The Relationship Blueprint

Submission is not a word that most women like to hear. However, I think that it’s because it has been grossly misinterpreted in our marriages today.

Men and women are created equal but there cannot be two captains in a ship. The man is the head of the home and he is held accountable for the state of his home.

What does submission look like in a marriage?

It is interesting that the charge God gives men is to love their wives. This is one of the most revered statements in marriage but sometimes I wonder if this statement is really understood.

This statement is a high calling and a charge to men to lovingly lead their wives in a way that is humanly impossible.

If it is humanly impossible, then how can it be achieved?

Mathematicians of course will frown at this analogy. However we are not talking about mathematics, we are talking about matters of the heart. With the matters of the heart:

1 whole individual + 1 whole individual = 1 whole marriage.

The quality of a relationship is dependent on the quality of the individuals in that relationship.

The reason why are some relationships are in trouble is because the individuals are broken.

I have tried numerous times to define love.

My definitions have ranged from ‘love being a decision’ to ‘love being a deep feeling of

affection’.

Is love a feeling? Does it have anything to do with butterflies in our stomachs? Is it true, intense

and genuine affection? Can you truly love someone without feelings?

What really is true love?

One of the critical things to do before going into any relationship is to determine your deal breakers.

Deal breakers are things that you have identified in the course of your life that you need or you cannot bear to live with. For every individual, the deal-breakers are different and they have a great impact on our relationships.

Parenting is serious business and life is war. For you to achieve your dreams on earth, you need to know how to war. This means that our homes become the war room that prepare our children for the battle of life. How does this happen? Listen to find out more.

Many people think that after the wedding, the bride and the groom automatically get used to each other and become one.

However, we find out that adjustments don't just happen and things don't just fall into place. Becoming one is a process.

To learn how to truly  navigate the process of becoming one and operate fully in it, press play to listen now

Help, we are so different!!

If you've ever been in a relationship, these words must have been said or thought about.

We often find out that we are attracted to people completely different from us.

Men and women are different. People from different backgrounds are different and people with different personalities are different.

So how can a relationship work with all these variables?

This is the beginning of not just a new year but the beginning of a new decade. This year is going to be a phenomenal one with a lot of advancements in different areas of life.

Most people have set goals, put plans in place and are ready to do whatever it takes to make this year and decade count.

One area though that people fail to set goals in the area of relationships.

What are your relationship goals for 2020?

Christmas is here and this brings us to the last podcast for the year. This marks the end of one season of 13 episodes. Thank you so much for being a part of this journey.

A lot of activities are going on right now. People are trying to catch up on lost time, complete their shopping lists and plan vacations.

In all of these going on, please remember that Christmas is a good time to bond with family and build healthy relationships.

Christmas has no value without people to share it with.

How can we make this Christmas a time of meaning?