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In this episode of the Relate Great podcast, host Jonathan Sherman is joined by Chelsea Paul and Karissa Pahl from All of You Services, a cleaning company that goes beyond traditional cleaning to address mental health struggles. Jonathan discovered Chelsea through a heartfelt social media post highlighting the connection between depression and overwhelming mess. Chelsea and Karissa share their approach to helping clients declutter and deep clean their homes without judgment, emphasizing the therapeutic benefits of a tidy space. They discuss the emotional and relational impacts of living in disorganized environments, their personal connection to mental health issues like ADHD, and their unique teamwork dynamics. The episode concludes with practical advice for listeners feeling overwhelmed by clutter.

00:00 Introduction to Chelsea's Post on Depression and Messiness

02:44 Mental Health and Cleaning: A Deeper Connection

03:29 Client Experiences and Vulnerability

06:12 The Process of Decluttering and Organizing

08:58 Challenges and Boundaries in Cleaning 10:42 The Emotional Impact of a Clean Space

21:16 The Sisters' Journey into Cleaning

25:13 Hyper-Focused and Satisfied

26:08 Family Therapist Insights

26:23 Navigating Family Business Dynamics

27:24 Communication Challenges and Strategies

31:50 Impact of Home Organization on Relationships

40:13 Tips for Listeners: Cleaning and Mindset Hacks

44:07 Final Thoughts and Contact Information

Referenced Resources:

Original post with pics

Website: All of You Services

Facebook: facebook.com/allofyouservices

Episode Page: RelateGREAT.net/podcast/007-mess-and-mental-health

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In this episode, Jonathan Sherman, a marriage and family therapist, offers seven crucial parenting tips. The advice stems from a presentation he gave at a conference and an interview with young clinicians from Utah Youth Village. The key areas covered include understanding your child's world, allowing feedback, avoiding power struggles, the importance of both quality and quantity time, fostering good relationships with teenagers from an early age, being interested in your child's interests, and the value of appreciation. Sherman shares personal anecdotes and professional insights, encouraging parents to grow and adapt alongside their children while maintaining patience, presence, and authentic communication.

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01:24 1. Make an effort to understand your child’s world

02:11 2. Allow kids to give you feedback

05:26 3. Not engaging in power struggles allows kids to teach us -- Lesson from a 13-year-old rebel

12:37 4. Quality time is a function of quantity time - Patience and Presence.

16:07 5. Relationships With Teenagers Starts When They’re Young

18:32 6. Be interested in the things that interest your kids

21:19 7. Appreciation is a cushion

▶︎▶︎ Referenced Resources:

The 7 Principles for Building a Strong Family book and online masterclass.

• RESOLVE conflict,

• IMPROVE communication,

• INCREASE bonding, and

• SECURE attachments with your partner and your kids.

My 7 Principles for Building Strong Families workbook and online course will help you, your partner, and your family overcome problems and create truly GREAT relationships that last a lifetime. Enroll today and get the workbook at RelateGREAT.net/strongfam

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In this episode of the RelateGREAT! Podcast with Jonathan Sherman, listeners are treated to a variety of dating stories during the second part of a two-part call-in show focused on dating disasters. The episode features 12 callers, including Jonathan's son Adam, who shares his high-school dating mishap. Other callers like Peyton and wife Lauren narrate their humorous and awkward relationship beginnings, and Austin recounts his clumsy journey from heartbreak to finding true love. Xerxes and Laurene share their long-term marriage experiences, emphasizing the importance of mutual respect and friendship in enduring relationships. Jonathan Sherman, a marriage and family therapist, also shares insights drawn from John Gottman's relationship research, highlighting the significance of friendship and admiration in successful marriages.

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00:00 The Call-in Show: Dating Disasters! Part 2

00:54 Adam's High School Date

05:54 Caller Peyton and Lauren's Awkward Beginnings

17:23 Caller Austin's Nervousness

17:40 Introduction to the Writing Group

18:42 Austin's Clunky Love Story

20:42 The Turning Point in Austin's Relationship

24:45 The Proposal and Marriage

31:33 Reflections on Marriage and Friendship

36:00 Xerxes' Story of 32 Years of Marriage

43:01 Laurene's Bad Date and Love Story

49:13 Conclusion and Future Plans

Referenced Resources:

None

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In the debut episode of the Relate Great Podcast Call-In Show, hosted by marriage and family therapist Jonathan Sherman, listeners dive into real-life stories about dating disasters. Jonathan introduces the podcast's format and themes, focusing on humorous, touching, and sometimes tragic tales from the dating world. Callers share their personal experiences, ranging from shocking first dates to heartfelt reflections on lessons learned in relationships. The episode also offers insightful relationship principles and promotes Jonathan's online masterclass on building strong families.

