Ep 41 TRS -  “Moving Past Infidelity in Committed Relationships" - with guest Tony Davis, LMFT, AACAST

in this episode, Wendy and Jenni discuss ways individuals and couples can process, prevent, and move past infidelities in their committed relationships, with guest LA-based couples and sex therapist Tony Davis, LMFT.

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© Jenni J.V. Wilson 2018

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Guest:  

Tony Davis, LMFT

Web: CouplesTherapistLA.com

Email: [email protected]

Ph:  323/963-3183

SHOW MENTIONS & Resources -

AACAST - https://aacast.wildapricot.org/Staff

Dr. Walter Brackelmanns UCLA - http://www.askdrb.com/

Movies: The Women (1939), The Four Seasons (1981), When Harry Met Sally (1989),  

Books - 

Dr. Pat Allen “Getting To ‘I Do’”- http://www.drpatallen.com/

Eckhart Tolle “The Power of Now” - https://www.eckharttolle.com/books/now/

Cecilia Jetha and Christopher Ryan “Sex at Dawn” - https://chrisryanphd.com/about-sex-at-dawn/

David Schnarch “Passionate Marriage” - http://passionatemarriage.com/

Esther Perel “Mating In Captivity”- estherperel.com

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=P2AUat93a8Q

http://www.ted.com/talks/esther_perel_rethinking_infidelity_a_talk_for_anyone_who_has_ever_loved?language=en

Articles:

LA Times Opinion- Daryl Austin, “My Wife and I sleep in separate bedrooms . Our marriage (and sex life) have never been better.” -http://www.latimes.com/opinion/op-ed/la-oe-austin-separate-bedrooms-20180326-story.html

https://www.truthaboutdeception.com/community-features/ask-an-expert/questions-by-topic/infidelity/484-should-i-expose-someone-who-is-cheating.html

https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2016/jul/22/gay-dating-open-relationships-work-study

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/love-and-sex-in-the-digital-age/201703/after-cheating-restoring-relationship-trust

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/surviving-infidelity/201305/should-the-children-know-youve-had-affair

***Crisis Text line:  741741*** 

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MUSIC CUES -

Amy Winehouse - “Between the Cheats”

Beyonce - “Hold Up"

Al Green - “For The Good Times"

Ep 40 TRS - “Is there a relationship between Bullying, Suicide, & School Violence?" with guest Danielle Matthew, LMFT

What’s the relationship between Bullying, Suicide, & School Violence? In this episode Wendy and Jenni talk with Danielle Matthew, an LA-based marriage & family therapist and author of the book "The Empowered Child: How to Help Your Child Cope, Communicate, and Conquer Bullying” - based on The Empowerment Space, a recovery program Danielle founded that gives support to victims of bullying and their families.

© Jenni J.V. Wilson 2018

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***National Suicide Hotline:  800/273-8255 *** 

***TEEN LINE web: teenlineonline.org - Text: 839863 - Ph: 310/855-HOPE (4673) or 800/TLC-TEEN (nationwide toll free from 6pm to 10pm PST)***

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TRS GUEST - 

Guest:  

Danielle Matthew, LMFT

Web: empowerment.space

Tw: @dmatthewempower

Email: [email protected]

Ph:  818/267-4282

Book:  "The Empowered Child: How to Help Your Child Cope, Communicate, and Conquer Bullying"

SHOW MENTIONS  -

- Podcast - The Making of Oprah - https://www.npr.org/podcasts/500692140/making-oprah

***Crisis Text line:  741741*** 

***National Suicide Hotline:  800/273-8255 *** 

***TEEN LINE web: teenlineonline.org - Text: 839863 - Ph: 310/855-HOPE (4673) or 800/TLC-TEEN (nationwide toll free from 6pm to 10pm PST)***

MUSIC CUES -

The Smiths - The Headmaster’s Ritual

The Animals - “Don’t Let Me Be Misunderstood” 

Rachel Crowe - “Mean Girls"

Hunter Hayes - “Invisible”

Barenaked Ladies - “I Saw It”

