The Selfish Podcast with Chloe & Steph

After a little… unintentional nine-month pause 😅 Chloe & Steph are back behind the mic.

And this episode? It’s exactly what it needed to be - an honest, expansive life catch-up. No pressure, no perfection, just a real conversation about what’s been unfolding behind the scenes.

Think of this one as a macro view - a zoomed-out reflection on the themes, lessons, and shifts that have shaped the past few months.

✨ In This Episode, We Explore:

• What happens when you stop filling every gap in your life
• The discomfort (and growth) in learning to sit in stillness
• The difference between freedom… and the urge to fill it
• Unlearning urgency, pressure, and the addiction to “doing”
• How both Chloe & Steph are navigating major identity shifts in work and life
• The reality of building a business while releasing old patterns
• The energetic shift into a new astrological year + Fire Horse energy
• And why this season might feel like whiplash between slowing down and speeding up

🌀 Chloe’s Themes
Over the past few months, Chloe has been moving through three core themes:

1. Deconditioning from Doing
Realising that even in a life she consciously designed for space… she was still filling it.
 This season has been about learning that stillness is safe.

2. Softening Control
Letting go in leadership, in motherhood, and in relationships.
Trusting her team. Trusting her partner. And allowing things to unfold without gripping.

3. Discipline & Discernment
Showing up consistently (hello daily content 👀) while also asking:
 → What actually deserves my energy?
 → Who lifts me… and who doesn’t?

🌿 A Powerful Practice
A moment that landed deeply:
“I call back my own energy, and I let go of what is not mine.”

A simple, grounding mantra for when your thoughts, emotions, or energy feel… off.

Because not everything you feel is yours to carry.

🔥 Steph’s Themes

Steph shares her journey of leaving the corporate world and stepping fully into her own business—and the unexpected reality that came with it.

1. Unlearning Urgency
 Realising that the pressure, the pace, the adrenaline… didn’t disappear when she left her job.
 Because it wasn’t just the environment - it was a pattern.

2. Slowing Down (Everything)
 From work… to driving… to daily life.
 Choosing presence over pace.

3. Removing, Not Just Adding
 A big shift in business:
 Instead of constantly adding more offers, more ideas, more doing…
 → asking what can I remove?

💭 Real Talk Moments

• “I thought when I left my job, the pressure would leave too… but it was me.”
• The chaos (and growth) of renovating a home while building a business
• Parenting shifts as kids grow and dynamics evolve
• The subtle ways we stay busy to avoid discomfort

🌙 Energetic Context

This episode also touches on the transition into:The Year of the Fire Horse

A shift from slower, grounded energy… into something faster, more activating, and expansive.

Which might explain why everything feels like it’s moving… quickly.

💎 Key Takeaway
You don’t need to fill every space.
You don’t need to rush every moment.
And you don’t need to carry everything that passes through you.

This season is about: discernment, presence, and choosing what truly matters.

🎧 What’s Next
This was the macro catch-up.
Next episode?
We go micro - diving deeper into what’s currently unfolding and what’s ahead.

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@the.selfishpodcast @chloe_cocks @conscious.consulting.cc @ninelemonsfengshui

2026 The Woman Within retreat
6 days, 5 nights from 15 - 20 July 2026

This is an invitation to journey to the woman within.

Join us for an all-inclusive retreat designed for women to reconnect with themselves, prioritise their well-being, and tap into their deeper desires and power.

All details here.

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Thank you again and see you next week  xx Chloe & Steph

In this episode, we’re taking you behind the scenes of our 2025 Woman Within Retreat - the moments, memories, and magic that made it truly unforgettable.

Chloe & Steph of The Selfish Podcast join forces with Janika Galloway of Just You. We share our first impressions walking into the retreat space, the daily rhythms that grounded us, and the transformations that unfolded across the week - from quiet mornings of reflection to nights filled with laughter, healing, and connection.

You’ll hear what surprised us, what shifted for the women who came, and why this retreat has become such a powerful container for growth, rest, and remembering who you are underneath it all.

