The SHERO Effect

It may not be your birthday but you so deserve to give yourself this gift. We’re talking about forgiveness. Sometimes it may feel like forgiveness is for others, but you are serving yourself greatly by being open to forgiving those who have wronged or betrayed you.

Anger, revenge, and hostility are wastes of energy for people who are likely not devoting any energy to you. There are immense benefits to forgiveness. Today, I share with you my own vulnerable story of forgiveness, along with some important reasons to consider when it comes to being a forgiving person.

Just a few great reasons for forgiveness I touch on today are; living in the past steals your present and taints your future. Failing to forgive creates misery; pleasant thoughts promote a pleasant mood. The more forgiving you are, the more others will be willing to forgive you. Living a perfect life and making perfect decisions just isn't possible. Forgiveness might be the best form of *revenge*. Finally, happiness and peace support a healthy life.

Today’s Affirmation and Self-Reflection:

Forgiveness is a gift I give to myself. (Tune in for the expanded affirmation)

1. Who do I need to forgive?
2. What would I gain by forgiving that person?
3. Can I let go of my negative feelings toward this person?

What’s Inside:

• How can I forgive.
• Why forgiveness is the best gift for yourself.
• The benefits of being forgiving.
• An affirmation and reflection to support forgiveness

Mentioned In This Episode:

• Are you longing to break free from the pain and frustration caused by your limiting beliefs? 
• [email protected]
• Jennifer Perri
• Jennifer Perri on LinkedIn

What if I’m doing things wrong? What if my kids don’t turn out right? What if they grow to resent me? The list goes on and on and on. Did you feel these things? Raise your hand...my hand’s up too! The toughest job that ever existed…mom. We wear so many hats and master so many roles, and yet we are still humans. We want our children to be good people, contributing members of society, and, above all, happy. 

We often feel guilty for getting angry, saying the wrong thing, comparing ourselves to other parents and families, and falling victim to financial comparison. Symptoms of mom guilt are usually second guessing your decisions, dwelling on mistakes, and always feeling like you’re doing something wrong. 

It may be hard, but it is so important to take time to validate your child’s feelings, ask for forgiveness when you need to, ask for help and support, stop comparing your children, and realize it’s okay to not have all the answers. As you look back on your time as a mother, you may have regrets. That's life. But you will have learned, and you will have grown. Give yourself grace; you try your best each day, and that’s what matters.

Today’s Affirmation and Self-Reflection:

I eliminate comparison from my thoughts. (Tune in for the expanded affirmation)

1. When was the last time my eyes wandered into someone else's race?
2. Why is it important for me to only measure myself against my own standards?
3. How is comparison detrimental to my mind?

Reach out to me for the full ebook that I touched on in today’s episode!

What’s Inside:

• What is mom guilt?
• Why do moms feel pressure and guilt amidst all their roles?
• How to support yourself and break free from mom guilt.
• Putting death to comparison in motherhood.

Mentioned In This Episode:

• Are you longing to break free from the pain and frustration caused by your limiting beliefs? 
• [email protected]
• Jennifer Perri
• Jennifer Perri on LinkedIn

What will matter most to you at the end of your life? For me, it's being a wonderful wife, mother, and daughter, and that I really, truly helped the people I could. It’s easy to be distracted by the roles, hats, and shiny objects we encounter in life, but you don’t have to lose your identity.

Consider these questions as you work toward finding your focus for a fulfilled life; Where do you want to be in your career? What can you do to move forward with your career aspirations? How are your personal relationships? How can you strengthen these bonds? Where are you spiritually? What can you do to further develop your spiritual life?

You have the power to choose the destiny you deserve.

Today’s Affirmation and Self-Reflection:

I am worthy of manifesting my dreams. (Tune in for the expanded affirmation)

1. What do I want to accomplish in my life? Am I consistent in my desires or do I change my mind often?
2. Do I spend my time each day according to what I want to accomplish?
3. Do I consider myself worthy of manifesting my dress? Why or why not?

What’s Inside:

• Making it past the shiny objects to your life focus.
• Questions to consider for a fulfilled life.
• What’s holding you back from your dreams?

Mentioned In This Episode:

• Are you longing to break free from the pain and frustration caused by your limiting beliefs? 
• [email protected]
• Jennifer Perri
• Jennifer Perri on LinkedIn

Meet my dear friend of over a decade, Mavis Stevens. Mavis is a lifelong Fiber Artist and the newly published author of  Last Chance Trailer Park. During our conversation, she shared her incredible and captivating story of resilience.

Mavis shares the story of life out loud, joy, and challenges that inspired her story for Last Chance Trailer Park all embodied by unique animal characters you can find on her fiber art. We talk about a move that transformed her life forever, her 1st craft show at age 15, her cancer-surviving and thriving journey, and the tragic passing of her husband. In every season of her life, she has lived by a profound quote from her mother: Wherever you go in life, whatever you do, it'll be the same moon, and the same god.”