Lady Gaga - “Born This Way”

Chaka Khan - “Every Woman”

Jill Scott - “Hate On Me”

Taylor Swift - “Mean” 

Ep 39 TRS - “Can Medical Cannabis Help People Heal & Connect in Relationships?" with guest Barbara Harris Whitfield

Can a Relationship with Cannabis Save You Some Drama or Maybe Just Save You?  With the recent implementation of recreational cannabis law in California, Wendy & Jenni met via Skype with Atlanta-based Cannabis-Advocate, Therapist, Author, and Consciousness Researcher Barbara Harris Whitfield, RT, CMT, to discuss how the Cannabis Community is evolving and the various medical uses cannabis might offer.

**Medical and recreational marijuana should be used responsibly and within the legal guidelines (21 y.o. and older).  Using marijuana is not for everyone and may exacerbate preexisting mental and physical health conditions - before imbibing, please consult with your physician, prescribing psychiatrist, and/or recovery case manager about whether or not cannabis might be the right choice for you. **

© Jenni J.V. Wilson 2018

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https://www.dea.gov/druginfo/drug_data_sheets/Marijuana.pdf

The Exhaustive Lit of Everyone Who’s Died of A Marijuana Overdose

https://www.huffingtonpost.com/entry/marijuana-lethal-dose_us_58f4ec07e4b0b9e9848d6297

TRS GUEST - 

Guest:  

Barbara Harris Whitfield (with Charles L. Whitfield, MD)

Web:  http://www.barbara-whitfield.com/

Blog:  http://barbara-whitfield.blogspot.com/

Books:  "The Secrets of Medicinal Marijuana: A Guide for Patients and Those Who Care for Them"

SHOW MENTIONS  -

- Dr. Charles Whitfield - "Healing The Child Within"

- Raphael Mechoulam - https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Raphael_Mechoulam

- Documentary “The Scientist” - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oQDJi6Jb8d4&feature=youtu.be&list=PL-j8DfzPFwK04Fp980VJW6f6g1aC1nlRL

- “Cheech & Chong: Up In Smoke” - 

- https://auntzeldas.org/

- http://pineapplemag.com/

- https://www.learngreenflower.com/

- Podcast - Shrink Rap radio ep #506 - http://shrinkrapradio.com/506-exploring-the-medicinal-and-spiritual-potential-of-marijuana-with-barbara-harris/

- http://www.maps.org/

- https://mjbizdaily.com/ -  Chris Walsh - Vice President, Editorial & Strategic Development

- Bruce Greyson - https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Bruce_Greyson

- Sasha Shulgin- https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Alexander_Shulgin

- Elizabeth Kubler Ross - http://www.ekrfoundation.org/

- Bonnie Greenwell - http://www.kundaliniguide.com/

- Ken Ring “Heading Toward Omega” and “Lessons from the Light"

MUSIC CUES -

Sublime - “Smoke Two Joints”

Snoop Lion - “Smoke The Weed" (Feat: Collie Buddz”)

Willie Nelson - “It’s All Going to Pot”

Amy Winehouse - “Addicted"

Ep 38 TRS - “2018 Time For Change”

https://www.timesupnow.com/

Eight days into 2018, the morning after the Golden Globes aired, Wendy and Jenni sat down to talk about the Time’s Up and #MeToo Movements, 2018 as a “Year of Change”, and what’s easy or hard about making those big or small changes that we all dream about in our daily life.  Hop on board as they ride that tangent train through topics like: what it was like for Dr. Wendy to meet Mariah Carey, an Oprah Presidency, Aging Gracefully or Aging Tight, Meditation Pitfalls, and that actor who wouldn’t take a photo with Dr. Wendy!  

