The past and pain is your friend and facilitator - let it lead you to a better life. 

This segment makes you focus on what you need to focus on and reminds you how wrong it is not to appreciate the present. 

Love is a complex feeling. Time is a complex route. And, honor is a complex option. Listen to three sets of instructions to get you moving. Stop feeling stuck. 

The title is a quote from the movie Ghost of Girlfriend's Past. 

The cold truth is - it’s there in many lives as evidence. However, there are a few cases that it’s not, but why is that? At the end of the day, it depends on who you are and who you marry that makes this ultimately happen as a result of what you need to learn as a human being. We all think that we married the wrong people, when we married the right person to teach us about our self-esteem. We married the right person to teach us about our dependencies and our ignorance or arrogance. Once you separate from that or learn from it, you realize how to be a stronger person / a better person. This is the whole point of living. You suffer, so you don’t have to suffer anymore. Some people have learned this already and avoid the concept all together. Then...once they are complete, they only attract people who are complete - which FINALLY won’t give them these kind of results.

Life is not about finding someone. It is about finding yourself to know you don't need a sexual partner to feel good about yourself or safe.  Then, you can live your purpose peacefully. Love is work from the inside out, not the outside in. Real love, peaceful love finds you when you have it inside. A person who wants the best of the best can't have it when they don't align as the best of the best within themselves. You can't fit a square into a hole that is the same size. Like wants like, or like attracts like. What you attract and is attracted back is who you are.  So, if the relationships are empty, then you're empty. It's easy to understand but not easy to fix. 

Ultimately, people think I talk about relationships but I speak only about having one with yourself, and then the conversation will resonate with creating healthy relationships with others naturally. 

We all fall short of confidence. No one is an exception to the rule. Some hide it better than others, and that is it. We all know someone who is strong who has cried about failures. Life is complex and we just have to keep building on it.