Title: Fear of Too Much (Shed & Shine Ep. 8)
“Too loud. Too ambitious. Too emotional.” In a culture that rewards smallness in women, being labeled “too much” is often a tactic to enforce norms. In this episode, Sarah explores why these systems exist, discusses the research behind these norms, and shares how to channel your “much-ness” energy with the yogic lens of Brahmacharya and the Buddhist Middle Way.
Why “too much” critiques are bias in disguise (and how to spot them)
How to turn bigness into focused, values-aligned influence
Somatic and language tools to show up without shrinking
Lion’s breath ×3 to discharge tension.
Translate apology into clarity: “I care deeply; here is what I have to offer; here is my ask.”
Take up one bit of space today (voice, role, or room request).
Where did I learn I’m “too much,” and what gift lives inside that bigness?
Eagly, A. H., & Karau, S. J. (2002). Role congruity theory of prejudice toward female leaders. Psychological Review, 109(3), 573–598.
Epitropaki, O., & Martin, R. (2005). From ideal to real: A longitudinal study of the role of implicit leadership theories on leader–member exchanges and employee outcomes. Journal of Applied Psychology, 90(4), 659–676.
Gelfand, M. J., Raver, J. L., Nishii, L., Leslie, L. M., Lun, J., Lim, B. C., Duan, L., Almaliach, A., Ang, S., Arnadottir, J., Aycan, Z., Boehnke, K., Boski, P., Cabecinhas, R., Chan, D., Chhokar, J., D’Amato, A., Ferrer, M., Fischlmayr, I. C., … Yamaguchi, S. (2011). Differences between tight and loose cultures: A 33-nation study. Science, 332(6033), 1100–1104.
Bryant, E. (2009). The Yoga Sūtras of Patañjali: A new edition, translation, and commentary. North Point Press. (Brahmacharya)
Hanh, T. N. (1998). The heart of the Buddha’s teaching: Transforming suffering into peace, joy, and liberation. Broadway Books. (Middle Way)
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