The Self Led Woman Podcast: emotional eating and nervous system healing for self-leadership

You wanted the chocolate. You chose the rice cake instead. And an hour later you were still thinking about the chocolate and probably ate more than you would have if you'd just had it in the first place.

This episode is about why that keeps happening. Not because you lack discipline, but because of how your brain's seeking system actually works, and what it means when a woman learns, early in life, that her desires aren't something she's allowed to trust.

Megan breaks down the neuroscience of cravings and the dopamine seeking system, why food substitutes keep you stuck in the cycle rather than breaking it, how the "good girl" pattern shows up in the way you relate to food and your own desires, and what it actually looks like to reach a place where food just doesn't have that grip anymore.

This isn't about eating whatever you want all the time. It's about understanding what's actually underneath the craving and why that changes everything.

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What if the thing keeping you stuck in your relationship with food, your body, and other people isn't a lack of willpower, but a nervous system response that's been running since childhood?

In this episode I sit down with Kallie Klug, certified somatic practitioner, yoga teacher, and author of Tired of Being Good, a nervous system map for reclaiming your body after a lifetime of fawning. Kallie's work sits at the intersection of somatic trauma therapy, the fawn response, and the deeply intelligent ways our bodies learn to keep us safe.

We talk about what fawning actually is and why it goes so much deeper than people pleasing, how good girl conditioning physically reshapes the nervous system and the structure of the body, the powerful parallel between fawning and eating disorders and why both require us to learn a new relationship with something we can never fully cut out, what fawning feels like in the body and how to start recognising it in real time, sexual fawning and what it looks like to slowly come back to presence and pleasure, and why the path forward isn't about stopping fawning altogether but about closing the gap, one small moment at a time.

This conversation also gets beautifully personal. We talk Taylor Swift, cysts, rage, and what it actually feels like to start letting yourself be seen.

Find Kallie:
Website and courses: https://stan.store/kalisomatics
Instagram and TikTok: @kalisomatics
Podcast: Your Own Medicine Podcast

 Book: Tired of Being Good available on Amazon

The waitlist for Breaking the Emotional Eating Cycle is now open. Women who join before launch receive founding member pricing.

Disclaimer: This episode contains discussions around trauma responses, body image, disordered eating, sexual fawning, and nervous system dysregulation. Please engage gently. This podcast is not a substitute for professional support.

What if the urge to reach for food when you're not physically hungry isn't just about today? What if it's older than that — much older?

In this episode Megan explores one of the most fascinating and undertalked pieces of the emotional eating conversation. The intelligence your body is carrying that has nothing to do with willpower and everything to do with thousands of years of human survival.

She talks about epigenetics — the science of how trauma and experience actually alter the way our genes are expressed — and what that means for the patterns you've been trying to change. Including the remarkable research on Holocaust survivors and what was found in the bodies of their children and grandchildren.

She also reframes the moment you find yourself standing at the fridge at 10pm. Not as a failure. Not as a loss of control. But as a smoke alarm going off. A signal from a part of you that has been trying to get your attention for a long time.

And she walks you through a simple practice — one breath, one question, one moment of turning toward instead of away — that can begin to change your relationship with that part entirely.

Your body is not broken. It is not your enemy. It is the most sophisticated intelligent system you will ever have access to.

It's been trying to tell you something. This episode will help you start to hear it.

Breaking the Emotional Eating Cycle — Megan's self-paced course — is coming soon. Join the waitlist now and receive founding member pricing. The lowest price it will ever be.

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This episode is for every woman who has been trying harder than anyone around her knows — and still can't make it stick. Who has reset more times than she can count, spent years on the merry-go-round of starting over, and quietly wondered what is actually wrong with her.

Nothing is wrong with you.

In this episode Megan shares her own 30-year story — what kept her on the merry-go-round, what she tried, and what nobody ever asked her until she finally asked it herself. She breaks down why emotional eating has nothing to do with willpower or discipline, what it actually is, and what becomes possible when you finally heal it at the root.

This is not another plan. This is not more advice about what to eat or how to try harder.

This is the conversation underneath all of it.

If you have been waiting for someone to just say it out loud — this one is for you.

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There's a conversation happening right now about weight loss medications. And almost everyone is either for them or against them.

But that's not the conversation I'm interested in.

What I'm curious about is what's actually happening in the brain and the nervous system when people take these medications. Because when you start looking at the research, what you find isn't just about appetite. It's about regulation. It's about what it feels like when a system that has been running on threat and scarcity for years finally gets a different signal.

In this episode I explore the neuroscience behind food noise, emotional eating, and why for some people GLP-1 medications like Ozempic and Wegovy create something that feels less like appetite suppression and more like finally being able to breathe.

