Achieving a state of peace doesn’t have to be some grand or elaborate thing. It’s not about world peace or being at an expensive spa. Peace is simply a matter of stillness and contentment. Sometimes, you are at peace while at home in the quiet surroundings, but other times you can find peace in a sea of noise and distraction.

Discourses 2.2.25 states Remember, then, the general rule, and you will need no special suggestions; but if you are absorbed in externals, you must necessarily  be tossed up and down, according to the inclination of your master. Who is your master? He who controls those things which you seek or shun. 

It does not take much to finding peace to help improve your emotional health and wellness. 

Detachment helps in the practice of Stoicism by giving emotional space to evaluate situations without emotional involvement. Healthy detachment means clarity of thought. But what about unhealthy detachment ?It could mean emotional numbness.  

Emotional numbness occurs when your emotional state has become fragile, but in a way where you don’t always realize it’s happening. Instead of experiencing a lot of stressful, extreme emotions and thoughts, it’s as if you don’t feel anything at all. Not only can this be a sign of depression, but it causes many other issues.

Meditation 8.45 : Take me and cast me where thou wilt; for there I shall keep my divine part tranquil, that is, content, if it can feel and act conformably to its proper constitution. Is this change of place sufficient reason why my soul should be unhappy and worse than it was, depressed, expanded, shrinking, affrighted? And what wilt thou find which is sufficient reason for this? 

One of the hardest things about being a human being is that your emotions are going to be constantly changing. You can’t control most of what happens to you, but you can definitely control how you react to things. If you have been struggling with dealing with strong or difficult emotions there are ways to deal with them.

Moral Letters 37.4. states Folly is low, abject, mean, slavish, and exposed to many of the cruellest passions. These passions, which are heavy taskmasters, sometimes ruling by turns, and sometimes together, can be banished from you by wisdom, which is the only real freedom. There is but one path leading thither, and it is a straight path; you will not go astray. Proceed with steady step, and if you would have all things under your control, put yourself under the control of reason; if reason becomes your ruler, you will become ruler over many. You will learn from her what you should undertake, and how it should be done; you will not blunder into thing

To understand what anger is lets define it. First, we can all agree that anger is an emotion. It is an emotion based on feelings of intense displeasure and hostility. There are different degrees and types of anger. Lets look at some definitions to really understand what anger is.

Definitions of Anger:

1. A strong feeling of displeasure and belligerence caused by a wrong; also known as wrath

2. A strong feeling or emotion of either displeasure or antagonism or a combination of both. Excitement caused by real or supposed insult or injury to one's personal self or another for the purpose of causing harm or injury

3. A feeling of great annoyance or antagonism due to a real or imagined

Meditations 6.57 states To the jaundiced honey tastes bitter, and to those bitten by mad dogs water causes fear; and to little children the ball is a fine thing. Why then am I angry? Dost thou think that a false opinion has less power than the bile in the jaundiced or the poison in him who is bitten by a mad dog?

Many people choose to live their lives in a state of consistency and mediocrity. For them, it’s the safest way to live - even if it’s not the most fulfilling. There are some benefits to this, too. 

You can take up the ordinary job with a lot of security. It might not pay much, but you’ve got it and it’s stable. You can choose to live a standard, cookie-cutter lifestyle - and while it isn’t interesting, it’s safe and you know what to do.

If you choose to live like this, you might be afraid of change. Many people don’t like dealing with change. It interrupts their flow of life, and it can often have negative connotations. 

Discourses 1.8.5-6 states Because, even now, though we are not absorbed in these things, nor diverted, by me at least, from the study of morality; yet we make no eminent advances in virtue. What is to be expected then if we should add this avocation too? Especially as it would not only withdraw us from more necessary studies, but likewise afford a capital occasion of conceit and insolence.

Lives often don’t turn out the way that everyone intends them to. People imagine themselves in some extremely unlikely scenario, in which they’re wildly successful based off of a stroke of luck or something else that’s unlikely to happen. 

So when they actually start living their lives, they’re often disappointed by what it’s become. Not necessarily because they’re not hugely successful, but because they’re just mediocre - and they feel as though life is droning on. 

Many feel lost when they reach this point, but there’s a good general plan of action that anyone could take to help improve their life. The best thing you can do when you start to feel as though your daily existence has become disappointing is to take stock of what’s going wrong in your life. 

Moral Letters 92.3. What is the happy life? It is peace of mind, and lasting tranquillity. This will be yours if you possess greatness of soul; it will be yours if you possess the steadfastness that resolutely clings to a good judgment just reached. How does a man reach this condition? By gaining a complete view of truth, by maintaining, in all that he does, order, measure, fitness, and a will that is inoffensive and kindly, that is intent upon reason and never departs therefrom, that commands at the same time love and admiration. In short, to give you the principle in brief compass, the wise man's soul ought to be such as would be proper for a god

Many people tend to ignore the problems in their lives. They know that their problems exist, but severely underestimate them to the point that they don’t take any action on them whatsoever. 

Instead, they choose to daydream about them, thinking that one day they’ll eventually enjoy their career or that over time, their partner will be more loving with them. Mindsets like this are how people get stuck in the same spot for far too long – sometimes forever. 

Meditations 6.31 states “Return to thy sober senses and call thyself back; and when thou hast roused thyself from sleep and hast perceived that they were only dreams which troubled thee, now in thy waking hours look at these (the things about thee) as thou didst look at those (the dreams).”

It’s not uncommon at all for people to lie a bit about themselves in order for them to appear better on the surface than they really are. They might lie about being happy with their job and about how their life is going. 

Over time, these little lies can seep into people’s own thoughts, and they’ll start to believe their own lies. This is a dangerous situation to be in. Once you start to believe some of the little lies that you tell people to spice up your life, you start letting little problems accumulate subconsciously. 

Enchiridion 13 states If you want to improve, be content to be thought foolish and stupid with regard to external things. Don't wish to be thought to know anything; and even if you appear to be somebody important to others, distrust yourself. For, it is difficult to both keep your faculty of choice in a state conformable to nature, and at the same time acquire external things. But while you are careful about the one, you must of necessity neglect the other.

There is a classic passage in Enchiridion 43. It states Everything has two handles, the one by which it may be carried, the other by which it cannot. If your brother acts unjustly, don't lay hold on the action by the handle of his injustice, for by that it cannot be carried; but by the opposite, that he is your brother, that he was brought up with you; and thus you will lay hold on it, as it is to be carried.

What happens if you choose the wrong handle?

There’s a major problem in many people’s lives early on when they decide what life path they’re going to take. Very rarely are their own wants and needs taken into consideration before they’re influenced to go down a particular path.

Often times, they’re influenced by their parents, teachers, and society in general to do something predetermined, and this can lead to many complications later in life.  

People often like to tell themselves little white lies to help alleviate the struggles of their daily discomfort. Individually, little lies don’t do you much harm, but over time, as you continue to ignore blatant problems in your life, it’ll start to take its toll on you. 

So many people turn a blind eye to what’s wrong in their life out of a fear of having to change things and upset the rhythm that they’ve already got going. But eventually, this kind of mindset will lead to their downfall.

Meditations 11.12 states The spherical form of the soul maintains its figure, when it is neither extended towards any object, nor contracted inwards, nor dispersed nor sinks down, but is illuminated by light, by which it sees the truth, the truth of all things and the truth that is in itself.