Laugh and learn with me in this great chat with a great friend. She even shares a bit of her next big idea, a super fun Last Chance Trailer Park inspired cookbook. If you’re not already following Mavis on socials, do it! You can get a signed copy of Mavis’s book and find all her amazing artwork on her Etsy shop.

What’s Inside:

• Mavis Stevens, Fiber Artist and Author.
• Captivating stories of resilience and life out loud.
• Last Chance Trailer Park the book.

Mentioned In This Episode:

• Last Chance Trailer Park
• Last Chance Trailer Park™️ (@lastchancetrailerpark) • Instagram photos and videos
• Last Chance Trailer Park™️ (@lastchancetrailerpark) | TikTok
• MissMavisFunHouse - Etsy
• Are you longing to break free from the pain and frustration caused by your limiting beliefs? 
• [email protected]
• Jennifer Perri
• Jennifer Perri on LinkedIn

If you’re entering this episode in a time when things are tight, know you’re not alone. I have been there in times of just getting by. But this is not forever; this can be just a speed bump in life. You can reach a time of abundance and financial security. I want to share with you steps that have helped me move from a scarcity mindset into one of abundance.

• Eliminate short term perspective – overspending and overeating are symptoms of shortsightedness.
• Focus on what you have – be grateful for the things already present in your life 
• Don’t be a complainer - be positive and include positive people in your social circle
• Focus on what you CAN have - think about and visualize your goals
• Avoid wasting time - value your time and you'll have more of it
• Keep a journal - find gratitude, write about what you have and what you want
• Get organized - this can quickly change your mind from scarcity to abundance
• Be Generous - the more you share, the more others will share with you

Now, an abundance mindset isn't magic, and abundance is not all about money. You can be the wealthiest person in the world and never live in abundance. But removing feelings of scarcity and shifting into a mindset of abundance will allow you to enthusiastically take the necessary steps in your life to get there. 

Today’s Affirmation and Self-Reflection:

I am grateful for the abundance that I experience daily. (Tune in for the expanded affirmation)

1. What do I have in my life that fills me with feelings of gratitude?
2. How can I be more open to receiving abundance in my life?
3. How have I impeded receiving abundance?

What’s Inside:

• What is a scarcity mindset and how is taking away abundance?
• Steps to take toward an abundant mind and life.
• Does wealth = abundance?
• An affirmation and reflection on abundance.

Mentioned In This Episode:

• Are you longing to break free from the pain and frustration caused by your limiting beliefs? 
• [email protected]
• Jennifer Perri
• Jennifer Perri on LinkedIn

Negative people can harm your attitude if you're not careful. It’s important to be weary of the cycle of negativity and getting stuck in this ugly circle of negative ideas and opinions. You usually don’t have to look too far for negative people in your life, but you can protect yourself by putting up a parameter. An “Electric Fence” of safety.

You can’t control people, but you can influence them. Even just implementing a few of these techniques can have a powerful impact on not only your own life but others.

• Always stay positive — Be example of how you can react in the face of negativity
• Ask questions that stimulate positive thinking—vacations, favorite things, etc.—these are great positive icebreakers that initiate happiness and laughter. 
• Give compliments — Meaningful, kind compliments can overtake someone's entire mood and make a huge impact. 
• Make one of your goals public and achieve — Let people see that it is possible to reach your goals.
• Be Kind — No matter what, always be kind. There are people in your life who can really use that kindness.
• Show that you care — How are you? What can I do to help? These are questions you can ask to give attention to the negative people in your life in an impactful way.

Today’s Affirmation and Self Reflection:

I nurture positive connections. (Tune in for the expanded affirmation)

1. What qualities do I look for in a strong, healthy relationship?
2. How can I stay in touch with long-distance friends? Do I?
3. What is the difference between an acquaintance and a close friend?

What’s Inside:

• How to protect yourself from negative relationships.
• How to influence with positivity.
• Techniques for creating a positive life.
• How to connect and care for negative people.

Mentioned In This Episode:

• Are you longing to break free from the pain and frustration caused by your limiting beliefs? 
• [email protected]
• Jennifer Perri
• Jennifer Perri on LinkedIn 

SHEROS, in this episode we’re focusing on putting that inner critic to bed! Sometimes we lose the people we think we can depend on or that we would look to encourage us…sometimes we’re all we have. I want to show you how to become your #1 cheerleader, and rewrite the script in your head. You don’t have to engage with the bully inside you any longer.

