In this episode, Susan-Jane touches on the last episode “You can’t get there from here.” She begins to talk about the subconscious programming of our minds. The subconscious has stored every event that we have experienced. Scientists studied the subconscious mind and found five brain waves, listed below. Until we are six years old we remain in the Theta stage. Susan-Jane explains this means messages that we received at that young age take root. These often become our limiting beliefs.

• Alpha waves
• Delta waves
• Beta waves
• Theta waves
• • State of hypnosis
  • Incredibly receptive
  • Impressionable
  • Absorbable sponge
  • No filter
• Gamma waves

The online community is noisy, full of opinions, sales pitches, and information. Being our fully actualized self means we must continue learning and employ rational thoughts. Make the correct decisions regarding pricing and products/services. We believe that the conscious mind will resolve these issues for us. 95% of all decisions are made by the subconscious mind. The motherboard (subconscious mind) is set.

What are your beliefs? Look at your current results tells us:

• Struggling to make money or sign up clients
• • Risk negative thoughts: thinking you are not good enough, your services aren’t good enough, your skill set isn’t good enough . . .
  • • Your subconscious may have a different agenda than what you consciously desire (cognitive dissonance)
    • Subconscious will always win
    • Failure to change those beliefs will fail to change results
• The Gap
• • Where you are and where you want to be
  • Who you are and who you want to be
  • What you’re trying to create and the manifestation of it
• Fear of success?
• • For women, it is a fear of our power
  • Fear of being alone
  • Fear of change
  • Imposter syndrome or feeling like a fraud

 Know where you are so you know where to go! Susan-Jane explains that our belief system or programming is like the water the fish swims in. This is the only way we have been able to see and explain the world. You can’t get somewhere by focusing on not being there. What can we do? Susan-Jane gives an example that she is a person who is not good at technology and wants to start a podcast. Her belief that technology is a problem for her will cause anxiety and cautious behavior. This may cause her to hold off doing this because she feels inadequate which will give her the result that feeds back into her result that technology is a problem for her. A feedback loop.

 Susan-Jane invites you to think this thought and say aloud: I am clearly on my way to success.

The energy behind that thought and verbalizing it lifts us. It gives birth to a powerful though that leads to the result that we’re clearly after. The solution is in the challenge.

We must careful of the thoughts we have because we can change them and upon making these habits re-create our subconscious mind.

“We can not solve a problem with the same level of consciousness that created it” - Einstein

“Because of the subconscious running the show and you not seeing the results that you want, you give that your attention.”

“What you think about, you bring about.”

“We have been conditioned to believe in scarcity.”

“Our brain’s number one purpose is to keep us alive. Our evolution taught us from way back in the cave days: fight and flight. Change is danger.”

“In pursuit of excellence, not perfection.”

“This society has conditioned us to fix the past.”

“We don’t see the world as it is. We see it as we are.” - Anais Nin

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In this episode, Susan-Jane explains creating a new paradigm. Susan-Jane shares one of her favorite sayings: You can’t get there from here. What does she mean?

• Each of us here looking to make a difference in the world, are here to contribute in our own unique way. Each of us has something to deliver to the world.
• • You may not know what you’re here to contribute . . . yet
  • References the book Letters to a Young Poet by Rainer Maria Rilke
  • • We need to create space for the answers to reveal themselves
    • We need to leave space for the muse, divine guidance
• We have to know where we are
• • If you’re meeting up for dinner with someone and they ask where you are. The question you ask them, to guide them to you, is, “Where are you.”
  • Let go of the need to impress and taking inventory of exactly where you are
  • • Assets, strengths, weaknesses
    • Where do you  give yourself a hard time
    • Where do you get in my way
    • Where do you block yourself
    • Where do you find yourself in flow
    • Where do you feel most empowered
    • What is your truth?

She talks about how most of the time with clients when they can see what is getting in their way. They want to know how to get rid of it!

