If you're constantly replaying past moments through the lens of self-loathing, or imagining a play-by-play fight while you shower with all the things you should have said (we've all done it), you're really only hurting yourself. You're sabotaging your relationship with yourself and with others, and stealing the joy from your present and future. In the latest episode of The Soulfully Confident Podcast I talk more about:

• How our re-imaginings can sabotage our present and future moments
• How to move on from reflective self-loathing

You have a choice when it comes to the thoughts you feed yourself, and instead of embracing unrealistic expectations in the wake of a fight, or remembering every bad thing you've ever done, what if you learned to live in the present and look forward to the future with excitement and optimism? Yeah, I thought that sounded more fun.

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It's so easy to resist change and to take our partner for granted. Don't ask me why, but it is. So how do we fight both of these very real human qualities that can have dire consequences on the health of our relationships? Well, accepting that to love is to evolve while also understanding having gratitude for the way things are now is key. Easier said than done right? That's why in the latest episode I take a deeper dive into:

• What it means to grow with your partner
• How to appreciate the now
• How to embrace lifelong learning in your relationship

It's not always easy, but once you stop fighting the inevitable changes you and your partner will experience, and learn to lean into them as new ways to relate to each other, that's when the magic begins to happen. Finding new ways to shower them with love, while compassionately acknowledging that there may be new ways we need to be loved are key in maintaining a vibrant partnership. Again, this is a tall order, but it's so worth it in the end.

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If you spoke to someone else the way you speak to yourself, would they cry? If so, this one's for you- you gotta learn to stop that. You're worthy of love, especially from YOU. It can be really hard not to go over past mistakes with a fine-tooth comb, mining for every goring detail of how terrible we are- I don't know why it's so easy, but it is. We've all got some bullies inside of us, and if we don't learn to stand up to them, they can ruin our lives. That's why in this episode I go more into:

• What your inner critic is
• How to shut them up

Ultimately, only you can decide how you talk to yourself. It's a choice you'll have to consciously make over and over till it becomes a habit. And this is also not me telling you to blow smoke up your butt- if something in your past or present feels cringy, or you're dreading something in your future, you probably need to examine that. But you DON'T have to all-out loathe yourself while you do it.

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How do you define yourself? Specifically, how do you define yourself when you fail (or feel like you've failed)? I know that it can feel disappointing when we don't get what we want or (think) we need. But what if, instead of getting down on yourself, or letting it keep you from getting up and trying again, what if you instead admired the parts of your attempt that worked?

Better still, what if you appreciated the fact that you were brave enough to try at all, and tried to learn something from it? This concept is what I like to call "failing forward" and though it may seem like a small shift, this reframe is seriously powerful. On this episode of the Soulfully Confident Podcast, we'll be talking about how:

• To learn and grow from failure
• Ways to silence your harsh inner critic

It's not always easy, but if you can step out of your shame spiral and remember that you're not failing as long as you're growing, you'll become a braver and better version of yourself. You'll get a broader perspective on your life and relationships with people by taking your ego out of it and remembering there is no such thing as perfection, only those who try and try again.

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All anger really is, is a lack of control. It's a secondary emotion in response to feeling anxious or unable to control events happening around you. And for a lot of us, it's safer or easier than acknowledging that something is happening that we don't like.

It's also anger that tips us into the victim mindset. Once we're already angry, that's the lens we use to view things around us. Recognizing our harmful tendencies and working on them is the ultimate way to overhaul a feeling of powerlessness. In this episode we'll talk more about:

• Denial vs processing your emotions in a healthy way
• Ways to express feelings responsibly

Living in a dream world isn't the answer here, but neither is curling up into a ball of angst just because you're having a bad day. We have to learn to strike that balance between acknowledging and processing our feelings without becoming a slave to them. Let's talk about ways to figure out how.

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There is such power if you're able to tap into the feminine energy that lives in all of us regardless of gender.

