Tom Edmunds arrived in our Soulhub world a few years before he actually arrived. What we mean by that, is we met his mum Deborah back in 2020 just before the pandemic, and then 3 years on, we received the call no mother wants to make. “Help.”
Tom was given a cancer diagnosis out of nowhere. He was experiencing pain, which as we’ve got to know him well, realise that he level of pain management is extremely high so it must have been a strong indicator that something was wrong.
He was told that not only did he have Level 4 Bowel, Liver and Stomach Cancer, but that his life expectancy would be about 6 months. Tom was 39 years old. He has two children, and he was in a fairly new relationship with the love of his life Esme, and she also has 2 children. Many people loved Tom, and as we’ve experienced each day, he touches hundreds of lives and is loved way beyond his immediate circle.
We (Carmen & Andrew) met Tom and Esme for a walk and talk, and shared how we felt we could support them. We gave a wide directory of people and options, and he was quick to say, that we were his team. It was time for him to ‘get some control back’.
Since November 2023, we’ve been Team Tom. This is an unusual ‘Soul Story’ as sharing the experience of someone who’s within our therapeutic care isn’t the normal done thing. But Tom is extraordinary, and how he’s managing himself and his cancer is a story we felt was important to share wider.
Andrew Cuerden is your host, and together with Tom, they explore and cover Tom’s back story and his present day thinking. Why he came to therapy, what he gets from it, and why he’d love more to step on this path to self-understanding.
We have learnt that we can control our thoughts. That we can utilise our mindsets to control certain aspects. I deploy the tools that I have been given.
He’s travelled through a few very-near death experiences, hyperbaric chambers, chemotherapy, sepsis, cancer spreading to his intestines. Perforations, and poo stories are a regular occurrence in his house. He was in a fight (controlled in his favourite gym) weeks after his diagnosis, he’s still working and restoring the family home and making time for his healing and reflections.
Thank you for listening to Tom Edmunds’ Soul Story. This recording is public so feel free to share it with those who you know would appreciate his words
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Thank you Tom for your continual openness and we hope as listeners you get a real sense of what Tom is experiencing and who he’s becoming as life throws curve balls at him.
To follow Tom's journey, you can see him here on his Instagram @OldTomNewTom and if you'd like to donate to support his charitable fundraising for Phyllis Tuckwell.
We’d love to have you back and go deeper into your experience. Please share in your comments if you’d like to hear more from Tom, and any questions you might like us to ask.
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