We get into how the brainstem and hypothalamus work and why trauma shapes them, what dysregulation actually is and what it feels like from the inside, why food noise is not about food and not about willpower, what the research says about how GLP-1s are changing brain activity in the reward system, and why some people describe feeling regulated for the first time in their lives.

This episode is for anyone who has ever felt like their brain just works differently. Like they're fighting something that no one else seems to be fighting. Because there's a biological explanation for that. And understanding it changes everything.

The waitlist for Breaking the Emotional Eating Cycle is now open. Women who join before launch receive founding member pricing.

Disclaimer: This episode contains discussions around emotional eating, binge eating, body image, trauma, and weight loss medications including GLP-1s such as Ozempic and semaglutide. Please engage gently. This content reflects published research and personal perspective. It is not medical advice and does not recommend for or against any medication. Please consult a qualified healthcare professional before making any medical decisions. If you are struggling with an eating disorder or severe distress around food or your body, please seek support from a qualified healthcare professional.

References

1. Childhood trauma and the HPA axis Murphy, F., Nasa, A., Cullinane, D., Raajakesary, K., Gazzaz, A., Sooknarine, V., Haines, M., Roman, E., Kelly, L., O'Neill, A., Cannon, M., & Roddy, D.W. (2022). Childhood Trauma, the HPA Axis and Psychiatric Illnesses: A Targeted Literature Synthesis. Frontiers in Psychiatry, 13, 748372. https://doi.org/10.3389/fpsyt.2022.748372

2. Early trauma, HPA axis dysregulation, and eating disorders Cascino, G., et al. (2024). Early traumatic experiences and the hypothalamus-pituitary-adrenal axis in people with eating disorders: A narrative review. Psychoneuroendocrinology, 159, 106665. https://doi.org/10.1016/j.psyneuen.2023.106665

3. GLP-1 and reward system related disorders (food, alcohol, drugs) Eren-Yazicioglu, C.Y., Yigit, A., Dogruoz, R.E., & Yapici-Eser, H. (2021). Can GLP-1 Be a Target for Reward System Related Disorders? A Qualitative Synthesis and Systematic Review Analysis of Studies on Palatable Food, Drugs of Abuse, and Alcohol. Frontiers in Behavioral Neuroscience, 14, 614884. https://doi.org/10.3389/fnbeh.2020.614884

4. Hindbrain GLP-1 neurons and projections to the hypothalamus (Journal of Neuroscience 2024) Randolph, A.B., Zheng, H., & Rinaman, L. (2024). Populations of hindbrain glucagon-like peptide 1 (GLP1) neurons that innervate the hypothalamic PVH, thalamic PVT, or limbic forebrain BST have axon collaterals that reach all central regions innervated by GLP1 neurons. Journal

What if the body you've been at war with has actually been trying to protect you this whole time?

In this episode, I'm joined by Dr. Ann Saffi Biasetti, transpersonal psychologist, somatic psychotherapist, and author of Your Body Never Meant You Any Harm, releasing July 21st 2026. Ann has been working in the space of eating disorders and trauma recovery for over 35 years, and this conversation is one I've genuinely been looking forward to.

We talk about why so many women feel like their bodies have failed them, where that belief actually comes from, and what it really means to come back into relationship with your body rather than continuing to fight it. Ann shares her own journey back to embodiment through illness, yoga therapy, and years of clinical work, and the research that became the foundation of her new book.

We also get into the difference between self-compassion and self-kindness, why hunger and fullness cues are actually high level skills that take time to rebuild, how to start listening to your body when you feel completely disconnected from it, and the simple question Ann gives her clients that starts to change everything.

This one goes deep in the best possible way.

Find Dr. Ann Saffi Biasetti:

Website: www.anembodiedlife.com

Befriending Your Body Program www.befriendingyourbodyprogram.com

Instagram: @anembodiedlife 

Get Ann's book - Your Body Never Meant You Any Harm: https://amzn.to/4njxbhp 

https://www.shambhala.com/authors/a-f/ann-saffi-biasetti/your-body-never-meant-you-any-harm-9781645474418.html

The waitlist for Breaking the Emotional Eating Cycle is now open. Women who join before launch receive founding member pricing.

Disclaimer: This episode contains discussions around eating disorders, body image, disordered eating, and trauma recovery. Please engage gently. This podcast is not a substitute for professional support, therapeutic care or medical advice. 

In this episode, I share a deeply personal story about emotional eating, bingeing, loneliness, shame, and the nervous system patterns underneath it all.

I take you back to my late 20s, living alone in Melbourne during a cold winter while working in a high stress banking environment that left me emotionally exhausted and completely dysregulated by the end of the day.

What looked like “food issues” on the surface was never really about the food.

