The Seflish Experiment

001. Your crippling anxiety doesn’t have you in a chokehold anymore

2025 brought me to my knees and if that wasn’t enough, it dragged me through the mud. Every bone in my body wanted to give up, to succumb to a hoa hoa timelapse (yes, that scene where Bella stares out the window while the seasons change). But there was ONE thing that kept my head above water: dance. For 3600 seconds, my thoughts belonged to the present. Nothing else mattered.

002. You start reclaiming that “yeah I can do anything” belief you had as a kid

At some point, someone told me I “couldn’t.” “You’re too FAt to lOOk graceful.” “You’re too clumsy, you’ll fall.” “You’re too slow, you won’t pick up the choreo.” For a decade (or 2), I believed it. It bled into everything I touched. But through dance, I finally hear the voice that’s been gagged for years. Little Colleen whispering, “you can do it, I believe in you.”

003. You start thinking you’re sexy even when you haven’t hit your “best” weight

For as long as I can remember eating (I KNOWWW), my body grossed me out. Even when I was my thinnest. My body never felt like it belonged to me. I felt like an Airbnb guest desperate to leave but couldn’t. But for the first time this year, I looked at the mirror and thought “heyyyy, I look sexy.” Even though I’m farrrrr from my weight goal.

So the next time your friend gushes about her dance class, LET HER.

You don’t know what it saved her from.

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A free 3-day podcast to help you reset your relationship with messaging, purge the “shoulds” that make your Work of Heart small and remember what actually gives you an EDGE.

If you want the supporting video trainings jump inside HERE to scoop ‘em up along with your FREE Notion Dashboard <3

A free 3-day podcast to help you reset your relationship with messaging, purge the “shoulds” that make your Work of Heart small and remember what actually gives you an EDGE.

If you want the supporting video trainings jump inside HERE to scoop ‘em up along with your FREE Notion Dashboard <3

What if being selfish was actually the most generous thing you could do? After a human design reading revealed my "selfishness superpower," I realized I'd been apologizing for choosing myself my entire life. Plot twist: I'm done apologizing.

In this episode, we cover:

* The human design reading that flipped my entire relationship with the word "selfish"

* Why my sisters borrowing my clothes felt like they were literally wearing my skin

* How my "Plug and Slay" offer worked because I said f*ck the industry norms

* The selfish decision to turn down easy copywriting money (and why it felt revolutionary)

* What I'm experimenting with: better friendships, business offers, and daily choices

* Your first assignment: the one question that will change how you make every decision

* Why choosing yourself isn't selfish—it's actually the most selfless thing you can do

This isn't about becoming a narcissist or burning bridges. It's about testing the radical idea that when you get selfish, everyone wins. Consider this your permission slip to choose yourself first.

Welcome to The Selfish Experiment….let's find out what happens when we trust ourselves more than everyone else's opinions.

And if you try your own selfish experiment this week, slide into my DMs @seflsihyexpressed - I'm dying to hear what happens!

Ever tried to “find your niche” or “position your offer” using a tidy little quadrant — only to feel like you were shrinking yourself just to fit?

This episode is for the multi-modality, multi-dimensional entrepreneur. The one who doesn’t do one-size-fits-all. The one whose work doesn’t sit neatly on a shelf next to a Dove soap because it was lived, not manufactured.

We’re pulling apart the business-school fav: the positioning map and exploring why it falls flat when applied to humans, not products.

And more importantly?

Your Embodied How — the uncopyable lens that shapes your work and makes your message antifragile.

You’ll learn:

* Why traditional positioning fails multi-dimensional baddies

* What makes a message truly unforgettable (hint: not your niche)

* One potent reflection question to anchor your offer in lived experience, not market gaps

If something in you is stirring , if you’re starting to suspect your message was never meant to “fit in” , this conversation is the beginning.

And if that seed feels ready to deepen, you’ll want to check out my mini-course:

🎨 The Messaging Artist Is You — This is for the experienced, multidimensional entrepreneur who’s done the mindset work, mastered her craft, and is now ready to be known for what only she can do.

