April 16, 2025

The Starting Lineup Dilemma

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Ever wonder why your son isn't in the starting lineup? The truth might surprise you.

Baseball isn't just about who can hit the ball farthest or throw the fastest pitch. High school coaches make tough decisions every single day about who plays and who sits – decisions that go far beyond raw talent. From academic performance and classroom behavior to practice effort and being a supportive teammate, the factors that determine playing time are complex and often invisible to parents watching from the stands.

I'll never forget the parent who approached me during a team cookout at IMG Academy in Florida to boldly declare that I was "what's keeping us from winning a state championship." That uncomfortable moment sparked an important reflection on the relationship between coaches, players, and parents. While that particular season ended in a heartbreaking 1-0 loss in the 10th inning of the district finals, the lessons remain relevant for baseball families everywhere.

Here's the uncomfortable truth many parents don't want to hear: sometimes the best way to support your child isn't by fighting their battles, but by stepping back. When parents rush to protect their sons from difficulty – whether it's limited playing time, batting lower in the lineup, or facing criticism – they rob them of the opportunity to develop resilience. In baseball, a game where even elite hitters fail seven out of ten times, learning from setbacks isn't just helpful; it's essential.

Whether you're a coach navigating lineup decisions or a parent supporting a player through ups and downs, remember that success in baseball and in life is earned through facing challenges head-on. The players who become leaders are those who learn to handle adversity without breaking. Trust the process, back the coaching staff, and let failure be the powerful teacher it's meant to be.

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