The Second Time Around

This episode is the start of something special: The Perfect Ten Month—a celebration of 10 years of love, faith, growth, and grace.

In Part 1, LaShan takes a moment to reflect and reveal the 10 moments that shaped this marriage and molded this ministry of love. This isn’t just a timeline—it’s a testimony. These moments are the quiet shifts, the major milestones, and the divine intersections that took “me and you” and transformed it into “us.”

These are the joys and the pains.

Together, we journey through:

We couldn’t possibly name them all—but these are the moments that stand out. The ones that remind us why we said yes—and why we keep saying it.

So whether you're newly married, dreaming of your second time around, or deep in your own journey of love, this episode offers something tender, real, and spiritually rich.

Because ten years in, we don’t just celebrate what we’ve endured—we honor what we’ve become.

The Second Time Around Podcast – Season 2, Episode 13

🎶 “With all my heart, I love you baby…” – Anita Baker, Sweet Love (1986)

This one’s for the couples learning that love isn’t just sweet—it’s sacrificial. That real love doesn’t just celebrate the best in each other… it covers the worst with grace.

In this episode, we explore what it means to truly cover your partner; emotionally, spiritually, and relationally. We talk about those moments when the other person drops the ball, struggles silently, or simply doesn’t show up the way you hoped—and how grace can hold the line when frustration wants to take over.

We share:

This one is tender, transparent, and full of truth for anyone who’s learning to love in real time—not with perfection, but with patience.

Because the second time around? It’s not just about loving each other—it’s about covering each other.

🎶 “Joy and pain... like sunshine and rain.” – Frankie Beverly & Maze (1980)

Let’s be real—marriage isn’t always magic. Sometimes it’s messy, mundane, and full of moments that test your heart and stretch your faith. But even in those everyday tensions, grace still shows up.

In this episode, we talk about how we’re learning to find God’s grace in the ordinary, not just the “Instagram-worthy” moments. From early morning chaos to late-night misunderstandings, we explore how joy and pain coexist—and how love matures in both.

We get into:

This one’s for every couple who knows that love isn’t all sunshine—but it sure is worth the rain. Because the second time around? We’re not chasing perfection—we’re choosing grace.

🎶 “Anytime… anyplace… I don’t care who’s around…” – Janet Jackson (1993)

Let’s talk about grown love—the kind that still flirts, still surprises, and still gets butterflies… even after bills, babies, and busy schedules.

In this episode, we explore what it takes to keep romance alive and fun flowing in a committed, God-centered marriage. It’s not about being perfect—it’s about being present, playful, and intentional. Because passion fades when you stop pursuing each other.

We open up about:

This episode is your reminder that love doesn’t have to lose its spark. Whether you’re 5 years in or freshly remarried, you can still desire each other—on purpose.

Because the second time around just hits different...

🎶 “Like sweet morning dew, I took one look at you… and it was plain to see, you were my destiny.” – Mary J. Blige & Method Man (1995)

This week, we’re talkin’ about that ride-or-die, God-ordained, built-for-purpose kind of love. The kind that doesn’t just survive life—it builds legacy through it.

In this episode, we unpack what it really means to walk in Kingdom purpose as a couple. This isn’t about being perfect—it’s about being positioned. When God joins two people together, the assignment is bigger than bills and bedroom vibes. It’s about impact, influence, and intimacy that honors heaven.

We share:

This one’s for the couples who know that being “in love” is sweet—but being in purpose? That’s where the oil is.

Because the second time around? You’re not just my partner—you’re my purpose.

🎶 “You’re all I like, you’re all I want, you’re all I need, you’re all I love.” – Guy

This week, we’re drawing from a New Jack Swing classic and a timeless truth: when love is real, you fight for it… with faith.

In this episode, we discuss how prayer became our lifeline during the challenging seasons of our marriage, the moments when communication broke down. When grief hit, when life got heavy, and when loving each other didn’t feel easy, but we knew it was still worth it.

We open up about:

💬 Praying for your partner when they feel far

💬 Praying with your partner when life feels hard

💬 How to invite God into tension—not just triumph

💬 What it looks like to stay aligned spiritually when your emotions are off

This one’s for every couple who has had to pray through the storm and every believer wondering if God still hears them in the silence.

The second time around? It’s not just love that keeps us; it’s prayer that carries us.

🎶 “No more pain… no more drama in my life…” – Mary J. Blige (2001)

This week, we’re not just quoting the Queen—we’re living the lyrics.

In this episode, we’re talkin’ all about boundaries—not the buzzword, but the biblical blueprint that helps protect your peace and preserve your relationship. Because you can’t build real love in chaos... and you sure can’t grow in God when your heart’s full of noise.

We open up about:

This one is for the couple (or the individual) who’s ready to choose wholeness over dysfunction. No more playing tug-of-war with your sanity. No more bending until you break.

The second time around? We’re protecting our peace—and it’s not up for negotiation.

🎶 “Slow down, baby… lovin’ ain’t going nowhere…” – Mary J. Blige, What’s the 411? (1992)

Mary said it best. Real love takes time, especially when you’re learning to trust again.

In this episode, we open up about what it really took to rebuild trust in our marriage, after carrying the scars of past hurts and our own missteps. From honesty and emotional safety to prayer and patience, we share what it looks like to move at the pace of grace, not pressure.

We get into:

With scripture, laughs, and complete transparency, we remind you: trust is fragile but not impossible, and when God is in it, it’s worth the work.

Whether you’re starting over, healing from heartbreak, or learning to love again, this is your invitation to slow it down and let trust grow.

🎶 “All this love is waiting for you…”

In this episode, we’re opening up about how we found our way back to love after heartbreak—and how God gave us the grace to heal, forgive, and try again. It wasn’t easy. Trust had to be rebuilt. Pride had to fall. And faith had to lead the way.

We get into:

We also share the little “God winks” that reminded us we weren’t alone, and how love—when it’s rooted in Him—can feel like home.

Whether you’re single, married, or somewhere in between, this is your reminder: you’re never too broken for the kind of love you deserve.

🎶 “We laugh just a little too loud… stand just a little too close…”

In this episode, we get real, and really funny, about the quirks, inside jokes, and “you had to be there” moments that make our marriage what it is. But it’s not all laughs. We also discuss the learning curves that come with a second marriage, including trust, vulnerability, and learning to lean into each other, even when it’s hard.

We’ll share:

Whether you’re building something new, a veteran couple, or figuring it out again, this one’s for anyone who knows that love takes work—and is worth it.