This is the first offering in a three part series titled Red Flag Theatre, dealing with bad actors in the community space. in this case groups, events and classes. I discusses different type of flags. Why I feel not every thing you dislike is an overall red flag Why its important to understand your goals so that you can establish your own red flags.

This episode is dedicated to vetting. I wanted to sit and talk about vetting. To define it. Outline some possible approaches to what vetting is, who you should vet first and ultimately how you should vet. This may not be the best or most concise conversation but I wanted to get it out and hopefully come back and sit with it to hopefully come up with a better solution for vetting.

This is a a break down of the 9 Abramatic Ropes of Connective Rope as written by me Mister Solomon Abrams.

Below is an excerpt from the book.

The following information is what I consider the Abramatic Laws of Rope and Intimate Macrame. I believe any set of laws should be written to be understood and adhered to. It is not coincidence that there are ultimately 9 chapters and 9 laws. I feel this text is complete, however all of this information is a living document and will grow as I grow. It is my hope to add more teaching notes, doctrine and completed ritual. Until then this is my philosophy 

The Abramatic Laws

1. We are all Connected. 

2. The ROPE is a physical example of the INTIMATE ENERGY EXCHANGE between a Top and Bottom. 

3. Communication is Paramount. We must have clear and unambiguous consent with openly stated intent to reach a clear, concise and mutual understanding to achieve what is considered good COMMUNICATION.

4. The Living Trinity of Rope is The Rope, The Bottom and The Top. Each of these must be unfrayed, free of debris and clutter, and strong enough to endure the tie as needed. Each of these parts create Balance in the Tie.

5. The Divine Subtle Trinity of Rope is The Breath, the Movement and the Body that houses the breath and does the movement.

6. Accept that Suffering has a place with in the tie. However suffering is not the sole purpose of the tie. The PURPOSE of the tie is a pure and truthful connection. 

7. With in the understanding of rope, complete is when the rope is tied securely. This has nothing to do with a pattern, this has to do with the understanding of “enough” rope. My belief is that we all strive to do beautifully intricate ties that we over look the basic forms and understanding. We move too fast and don’t learn to communicate properly with the rope. This causes us to struggle. 

8. All (INTENTIONAL AND PURPOSEFUL) rope must be tied orbitally (counter clockwise) to be in alignment the the Earth’s rotation, this is the Divine Orbit of rope.

9. The Divine Rope Degree is the 9th degree. This should be the entry angle and start point. 

This discussion is from my book, " The Abramatic Laws of connective rope." I felt it was a good introduction to the book as well as a different way to present the information, especially knowing a lot of people aren't going to actually read it even if they buy it. Having this discussion can be used as a reference.

How do you know what to charge? I suggest using what I call the N.I.C.E. Method. N.I.C.E. stands for Niche, Interval, Consistency, and Experience. Before we get into that, for this discussion, I want to focus strictly on the formula I use; not actual numbers. I’m also not talking about promotion, marketing strategies, or where to market. This portion is strictly a formula. You have to plug in your own information. I will use examples but again use this a guide. Now along with that I felt it was better to use an acronym to help with memory of the process. For some people placing the interval component first and the niche component last will be the way to work it out, if that true for you do it. Again this is just a base formula.

For the first question I think its as simple as are you getting paid to do it on a consistent basis.

But I googled it and here is what I got.

“An amateur does something for enjoyment or personal reasons (not for pay), while a professional gets paid for their skill and time, treating it as a livelihood, often with higher commitment, continuous training, and a focus on consistent results over just fun or initial success. The core difference lies in compensation and mindset: amateurs do it for passion, professionals work for a living, requiring discipline to perform regardless of feelings or motivation. “

Of course there will always be nuances and some differences but overall this definition true. Now you don’t have to be a professional to charge. And because you don’t charge doesn’t automatically make you an amateur. This is a mindset question that you have to work out on your divine space.

I expand on the concept of creating a foundational approach to BDSM more specifically Bedroom Bondage. These are current lecture/discussion points than I’m working on for future topics.

