Most people choose a word for the year based on what they want to achieve, acquire, or accomplish. But that's not how transformation works.

In this episode, I'm sharing why your word of the year should be about who you're becoming, not what you want to get. It's a practice in identity, not goals. A call toward the woman you're evolving into. not a to-do list disguised as intention-setting.

I'll walk you through:

• Why choosing a word based on outcomes keep you stuck in the same patterns
• The difference between a word that motivates and a word that transforms
• My own experience choosing 'selfish' as my word in 2020 - what it taught me, how it challenged me, and why it was exactly what I needed
• How to choose a word that serves your evolution (not just your ambition)
• This isn't about New Year's resolutions or vision boards. It's about claiming who you're becoming and letting that guide everything else.

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2025 is the Year of the Snake. 2026? The Year of the Fire Horse.

If you're familiar about Chinese zodiac symbolism, you know what that means: the Snake sheds what no longer fits. The Fire Horse charges forward with unstoppable momentum.

But here's the thing: you can't ride the Fire Horse into 2026 while still carrying 2025's dead weight.

This episode is about what needs to be shed now, before the year turns.

IN THIS EPISODE, I SHARE:

• The symbolism of Snake and Fire Horse years: and what they're asking of us right now.
• What a death cycle actually looks like (from someone living it): why you can't 'positive mindset' your way through and what to do instead.
• The difference between shedding and suppressing: one creates space for growth, the other just buries what will resurface later.
• A December ritual for intentional release: specific steps you can take this month to shed what's keeping you small, stuck, or performing.
• Why 'not enough', shame, and old survival strategies have to go: and what becomes possible when you finally release them.
• The gift of radical permission: why The Selfish Year is the book to give yourself (or someone you love) this holiday season.
• What's coming in 2026: a hint at something I'm creating for women ready to make next year their Selfish Year

IF YOU'RE FEELING:

• The tightness of an old identity that doesn't fit anymore
• Exhausted by maintaining 'impressive'
• Ready to stop carrying what's dead
• Curious about what 2026 could look like if you actually chose yourself

....this episode is for you.

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I'm gathering women who are ready to make 2026 their Selfish Year. A community....a container...a place where choosing yourself isn't rebellion, it's a homecoming.

I can't share all the details yet, but if you're feeling the pull toward radical selfishness - stay close.

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YOUR DECEMBER PRACTICE:

This month, ask yourself every morning:

• What am I carrying that's already dead?
• What old skin am I ready to shed?
• What wants to emerge in 2026?

Then do one small thing - sage, movement, journaling, walking - to physically release it.

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This is a personal episode for me, one that I feel led to share with you, because I know it's going to resonate.

There's a moment in every woman's life when she look at what she's been worshipping - success, motherhood, marriage, being 'nice' - and realizes none of it was built for her freedom. That's the holy sh*t moment. The one where you finally stop trying to earn gold stars for suffering and start knocking over every sacred cow that's been keeping you in a cage.

This is aboout burning down the old rules, setting yourself free from everyone else's opinion of you, reclaiming your wild self, and realizing that sometimes the most spiritual thing you can do...is commit a little heresy.

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In this episode I'm joined by Erin Gallagher, author of Hype Women: Breaking Free From Mean Girls, Patriarchy and Systems Silencing You.

Buckle up for a fiery conversation about what it really means to trust yourself after a lifetime of being told you're wrong. We talk about the incredible origin story of her book, and why she's not here to hype all women - especially not the ones still acting as foot soldiers for the patriarchy.

We also go there:

• Who are the mean girls in your life?
• Why do we keep trying to gather in circles with women who've burned us?
• What does it mean to self-source instead of always giving your power away?

This one is bold, vulnerable and unapologetically honest. Press play and get hyped - for yourself.

Erin Gallagher is the CEO and Founder of Hype Women, an inclusive ecosystem hyping women to remember who the f**k they are, author of Hype Women, and host of the Hype Women Podcast.

Her book is an electrifying and extraordinary approach to life for ambitious women everywhere.

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What happens when strategic intelligence meets spiritual intuition?

In this electric conversation, I sit down with keynote speaker and author, Karen Romine, to explore the intersection of artificial intelligence and the unseen realms.

We talk about how AI is transforming the way we make decisions and scale our lives - and how inner knowing is the missing data point most women ignore.

Karen shares her journey from corporate strategy expert to discovering that she is a psychic medium (yes, both can live in one woman!), and how merging logic with intuition creates exponential growth.

This one's for the woman who knows she's meant to lead, but also trusts the whispers. The woman who wants to scale her vision without abandoning her soul. And the woman who's secretly felt there's more to 'data' than numbers.

We're not choosing between the mystic or the machine. We're using both.

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In this episode, I'm pulling back the curtain on what it really costs to be selfish. Not cute-selfish. Not #selfcare selfish. I'm talking about the kind of selfish that turns your whole life inside out. The kind that sets you free.

This is about the power you say you want...and the uncomfortable truth of what it takes to actually get it.

And I ask the question that could change everything:

Are you willing to pay the price for your power?

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What if the way you've been taught to mother - your children, your dreams, yourself - was never yours to begin with?

In this potent conversation, I sit down with Dr. Gertrude Lyons, author of Rewrite the Mother Code: From Sacrifice to Stardust, to unravel the outdated scripts women are handed about what it means to mother, and how to rewrite them from the inside out.

We talk about:

• The hidden 'mother codes' shaping every area of your life (whether you have children or not)
• Why sacrifice is not sacred, and what actually is
• Reclaiming mothering as a creative, cosmic force - not a job description
• What changes when you mother from love, not lack

Whether you're a mother, mothering yourself, or birthing something new into the world - this episode is a permission slip to mother on your own terms.

Let's go from martyr to medicine woman.

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Every woman has her Everest - the dream that feels impossible until suddenly, it isn't.

I had my Everest moment and I'm sharing what it was, how I got there, and how you can do it too. And how there's always another mountain to climb, if you want it.

I also talk about the most personal piece of my journey yet: why I wrote The Selfish Year, who I wrote it for, and why it matters right now.

This isn't just about my story. It's also about yours. I'm pulling back the curtain on what it takes to move from a dream to reality.

If you've ever needed proof that your wildest dreams are possible - and the push to finally go after it - this is it.

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You weren't born nice. You were trained.

By mothers who were trained.

By systems that still benefit from your silence.

In this episode, you'll hear a casual girlfriend chat with Lesa Koski where we unearth the origins of our people-pleasing, the masks we wear to feel safe, and the slow-burning bravery it takes to start telling the truth.

Lesa and I unmask our Good Girls, and give you practical strategies so you can do it too.

Because underneath the mask of the Good Girl is a Queen ready to rise.

Lesa Koski is a wife, mother, grandmother, mediator, coach, and host of the Saddle Up Live podcast. Her journey has been anything but ordinary, but every twist and turn has brought her to a place where she now helps others live their best lives.

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Think you've outgrown your good girl programming? Think again. These 10 subtle habits might be sabotaging your power - and keeping you small without even realizing it.

You might not be saying 'yes' when you mean 'no' anymore - but the good girl still has her sticky little fingers in you. In this packed episode, I'm revealing 10 sneaky ways the good girl still shows up in your everyday life, and what to do instead.

From overexplaining to emotional shapeshifting, I'll break down the behaviours that seem harmless, but are actually keeping you stuck silenced, and small. If you're ready to step into your full, selfish, sovereign self, this one's for you.

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