The Self-Coaching Club: Turn your ”Inner Bully” into a Trusted Ally

After 110 episodes, it’s time to close the chapter on The Self-Coaching Club Podcast—and make room for something new. 🩷

In this final episode, I’m reflecting on what these conversations have meant to me, what I hope you’ll carry with you, and why I believe inner work was never meant to become another way to constantly “fix” ourselves.

The goal is to know ourselves better, offer ourselves grace, make more intentional choices—and then go live our lives.

We’ll talk about trusting what you’ve learned, remembering that you know more than you think you do, and having the courage to recognize when it’s time for a new season.

I’m also sharing what’s next: my new podcast, Room for More with Mercy Rice.

Because maybe the question isn’t always:

What do I need to work on next?

Maybe sometimes the better question is:

What am I ready to make room for?

More joy.

You don’t have to be unhappy with your life to want something more.

You can be deeply grateful for where you are and still be curious about where you’re going.

As we close this chapter, take some time to ask yourself:

What am I ready to make room for?

You don’t need a plan yet.

Just notice your answer.

Thank you for listening, growing, laughing, reflecting, and doing your own inner work alongside me for these 110 episodes.

The Self-Coaching Club may be ending, but the conversation isn’t.

The best is yet to come.

Let’s make room for more. 🩷

Let's stay connected: www.mercyrice.com

Have you ever continued with something mostly because you'd already told everyone you were going to do it?

Changing our minds can feel like failure—but sometimes it's simply evidence that we've learned something.

In this episode of The Self-Coaching Club Podcast, we're talking about giving ourselves permission to reconsider decisions, goals, plans, and even things we once felt certain we wanted.

Changing your mind doesn't necessarily mean the original choice was wrong. Sometimes you've simply gained information you couldn't have had before.

If you're reconsidering something, ask:

If nobody else knew about my original decision, what would I choose now?

Am I changing my mind because this is uncomfortable—or because something has genuinely changed?

What do I know now that I didn't know then?

Then take it to God and ask for clarity—not simply confirmation.

You don't have to criticize who you were in order to honor who you're becoming.

You're allowed to learn.

You're allowed to grow.

And you're allowed to choose again. 🩷

What if the reason you can't figure something out is simply because there isn't enough information yet?

We often believe peace will come once we have the answer, make the decision, understand what happened, or know how everything is going to turn out.

But emotional peace doesn't require certainty.

In this episode of The Self-Coaching Club Podcast, we're exploring what it looks like to live well in the space between the question and the answer—and how to recognize when thoughtful reflection has quietly turned into rumination.

We'll talk about:

Choose one situation you're currently trying to figure out and divide a journal page into three sections:

WHAT I KNOW

WHAT I DON'T KNOW

MY NEXT STEP

Then ask:

What would change if I believed I didn't have to know yet?

You don't have to solve tomorrow to experience peace today. You don't need the whole map. You need enough light for the next faithful step. 🩷

Why is it so easy to extend grace to everyone else—and so difficult to offer that same grace to ourselves?

In this episode of The Self-Coaching Club, we're talking about self-compassion as an emotional regulation skill and why shame isn't nearly as effective a motivator as we sometimes think it is.

Self-compassion doesn't mean ignoring mistakes, making excuses, or lowering your standards. It means learning to tell yourself the truth without turning every mistake into an indictment of who you are.

We explore the difference between accountability and shame, why “I should know better by now” can keep us stuck, how faith and grace influence the way we speak to ourselves, and a simple four-step practice for responding differently when you disappoint yourself.

When you notice yourself becoming critical after a mistake, ask:

What happened?

What am I feeling?

What do I need to take responsibility for?

What would compassion look like here?

What would I like to do differently next time?

You don't have to shame yourself into becoming someone better.

Sometimes lasting change begins when you learn to tell yourself the truth—with grace.

You Don't Have to Act on Every Feeling: Learning the Skill of Urge Surfing

Our emotions are valuable, but they aren't meant to make every decision for us.

In this episode, we're exploring the emotional regulation skill known as urge surfing—the practice of noticing uncomfortable impulses without immediately acting on them. You'll learn why emotions naturally rise and fall like waves, how curiosity creates space between a feeling and a reaction, and three simple self-coaching questions that can help you respond with greater wisdom and peace.

The next time you notice a strong emotional urge, pause and ask:

Then wait just a few minutes before deciding what to do.

You may discover that the wave begins to settle all on its own.

Have you ever noticed how quickly your mind fills in the blanks after something happens?

A text goes unanswered.

Before we know it, we've written an entire story—and we often believe it's the only possible explanation.

In this episode, we're exploring how curiosity can interrupt that pattern and become one of the most powerful tools in self-coaching. By learning to pause, ask better questions, and create space between what happens and the story we tell ourselves, we can respond with greater wisdom, emotional peace, and compassion.

✨ This week's encouragement:

Curiosity doesn't mean doubting yourself—it means giving yourself enough grace to explore before you decide. Sometimes the path to emotional peace begins with one simple question instead of one quick conclusion.

For more resources and coaching opportunities, visit www.mercyrice.com

For more inner work and emotional peace resources, please visit www.mercyrice.com