The Story in My Head: Healing & Self-Improvement for the Lazy

One tiny change can flip your whole day, and sometimes it’s not the world that needs fixing, it’s the lens you’re looking through. We unpack how anger, insecurity, and stress act like tinted lenses that skew the story in our head. When we “see red,” we interpret people and problems through threat, not truth. And that spills into our communication with a boss, a partner, our kids, and especially ourselves. 

Clarity can feel weird at first. New perspective can bring an adjustment period, but it also brings depth, curiosity, and the kind of wonder many adults forget. If you’ve been stuck in a negative mindset, caught in conflict, or tired of your own inner narration, this story offers a fresh way to reset. 

The practical takeaway is simple and powerful: notice the lens, name it, and choose again. That’s emotional regulation and cognitive reframing without the jargon. 

Subscribe for more grounded mindset shifts, share this with a friend who’s been wearing their angry goggles, and leave a review if it helps. Which lens are you choosing today?

You know that flash of irritation when someone “costs you” a few minutes and your whole body tightens like you’re being robbed? I had that moment at a backed-up intersection after a long drive, and I even caught myself thinking the most loaded phrase of all: time is money. What happened next surprised me and, honestly, changed the way I look at waiting.

A stranger’s bright red lipstick at a bus stop yanked me out of anger and straight into a childhood memory at my grandmother’s vanity. It led to a tiny jeweled box, a plain slip of paper, and a line I’ve carried for decades: yesterday is history, tomorrow is a mystery, today is a gift. That memory didn’t just calm me down, it showed me how quickly we can switch from stress to presence when we stop gripping the steering wheel and start paying attention to what’s actually here.

From there, I walk through a simple time management experiment: tracking a full week to see how I really spend my time, not how I hope I do. The big finding is what I call “I’m stuck here” time, the red lights, waiting rooms, long conversations, obligations, and awkward in-between moments. We break down three everyday currencies (money, time, energy), why time is the only one you can’t earn back, and practical mindfulness tools to spend those stuck minutes wisely: deep breaths, gratitude, a small smile, a quick compliment, or replaying the last time you laughed so hard you couldn’t breathe.

If you’ve been craving more intentional living without adding another impossible routine, here is a mid-week "Quickie" for ya. Listen through to the end and try one “stuck time” reset this week. Subscribe, share this with a friend who’s always rushing, and leave a review with your favorite way to come back to the present.

The fastest way to lose a relationship argument is to turn it into a trial about the past. One messy kitchen moment and an even messier pickleball debut teach us a surprisingly clean way out.

If you’ve ever felt trapped in the same argument pattern, this one gives you a practical reset and a better script for asking for what you need. 

Subscribe, share with a friend, and leave a review with your go-to phrase for resetting a heated moment.

relationships, arguments, fighting, communication, mindfulness, marriage, stress 

I am a creature of habit. To change The Story in My Head about money, I had to change my habits. I had to identify patterns and make micro changes. I'm practicing. And intentional practice is what changes our story!!!

Shannah Game is a CFP®, money expert, author, and emotional money guide who helps women understand the stories, shame, fear, and identity patterns behind their financial lives. She is the author of Unraveling Your Relationship with Money and creator of The Steady Reset, a free three-day audio series to help women stop spiraling around money and start feeling steady again.
She is also the creator and host of Bake It Out, a new YouTube show where baking becomes the doorway into honest conversations about money, midlife, reinvention, and the emotional stuff we usually hide.
Connect with Shannah:
Website + free audio series: https://www.heyshannah.com (https://www.heyshannah.com/)
Book: https://www.heyshannah.com/book
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@heyshannahgame 

money, addiction, shame, guilt, fear, anger, change, relationships, empowerment

The Story in My Head about money is changing with new skills, new language and new spending habits. I share my money story with my partner and working together to change OUR story is no easy task. I'm playing a giant game of Clue and need to ensure I understand the rules of play. Today I work with the money expert to shape the unique financial rules we will use in our shared money story.  

Shannah Game is a CFP®, money expert, author, and emotional money guide who helps women understand the stories, shame, fear, and identity patterns behind their financial lives. She is the author of Unraveling Your Relationship with Money and creator of The Steady Reset, a free three-day audio series to help women stop spiraling around money and start feeling steady again.
She is also the creator and host of Bake It Out, a new YouTube show where baking becomes the doorway into honest conversations about money, midlife, reinvention, and the emotional stuff we usually hide.
Connect with Shannah:
Website + free audio series: https://www.heyshannah.com (https://www.heyshannah.com/)
Book: https://www.heyshannah.com/book
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@heyshannahgame 

relationships, money, communication, shame, guilt, fear, anger, change, empowerment

I'm learning we all have guilt and shame wrapped around money. I don't want to take past goop into my new money story. And to change the Story in My Head I needed some action steps. In this episode the financial expert gave me steps to let go of guilt and fear; and move toward financial empowerment. WOW! That's definitely a new story for me!

