Shame is a sneaky motivator. It tells us if we just push harder, criticize ourselves more, or stay small, we’ll somehow improve. But real transformation? It doesn’t grow in shame.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

How shame shows up in self-improvement

Why tough love isn’t always loving

How to shift from shame-based to grace-based self-coaching

What to say to yourself when your inner critic takes over

Description:

In this episode of The Self Coaching Club Podcast, we’re unpacking what it truly means to embrace a soft life. Spoiler: It’s not about laziness. It’s about emotional intelligence, nervous system safety, and intentional living. Mercy shares how softness can be a powerful form of self-respect and how to self-coach your way out of hustle culture and into peace.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

Whether you're tired of over-functioning or just ready to feel more like you again, this episode gives you permission to do less—and be more.

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We’re always trying to fix things—our moods, our relationships, our to-do list, our future. But what if peace doesn’t come from fixing everything… what if it comes from releasing the need to?

In today’s episode, Mercy explores the difference between inner alignment and outer control, and how to self-coach when you feel stuck in problem-solving mode.

In this episode:

The hidden cost of always “fixing”

How to tell if your peace is conditional

A self-coaching reframe to help you detach from outcomes

Practices to cultivate calm even when things are messy

Show Notes:

Inside this episode:

Why triggers are actually invitations to grow

How to self-coach through emotional reactions

The difference between needing boundaries and needing control

Journal prompts to lovingly unpack what’s underneath your upset

If you’ve been judging yourself for getting “set off,” this episode will help you shift from shame to curiosity.

In this episode of The Self Coaching Club Podcast, we’re busting the myth that happiness is something you can only reach after you’ve “healed.” Mercy dives into the idea that emotional peace isn't a finish line—it’s a moment-by-moment practice. You’ll learn why waiting to be fully healed is holding you back and how to find joy in the middle of your journey.

In this episode, we explore:

Why healing is not a destination

How to find peace even when life feels messy

A simple self-coaching check-in you can do today

Mindful tools to ground yourself in emotional safety

Grab your journal and a cozy drink—this one’s full of gentle truth and a whole lot of self-compassion.

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