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Whether you’re fresh into postpartum or it’s been years since your last baby and your body still feels unfamiliar, you’re not alone. In this episode, I get radically real about intimacy, body image, and feeling sexy in the body you have—right now.

What You’ll Learn:

01:08 — Intimacy & Body Image After Kids

01:32 — The Reality of Postpartum Bodies

02:48 — Pressure, Partners, and Self-Criticism

03:52 — Waiting to Feel Sexy & The Cost

04:20 — Spectatoring & Body Neutrality

07:34 — Accepting Compliments & Shifting Perspective

08:14 — Letting Go of the “Lose 10 Pounds” Fantasy

08:36 — Comfort: Dressing for Your Now Body

09:57 — Building Safety & Vulnerability with Your Partner

11:45 — Redefining Sexy & Embodying Your Erotic Self

12:37 — Sometimes the Answer is to Have the Sex

13:37 — Body Gratitude & Receiving Compliments

14:44 — Recap & Shifting Self-Image

15:08 — You Deserve Pleasure Now: Quiz & Practice

Highlights:

• Why waiting to “lose 10 pounds” is putting your joy on layaway
• The difference between body positivity and body neutrality
• How to start feeling sexy—by practicing pleasure, not waiting for confidence
• Tangible, pressure-free ways to reconnect with your body and your partner
• How to let yourself be desired, even when it’s hard to believe
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Helpful Links:

• Book a free Spark Session
• Naked Fun Comeback Program
• Solve Your Sex Drive Quiz
• Follow Sofia on Instagram
• More episodes of Sex After Kids Podcast

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Feeling awkward about intimacy after kids, or stuck in the “roommate rut?” You’re not alone. In this episode, I share why foreplay (and the “pre-game” before it) is the real secret to rekindling connection—and how to make it feel safe, pressure-free, and fun (especially for the lower libido partner).

What we cover:

01:06 — Rethinking Foreplay & Getting Started Again

02:11 — Zero Pressure: The Key to Connection

02:36 — Pre-Foreplay: Building Safety & Trust

03:25 — The Pre-Game: Flirty Connection & Melting Defenses

03:57 — Pressure-Free Scenarios: Massage Examples

06:30 — The Impact of No Pressure & Openness

07:27 — Playful Possibility: Fun Ways to Bring Back Foreplay

08:49 — Anticipation & Pre-Game for Scheduled Sex

09:42 — Building Up to No Pressure Sexy Connection

10:15 — Opening the Door to Libido & Support Offers

Links & Resources:

Start the Roommates to Romance Challenge

Follow Sofia on Instagram

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Drop a comment below with your favourite foreplay rituals or questions! And don’t forget to subscribe for more real, sassy support on sex, intimacy, and pleasure after kids.

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Is scheduled sex really the death of desire…or is it your secret weapon for reigniting connection after kids? In this episode, Sofia (your TMI bedroom advice bestie for parents) busts the myths about putting sex on the calendar—and shows you how to turn obligation into anticipation.

What You’ll Learn:

01:07 Debunking the Scheduled Sex Myth

01:21 Why People Resist Scheduling Sex

01:50 Scheduling Creates the Mood

02:28 The Pressure of Scheduled Nights

02:49 Real-Life Example: Anniversary Expectations

03:38 Naked Fun Dates, Not Sex Dates

04:22 Step 1: Book a Date & Treat It as Non-Negotiable

04:59 Step 2: Build the Bridge from Parent to Lover

05:18 Transition Rituals & Building Anticipation

05:41 Get Relaxed, Present, and Connected

06:35 Step 3: Communicate More Than You Think

07:10 Step 4: Debrief After Connection Dates

07:26 Always Be Learning About Each Other

07:47 Client Story: Laura's Pain-Free Sexy Times

08:33 Scheduled Sex = Grownup Intimacy

10:31 Mindfulness Minute & Closing

Links & Resources:
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Drop your thoughts in the comments—have you tried scheduling sex? What worked (or didn’t) for you?

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Feeling like “roommates” instead of lovers? You’re not alone. In this episode, I share my absolute favourite sex books that every parent should have on their nightstand—plus the real-life stories and expert tips behind each pick.