JOIN HERE

In this episode, I share a personal story that unexpectedly clarified one of the most important concepts in messaging: Embodied How.

You’ll hear how a weekend home organization project (yes, really) turned into a full-body aha about why some programs stick and others don’t and how that insight directly connects to how we message our own work.

We’ll talk about:

* Why the Marie Kondo method didn’t stick for us (and it’s not what you think)

* What made the Clutterbug approach totally different

* How clearly articulating your Embodied “How” creates excitement and follow-through

* What this taught me about my own messaging — and my clients’

If you’ve got great ideas, strong offers, and deep client results but still feel like your messaging doesn’t quite capture the heart of what you do this story might help you see the missing piece.

And if you’re ready to name your own Embodied How — and turn it into messaging that actually sticks — UnNiched is where I help you do just that.

It’s for baddies who are ready to stop shrinking their voice to fit the box that made them $$$ — and finally articulate the message that brings both the money and the meaning.

Apply to UnNiched here — I’d love to hear what you’re sitting on.

Mentioned:

* Clutterbug Quiz — find your organizing personality

Thanks for listening, and I’ll catch you next week!

Your message built your business.

But what happens when that message starts to feel… too small?

In this episode, I take you behind the scenes of my own messaging evolution — through three real iterations I’ve used in the past year.

I’m sharing the actual language, the thinking behind each shift, and the questions that helped me realise I’d outgrown parts of my own messaging.

This isn’t a step-by-step guide. It’s a real-time reflection. And a reminder that:

* It’s okay to change.

* It’s okay to let go of what used to work.

* And it’s more than okay to want a message that brings both money and meaning.

Whether you're in a pivot, a plateau, or simply craving more alignment in how you talk about your work, this episode will help you see that clarity isn't always a 60 minute power hour (iykyk). Sometimes, it's a breadcrumb trail.

Your Next Steps

Grab the mini course >> https://app.paperbell.com/checkout/packages/148859

Apply for UnNiched >> https://app.paperbell.com/checkout/packages/148025

If you're a successful coach or consultant who's noticed that your messaging feels forced, your sales conversations feel harder, and you're attracting clients who need way too much hand-holding, this episode reveals what's really going on.

In this episode, I break down the three telltale signs you're operating from "convincing energy" - that subtle desperation that creeps into your messaging when you're trying to prove your worth instead of simply owning it. We explore why promising to "save" people actually attracts energy-draining clients, how buzzwords like "high-touch" reveal uncertainty about your value, and why constantly proclaiming how different you are backfires with discerning buyers.

I share why convincing energy is actually a symptom of old conditioning that taught us we need to earn our place, and how high-value clients can sense this energy immediately. You'll discover the difference between strategic partnership and savior positioning, why quality clients don't need every detail of your process explained, and how to shift from proving your value to simply embodying it.

This isn't about overhauling your entire approach - it's about recognizing where old patterns of convincing are sabotaging your ability to attract clients who are excited to work with you. Because when you stop trying to convince people of your worth and start trusting that the right people will simply know, everything changes.

Your expertise deserves to be received by people who recognize its value immediately, and it's time to let go of the convincing energy that's keeping your best clients at arm's length.

If you're an established coach, healer, or transformational leader wondering why your proven messaging suddenly feels... off, this episode is for you.

In this episode, I explore why buyer behavior has shifted and why the messaging that got you here isn't the messaging that will take you where you're going next. We dive into the critical difference between explaining what you do versus why it matters, and why your messaging hasn't caught up with your evolution.

I share why I chose "Messaging State of Mind" over "Decoded"—because authentic messaging isn't a puzzle to solve once, it's a state to maintain. You'll discover why "sell them what they want, not what they need" is actually sabotaging your hottest leads, and how today's discerning buyers want to be seen for who they're becoming, not just validated for where they are.

This isn't about throwing away what you've built—it's about recognizing which pieces of your messaging foundation need to evolve for where you're going next. Because you can't keep trying to go viral off a version of you that worked five years ago.

Your evolution deserves a voice, and it's time to recalibrate your messaging to match the depth of who you've become.