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00:00 The Call-in Show: Dating Disasters! Part 1

00:24 Introduction to the Relate Great Podcast

00:58 Podcast Format and Future Plans

01:39 Dating Scene Insights and Stories

05:12 Mindy's Dating Disaster

08:47 Jess's Relationship Struggles

15:34 Kara's Awkward Concert Date

20:57 Angel's Unforgettable First Date

27:50 Larissa's Long-Winded Date

31:46 The Unimpressive Husband

32:16 Dating Stories at Family Parties

32:53 Planning Future Episodes

33:51 Caller Taylor's Story

40:36 Mindy's Lovebomber

Referenced Resources:

None

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In this episode of the RelateGREAT! Podcast, licensed marriage and family therapists Emil Harker, LMFT, and Jonathan Sherman, LMFT, delve into the pursue-withdraw dynamic often seen in relationships. This is a re-broadcast of an episode Emil did on a former podcast he was involved with. They discuss the motivations behind pursuing and withdrawing behaviors and how these can create a damaging cycle if not managed properly. Jonathan and Emil share practical strategies for both pursuers and withdrawers to break the cycle and foster healthier communication and connections. By emphasizing the importance of safety and understanding, they offer actionable advice to help listeners strengthen their relationships and avoid common pitfalls.

▶︎▶︎ HIGHLIGHTS

00:00 Introduction: The Art of Listening

00:25 Stop, Look, and Listen: Practical Tips

01:40 Meet Emil Harker: A Trusted Therapist

04:20 Exploring the Pursue-Withdraw Dynamic

04:53 Common Terms and Misconceptions

05:56 The Pursue-Withdraw Cycle in Relationships

08:05 Gender Patterns and Topic-Based Dynamics

12:12 Managing the Pursue-Withdraw Dynamic

14:52 Understanding the Pursuit of Sex and Power

15:22 The Emptiness of Pursuit

16:59 The Pursue-Withdraw Dynamic

17:09 Why Do People Withdraw?

20:26 The Role of Fear in Withdrawal

20:52 Strategies for Pursuers and Withdrawers

23:46 The Importance of Safety in Relationships

26:56 Effective Communication Techniques

30:12 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

Referenced Resources:

Emil Harker’s website

Get Emil’s book!

Episode Notes

This episode explores the idea that most mental and emotional issues boil down to feeling stuck. They share insights using anecdotes, metaphors, and humor while discussing basic cognitive-behavioral techniques to get 'unstuck.' They highlight the importance of distinguishing between self-worth and self-esteem, recognizing guilt versus shame, and the power of repetition in changing behaviors. The host and guest also entertain with a playful banter about outlandish ideas like selling P tubes and certificates to metaphorically and humorously address the concept of being stuck. In this lighthearted and informative episode, listeners are offered both laughter and practical advice on enhancing their mental health.

Timestamps

00:00 Introduction and Podcast Origins

01:14 Welcome to the Heavy Mental Hour

01:59 Understanding Stuckness in Therapy

04:55 The Concept of Certificates

11:00 Guilt vs. Shame

17:18 The Mechanics of Change

29:30 Visualizing the Problem

30:40 Changing Thoughts and Behaviors

31:02 Therapeutic Models and Their Evolution

31:50 Milton Erickson's Innovative Techniques

36:07 The Pee Pipe Story

44:27 Self-Worth vs. Self-Esteem

52:46 The Rarity of Human Life

55:33 Humor and Therapy

57:09 Conclusion and Outtakes

Highlights:

;-) Certificates: Abdication of Responsibility, etc.

;-) Triangulation: The Wacky Therapy Game!

3 Rules for Guilt

Guilt vs. Shame

Brain Mechanics: Our 3 Brains (thinking, emotional, primitive)

CBT

The frozen locomotive

100K reps

We are slow, social learners vs. instinctual knowledge (cp to Pepper’s puppies)

The “Comma, Yet...”

Drawing: The Box

Solution Focus vs. watering the weeds

The Umbrella

Milton Erickson and the "Pee Pipe" story here.

Self-worth and self-esteem

;-) Certificate of Self-Esteem

Thought-stopping

;-) Product: Pee Pipe Kit

;-) Glutton for Punishment Certificate

Referenced Resources:

Guest Blogger: Gary Klein on Stress & Stuckness

Gary Klein, LCSW’s professional profile and contact info

Episode Notes

In this episode, part of The GREAT Relationship Masters Series (GR Masters), I talk to two sisters about their two marriages. My wife, Kara Sherman, and her sister, Kristen Sagers, giggle their way through sharing tips about having a successful marriage.

Highlights

01:58 Marriage Statistics and Realities

02:51 Examples of Good and Bad Marriages

05:16 Kristen's Marriage Story

08:29 Kara's Marriage Story

28:52 What They Like About Their Husbands

39:12 Reflecting on Personal Growth

39:41 The Importance of Communication in Marriage

46:06 Navigating Conflict and Anger

50:35 The Evolution of Love

59:16 Advice for Young Couples

01:10:00 The Role of Communication and Understanding

01:12:40 Final Thoughts on Marriage

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