What you'll learn:
The best books for reigniting desire and connection after kids
How to talk about sex without shame or awkwardness
Why exploring together (or solo!) can spark big changes in your relationship

Timestamps:

00:00 — Intro & Podcast Welcome
01:23 — For Yourself by Dr. Lonnie Barbach
02:48 — Sex Drive by Dr. Bella Elwood Clayton
04:06 — Shake Your Soul Song by Davy Ward
05:19 — Come As You Are & Come Together by Emily Nagoski
06:29 — Becoming Cliterate by Dr. Lori Mintz
06:49 — The Ultimate Guide to Prostate Pleasure by Charlie Glickman & Aislinn Emirzian
07:08 — A Woman’s Anatomy of Arousal by Sheri Winston
06:29 — Sex Ed & The Naked Fun Comeback Program
09:56 — Outro & Mindfulness Minute

Books featured:

• For Yourself – Dr. Lonnie Barbach
• Sex Drive – Dr. Bella Ellewood Clayton
• Shake Your Soul Song – Devi Ward
• Come as You Are & Come Together – Emily Nagoski
• Becoming Clitorate – Dr. Lori Mintz
• The Ultimate Guide to Prostate Pleasure – Charlie Glickman & Aislinn Emirzian
• A Woman’s Anatomy of Arousal – Sheri Winston

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Links & Resources:
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In this episode I share when my partner and I went to couples counselling after the birth of our first child. From my post-partum anxiety I was experiencing resentment and contempt and didn’t want this to be the theme of our relationship. 

In this episode I cover:

•  04:05 Why I hated admitting they needed help
•  06:12 Why everything wasn’t all my partners fault (much as I wanted it to be)
•  08:11 Why stress was the root of all our challenges
• 14:45 And why couples counselling wasn’t going to bring our sex life back after kids

Whether you are in the trenches of early baby and toddler hood or seasoned parents, this episode is a must listen.

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In this deeply personal episode, I’m sharing the one  secret that helped me go from six months of shut-down to regularly saying yes (and even initiating!)—without faking, forcing, or bypassing my body’s needs.

My vagina had a tantrum last week and we are going to talk about it. Whether you're the higher libido partner wondering what’s going on behind the “no,” or the lower libido partner who wants connection but feels stuck in shutdown—this episode is for you.

In this episode we cover: 

00:00 – The one nervous system insight that changed everything
04:35 – The “vagina tantrum” story: how I almost bypassed my body again
14:10 – Why resistance and irritation aren’t bad signs—they’re signals of progress
20:01 – The critical mistake I made during sex (and how I owned it with my partner)
26:10 – Why slowing down ≠ giving up (and why somatic sex matters)
36:00 – Why I created the Roommates to Romance Challenge—and how it helps both higher and lower libido partners move from stuck to sexy

💌 And if you’re done waiting for the perfect moment to reconnect, join the Roommates to Romance Challenge—14 days of small, done-for-you steps to build safety, play, and turn-ons that work with your body, not against it. Just DM me the word ROMANCE on Instagram or email [email protected] and say I want in. 

LINKS MENTIONED:

- Catch the episode where I talk you through managing big emotions when they arise during sex.

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Feeling resentful, disconnected, or just done with intimacy because you're the one holding everything together?

Or maybe you're doing your share—and still hearing that it’s not enough?

This episode is for you.

We’re diving into the mental load: what it really is, how it impacts your nervous system (and your sex life), and why even splitting things 50/50 doesn’t always fix the spark.

Spoiler: doing the dishes isn’t foreplay if you’re not emotionally connected.

👇 In this episode, you’ll learn:

•  What the mental load really is (and how it messes with your libido)
•  The “silver bullet” myth: why more help doesn’t always = more sex
•  When fairness falls flat: the emotional load of doing life together
•  Why we need to stop stop fixing your partner—start rebuilding connection
•  3 tools to rebuild intimacy without more pressure

Let’s flip the script on desire and resentment. Because sex after kids shouldn’t feel like another job.

Love this convo? Here’s how to go deeper:

🔍 Take the Solve Your Sex Drive Quiz – Find out what’s really blocking your libido

 💥 Book a free Spark Session – A no-pressure space to talk about what’s not working (and what might help)

👉 Subscribe for more real talk on desire, intimacy, and connection after kids.