© Jenni J.V. Wilson 2017

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SHOW MENTIONS  -

- #TimesUp - https://www.timesupnow.com/

- #MeToo 

-TV Shows Mentioned: “Better Late Than Never”, “Locked Up”, "Scared Straight”, “Big Little Lies”, "Late Night with Seth Meyers

- “Five” on Lifetime - 2011 season - http://www.imdb.com/title/tt1877740/

- “El Chapo” documentary on Netflix - https://www.netflix.com/title/80184569 

- Movies Mentioned: Three Billboards outside Ebbing Missouri, Mr. & Mrs. Smith

- The Magic Pan 

- Podcast - TRS ep # - “The Wise Bamboo Bends” January 2017

- Rashida Jones

- "Fire & Fury" by Michael Wolff

- Frances McDormand - Getty Images - http://www.etonline.com/frances-mcdormand-gets-political-talks-tequila-after-winning-golden-globe-best-drama-actress-93788

 & https://www.goldenglobes.com/person/frances-mcdormand

- Kris Jenner - http://people.com/style/kris-jenner-debuts-new-blonde-pixie-cut/

- David Cassidy “So much wasted time” http://abcnews.go.com/Entertainment/david-cassidys-daughter-reveals-final-words/story?id=51377243

MUSIC CUES -

Tears for Fears - “Change"

Milt Jackson Quartet - “The Lady is a Tramp”

Ann-Margaret - “There’ll Be Some Changes Made"

Ep 37 TRS - “Navigating a Politically-Charged Holiday Season” -

***Crisis Text line:  741741 ***National Suicide Hotline:  800/273-8255 ***

How do we navigate a nerve-wracking politically-charged holiday season when everyone is on edge and telling you to be of good cheer? Encouraging everyone to stay open and be their authentic selves, Wendy and Jenni wrap up 2017 with some tips on how to stay festive while avoiding end-of-year Anxiety Traps around family or work gatherings, break-ups, addictions, loneliness, and gift-giving.  

© Jenni J.V. Wilson 2017

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SHOW MENTIONS  -

- Films: Roman J. Israel, Esq.  

- Podcast - Crooked Media’s “Pod Save America"

MUSIC CUES -

Bangles - “Hazy Shade of Winter”

Mariah Carey - “All I Want For Christmas Is You"

Band Aid - “(Feed The World) Do They Know It’s Christmas Time”

Shaggy - “It Wasn’t Me” 

Michael Buble - “All I Want For Christmas”

John Lennon - “Happy Christmas (War is Over)” 

Ep 36 TRS - “Halloween, Haunted Houses, and Horror Flicks: Our Relationship to Sex and Death”

Tis the beginning of the season, and Wendy and Jenni are falling in love with all things Fall.  They're talking Halloween, Haunted Houses, and Horror Flicks.   They're talking sex and death, and also... Donny Osmond?

© Jenni J.V. Wilson 2017

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SHOW MENTIONS  -

- Films: The Shining, Faces of Death,, Halloween, Friday the 13th, The Mountain Between Us, National Velvet, 13 Reasons Why 

- Clip: Eddie Murphy - “Delirious"

- Sensation Seeker Quiz - http://hsperson.com/test/high-sensation-seeking-test/

- Universal City Horror Nights

- Theories: Dispositional Alignment Theory, The Hedonic Paradox, Excitation Transfer Process/Theory - Dr. Dolf Zillman, Snuggle Theory

- Theatre: Sleep No More - NYC

MUSIC CUES -

The Smiths - “There is a Light and it Never Goes Out”

Linkin Park - “What I’ve done” 

Donny Osmond - “Puppy Love"

Dead Man’s Bones - “My Body’s a Zombie For You” 

Bobby Pickett - “Monster Mash"

Ep 35 TRS - “Harvey Weinstein, Hollywood, and Our Culture's Relationship to Unwanted Sexual Advances”

**If you or someone you know are looking for more information or support - please contact RAINN.ORG - the largest anti-sexual violence organization - and their 24/7 support line at 800/656-HOPE (4673)**

Wendy and Jenni talk with Wendy’s pal “Jill Anonymous” about the Harvey Weinstein story.  They look at pieces of Hollywood’s epidemic of bad behaviors, and how it reflects longstanding dysfunctional cultural attitudes.  This is a conversation exploring the psychological aspects of sexual harassment, intimidation, assault and rape, as well as the reasons why so many people have been scared to talk about it for so long.

