The Sensible Split

How do you choose the right divorce coach for you? There are three important factors to consider when looking for a divorce coach to help you in reaching the outcomes you want, so I'm walking you through all of these on today's episode so you can make the right hiring decision the first time around.

Tune in this week for a framework to help you decide how to hire the right divorce coach for your specific needs. You'll learn how to decide on your needs based on what stage of divorce you're in, the difference between the different types of coaches out there, and how to find a professional divorce coach that is recognized as an alternative form of conflict resolution by the American Bar Association.

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Nobody teaches us to become more comfortable with engaging in conflict in a productive way. However, there's a lot on the line here and you need to stand up for what you believe is an acceptable resolution in your divorce, so this episode is here to help you get a little more confident when it comes to conflict.

Tune in this week to discover what conflict is costing you in your divorce, and how you can start taking an approach to conflict that results in better outcomes. I discuss the common sources of conflict in divorce, what you can expect if you don't become more comfortable with conflict, and you'll get a strategy for becoming more comfortable with conflict in the divorce context.

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Spousal support, also known as alimony or maintenance, is the obligation to support a spouse financially after divorce or while proceedings are pending as part of the terms of separation. This helps the lower-earning or non-earning spouse maintain a similar standard of living to that experienced during the marriage.

Tune in this week to discover what you need to know about spousal support during and after divorce. I'm discussing the determining factors in spousal support arrangements, why these arrangements are subject to change over time, and you'll learn what you need to consider regarding spousal support and your own divorce.

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Hiring a lawyer isn't just about making a yes or no decision. It's time to lift the lid on all of the options you have when using a lawyer during your divorce so you can make an informed decision based on your exact needs. Tune in this week to discover your options so you can decide on the scope of representation that is best for your personal desires, goals, and budget.

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It's currently spring break 2024 and summer is almost here, which can bring up a ton of stress for divorced parents who want to plan vacation time with their kids. So, what do you need to consider now about creating a parenting plan that covers everyone's needs when it comes to post-divorce vacation time with your kids?

Tune in this week to learn how to plan for vacations with kids after a divorce. I highlight all the things you need to consider, including in your parenting plan, to prevent future conflict and stress around vacations. You'll learn how to decide what you want to include in your parenting plan to prevent further disputes if tensions start running high around a planned vacation.

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Are you delaying scheduling that first consultation with a divorce lawyer because reaching out for help would mean the marriage is definitely over? This is a common experience. However, even at the early stages of your divorce, even if it feels like you haven't fully made up your mind, you need a professional perspective as soon as possible.

Tune in this week to discover why seeking professional help with your divorce options doesn't mean anything final about the state of your marriage. In this episode, I share two common side effects of not engaging a divorce professional early on in the process.

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During your divorce, you will probably find yourself acting in a way that doesn't feel like who you really are, and certainly not who you want to be. So, what do you do when you're showing up in ways you're not 100% happy with or proud of? You don't have to shame or blame yourself.

This week, discover how divorce-related anxiety is showing up in your behavior, and how to stop judging yourself for those moments when you catch yourself acting out of alignment with your values. I show you how to acknowledge your behavior, learn from the experience, and move on with integrity and in alignment with how you want to act in the world.

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If you want to reach a successful conclusion to your divorce, knowing your values is essential. Divorce is both mentally and emotionally challenging, and anchoring yourself to your values stops you from getting swept up in all of it.

Discover the emotions and biases that can drive poor decisions, increasing conflict, and legal fees during the divorce process. You'll learn why your values should serve as your guide as you navigate your divorce, and I share how to use your values as a filter for the important decisions you need to make during this time.

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When going through a divorce, you're faced with decisions at every turn along the way. Some are small decisions, some are huge and have a wide-reaching impact. If not knowing whether you're making the right decision has you stuck in decision-making limbo, today's episode is for you.

Worrying about making the wrong decision is keeping you stuck, asking for everyone's opinions, and never really getting anywhere. So, it's time to approach these kinds of decisions from a different perspective. I'm showing you how to actively work toward making difficult decisions, how to let go of the idea that there are objectively right and wrong decisions, and I'm sharing how to take control of the outcomes of the decisions you make throughout your divorce.

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It's possible to get an outcome from mediation that suits everybody in the family's needs without having a lawyer present. However, there are four common mistakes I see people making when they take on their own divorce mediation, so today I'm showing you how to avoid these mistakes in your own divorce, so you don't have to deal with the cost and hassle of correcting them later.

Discover four divorce mediation mistakes you need to be aware of. I'm giving you the tools you need to prepare for mediation in the divorce process, detailing your role in these negotiations, and you'll learn how to avoid making the same mistakes others have.

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