Show notes & transcript: www.thesolaflare.com/podcast/011

Spring enrolment for SOLA Siblings is now open...

SOLA Siblings is a 9-month online support system, community and course, 
for autistic-labelled people on a journey of unmasking and self-becoming.

Embark on a guided journey through The SOLA System framework in depth, over 9 months. Experience a radical reframe of autistic labelled difference, drawing on latest scientific insights into sensory and perceptual differences, disability justice, aesthetics and information design and the mindset shifts of critical frameworks for unravelling normative influences... plus experience a community context within which the possibility for cognitive empathy, affirmative connection and mutual recognition is enhanced.

Immerse yourself in an environment in which transformation is inevitable... Join SOLA Siblings.

— Bonnie

— Rebekah

— Moll

Find out more: www.thesolaflare.com/sola-siblings

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The SOLA System podcast is created by SOLA Systems.

The SOLA System is a system of selfhood for sensory siblings seeking a more empowering way to see, know and be all of who you are here to be.

www.thesolaflare.com

The SOLA Flare/SOLA Systems is a body of work by artist Louisa Martin

www.louisamartin.info

Full show notes at http://www.thesolaflare.com/podcast/010

We unpack what exactly is happening when we mask or camouflage or hide, why we do it in the first place, why we keep doing it, and why it is so exhausting.

And we also get into how it doesn’t have to be this way. How you CAN start to liberate your self image from this notion that you lack social skills or that social skills is about fitting in and being unseen.

And finally, why your sensory siblings are key to your self clarity.

This week’s episode is about how we are conditioned to think that how we behave is the deciding factor for inclusion; be it acting ‘normal’, or acting autistic. And how, after years of masking and modifying self, and then discovering we might be autistic, we may try to use the same strategy: trying to be ourselves by trying to be autistic.

I also share two announcements:

The first is a thank you to all those who joined me live for the Free Seminar I gave last Saturday 21st November. It was called ‘HOW TO BE AUTISTIC when autism is based on outdated paradigms’, and I shared a 9 step framework for unmasking and self becoming that can also speak to the political and the spiritual.

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I also shared that SOLA SIBLINGS is now open!!!

SOLA SIBLINGS is a 6 month self development programme, for creative autistic people who are seeking to understand more of yourself and how to be who you really are beyond the pathology paradigm, gain tools for how to work with your differences, a framework for unmasking, and a community and sanctuary for self becoming.

Find out more here: www.solasiblings.com

A short episode announcing my Live Seminar 'HOW TO BE AUTISTIC when 'Autism' is based on outdated paradigms.

Saturday 21 November 2020 (check your timezone on the registration page.

It's free. Register here:

https://www.solasiblings.com/register

And... at the end I'll also be opening doors to SOLA Siblings, the 6 month programme, community and support system for autistic labelled people who are seeking another way to see, know and be yourself then are currently offered by the Autism construct and the Autism Industrial Complex, or the normative culture we are socialised into.

Because it is really hard to know how to be yourself (or even who you are), when the world is designed by and for one kind of mind, and in ways that negate your lived reality.

When 'Autism' itself is defined via a non-autistic gaze, promotes eugenics and behaviourism, and is upheld by disability gatekeeping.

When a lifetime of misunderstanding, misinterpretation and misrepresentation, made hiding feel like safety... 

When being visible, personally, professionally and systemically, means identifying as disordered... or over-adapting to what doesn't work, and recovering in private, at your own cost. Or both.

This event introduces The SOLA System; 9 steps (or planets!) to undoing the external and internalised barriers to being your whole self.

The SOLA System is a creative, radical, anti-racist, affirmative process for unmasking and self-becoming, for autistic labelled folx.

This is the result of radically reimagining of what is possible when we reframe our differences and redefine ourselves from within; within our bodies, within our lives, our communities, within the social model of disability, and through culture and connection.

Register to attend the seminar and learn more about the SOLA System liberatory framework for how to unlearn who you are not, and see, know and be your whole self

https://www.solasiblings.com/register

Full show notes www.thesolaflare.com/podcast/007

This episode explains the social model of disability, and applies it to cognitive difference and autistic disability.

We talk about how the Being of Self is in the Being in the world.

How you are not here to live in overload and overwhelm, recovering in private, all at your own expense and often in ways that are invisible to others. That’s not your purpose and not the reason you have life.