© Jenni J.V. Wilson 2017

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TRS GUEST - 

Guest: "Anonymous Jill"

SHOW MENTIONS  -

- RAINN.org

- 24/7 Hotline - 800/656-HOPE (

- https://www.nytimes.com/2017/10/10/us/harvey-weinstein-accusations.html

MUSIC CUES -

Gin Wigmore - “Kill of the Night"

Peggy Lee  - “I’m a Woman”

The Love Boat Theme

Dolly Parton - “Here You Come Again"

Garbage - “Breaking Up The Girl"

Ep 34 TRS - “Our Relationship to Money, with Financial Stress Reduction Coach Chellie Campbell”

Wendy and Jenni talk to Financial Stress Reduction Coach, Chellie Campbell.  Chellie created the acclaimed Financial Stress Reduction Telecourse and Workshops, which are taught across the country. She is a highly sought after speaker who has written several books including: The Wealthy Spirit, Zero to Zillionaire: 8 Foolproof Steps to Financial Peace of Mind, and From Worry to Wealthy: A Woman’s Guide to Financial Success Without the Stress.

© Jenni J.V. Wilson 2017

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TRS GUEST - 

Guest:  Chellie Campbell

Web:  www.Chellie.com

Tw: @ChellieCampbell

insta: @ChellieCampbell

FB: facebook.com/chellicampbell

Email: [email protected]

SHOW MENTIONS  -

- Chellie Campbell - “The Wealthy Spirit”

https://www.amazon.com/Wealthy-Spirit-Affirmations-Financial-Reduction/dp/157071777X

- Chellie Campbell - “Zero to Zillionaire: 8 Foolproof Steps to Financial Peace of Mind”

https://www.amazon.com/Zero-Zillionaire-Foolproof-Steps-Financial/dp/1402206194

- Chellie Campbell - “From Worry To Wealthy: A Woman’s Guide to Financial Success Without the Stress”

https://www.amazon.com/Worry-Wealthy-Financial-Success-Without/dp/1492604801

- Chellie Campbell Resource Page

http://www.chellie.com/resources/

- Judy Dench - “And Furthermore…”

https://www.amazon.com/Furthermore-Judi-Dench/dp/1250002141

-Manuel J. Smith -  "When I Say No I Feel Guilty” 

https://www.amazon.com/When-Say-No-Feel-Guilty/dp/0553263900

- Tony Robbins - TonyRobbins.com

-  Dave Ramsey - DaveRamsey.com

- Suze Orman - SuzeOrman.com

MUSIC CUES -

Sharon Jones and The Dap Kings - “Money”

Titanic - “My Heart Will Go On”

Willie Nelson - “It’s Only Money"

Cabaret - “Money"

Ep 33 TRS -“Sandra Fischer’s Relationship Reveal"

Wendy and Jenni talk to writer and consultant Sandra Fischer about Relationship Reveal - a game/tool Sandra created to help people identify and develop core competencies essential in intimate relationships.  Relationship Reveal can be used for discovery, skill-building, and personal growth.

© Jenni J.V. Wilson 2017

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TRS GUEST - 

Guest:  

Sandra Fischer

Web:  RelationshipReveal.com

SandraKFischer.com

Tw: @skfischersea

FB: facebook.com/Sandra-Fischer-230911257066332/

Email: [email protected]

SHOW MENTIONS  -

- Myers-Briggs - MBTI - http://www.myersbriggs.org/my-mbti-personality-type/mbti-basics/home.htm?bhcp=1

"Myers-Briggs” Type/MBTI-like Tests (unofficial): 

http://www.humanmetrics.com/cgi-win/jtypes2.asp

http://personality-testing.info/tests/OEJTS/

- Enneagram - https://www.enneagraminstitute.com/

- Disc program - https://www.discprofile.com/what-is-disc/overview/

-  Mark Manson - “Every Successful Relationship is Successful for the Same Exact Reasons” https://markmanson.net/relationship-advice

