This is a personal episode for me, one that I feel led to share with you, because I know it's going to resonate.

There's a moment in every woman's life when she look at what she's been worshipping - success, motherhood, marriage, being 'nice' - and realizes none of it was built for her freedom. That's the holy sh*t moment. The one where you finally stop trying to earn gold stars for suffering and start knocking over every sacred cow that's been keeping you in a cage.

This is aboout burning down the old rules, setting yourself free from everyone else's opinion of you, reclaiming your wild self, and realizing that sometimes the most spiritual thing you can do...is commit a little heresy.

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In this episode I'm joined by Erin Gallagher, author of Hype Women: Breaking Free From Mean Girls, Patriarchy and Systems Silencing You.

Buckle up for a fiery conversation about what it really means to trust yourself after a lifetime of being told you're wrong. We talk about the incredible origin story of her book, and why she's not here to hype all women - especially not the ones still acting as foot soldiers for the patriarchy.

We also go there:

• Who are the mean girls in your life?
• Why do we keep trying to gather in circles with women who've burned us?
• What does it mean to self-source instead of always giving your power away?

This one is bold, vulnerable and unapologetically honest. Press play and get hyped - for yourself.

Erin Gallagher is the CEO and Founder of Hype Women, an inclusive ecosystem hyping women to remember who the f**k they are, author of Hype Women, and host of the Hype Women Podcast.

Her book is an electrifying and extraordinary approach to life for ambitious women everywhere.

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What happens when strategic intelligence meets spiritual intuition?

In this electric conversation, I sit down with keynote speaker and author, Karen Romine, to explore the intersection of artificial intelligence and the unseen realms.

We talk about how AI is transforming the way we make decisions and scale our lives - and how inner knowing is the missing data point most women ignore.

Karen shares her journey from corporate strategy expert to discovering that she is a psychic medium (yes, both can live in one woman!), and how merging logic with intuition creates exponential growth.

This one's for the woman who knows she's meant to lead, but also trusts the whispers. The woman who wants to scale her vision without abandoning her soul. And the woman who's secretly felt there's more to 'data' than numbers.

We're not choosing between the mystic or the machine. We're using both.

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In this episode, I'm pulling back the curtain on what it really costs to be selfish. Not cute-selfish. Not #selfcare selfish. I'm talking about the kind of selfish that turns your whole life inside out. The kind that sets you free.

This is about the power you say you want...and the uncomfortable truth of what it takes to actually get it.

And I ask the question that could change everything:

Are you willing to pay the price for your power?

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What if the way you've been taught to mother - your children, your dreams, yourself - was never yours to begin with?

In this potent conversation, I sit down with Dr. Gertrude Lyons, author of Rewrite the Mother Code: From Sacrifice to Stardust, to unravel the outdated scripts women are handed about what it means to mother, and how to rewrite them from the inside out.

We talk about:

• The hidden 'mother codes' shaping every area of your life (whether you have children or not)
• Why sacrifice is not sacred, and what actually is
• Reclaiming mothering as a creative, cosmic force - not a job description
• What changes when you mother from love, not lack

Whether you're a mother, mothering yourself, or birthing something new into the world - this episode is a permission slip to mother on your own terms.

Let's go from martyr to medicine woman.

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Every woman has her Everest - the dream that feels impossible until suddenly, it isn't.

I had my Everest moment and I'm sharing what it was, how I got there, and how you can do it too. And how there's always another mountain to climb, if you want it.

I also talk about the most personal piece of my journey yet: why I wrote The Selfish Year, who I wrote it for, and why it matters right now.

This isn't just about my story. It's also about yours. I'm pulling back the curtain on what it takes to move from a dream to reality.

If you've ever needed proof that your wildest dreams are possible - and the push to finally go after it - this is it.

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You weren't born nice. You were trained.

By mothers who were trained.

By systems that still benefit from your silence.

In this episode, you'll hear a casual girlfriend chat with Lesa Koski where we unearth the origins of our people-pleasing, the masks we wear to feel safe, and the slow-burning bravery it takes to start telling the truth.

Lesa and I unmask our Good Girls, and give you practical strategies so you can do it too.

Because underneath the mask of the Good Girl is a Queen ready to rise.

Lesa Koski is a wife, mother, grandmother, mediator, coach, and host of the Saddle Up Live podcast. Her journey has been anything but ordinary, but every twist and turn has brought her to a place where she now helps others live their best lives.

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Think you've outgrown your good girl programming? Think again. These 10 subtle habits might be sabotaging your power - and keeping you small without even realizing it.

You might not be saying 'yes' when you mean 'no' anymore - but the good girl still has her sticky little fingers in you. In this packed episode, I'm revealing 10 sneaky ways the good girl still shows up in your everyday life, and what to do instead.

From overexplaining to emotional shapeshifting, I'll break down the behaviours that seem harmless, but are actually keeping you stuck silenced, and small. If you're ready to step into your full, selfish, sovereign self, this one's for you.

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Too many women think that taking the high road makes them strong, wise, or 'the bigger person.' But what if that road is actually keeping you stuck in self-abandonment, silence, and disappointment?

In this episode, I break down why the high road can be a trap, what to do instead, and how decentering men frees you to finally choose yourself.

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This is the one I've been waiting to record.

In this final episode before The Selfish Year enters the world, I'm sharing the five lessons that truly saved me when I started over - from divorce, from the pain, from the life that looked good but felt empty.

These aren't tips. They're confessions. I wrote this book in blood, and I'm telling you the truth behind every chapter.

If you've ever felt stuck, invisible, or like you're pretending to live a life that isn't yours, this episode is your invitation to stop waiting.

It's not too late to choose yourself.

But it is the last week to pre-order The Selfish Year and support the book that starts a movement!

CLICK HERE to pre-order The Selfish Year and get your gift: The Selfish Woman Starter Kit (includes a Manifesto, the 7 Sacred Laws of the Selfish Woman, and a curated playlist I made to accompany the book)

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You're not meant to survive your life. You're meant to own it.

Love you. Mean it.

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