And yes, we also reveal what’s next! Our 2026 Woman Within Retreat will return 15–20 July 2026 in beautiful Ball, and early bird pricing is open until 11 November 2025.

If you’ve been feeling the pull to join us next year, this is your sign.
DM us or visit our website for all the details, and share this episode with a friend who’s been needing a little reminder to say yes to herself 💫

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@the.selfishpodcast @chloe_cocks @conscious.consulting.cc @ninelemonsfengshui

2026 The Woman Within retreat
6 days, 5 nights from 15 - 20 July 2026

This is an invitation to journey to the woman within.

Join us for an all-inclusive retreat designed for women to reconnect with themselves, prioritise their well-being, and tap into their deeper desires and power.

All details here.

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Thank you for listening, we hope you enjoyed the show.  If you liked what you heard there are a number of ways you can show your support ❤️

- share with a  friend
- give us a 5 star review on your podcast platform 

Thank you again and see you next week  xx Chloe & Steph

Hello beautiful listeners! We have been working away at Season 3 and can't wait to share this with you come September.

In the meantime we wanted to say hi and give you a bit of an update on what we've been working on. We riff on:

• our upcoming retreat in August
• Val's first day of school
• School holidays
• Birthday season in Steph's household
• Finishing work

We hope you enjoy & can't wait to speak again soon

xx Chlo & Steph

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@the.selfishpodcast @chloe_cocks @conscious.consulting.cc @ninelemonsfengshui

2026 The Woman Within retreat
6 days, 5 nights from 15 - 20 July 2026

This is an invitation to journey to the woman within.

Join us for an all-inclusive retreat designed for women to reconnect with themselves, prioritise their well-being, and tap into their deeper desires and power.

All details here.

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Thank you for listening, we hope you enjoyed the show.  If you liked what you heard there are a number of ways you can show your support ❤️

- share with a  friend
- give us a 5 star review on your podcast platform 

Thank you again and see you next week  xx Chloe & Steph

In this heart-opening episode, Chloe and Steph share a very personal life update - from big transitions and soul-aligned choices to sacred plans for The Woman Within retreat in Bali. 

Steph reveals the emotional and spiritual journey behind leaving her high-powered corporate role after 18 years to follow a deeper calling. The conversation moves through themes of intuition, grief, spaciousness, identity, motherhood, and how we define success on our own terms. This one’s an ode to the courage it takes to begin again—and the power of trusting yourself even when there’s no clear map.

🌀 Episode Highlights

00:00 – Welcome + Retreat Vibes

The podcast turns 2+ years old! Chloe and Steph reflect on growth, change, and their upcoming Bali retreat, The Woman Within—a deeply supportive, spacious container for transformation under the New Moon.

04:00 – Steph Quits Her Job: A Soul-Led Decision

Steph opens up about resigning from her Asia Pacific marketing leadership role, why now was the time, and the inner calling she couldn’t ignore.

09:00 – Grief, Identity & Following the Nudge

How losing Arthur shaped her perspective, why she no longer needs a 5-year plan, and what it really means to listen to your gut as a sacral authority in Human Design.

16:00 – Letting Go of “The Plan”

Steph talks about navigating the “What’s next?” pressure, learning to trust the unknown, and staying grounded without external validation.

23:00 – Abundance Starts in the Kitchen 🍳

A powerful little Feng Shui practice you can do today to invite wealth and flow—plus Steph’s new journey into energetic home alignment.

26:00 – Self-Led Success, Not Selfishness

A heartfelt conversation on redefining success, prioritizing presence over productivity, and why your work doesn’t define your worth.

🌿 Resources & Retreat Info

→ The Woman Within Retreat (Aug 23–28, Ubud): Only a few spaces left—click here to explore

→ Follow Steph’s Feng Shui tips: @ninelemonsfengshui 

 → Follow Chloe’s self empowerment & leadership page: @conscious.consulting.cc

→ DM us or reach out on IG @the.selfishpodcast if you feel a spark 💛

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@the.selfishpodcast @chloe_cocks @conscious.consulting.cc @ninelemonsfengshui

2026 The Woman Within retreat
6 days, 5 nights from 15 - 20 July 2026

This is an invitation to journey to the woman within.