Resources
- Fair Play by Eve Rodsky
- A Better Share by  Dr Morgan Cutlip
- Fatherhood Unlocked
- Zach - Recovering Man Child

 💌 Got questions? Drop them in the comments or DM me on Instagram @thehappyvproject

Because your sex life doesn’t have to die after bedtime.
Let’s bring back the fun, the flirt, and the f*ck-yes.

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Struggling with low desire or no sex after kids? You're not alone—and you're not broken. In this episode of The Sex After Kids Podcast, sex and intimacy coach Sofia from The Happy Vagina Project shares 5 mindset shifts to help couples reconnect, reignite desire, and break out of the dreaded “Not Tonight” cycle.

Whether you're feeling touched out, rejected, or just numb to the idea of intimacy, this episode offers practical tools and emotional clarity to bring back passion, play, and connection—even if it's been months (or years) since your last good sex.

🎧 Listen in to learn:

• Why desire doesn’t “just come back” (and what actually works)
• How to create intimacy without pressure
• Why communication and emotional safety are 🔑
• Easy ways to add more playfulness to your relationship
• How to lead confidently when your partner is shut down or stressed

This is for every couple who loves each other but feels stuck in a sex rut. You’re not alone—and you can fix this.

Book a Free Spark Session this week and find the fun and the flirt in your relationship this summer! 

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Ever found yourself thinking, “Why are they always avoiding sex?” Or maybe you’ve felt the sting of rejection and started to question your relationship, your desirability, or your skills in bed.

This episode of the Sex After Kids Podcast flips that narrative on its head.

We’re diving into the real reasons behind intimacy avoidance—especially after becoming parents. Spoiler: it’s not about being broken or unwanted. We’re talking about stress, nervous system overload, the orgasm gap, and how to rebuild connection without pressure or resentment.

💥 In this episode, you’ll learn:

• Why the orgasm gap matters in long-term relationships
• How stress and nervous system overwhelm quietly shut down desire, even when the love is strong
• Why “doing it right” is more about emotional safety than sexual technique
• The myth that desire has to come before sex (and what actually works instead)
• Practical steps to shift the dynamic—even if your partner isn’t ready to talk about it

Whether you're the one wanting more sex or feeling shut down and unsure why—this is a judgment-free, insight-filled conversation for anyone navigating sex after kids.

📚 Places to get started on your own:

• Come As You Are by Emily Nagoski
• Women's Anatomy of Arousal by Sheri Winston
• Shake Your Soul Song by Devi Ward
• For Each Other by Lonnie Barbach
• She Comes First by Ian Kerner
• Becoming Clitorate by Dr. Lori Mintz

If you want to find passion and play more quickly than reading and hoping something sticks, then book a FREE Spark Session with me. We'll explore a  what’s really going on, where you’re feeling stuck, and how to bring playful, pressure-free intimacy back into your relationship over the next three months. I only have a few spaces open so book yours now.

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Flirting with the D-word (Divorce)? Or just feeling like roommates with a mortgage and a laundry pile that never ends? So many couples are experiencing the same thing, but they don’t have the secret sauce I’ll share in this episode. 

Today we are talking all about the small, not-so-sexy things that make a massive difference. I’m talking:
✨ Undivided attention (yes, even for 3 minutes)
✨ Actually using your words (thank you, Daniel Tiger)
✨ Shutting your mouth instead of offering solutions (it’s a challenge, I know)

We get real about why parenting is a full-contact emotional sport and how these basic tools can stop your love life from flatlining. Because sometimes, saving your relationship isn’t about a big grand gesture—it’s about a six-second kiss and actually listening when your partner says “look at this meme.”

In this episode, we cover:
🔸 What "returning bids for attention" actually looks like in a busy house
🔸 How narrating your intentions can change your sex life
🔸 Why biting your tongue might be your new love language
🔸 A meditation on presence, love, and why your opinions aren’t always helpful

Ready to go from “just surviving” to “mmm that feels nice”? Grab my Roommates to Romance Challenge—a 7-day guided journey back to touch, connection, and that juicy “we’re doing this together” vibe. Just $15, and it’s yours anytime.

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