It can help you connect with yourself and allow you to embrace your nurturing side for your benefit (and others if you're feeling generous). So often we don't even remember to gauge how and what we're feeling from moment to moment. Quite the opposite actually, if anything we try to avoid our feelings. This is where you'll find yourself running to some favorite pastimes like all-day Netflix binges, your classic "going for 1 drink" turned into 10, endless social media scrolls, you get the idea.

In this episode, we'll talk more about:

• Why we avoid emotions in the first place
• How this hinders growth
• How to stop

As much as it can hurt sometimes, or just feel really annoying, the only way to process our emotions and learn from them is to acknowledge them. And then we have to listen to what they are trying to tell us. It's not always easy, but I promise if you learn to run toward and not away from your feelings, it's so so worth it.

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People love to tell you the only constant in life is change. While this is fundamentally true, in my experience, it doesn't mean it's easy. Change can be thrilling, but it can also be frightening; running headfirst into the unknown is unsettling. We can't see what's about to happen, and the unknown can be cruel as well as kind, and the only deciding factor is fate.

Yikes, didn't mean for this to get so real, especially because even when faced with the unknown we should strive to be hopeful! That's why in this episode I go more into:

• Ways to reflect on the chapter you're ending
• How to look forward to the future with positivity, not fear

Never forget YOU are in charge of your story, and if you can stay positive and open to possibility while also accepting the universe will take you where you're meant to be, you'll do just fine.

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Are you a constant seeker? Maybe if you just try this, or go here, or hit this goal, you'll finally reach contentment. Maybe…

Maybe not. Sorry but you have to seek contentment within yourself; I promise you it's there. In this episode we do a deep dive into that very topic and chat about:

• How feeling fulfilled in yourself enables you to be happy everywhere
• Simple practices you can do to become more grateful

One of the best things you can do for yourself is to develop a gratitude mindset. This will allow you to always carry a calm and positive attitude no matter where you might be. It'll help you feel fulfilled from within instead of seeking fulfillment through outside sources (that so often leave us wanting).

A great place to start is by practicing gratitude before bedtime. A shift in attitude AND something to guarantee a great night's sleep? Sign. Me. Up. It's not always easy, and sometimes negative thoughts creep back in, but practice makes perfect. If you look for gratitude in the simple things and choices you make every day, you'll find that true contentment is found in a calmer and more centered you.

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Just because he forgets to put the toilet seat down in no way means your relationship is doomed. So you gotta stop deciding it is because some Instagram influencer told you her boyfriend gets her spontaneous flowers and massages. (Who knows, maybe he also forgets to put the toilet seat down).

The point is, comparison is a dangerous thing, and all it will do is make you unnecessarily play the victim and go looking for trouble in your relationship. In this episode, I go further into:

• Why we have the desire to compare our relationships
• What that comparison actually means
• Ways to combat the urge and step into loving self-improvement

We don't have to be a slave to our thoughts, but we do have to try and figure out what they're trying to tell us.

Effective communication both internally and with your partner will go a long way in preserving your bond, and making you less likely to compare your relationship to friends or what you're seeing on social media.

Remember that no one is perfect, no relationship is perfect, but if you give each other the benefit of the doubt and work through root issues together, you'll be perfect for each other.

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Depression alert!

Have you ever had a sadness spell sneak up on you seemingly out of nowhere? One minute you're fine and the next you're all doom and gloom and feel like you'll never be happy again?

Here's the thing though, there's usually a reason or reasons for your sudden weariness. And figuring those reasons out is an important part of how you eventually shut them down.

In this episode we talk more about:

• Why bouts of depression pop up
• How to deal with them when they do

Contrary to popular belief, negative thoughts and feelings are normal. They happen. The difference between curling up with them in a big sadness afghan and moving on depends upon what you decide to believe about yourself.

You have so much more power than you think you do; you are loved and capable and you will get through this and be happy again. I promise.

Make sure to tune in to episode 89 to learn about how you can take control and self-talk your way out of a funk.

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