- Brene Brown - "Daring Greatly"

http://brenebrown.com/

- David Schnarch - "Passionate Marriage"

http://passionatemarriage.com/

- John Gottman w/Nan Silver - “The 7 Principles for Making Marriage Work” and 

 “What Makes Love Last?: How to Build Trust and Avoid Betrayal”

https://www.gottman.com/couples/

- Gary Chapman - “The 5 Love Languages:  The Secret to Love that Lasts"

http://www.5lovelanguages.com/ 

- Harville Hendrix and Helen Lakelly Hunt -  “Getting The Love You Want:  A Guide For Couples” http://www.harvillehendrix.com/

-Dr. Sue Johnson - "Hold Me Tight"

http://www.drsuejohnson.com/books/hold-me-tight/

- Jenny Block - “Open: Love, Sex, & Life in an Open Marriage"

http://thejennyblock.com/open-marriage/

MUSIC CUES -

Clifford Brown - “What is This Thing Called Love”

Salt N Pepa - “Let’s Talk About Sex"

Joni Mitchell - “Jericho"

Ep 32 - "The Netflix Series 13 Reasons Why:  Relating to Teen Suicide, Depression, and the Cruelty of Youth"

Wendy and Jenni talk about the Netflix series 13 Reasons Why, sharing some things to know about teen suicide, depression, and how parents and kids can survive the cruelty of youth.

**WARNING - Note the “E” for explicit content.  This episode contains an intense and potentially triggering conversation regarding suicide, depression, and sexual assault.  Please consider skipping this episode if you are sensitive to these topics.  Even if you feel otherwise in this moment, do not forget that you are important, loved, and not alone - there is support out there.**

24/7 National Suicide Hotline - 800/273-TALK (800/273-8255)

Crisis/Suicide Text Line - 741741

LGBTQ crisis/suicide 24/7 hotline - 866/488-7386

Teen Line LA -  310/855-4673, text TEEN to 839863

© Jenni J.V. Wilson 2017

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SHOW MENTIONS  -

-Crisis Text Line - http://www.crisistextline.org/how-it-works/ - 741741

- National Suicide Prevention - https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org/ - 800/273-TALK (800/273-8255)

- LGBTQ hotline - http://www.thetrevorproject.org/ - 866/488-7386

- Teen Line LA - https://teenlineonline.org/ - 310/855-4673, text TEEN to 839863

-National Alliance of Mental illness Los Angeles - crisis hotlines & hospitals -  http://namila.org/crisis-hotlines-hospitals/

- Balanced Mind Parent Network - http://www.dbsalliance.org/site/PageServer?pagename=bmpn_landing

- The Jason Foundation - http://jasonfoundation.com/

- Thirteen Reasons Why - by Jay Asher

https://www.amazon.com/Thirteen-Reasons-Why-Jay-Asher/dp/159514188X

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Thirteen_Reasons_Why

- 13 Reasons Why - Netflix - https://www.netflix.com/title/80117470

- “The Teen Brain” - by Debra Bradley Ruder

http://harvardmagazine.com/2008/09/the-teen-brain.html

-"The Teenage Brain Explained” - video - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hiduiTq1ei8

- IMPACT LA self-defense training - http://www.impactpersonalsafety.com/

- "Parents of Suicidal Teens say they feel alone” - by Jody Allard  https://www.washingtonpost.com/news/parenting/wp/2016/04/25/parents-of-suicidal-teens-say-they-feel-alone-here-are-resources-to-help/?utm_term=.4a82f9dc7c8d

- "10 Things Parents Can do to Prevent Suicide" - https://www.healthychildren.org/English/health-issues/conditions/emotional-problems/Pages/Ten-Things-Parents-Can-Do-to-Prevent-Suicide.aspx 

MUSIC CUES -

Joy Division - “Love Will Tear Us Apart”

Cristina Aguilara - “Genie in a Bottle"

Ariana Grande - “Be Alright"

Steven Sondheim - Into The Woods - “Finale”