Join us for an all-inclusive retreat designed for women to reconnect with themselves, prioritise their well-being, and tap into their deeper desires and power.

All details here.

Mailing list
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Thank you for listening, we hope you enjoyed the show.  If you liked what you heard there are a number of ways you can show your support ❤️

- share with a  friend
- give us a 5 star review on your podcast platform 

Thank you again and see you next week  xx Chloe & Steph

In this expansive episode of The Selfish Podcast, Chloe and Steph explore the energetic intersections between our inner world and outer environment. From the transformative magic of astrocartography to the grounding wisdom of Feng Shui, they dive into how where we are can deeply influence how we feel.

This one’s a journey through joy, healing, and trust — inviting you to reflect on what it really means to feel at home within yourself and your space. With honest conversation and soulful insights, they share why joy isn’t always about laughter — sometimes it’s a quiet moment, a breath, a sunrise. And they open up about their own practices, from daily affirmations to trusting in the divine timing of the universe using Gabby Bernstein’s 21 Day Challenge. 

PLUS — it’s the podcast’s 2-year anniversary 🎉 Whether you're into self-care rituals, spiritual tools, or just want to feel more grounded in your day-to-day — this episode is full of gentle reminders and fresh perspectives.

In This Episode:
 00:00 – Exploring Self and Space
 05:51 – The Intersection of Astro Cartography and Feng Shui
 11:51 – Defining and Discovering Joy
 17:59 – Trusting the Universe and Daily Affirmations
 24:54 – Celebrating Two Years of The Selfish Podcast

Takeaways to Anchor In:
 🌿 Our environment holds power — physically, emotionally, energetically.
 🌿 Astro cartography + Feng Shui can help us find and create nourishing spaces.
 🌿 Joy isn’t a one-size-fits-all experience — it’s deeply personal and ever-evolving.
 🌿 Daily affirmations are a beautiful way to connect with trust, presence, and desire.
 🌿 Celebrating milestones (big or small) can be powerful anchors in our personal growth journey.
 🌿 You’re allowed to trust the Universe, even when the next step feels uncertain.

Let’s Reflect:
 Where are you currently finding joy in your life?
 What does your space — physical or emotional — need from you right now?

💌 Don’t forget to follow, subscribe, and share this episode with someone who could use a gentle nudge to reconnect with their inner compass.

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@the.selfishpodcast @chloe_cocks @conscious.consulting.cc @ninelemonsfengshui

2026 The Woman Within retreat
6 days, 5 nights from 15 - 20 July 2026

This is an invitation to journey to the woman within.

Join us for an all-inclusive retreat designed for women to reconnect with themselves, prioritise their well-being, and tap into their deeper desires and power.

All details here.

Mailing list
Sign up to our mailing list to be the first to know what we are up to.

Thank you for listening, we hope you enjoyed the show.  If you liked what you heard there are a number of ways you can show your support ❤️

- share with a  friend
- give us a 5 star review on your podcast platform 

Thank you again and see you next week  xx Chloe & Steph

We sit down with energy healer and intuitive guide Tara Hegerty, who shares her powerful personal journey from a high-pressure events career through trauma, fertility challenges, and into a deep spiritual awakening. Tara opens up about her journey and how she stumbled upon a book that changed everything—How to Read the Akashic Records.

She explains how the Akashic Records are not just a cosmic library, but a living field of consciousness holding the truth of our soul’s journey—past, present, and future. Tara shows us how ancestral healing, spiritual alignment, and energy work can shift our lives and even our businesses in profound ways.

Whether you're a woman in business, deep in your healing journey, or feeling called to reconnect with your spirit, this episode will leave you inspired and gently activated.

