The Speaking Out on Sex Abuse Podcast

Hey listeners! After over half a decade of podcasting, we've decided to make some big changes in life. We'll be making a big shift in our focus, so tune in to hear what we'll be up to and why we decided to wind the podcast down. We're so grateful to everyone who has listened to us for the past five years. Thank you isn't adequate to show our appreciation for you!

Jimmy’s book, The Devil Inside: How My Minister Father Molested Kids In Our Home and Church for Decades and How I Finally Stopped Him
https://www.amazon.com/dp/1950948617/ref=cm_sw_su_dp

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Trauma has a very difficult effect on survivors. Unfortunately there are scammers too. We have to distinguish between people who suffer with mental illness and people who are scammers. The former need us to point them to good resources and the latter need blocked. Sometimes it's very difficult to distinguish. In this episode we use real examples.

Jimmy’s book, The Devil Inside: How My Minister Father Molested Kids In Our Home and Church for Decades and How I Finally Stopped Him
https://www.amazon.com/dp/1950948617/ref=cm_sw_su_dp

Support us on Patreon:
https://www.patreon.com/SpeakingOut

Find us on Facebook:
https://www.facebook.com/jimmyhintonauthor
https://www.facebook.com/SilentGriefSupport

And Twitter:
https://twitter.com/JimmyHinton12
https://twitter.com/clarahinton

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Meet Chele Roland, the whistleblower who exposed the International Churches of Christ for decades of abuse cover-ups. After podcasting about her own abuse on WhaTheFlok podcast, Chele began getting all kinds of messages from survivors of abuse from the International Churches of Christ. The ICOC/ICC, known as "The Boston Movement," put a huge emphasis on recruiting "disciples" who were personally responsible for producing large numbers of converts to Christianity.

The rules were very strict and Chele was one of the people responsible for producing converts. Her story of sexual abuse is tied to the ICOC/ICC and her conditioning kept her silent for years. After reaching out to over sixty church leaders and not receiving a single response, Chele decided to lead the way for other survivors to seek justice and stop the abuses that are still happening. Chele's story is one of courage and honor. We were so glad to have her share her story!

Chele's YouTube channel and podcast, WhaTheFlok:
@whatheflokcultsurvivalstor6528
https://www.whatheflok.com/

*Book Chele suggests for survivors of sexual abuse:
The Body Keeps Score by Vessel Van Der Kolk MD

Free2b non profit for survivors to have access to resources and therapy, etc: [email protected]
IG: @Free2b

Jimmy’s book, The Devil Inside: How My Minister Father Molested Kids In Our Home and Church for Decades and How I Finally Stopped Him https://www.amazon.com/dp/1950948617/ref=cm_sw_su_dp

Support us on Patreon:
https://www.patreon.com/SpeakingOut

Find us on Facebook:
https://www.facebook.com/jimmyhintonauthor
https://www.facebook.com/SilentGriefSupport

And Twitter:
https://twitter.com/JimmyHinton12
https://twitter.com/clarahinton

Intro--
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I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. http://dig.ccmixter.org/files/ramblinglibrarian/41284

We saw a recent video by Steve Harvey about the importance of stopping negative self-talk. It was so powerful, and we wanted to share how important it is to have a proper attitude to change the outcome of our lives. Our talk, both negative and positive, really can determine the direction our lives will take.

Steve Harvey Video:
https://youtu.be/yWDo-y-tK7k

Jimmy’s book, The Devil Inside: How My Minister Father Molested Kids In Our Home and Church for Decades and How I Finally Stopped Him
https://www.amazon.com/dp/1950948617/ref=cm_sw_su_dp

Support us on Patreon:
https://www.patreon.com/SpeakingOut

Find us on Facebook:
https://www.facebook.com/jimmyhintonauthor
https://www.facebook.com/SilentGriefSupport

And Twitter:
https://twitter.com/JimmyHinton12
https://twitter.com/clarahinton

Intro--
Film Glitch by Snowflake (c) copyright 2017 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution Noncommercial (3.0) license. http://dig.ccmixter.org/files/snowflake/56350 Ft: reusenoise

Outro--
I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. http://dig.ccmixter.org/files/ramblinglibrarian/41284

Not everything is reportable when it comes to abuse. So many people feel stuck because they don't know what to do when they cannot report to police. Should you tell anyone? Who should you tell? What do you tell them? Find out in this episode.

Jimmy’s book, The Devil Inside: How My Minister Father Molested Kids In Our Home and Church for Decades and How I Finally Stopped Him
https://www.amazon.com/dp/1950948617/ref=cm_sw_su_dp

Support us on Patreon:
https://www.patreon.com/SpeakingOut

Find us on Facebook:
https://www.facebook.com/jimmyhintonauthor
https://www.facebook.com/SilentGriefSupport

And Twitter:
https://twitter.com/JimmyHinton12
https://twitter.com/clarahinton

Intro--
Film Glitch by Snowflake (c) copyright 2017 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution Noncommercial (3.0) license. http://dig.ccmixter.org/files/snowflake/56350 Ft: reusenoise
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I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. http://dig.ccmixter.org/files/ramblinglibrarian/41284

James MacDonald was recently arrested for felony charges of assault by means likely to produce great bodily injury. MacDonald beat up a 59 year old woman and sent her to the hospital when there was a small fender bender. People have been defending Mr. MadDonald, saying that he was framed, he's innocent until proven guilty, and that we need to focus on stories of grace and not highlight felony crimes.