The Six Cs Of Bedroom Bondage

1. Confidence

2. Connection

3. Commitment 

4. Communication

5. Creativity

6. Collaborative Effort

TRIGGER WARNING!!! The topics in this episode may be more than some people can handle. I speak on grief, hurt, hate, and crime in a way that may cause a listener to fall into a dark place. If you are not able to have conversations about the past without being volatile then please forgo this and come back when the conversation fit you. These topics are from my point of view. I'm speaking of my experiences and observations and trying to make sense of what I and people in my generation live through in an attempt to foster a culture of love.

This episode I sit with myself and speak to men for men and introduce history for why black men feel some of the things we do in a way not many folks do. I give my take on the things that played a part in the way we are, while doing all I can to hold those most responsible accountable for the condition of black men; BLACK MEN.

SO if you are a black man looking for a space to be seen, heard and cared about with out the coddling that some men feel they need, this is for you. If, however, you need a space where you want to be a contrarian or a troll, or you want to participate in the "What About Them," Olympics this isn't the place for you.

In this installment I discuss what I believe to be the issues when we look at Communities(BDSM, LS, SEX WORK, & CONTENT CREATORS) vs the Industry that has formed after the pandemic aka SCAM-DEMIC aka BAND-DEMIC. How there were clear boundaries, customs and courtesies that were established then they were dumped and lumped in together and mixed with a new dangerous fusion of consumerism and commercialism that became a distorted versions of themselves.

I dive into history of communities as I saw and lived through. I try to offer a few solutions and tip for going forward. Will they help? I don't know. Time will tell.

This is the introduction episode of the Solomon Abrams Podcast. So I think it's best I introduce myself and give you, the listener, an understanding of who I am, what my goals are and where I PLAN on taking things with the podcast.

In this episode I give you a better understanding of who I am and how I started. I give you my real origin story. I discuss my start as a writer and self published author. To starting a porn production company, Thick Chick Academy and photographer. To how I started in rope bondage(GLAMBONDAGE) and BDSM. My entry into the BDSM and Rope Bondage community. I speak on how I became an instructor. THE BEGINNING OF BEDROOM BONDAGE. How I started into holistic healing and expression. And ultimately how I got here to where I am today, MISTER SOLOMON ABRAMS, artist, photographer, author, Professional Dominant & Service Top, sexual health, rigger, sound and vibrational healer and guide, educator, and BEDROOM KANDI sales affiliate. Oh yeah and I guess podcaster for a bit,LOL.

Bio- Solomon Abrams

Afroerotic MACRAME: Is the energetic infusion of Japanese kinbaku, the soulful urban America and the creative expression of GlamBondage (a term popularized by Mr. Solomon Abrams.

Solomon Abrams now Mesa, Arizona Based AfroErotic Photo Expressionist, BDSM Educator & Self Proclaimed Sensual Knotologist(commonly referred to as a rigger), Author, Tantric Energy worker, Reiki worker, Erotic Whole Body Somatic practitioner

Multi Disciplined Service Top & BDSM Dominant for Hire.

Mr. Abrams began on this journey in 2012 learning Shibari as a means to stay competitive as a photographer, and as since grown to be an internationally rope bondage rigger known for his work larger bodied black women. Solomon’s use of bold and vibrant colors and breath taking imagery has been inspiration for many Black kinkster to explored intimate macrame as a form of “therapeutic BDSM”.

Mr. Abrams feels the Black voice has a place in fetish work and sees this art form as a way to “express and showcase Afro Erotic as a form of beauty and self love and self expression.

Solomon Abrams has taught and performed at numerous events over the years. ROPECRAFT, Missy Kings Luau, Hedonism II & MLK weekend, Weekend Reunion and EXXXOTICA. HIS art can also be seen in the World Famous Baltimore Playhouse.

Follow Solomon Abrams at his www.thesolomonabrams.com

social media platforms: Facebook @SolomonAbrams ; Instagram @mistersolomonabrams ; Twitter @Urban_American

Notables:

Author:

Passionetics: Blue

Onyxsia: Storm City Saga

Former Porn Producer (The Thick Chick Academy)

Publisher of The Knotty Girls Magazine

Head of GreyStone Dojo

Content Creator and Educator

Polyamorous

(Currently) purveyor of Dad jokes

Student of energy work, sound treatment and development of an Erotic SINergetic experience.

Key Skill Sets: Rope Bondage, Impact Play, Fire Play, Wax, Knife Play, Sound Treatments, Erotic Hypnosis and Rough Body Play.