Do you know someone like this?

Someone who proudly proclaims "I don't care what anyone thinks!"

Do you wish you could be a little bit more like that?

Here's a secret - unless you're a narcissist or a sociopath, you're ALWAYS going to have some worry about what other people think of you, or how other people perceive you.  That's simply a natural human tendency, and you should never try to rid yourself of it.  What's important, though, is to not let yourself become consumed by that worry.

In this episode, we look at the idea of "I don't care what anyone thinks" - we'll explore some ways we can still care, but not let the fear control us.

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So much about personal development revolves around talk of the "self."  Self help, self esteem, self love, self development...you get it!

I don't dispute that we all need to focus on ourselves. 

However, one thing that tends to get overlooked in working on the "self" is simple self-awareness.  Getting out of our heads, seeing how we interact with others, being conscious of our thought patterns, understanding how our pasts govern our present actions - that is all self-awareness.  And without that, focusing on our "selfs" tends to lead us down a path toward becoming more self-centered, not enlightened.

In this episode, we explore the idea of self-awareness, along with several methods for developing our sense of it.

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As a tattoo artist, I see and hear...a LOT.

I love my clients and value their trust in me.  I hold their confidence close to my heart.  

This past week, I've heard a lot of anger.  A lot of rage.  Frustration.  Fear.

Look, I get it.  We all need to get our feelings out in the open - it's never good to keep strong emotions bottled up.  But is it a good idea to vent our rage to anyone who will listen?  Or, to someone who hasn't consented to listen?  How productive of an action is this?

In this episode, I look at more constructive strategies to deal with our frustrations and anger, rather than letting ourselves be controlled by hysteria, which is never good.  If we truly want to change the state of the world, we need to come from a mentally healthy place ourselves.

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When someone asks your opinion on what to want to do, where you want to go out to eat, or what you want to watch, are you the person who says "whatever you want?"  Are you the type to "go with the flow," rather than face any sort of confrontation or disagreement?

If so, you're not alone.

In my 15+ year career as a tattoo artist, I see this all the time with clients when I ask for their opinion on a tattoo I might be designing for them.  "Oh, whatever you want, you're the artist."

No, no, no.

Saying this phrase is powerful, as are all of our words!  "Whatever you want" implies that what YOU really want doesn't matter.  That your opinions aren't important.  In this episode, we explore this relatively innocuous phrase and look at how it impacts the larger decisions in our lives.  Don't be that person who never expresses your own wants or needs or desires!

Book mentioned in this episode: The Top Five Regrets of the Dying.

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As humans, why is it that we often make things harder on ourselves than we need to?

Maybe it's an evolutionary characteristic - this phenomenon humans have to focus on things that are awful or negative or terrible or tragic to the exclusion of GOOD things happening around us.  We keep an eye out for the bad things possibly so that we can avoid them, fair!  But, we also get caught up.  We talk about these things to anyone who will listen.  And frequently, we complain.

A lot.

In this episode, I'll challenge you to stop making yourself miserable by complaining about things that you have ZERO power over.  And I'll also give you some strategies for learning to change the things you CAN.

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Are you someone who constantly worries about something bad lurking around the corner?  Even if things in your life are going well, do you anticipate a bad thing happening soon to throw you off course?

If so, you're not alone.  It's a common human tendency to anticipate the negative, for sure!

In this episode, we explore this tendency.  We'll look at the reasons WHY we do this, and ways in which we can avoid getting stuck in a bad case of the "what ifs."  Constantly looking out for the worst case scenario causes us to miss out on what is right in front of us - this present moment.  And given that our most precious resource is our TIME, why would we waste that on something that may not ever happen?

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One of the great wonders of the human spirit is our adaptability in order to survive.  Humans can literally get used to anything - both good and bad.  Familiarity simply becomes our normal, and it can be difficult to visualize what life could be like in another context.

In this episode, we explore the idea of "life inertia."  We'll take a look at HOW we get used to sub-optimal physical, emotional, and psychological environments, and ways in which we can shake things up for change.  I truly believe that one day we can all look back and question: how did I ever live like that?

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There is one thing in life we can't get more of, we can't change, we can't speed up, and we can't slow down.  It is the one FINITE resource in this world, and for that reason, it really is the most valuable resource we do have.  That resource is TIME.

In this episode, we explore the concept of time as well as the idea of how we spend our time reflects our inner mindset.  We'll go into some methods for self-assessing how we illustrate our priorities through time spent, as well as ways to learn how to be more in the moment.  Because - after all - this present moment is the ONE THING truly in our grasp.

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So much of many personal growth podcasts - including this one - involves advice on how to do MORE.  On how to achieve MORE.  On how to set MORE goals and move toward them.

If you were looking for that in THIS episode, think again.

It's a truth we have to accept - no one can do it all.  You're human.  There are a finite number of hours in the day.

In this episode, we look at this hard reality, not in a "doom and gloom" way, but in a liberating way!  We'll explore some strategies to avoid burnout and to learn how to prioritize what WE need for self care.  Want permission to give yourself some space?  Here you go!

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