• Drown it out — Fill your mind with positive talk and imagery.
• Recognize the truth — The inner critic is a manifestation of your fears, not your reality.
• Empty your mind — Keep your mind clear and get busy!
• Move your hands or move your mouth — That’s all every action in life is!
• Be a friend to yourself — How would you treat your friends and loved ones? Treat yourself with the same kindness.
• Encourage yourself every 10 minutes — Set a timer and get going. In 18 hours, you will have said 108 positive things to yourself!
• Make a list of your high points — Don’t fixate on your mistakes; review your successes regularly!

Take control of your inner critic and move through everyday with confidence!

Today’s Affirmation and Self-Reflection:

I make my own sunshine. (Tune in for the expanded affirmation)

1. Why is it important to invest in myself?
2. How can I stop mean comments from spoiling my day?
3. How does my home reflect my love for myself?

What’s Inside:

• Transform your inner critic into your personal cheerleader.
• How to rewrite the script you feed yourself.
• What to do when you’re all you have.
• Stepping out with grace in one hand, confidence in the other.
• An affirmation and reflection on silencing the inner critic. 

Mentioned In This Episode:

• Are you longing to break free from the pain and frustration caused by your limiting beliefs? 
• [email protected]
• Jennifer Perri
• Jennifer Perri on LinkedIn

In this special episode, I am joined by a fairly new friend and colleague, Scaling Strategist Kara Renninger. We connect over the idea that it is up to us to choose something different for our lives and our business. Making a big impact in the world really matters to Kara and to do that, you have to be driven, direct, and honest.

Many people don’t really say what they want in life or in business, but if you don’t get clear, come out and say it. It’s unlikely to happen. In our society, too often, women possessing these qualities of purpose, translate into ‘being bitchy’. But that is not the case. We do not have to use small talk to step around important issues; it’s okay and even admirable to be direct about what you think. The more you are able to use your voice and speak out, the more success you will see, in your relationships and business alike.

We also discuss motivation, and the truth behind staying motivated is peer support and a powerful mindset. You can change your business or your life, but ya gotta get off your couch and get right in your mind. If you’re a woman who knows there is more out there for you, you are absolutely right. And if you don't have the support to push you there, you need to reach out to me, to Kara. You need to have positive advocates in your life.

What’s Inside:

• How to make the conscious choice for a different life and business.
• Direct, honest, and driven are three qualities that don’t equal ‘bitchy’ in women.
• How to stay motivated by using positive advocates.
• Speak up and speak out about what you want and what it takes to get there.

Mentioned In This Episode:

• Are you longing to break free from the pain and frustration caused by your limiting beliefs? 
• Scaling Appraisal Call with Kara Renninger
• [email protected]
• Jennifer Perri
• Jennifer Perri on LinkedIn

 “The windshield is bigger than the rearview mirror for a reason because what's in front of you is so much more important than what's behind you!" Jelly Roll

How do you let trauma of the past impact your present and future?

We all have dozens of choices every day, and we all have a choice of how we’re going to use our past to inform our decisions and actions or if we’re going to let it hold us back. We all heal differently, and we all have different emotions regarding our past. Today I want to share tips that have helped me let go of my past and move forward.

1. Don't deny what’s happened. Face it and learn. 
2. Acknowledge your own understanding of painful things that happened.
3. Give yourself grace. Ask yourself if you’re ready to let go.
4. Seek support when you need it.
5. Try a let it go ceremony

Today’s Affirmation and Self-Reflection:

I let go of the past and I create the future I want. (tune in for the full affirmation)

1. In what ways have I let my past impose limits on me?
2. How would I be different if I could completely forget my past?
3. What can I do today to create a future that excites me?

What’s Inside:

• Will you let your past hold you back, or are you ready to let go?
• Tips for letting go of your past.
• How to heal from trauma and move forward.
• You are more than your past. 

Mentioned In This Episode:

• [email protected]
• Jennifer Perri
• Jennifer Perri on LinkedIn

It’s time to give yourself permission to lead the life you desire. So many things that hold us back stem from permission within. Whether it's fear, shame, or personal and societal expectations weighing on your shoulders, you do not have to let this keep you from asserting your desires for success. In this episode, I want to share some guiding tips for allowing yourself permission.

Focus on these seven tips as steps to self permission: Acknowledge your worth, Challenge society's expectations, Trust your intuition, Set boundaries, Celebrate your achievements, Surround yourself with advocates and allies, Take imperfect actions.

Today’s Affirmation and Self-Reflection:

I give myself permission to do what is best for me.

1. When do I sacrifice too much to others? Why do I do this?
2. In what I want to accomplish in my life, how much time and attention do I need to put on myself to be successful?
3. What would change in my life if I made myself the number 1 priority?

What’s Inside:

• What is holding you back from giving yourself permission?
• 7 Steps to allow permission from within.
• Self-reflection and affirmation for self-permission.

Mentioned In This Episode:

• [email protected]
• Jennifer Perri
• Jennifer Perri on LinkedIn