✨ What We Cover:

• Tara’s transition from corporate burnout to intuitive healer
• How trauma can disconnect us from our spirit—and how to reconnect
• Understanding and accessing the Akashic Records
• Healing ancestral trauma and unconscious burdens
• Why your business has its own consciousness
• Spiritual alignment as the foundation for sustainable success
• Daily energy practices to shift your nervous system
• The power of personal retreats and self-care rhythms

💡 Top Takeaways:

• The Akashic Records offer deep insight into soul contracts, past lives, and ancestral patterns.
• Healing is not just emotional—it’s energetic, physical, and spiritual.
• Trauma often hides in the unconscious and can manifest as fatigue, hormonal imbalance, or repeating life cycles.
• Reconnection with your spirit is the missing piece for many women doing “all the right things.”
• Your intuition is your soul speaking—learn to trust it.
• Self-care rhythms (like quarterly solo retreats!) are vital, not indulgent.
• Spiritual alignment can open new pathways in both life and business.

🌿 Connect with Tara
 Website: www.tarahegerty.com
Instagram: @tara.hegerty

Our retreat!
Join us on our retreat! All the details here

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@the.selfishpodcast @chloe_cocks @conscious.consulting.cc @ninelemonsfengshui

2026 The Woman Within retreat
6 days, 5 nights from 15 - 20 July 2026

This is an invitation to journey to the woman within.

Join us for an all-inclusive retreat designed for women to reconnect with themselves, prioritise their well-being, and tap into their deeper desires and power.

All details here.

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Sign up to our mailing list to be the first to know what we are up to.

Thank you for listening, we hope you enjoyed the show.  If you liked what you heard there are a number of ways you can show your support ❤️

- share with a  friend
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Thank you again and see you next week  xx Chloe & Steph

In this episode of the Selfish Podcast, Steph talks about her experiences in a float tank ... seriously guys you need to get on to this!

Before they dive into this, the girls catch up. Steph discusses her recent family holiday and the emotional significance of celebrating her late son Arthur's birthday, and the rituals she engaged in to honour his memory. Chloe shares her own journey of self-discovery, focusing on themes of control and the desire to embrace her feminine energy. 

They also discuss their upcoming retreat - if you feel called, take a look xx 

Chloe & Steph then delve into the fascinating world of float tanks (17:50), also known as sensory deprivation tanks. Steph shares her personal experience of floating, highlighting the therapeutic benefits such as relaxation, improved sleep, and stress relief. 

The conversation covers the process of floating, the sensations experienced during the session, and the overall impact on mental and physical well-being. They also discuss practical considerations for first-time floaters, including what to expect and how to prepare for the experience. And of course they will cover what Steph was wearing... spoiler alert not much!

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@the.selfishpodcast @chloe_cocks @conscious.consulting.cc @ninelemonsfengshui

2026 The Woman Within retreat
6 days, 5 nights from 15 - 20 July 2026

This is an invitation to journey to the woman within.

Join us for an all-inclusive retreat designed for women to reconnect with themselves, prioritise their well-being, and tap into their deeper desires and power.

All details here.

Mailing list
Sign up to our mailing list to be the first to know what we are up to.

Thank you for listening, we hope you enjoyed the show.  If you liked what you heard there are a number of ways you can show your support ❤️

- share with a  friend
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Thank you again and see you next week  xx Chloe & Steph

In this episode of The Selfish Podcast, Chloe and Steph reflect on their past intentions and introduce a new concept called the 'anti-resolution.' This approach focuses on letting go of habits and practices that drain energy rather than adding more to their lives. Before diving into this, they delve into the astrological significance of the current full moon (14 March) and lunar eclipse, discussing how these cosmic events can influence personal growth and self-reflection. 

Anti-resolution

Chloe discusses conducting an energy audit to identify what is currently draining their energy and how to create space for new, more aligned practices. The conversation emphasises mindfulness, self-reflection, and the importance of decluttering both physically and mentally to enhance personal growth and well-being. 

They discuss the concept of anti-resolutions and the need to let go of old habits and beliefs to make room for personal growth. The conversation also touches on the significance of theme songs for the year and concludes with insights from tarot, focusing on the idea of shedding the old to embrace the new.