This episode highlights those remarks so that we can better understand how churches are likely to respond to abuse allegations.

Jimmy’s book, The Devil Inside: How My Minister Father Molested Kids In Our Home and Church for Decades and How I Finally Stopped Him
https://www.amazon.com/dp/1950948617/ref=cm_sw_su_dp

Support us on Patreon:
https://www.patreon.com/SpeakingOut

Find us on Facebook:
https://www.facebook.com/jimmyhintonauthor
https://www.facebook.com/SilentGriefSupport

And Twitter:
https://twitter.com/JimmyHinton12
https://twitter.com/clarahinton

Intro--
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I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. http://dig.ccmixter.org/files/ramblinglibrarian/41284

Why in the world did the Dalai Lama ask a young boy to suck his tongue? The fact that this was called out so publicly is a great sign that people are fed up with people acting creepy toward our young children. In this episode we talk about the extremely inappropriate comment, including kissing the boy on the lips, followed by a very weak apology. This was chalked up to "innocent joking" that is routinely done with children.

We believe the public is finally fed up with the excuses for these kinds of sick behaviors with our children. Even Cardi B is fed up!

Jimmy’s book, The Devil Inside: How My Minister Father Molested Kids In Our Home and Church for Decades and How I Finally Stopped Him
https://www.amazon.com/dp/1950948617/ref=cm_sw_su_dp

Support us on Patreon:
https://www.patreon.com/SpeakingOut

Find us on Facebook:
https://www.facebook.com/jimmyhintonauthor
https://www.facebook.com/SilentGriefSupport

And Twitter:
https://twitter.com/JimmyHinton12
https://twitter.com/clarahinton

Intro--
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I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. http://dig.ccmixter.org/files/ramblinglibrarian/41284

There's one theme that runs thick among all survivors - loss. And it's not just survivors of abuse. So many millions of people have lost so much. Death is also something that we all will have to face, both among loved ones and we have to face the reality that we ourselves will die, guaranteed. Grief reaches us in tons of different ways and often we're not prepared to face it.

But face it we must. We have to face pain to get better. We have to deal with it, process it, acknowledge it, and embrace it if we are going to conquer it. And it's quite possible to conquer our pain! In this episode we talk about facing our pain. We cannot ignore it, mask it, or pretend like it doesn't exist.

Clara's Website:
https://www.silentgriefsupport.com/

Jimmy’s book, The Devil Inside: How My Minister Father Molested Kids In Our Home and Church for Decades and How I Finally Stopped Him https://www.amazon.com/dp/1950948617/ref=cm_sw_su_dp

Support us on Patreon:
https://www.patreon.com/SpeakingOut

Find us on Facebook:
https://www.facebook.com/jimmyhintonauthor
https://www.facebook.com/SilentGriefSupport

And Twitter:
https://twitter.com/JimmyHinton12
https://twitter.com/clarahinton

Intro--
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I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. http://dig.ccmixter.org/files/ramblinglibrarian/41284

We're really don't like the term "expert" anymore. Writing a book, taking a course, or holding a certificate or political office doesn't necessarily make someone an expert. There are lots of people in every field who claim to be experts but they lack credibility. Credibility is far superior to claiming expertise, especially when it comes to trauma. Trauma experts are people who have lots of education, experience, and credibility among the people they help.

That's not to say that only professionals can be helpful, but be very cautious when people claim to be experts but lack credibility or a vast amount of experience and education. It really matters, when we are processing trauma, whether someone is credible or not.

CNBC article- nearly half of retirees plan to retire in debt:
https://www.cnbc.com/2021/11/16/46-percent-of-americans-expect-to-retire-in-debt.html

Social Security Study:
https://www.ssa.gov/policy/docs/research-summaries/debt-trend.html

Credit Card Debt at All Time High:
https://www.cnbc.com/2023/03/09/as-credit-card-debt-hits-new-high-households-near-a-breaking-point.html

NM Lawmakers Destroy Chile Industry:
https://www.abqjournal.com/2579812/lawmakers-overreach-killing-new-mexico-chile-industry.html

Jimmy’s book, The Devil Inside: How My Minister Father Molested Kids In Our Home and Church for Decades and How I Finally Stopped Him https://www.amazon.com/dp/1950948617/ref=cm_sw_su_dp

Support us on Patreon:
https://www.patreon.com/SpeakingOut

Find us on Facebook:
https://www.facebook.com/jimmyhintonauthor
https://www.facebook.com/SilentGriefSupport

And Twitter:
https://twitter.com/JimmyHinton12
https://twitter.com/clarahinton

Intro--
Film Glitch by Snowflake (c) copyright 2017 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution Noncommercial (3.0) license. http://dig.ccmixter.org/files/snowflake/56350 Ft: reusenoise
Outro--
I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. http://dig.ccmixter.org/files/ramblinglibrarian/41284