• We don’t get rid of what we disapprove of or what we’re judging because we’re caught up in a tug of war with those things. (I’m critical of myself. I’m going to stop criticizing myself. But already I’m criticizing myself for criticizing myself.)
• • What you resist persists - acceptance and respect is the answer
  • Honor and respect what has made you, you in this moment.
  • Dignify your process
  • Comment if you’re feeling alone or disparaged. SJR wants this community to be a safe haven for women to guide each other.

Susan-Jane gives a challenge and its purpose is acceptance of yourself!

• Where are you?
• Who are you?
• What beliefs are governing you?
• What feelings are habitual to you?
• What are relationship patterns

She explains she was the queen of beating herself up and said to herself, “Susan, if beating yourself up worked, wouldn’t you be different by now. You’ve been doing it for years.” And it caused her pause.

“You can’t get there from here.”

“The education system is still a spin-off of the whole industrial era.”

“The internet has changed everything.”

“Learn to love the questions themselves.”

“Inherent in the problem is the solution, always.”

“I never solved one of my problems through the process of rational thought.” - Albert Einstein

“What is my truth, not what society has conditioned, or what we’ve learned from our parents. The truth of who we are and what we’re here to do?”

“In acceptance, your energy shifts and that creates an opening for the answers or the solution or the next step to reveal itself.”

“If you’re feeling out of sorts, alone, frustrated, overwhelmed, even misunderstood or lost I want you to know you are loved and being taken care of. If you feel alone that doesn’t mean you are alone.”

“I had to learn that feelings aren’t facts.”

“Embrace your brilliance.”

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Thank you for the invitation into your world. Your life matters and you have a special set of gifts that are essential to the world.

Join SRJ as she introduced you to a new concept: We don’t need more information. We need a different conversation! She goes on to describe growing up and living in South Africa during the Apartheid era. She discusses a greeting in Zulu, sowabona, that when taken in properly means we acknowledge each other’s person and souls. She believes that this greeting holds the key. According to SJR, marketing and selling our businesses can strip us of our dignity. You are a purpose driven woman and perhaps the reason that things have not aligned for you is because you’re not living in the most genuine way. We need to stop asking questions we don’t want the answers to. Don’t ask how someone is doing unless you’re truly ready to listen and see that person as a whole being and soul.

Rarely do people in conversation say ‘I understand’ and mean it. Not often do we ask questions because we’re willing to admit we don’t understand and we want to. In this space, we acknowledge each other and want to grow closer. This requires us to put aside our own goals and agendas to be fully present when another is speaking . . . so that we can truly see them.  We can become very self-involved and wonder why we are not being heard, seen, or acknowledged. This could be why the response to ‘sowabona’ is ‘Ngikhona’ which means: I am here. I stand before you with my needs, my dreams, my dreams, my fear, and my love . . . my heart, soul, and story.

SJR explains that the Zulu have a philosophy called Ubuntu which translates to I am because we are. They believe that a person is a person because of others. In that context Ngikhona, it holds an amazing appreciation: I did not exist until you saw me. It is imperative that we embody. Remember when we are truly seen there is a love and joy that is unlike anything else. When you are in the spotlight and you can’t see anyone else the answer is Ngikhona: I am here. Don’t be a noisy person simply boasting.

We are the new Devine Feminine: creating a new paradigm together.

“We have all this technology and my heart can chat with your heart.”

“At the risk of sounding trite,but I mean it, you matter! Your life matters!”

“Your life is in no way and accident or a mistake.”

“Each of us is here to contribute in our own indispensable way.”

“You are an integral part of our collective unfolding.”

“In Zulu, there is a greeting. They say, ‘Sawubona’, meaning I see you.”

“People listen to respond. They’re not listening to understand.”

“In the information age, listening is a bit of a dying art. I’m on a mission to bring it back.”

“Until you saw me I didn’t exist. By recognizing me you brought me into existence.”

“When you’re in the spotlight, you are blinded by the lights and you can’t see anyone else.”

“I have an interest in us creating a new paradigm together. Something that is worthy of our legacy.”

“I must be a mermaid. I have no fear of depths and a great fear of shallow living.” -  Anais Nin

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