You are valid, and supposed to be here exactly as you are.

And you can make anything happen in your life. 

It’s just that the HOW might be different and the HOW might involve different dependencies and different tools and different ways of getting there. And that How, has been missing. The HOW to be yourself. The Blueprint for HOW to be the kind of person you are. The HOW for how to make our life work for You has been missing.

In this episode I talk about why. 

And what we can do about it.

How you need a very specific environment to thrive. But society, like industrial farming, is moving us through standardised systems. Like school. Where we sit in rows and are all expected to learn roughly the same stuff. And to learn in the same ways with the same tools.

But we are not all the same.

So what is the environment you need?

What makes more of you?

What enables you to grow and live a full life?

What gives you power over your environment?

What do you need to stop doing?

What do you need someone else to do?

Next week I’ll be announcing a couple of things, including a FREE online event taking you through the SOLA System 9 steps of self becoming.

I’ll also be opening doors to SOLA Siblings - the 6 month programme guiding you through the SOLA System framework, in community with other folx like you… 

Join my mailing list below to be the first to know more:

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In episode 6, we explore The "Tunnel of Un" and how learning to author our own thinking unlocks the power to take radical responsibility for how we respond to circumstances beyond our control.

Full show notes at www.thesolaflare.com/podcast/006 including the first pyramid of wise action.

Thank you to everyone who has shared feedback or written a review. It means the world to connect with you and I appreciate you so much!

Shout out to all my new listeners in UK, Ireland, US, Canada, Austria, Denmark, Netherlands, Australia, New Zealand… wow!

Full show notes at www.thesolaflare.com

In this episode we go deeper into one of the nine challenges to unmasking that I outlined in Episode Two. Specifically; how we are conditioned to disconnect from self.

GIVE AWAY: 

I am also giving away free copies of my book LOSSY ECOLOGY for anyone who leaves a 5 star review in Apple Podcasts. 

Click on the title of the Podcast to go to the main SOLA System Podcast page, scroll down to Ratings & Reviews, tap on the stars to rate, and click below on "Write a review". Then take a screenshot and email me: [email protected] along with your postal address and I will send you a copy of my book wherever in the world you live.

Full show notes at www.thesolaflare.com

This episode is about the power of being seen and seeing each other. And how the unseen in us can become a projecting space for the personal biases of others... or cosmic dark matter potential and imaginative possibility.

I am giving away free copies of my book LOSSY ECOLOGY for anyone who leaves a 5 star review in iTunes/Apple Podcasts.

(Click on the title of the Podcast to go to the main SOLA System Podcast page, scroll down to Ratings & Reviews, tap on the stars to rate, and click below on "Write a review". Then take a screenshot before you press send, as it may take a few days before apple approves your review and it appears online. Email me: [email protected] along with your postal address and I will send you a copy of my book wherever in the world you live.)

In part 2 of this 2-part episode, I share the nine issues that the SOLA System seeks to address when it comes to seeing, knowing and being yourself and unmasking your full potential.

For full show notes please go to www.thesolaflare.com/podcast/003

I am also giving away free copies of my book LOSSY ECOLOGY for anyone who leaves a 5 star review in iTunes/Apple Podcasts.

Click on the title of the Podcast to go to the main SOLA System Podcast page, scroll down to Ratings & Reviews, tap on the stars to rate, and click below on "Write a review". Then take a screenshot and email me:

along with your postal address and I will send you a copy of my book wherever in the world you live.

You can also join my mailing list: www.thesolaflare.com

Follow me on Instagram: @sola_flare

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In this episode I share the nine issues that the SOLA System seeks to address when it comes to seeing, knowing and being yourself and unmasking your full potential.

For full show notes please go to www.thesolaflare.com/podcast/002

I am also giving away free copies of my book LOSSY ECOLOGY for anyone who leaves a 5 star review in iTunes/Apple Podcasts.

Click on the title of the Podcast to go to the main SOLA System Podcast page, scroll down to Ratings & Reviews, tap on the stars to rate, and click below on "Write a review". Then take a screenshot and email me:

along with your postal address and I will send you a copy of my book wherever in the world you live.

You can also join my mailing list: www.thesolaflare.com

Follow me on Instagram: @sola_flare