January 20, 2026

The Self-Help Trap: Growth Without Arrival

1 hour 6 minutes

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314 - In this episode, we explore a quiet paradox in modern self-help and spirituality: when personal growth stops being liberating and becomes another way to postpone self-acceptance.

Many people aren’t addicted to healing.
They’re addicted to becoming.

We examine how self-help culture, spiritual language, and “inner work” can subtly reinforce the belief that you are not enough in the present moment. From spiritual bypassing and endless shadow work to nervous system dysregulation and the commodification of insecurity, this episode dismantles the illusion that arrival is always somewhere in the future.

This conversation is not anti-growth.
It’s about mature growth.
The kind that reduces urgency instead of intensifying it.

Topics Covered

• When self-help turns into avoidance
• The psychology of compulsive personal growth
• Spiritual bypassing and elegant avoidance
• Why the nervous system heals through safety, not self-surveillance
• The self-help marketplace and the business of “not yet”
• The difference between becoming and inhabiting
• What real inner maturity actually feels like

Key Question Explored

What if growth isn’t about fixing yourself…
but about ending the belief that you’re unfinished?

This episode is for anyone who feels exhausted by constant self-improvement, suspicious of spiritual perfectionism, or ready to step out of the endless chase and into grounded presence.

If you’ve ever wondered why healing never seems to end, this conversation may offer a different answer.

Listen. Reflect. Arrive.

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