The RelateGREAT! Podcast with Jonathan Sherman and Friends

Episode Notes

This episode explores the idea that most mental and emotional issues boil down to feeling stuck. They share insights using anecdotes, metaphors, and humor while discussing basic cognitive-behavioral techniques to get 'unstuck.' They highlight the importance of distinguishing between self-worth and self-esteem, recognizing guilt versus shame, and the power of repetition in changing behaviors. The host and guest also entertain with a playful banter about outlandish ideas like selling P tubes and certificates to metaphorically and humorously address the concept of being stuck. In this lighthearted and informative episode, listeners are offered both laughter and practical advice on enhancing their mental health.

Timestamps

00:00 Introduction and Podcast Origins

01:14 Welcome to the Heavy Mental Hour

01:59 Understanding Stuckness in Therapy

04:55 The Concept of Certificates

11:00 Guilt vs. Shame

17:18 The Mechanics of Change

29:30 Visualizing the Problem

30:40 Changing Thoughts and Behaviors

31:02 Therapeutic Models and Their Evolution

31:50 Milton Erickson's Innovative Techniques

36:07 The Pee Pipe Story

44:27 Self-Worth vs. Self-Esteem

52:46 The Rarity of Human Life

55:33 Humor and Therapy

57:09 Conclusion and Outtakes

Highlights:

;-) Certificates: Abdication of Responsibility, etc.

;-) Triangulation: The Wacky Therapy Game!

3 Rules for Guilt

Guilt vs. Shame

Brain Mechanics: Our 3 Brains (thinking, emotional, primitive)

CBT

The frozen locomotive

100K reps

We are slow, social learners vs. instinctual knowledge (cp to Pepper’s puppies)

The “Comma, Yet...”

Drawing: The Box

Solution Focus vs. watering the weeds

The Umbrella

Milton Erickson and the "Pee Pipe" story here.

Self-worth and self-esteem

;-) Certificate of Self-Esteem

Thought-stopping

;-) Product: Pee Pipe Kit

;-) Glutton for Punishment Certificate

Referenced Resources:

Guest Blogger: Gary Klein on Stress & Stuckness

Gary Klein, LCSW’s professional profile and contact info

Episode Notes

This episode explores the idea that most mental and emotional issues boil down to feeling stuck. They share insights using anecdotes, metaphors, and humor while discussing basic cognitive-behavioral techniques to get 'unstuck.' They highlight the importance of distinguishing between self-worth and self-esteem, recognizing guilt versus shame, and the power of repetition in changing behaviors. The host and guest also entertain with a playful banter about outlandish ideas like selling P tubes and certificates to metaphorically and humorously address the concept of being stuck. In this lighthearted and informative episode, listeners are offered both laughter and practical advice on enhancing their mental health.

Timestamps

00:00 Introduction and Podcast Origins

01:14 Welcome to the Heavy Mental Hour

01:59 Understanding Stuckness in Therapy

04:55 The Concept of Certificates

11:00 Guilt vs. Shame

17:18 The Mechanics of Change

29:30 Visualizing the Problem

30:40 Changing Thoughts and Behaviors

31:02 Therapeutic Models and Their Evolution

31:50 Milton Erickson's Innovative Techniques

36:07 The Pee Pipe Story

44:27 Self-Worth vs. Self-Esteem

52:46 The Rarity of Human Life

55:33 Humor and Therapy

57:09 Conclusion and Outtakes

Highlights:

;-) Certificates: Abdication of Responsibility, etc.

;-) Triangulation: The Wacky Therapy Game!

3 Rules for Guilt

Guilt vs. Shame

Brain Mechanics: Our 3 Brains (thinking, emotional, primitive)

CBT

The frozen locomotive

100K reps

We are slow, social learners vs. instinctual knowledge (cp to Pepper’s puppies)

The “Comma, Yet...”

Drawing: The Box

Solution Focus vs. watering the weeds

The Umbrella

Milton Erickson and the "Pee Pipe" story here.

Self-worth and self-esteem

;-) Certificate of Self-Esteem

Thought-stopping

;-) Product: Pee Pipe Kit

;-) Glutton for Punishment Certificate

Referenced Resources:

Guest Blogger: Gary Klein on Stress & Stuckness

Gary Klein, LCSW’s professional profile and contact info

Episode Notes

In this episode, part of The GREAT Relationship Masters Series (GR Masters), I talk to two sisters about their two marriages. My wife, Kara Sherman, and her sister, Kristen Sagers, giggle their way through sharing tips about having a successful marriage.

Highlights

01:58 Marriage Statistics and Realities

02:51 Examples of Good and Bad Marriages

05:16 Kristen's Marriage Story

08:29 Kara's Marriage Story

28:52 What They Like About Their Husbands

39:12 Reflecting on Personal Growth

39:41 The Importance of Communication in Marriage

46:06 Navigating Conflict and Anger

50:35 The Evolution of Love

59:16 Advice for Young Couples

01:10:00 The Role of Communication and Understanding

01:12:40 Final Thoughts on Marriage

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Episode Notes

In this episode, part of The GREAT Relationship Masters Series (GR Masters), I talk to two sisters about their two marriages. My wife, Kara Sherman, and her sister, Kristen Sagers, giggle their way through sharing tips about having a successful marriage.

Highlights

01:58 Marriage Statistics and Realities

02:51 Examples of Good and Bad Marriages

05:16 Kristen's Marriage Story

08:29 Kara's Marriage Story

28:52 What They Like About Their Husbands

39:12 Reflecting on Personal Growth

39:41 The Importance of Communication in Marriage

46:06 Navigating Conflict and Anger

50:35 The Evolution of Love

59:16 Advice for Young Couples

01:10:00 The Role of Communication and Understanding

01:12:40 Final Thoughts on Marriage

THE 7 PRINCIPLES FOR BUILDING STRONG FAMILIES Online Course and Workbook:

Get the book! Take the class! And start today to learn how to:

• RESOLVE conflict,

• IMPROVE communication,

• INCREASE bonding, and

• SECURE attachments with your partner and your kids.

My 7 Principles for Building Strong Families workbook and online course will help you, your partner, and your family overcome problems and create truly GREAT relationships that last a lifetime. Enroll today and get the workbook at RelateGREAT.net/strongfam

Remember: RelateGREAT! Podcast listeners get 20% off with promo code: STRONG20

Listen to “The Relate GREAT! Podcast with Jonathan Sherman & Friends” at RelateGREAT.net/podcast. I know a LOT of cool people who know a LOT of cool relationship and psych stuff!

Visit the podcast page for more: RelateGREAT.net/podcast

Listen to “The Relate GREAT! Podcast with Jonathan Sherman & Friends” at RelateGREAT.net/podcast. I know a LOT of cool people who know a LOT of cool relationship and psych stuff!

Visit the podcast page for more: RelateGREAT.net/podcast

Listen to “The Relate GREAT! Podcast with Jonathan Sherman & Friends” at RelateGREAT.net/podcast. I know a LOT of cool people who know a LOT of cool relationship stuff!