Shannah Game is a CFP®, money expert, author, and emotional money guide who helps women understand the stories, shame, fear, and identity patterns behind their financial lives. She is the author of Unraveling Your Relationship with Money and creator of The Steady Reset, a free three-day audio series to help women stop spiraling around money and start feeling steady again.
She is also the creator and host of Bake It Out, a new YouTube show where baking becomes the doorway into honest conversations about money, midlife, reinvention, and the emotional stuff we usually hide.
Connect with Shannah:
Website + free audio series: https://www.heyshannah.com (https://www.heyshannah.com/)
Book: https://www.heyshannah.com/book
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@heyshannahgame 

money, shame, guilt, fear, anger, change, permission, empowerment

I met with the money expert to re-visit a few things. We agreed there's a lot of mis-information about money in The Story in My Head. I was reminded I MAKE THE RULES cause it's MY story now! 

Shannah Game is a CFP®, money expert, author, and emotional money guide who helps women understand the stories, shame, fear, and identity patterns behind their financial lives. She is the author of Unraveling Your Relationship with Money and creator of The Steady Reset, a free three-day audio series to help women stop spiraling around money and start feeling steady again.
She is also the creator and host of Bake It Out, a new YouTube show where baking becomes the doorway into honest conversations about money, midlife, reinvention, and the emotional stuff we usually hide.
Connect with Shannah:
Website + free audio series: https://www.heyshannah.com (https://www.heyshannah.com/)
Book: https://www.heyshannah.com/book
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@heyshannahgame 

money, emotions, story, spending habits, shame, lies, change

Money is most definitely an emotional thing!  We can feel guilt and shame after spending money, embarrassed to talk about our earnings and spending, as well as feel confused about why and how we spend. We can not speak honestly about money without speaking about our emotions AND our emotional spending.  Whether we are sad, fearful, hormonally imbalanced or experiencing any kind of crisis; our emotions affect our money story. Let's begin to budget for emotional spending. 

Shannah Game is a CFP®, money expert, author, and emotional money guide who helps women understand the stories, shame, fear, and identity patterns behind their financial lives. She is the author of Unraveling Your Relationship with Money and creator of The Steady Reset, a free three-day audio series to help women stop spiraling around money and start feeling steady again.
She is also the creator and host of Bake It Out, a new YouTube show where baking becomes the doorway into honest conversations about money, midlife, reinvention, and the emotional stuff we usually hide.
Connect with Shannah:
Website + free audio series: https://www.heyshannah.com (https://www.heyshannah.com/)
Book: https://www.heyshannah.com/book
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@heyshannahgame 

money, finances, emotions, hormones, spending habits, shame, budget, change

Continuing my conversations with the money expert, I am learning to have honest conversations..... with my partner and with myself! To honestly look at my relationship with money is scary.  It's hard work to share the Story in My Head about money, even with people I love. I am capable of hard things.  So are you.  

Shannah Game is a CFP®, money expert, author, and emotional money guide who helps women understand the stories, shame, fear, and identity patterns behind their financial lives. She is the author of Unraveling Your Relationship with Money and creator of The Steady Reset, a free three-day audio series to help women stop spiraling around money and start feeling steady again.
She is also the creator and host of Bake It Out, a new YouTube show where baking becomes the doorway into honest conversations about money, midlife, reinvention, and the emotional stuff we usually hide.
Connect with Shannah:
Website + free audio series: https://www.heyshannah.com (https://www.heyshannah.com/)
Book: https://www.heyshannah.com/book
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@heyshannahgame 

communication, relationships, money, finances, self worth, self care, honesty, shame

I'm meeting with a financial expert to re-write the Story in My Head about MONEY.  It's hard work. It's a little embarrassing.  And it's totally worth it. Join me as I dive into my financial story, identify what is missing, let go of what is not needed and begin to feel financially "enough".

Shannah Game is a CFP®, money expert, author, and emotional money guide who helps women understand the stories, shame, fear, and identity patterns behind their financial lives. She is the author of Unraveling Your Relationship with Money and creator of The Steady Reset, a free three-day audio series to help women stop spiraling around money and start feeling steady again.
She is also the creator and host of Bake It Out, a new YouTube show where baking becomes the doorway into honest conversations about money, midlife, reinvention, and the emotional stuff we usually hide.
Connect with Shannah:
Website + free audio series: https://www.heyshannah.com (https://www.heyshannah.com/)
Book: https://www.heyshannah.com/book
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@heyshannahgame   

money, shame, guilt, identity, finances, communication, relationships, change