Links

Link to: 2024 Intentions episode

Our retreat is LIVE: All details here.

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@the.selfishpodcast @chloe_cocks @conscious.consulting.cc @ninelemonsfengshui

2026 The Woman Within retreat
6 days, 5 nights from 15 - 20 July 2026

This is an invitation to journey to the woman within.

Join us for an all-inclusive retreat designed for women to reconnect with themselves, prioritise their well-being, and tap into their deeper desires and power.

All details here.

Mailing list
Sign up to our mailing list to be the first to know what we are up to.

Thank you for listening, we hope you enjoyed the show.  If you liked what you heard there are a number of ways you can show your support ❤️

- share with a  friend
- give us a 5 star review on your podcast platform 

Thank you again and see you next week  xx Chloe & Steph

In this special bonus episode, hosts Steph, Chloe, and Janika discuss their upcoming retreat, The Woman Within, designed for women seeking self-discovery and healing. 

They share their personal journeys, the retreat's purpose, and the significance of the astrological timing. 

The conversation emphasises the importance of creating space for personal growth and the transformative experiences participants can expect. 

With a focus on community and empowerment, we invite you to join us on this intimate journey of self-exploration and connection. 

Limited spots are available to ensure an intimate experience. We invite you to join the retreat waitlist.

It’s going to be a transformative time to reconnect to the woman within. 

The one who bubbles up to the surface, longing to be expressed—her dreams, her desires, her true wants. 

Yet, it feels as though her voice gets buried under to-do lists, the needs of others, and the pressure of expectations.

She needs time to think, to breathe, to be, to belong. Time to rediscover herself again. And that’s where this retreat comes in. 

Spaces are limited, and we want you to be the first to know and grab your spot so sign up now for exclusive access and announcements.

If this sounds like you, we will see you in the waitlist.

@janikagalloway @the.selfishpodcast @chloe_cocks @conscious.consulting.cc @ninelemonsfengshui @stephmccnchy

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2026 The Woman Within retreat
6 days, 5 nights from 15 - 20 July 2026

This is an invitation to journey to the woman within.

Join us for an all-inclusive retreat designed for women to reconnect with themselves, prioritise their well-being, and tap into their deeper desires and power.

All details here.

Mailing list
Sign up to our mailing list to be the first to know what we are up to.

Thank you for listening, we hope you enjoyed the show.  If you liked what you heard there are a number of ways you can show your support ❤️

- share with a  friend
- give us a 5 star review on your podcast platform 

Thank you again and see you next week  xx Chloe & Steph

It's our 100th episode! Join Chloe and Steph as they shed a few tears and celebrate 100 before chatting about the retreat, and then on to the main topic of today, a deep dive into their romantic relationships.

This is follow on from their conversation with Sally Jane Douglas and they have been sitting with the idea how our relationships evolve as we grow.

They discuss the importance of being intentional in their connections, the challenges faced in long-term relationships, and the significance of shared visions for the future. 

Chloe & Steph also go into the importance of communication in long-term relationships, the need for self-awareness, and the significance of being intentional about how we present ourselves and our relationships to the world.Chloe emphasises the necessity of sharing our evolving selves with loved ones to foster deeper connections and understanding.

We hope you enjoy this episode xx

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@the.selfishpodcast @chloe_cocks @conscious.consulting.cc @ninelemonsfengshui

2026 The Woman Within retreat
6 days, 5 nights from 15 - 20 July 2026

This is an invitation to journey to the woman within.

Join us for an all-inclusive retreat designed for women to reconnect with themselves, prioritise their well-being, and tap into their deeper desires and power.

All details here.

Mailing list
Sign up to our mailing list to be the first to know what we are up to.

Thank you for listening, we hope you enjoyed the show.  If you liked what you heard there are a number of ways you can show your support ❤️

- share with a  friend
- give us a 5 star review on your podcast platform 

Thank you again and see you next week  xx Chloe & Steph