
      5 Things you can see
      4 Things you can feel
      3 Things you can hear
      2 things you can smell
      1 thing you can taste

      38 min
    5. Episode 28: Emotion Coaching - Hacks To Handle All These Emotions Flooding Those We Love

      In our current climate of converging crises we often find ourselves interacting with friends, family and kids who are flooded with emotional responses. In this season, we consider helpful ways to respond in these interactions and how to help our kids--and others--make sense of what they are feeling and how to receive care.

      *Discussion Questions: *

      1. What have you noticed about how you are relating to yourself, God or others in this season that feels new or different? What have you noticed about how your kids or loved ones are relating differently?
        1. How does it feel to have your goal be to help those people “feel felt?” Is that a change in the way you’ve been responding?
        2. When we talk about coaching kids’ emotions we asked how you do with your own emotions. How are you at naming and regulating your emotions? Is there one emotion that you find especially challenging?

          3. Resources

          The Whole-Brain Child by Daniel Siegel

          Lindsay Braman’s emotion wheel

          41 min
        5. Episode 25: Life’s Interruptions: What to do when little losses add up to a lot
          When life is moving along at a fast pace and all of a sudden we are hit with a change--planned or unplanned-- that leaves us with feelings of sadness and loss, how do we respond to those feelings instead of ignoring them and simply adjusting to our “new normal?” Maybe it's a new job, a kid going off to college, or a dear friend moving away, these changes seem like ones we can muster up the strength to weather, but they too deserve our curiosity and care. We discuss how the feelings of loss that pile up from life’s “little losses” really do need our attention so that we can heal and grow.
          Discussion Questions:
          What are some moments from your life that come to mind when we talk about life interruptions or transitions that have left you with some sadness?
          How did you first feel when we invited you to consider that sadness grief? Is naming it as grief a challenge for you or does it come easily? Why do you think that is?
          What fears might you have about spending time naming and grieving your losses?
          What do you hope to gain by naming your losses and grieving them? What do you hope comes from this practice?
          Resources for further learning
          Podcast: Unlocking Us, Brene Brown and David Kessler
          33 min
        7. Episode 24: Father's Day & Building Intentional Relationships With Your Kids

          *Discussion Questions: *

          1. What is one thing that has surprised you about parenthood? How does it differ from the picture you had before you became a dad?

          2. Who are you? Who are your kids? How does that inform or influence how you interact with your kids?

          3. What are your core family values? When you look at your calendar (or last year’s calendar), does your schedule represent these values? If so, how can you continue this? If not, what do you want to adjust in the future?

          4. When you reflect on this current season, what are some of the new ways you’ve connected with your kids? How can you carry on these new ways of connecting even after quarantine is over?

            5. Additional Resources:

            www.willowcreek.org/Fathersday

            35 min

          About The Relate Podcast

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          Thanks for checking out the RELATE podcast, where we explore how to do life better by building better relationships. Join host Casey Sundstedt and friends for a conversation about all things relationship—friendships, co-workers, marriage, family, and more. You’ll be challenged and encouraged by fresh concepts that make your relational world richer and more rewarding.