It was the supermarket trips.
 The chocolate aisle.
 The searching.
 The shame.
 The rules.
 The dissociation.
 The feeling of trying to scratch an itch that food could never actually reach.

This episode explores:
 • emotional eating and binge eating from the inside
 • the nervous system patterns underneath compulsive eating
 • shame, secrecy, and food obsession
 • emotional hunger vs physical hunger
 • why control and discipline don’t heal emotional eating
 • loneliness, overwhelm, and nervous system dysregulation
 • the hidden emotional experience so many women are silently living with

If you’ve ever found yourself eating in secret, driving from store to store, promising yourself “this is the last time,” or feeling like food temporarily numbs something you can’t explain, I think this episode will make you feel deeply seen.

You are not broken.
 And this was never just about willpower.

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Disclaimer

This episode contains discussions around emotional eating, binge eating, body image, shame, and disordered eating behaviours. Please listen with care and use your own discretion if these topics feel activating for you. This podcast is educational in nature and is not a substitute for medical, psychological, or therapeutic support.

There's a question I come back to again and again in sessions with clients.

Is this actually your belief, or is it something you inherited?

So much of what women carry around food, their bodies, visibility, and taking up space was never consciously chosen. It was absorbed. Passed down through generations of women adapting to environments where being smaller, quieter, more agreeable, and less visible was genuinely safer.

In this episode, I explore the generational, historical, and nervous system roots underneath body image struggles, emotional eating, and the quiet pressure so many women feel to shrink themselves. Not just physically, but energetically, relationally, and in how much space they allow themselves to occupy.

I also share a personal memory from when I was twelve years old, a moment I didn't have language for at the time, and why it sits at the centre of something so many women experience but rarely talk about.

This episode is for the woman who has spent years trying to fix herself and keeps coming back to the same place. Because what you've been trying to fix may never have been fully yours to begin with.

Whose voice have you been listening to this whole time?

The waitlist for ⁠Breaking the Emotional Eating Cycle⁠ is now open. Women who join before launch receive founding member pricing. 

Disclaimer: This episode contains discussions around emotional eating, body image, generational trauma, and unwanted attention during adolescence. Please engage gently. This podcast is not a substitute for professional support.

How long have you known that your relationship with food or your body is something you want to change?

Not how long you’ve been trying.How long you’ve known.

In this episode, I’m talking about the hidden cost of tolerating emotional eating, body obsession, self criticism, and the constant mental noise around food.

Because for many women, the issue isn’t a lack of awareness.It’s that the pattern has become manageable.

You can still function.Still work.Still show up.Still look like you have it together on the outside.

Meanwhile, part of your mental energy is being quietly drained every single day by food thoughts, body checking, self monitoring, guilt, negotiation, and the exhausting cycle of “I’ll deal with it one day.”

In this episode, we explore:• emotional eating and nervous system patterns• the gap between knowing and changing• why awareness alone doesn’t create healing• the hidden exhaustion of body obsession• why rock bottom often never comes• how women adapt to patterns that are quietly hurting them• why emotional eating is about more than food

If you’ve ever felt like you intellectually understand your patterns but still feel stuck in them, this episode is for you.

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In this episode, I’m joined by Internal Family Systems (IFS) therapist Ivana Legnerova for a deeply compassionate conversation about emotional eating, control, and healing your relationship with food.

Ivana specialises in working with eating disorders, including emotional eating, under-eating, perfectionism, and self-sabotage. Together, we explore how these patterns are not failures, but protective parts of your system trying to help you cope.

We talk about what’s actually happening underneath the need to control food, why so many high-functioning women struggle in private, and how parts work can help you move out of shame and into understanding.

This episode will help you see your behaviours differently, not as something to fix, but as something to get curious about.

In this episode, we explore:

• why emotional eating and restriction are protective, not problems
 • what’s really underneath the need to control food
 • how high-functioning women can struggle with food behind closed doors
 • the role of shame in eating patterns and why it keeps the cycle going
 • how IFS therapy helps you build a relationship with your inner world
 • what healing actually looks like beyond just changing behaviour
 • why you’re not broken, and change is still possible

If you’ve ever felt stuck in patterns around food, or like you’re holding everything together on the outside while struggling internally, this conversation will help you feel less alone and more understood.

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Link to website
 https://www.ivanatherapy.co.uk/

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The Self Led Woman podcast is intended for educational and informational purposes only and is not a substitute for therapy, medical advice, or professional healthcare.
 If this episode brings up anything difficult for you, please consider reaching out to a trained healthcare professional, therapist, or support service.

In Australia you can contact Lifeline on 13 11 14 or the Butterfly Foundation National Helpline on 1800 33 4673, which provides support for people experiencing eating disorders and body image concerns.

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