The Therapeutic Poet

This podcast episode started off about divorce, speaking to Samantha about her own experience about divorce and her reasons for setting up the award winning podcast The Divorce Social. That's how it began... but Samantha is also an author and activist championing the deaf community and as someone who is a fellow hearing aid wearer, I was keen to mine her experience and knowledge; all of which is in her most recent book Living with Hearing Loss and Deafness. Samantha also mentioned the RNID and Signature as helpful resource for hearing loss and deafness. You can find out more about Samantha at www.samanthabaines.com. The link to buy her new book is here

Samantha's bio:
Samantha Baines is a multi award-winning author, actress and broadcaster. She hosts the smash hit podcast The Divorce Social and as a hearing aid wearer herself, she is the author of critically acclaimed children's books with deaf main characters. You may recognise her from appearances on ITV's Loose Women, Sky News and Andrew Neil's This Week or acting roles in Netflix’s The Crown, Call the Midwife, Silent Witness and Magic Mike Live (directed by Channing Tatum). She is a regular on BBC radio stations.

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Michael grew up with an alcoholic, drug addicted mother who cut Michael’s finger off at 4 years old and an abusive stepfather. This lead him to living with 30 separate families before he was a teenager. There is much more to his story, so let’s welcome him to share some of that and also to create hope and inspiration with sharing how he moved through such severe intergenerational trauma and adverse childhood experiences to be the inspirational coach he is today; from trauma to triumph. As he says, ‘The trauma may be our foundation, but it is not our future.’

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Listener support: I love making The Therapeutic Poet podcast, but it does cost time and money. If you have enjoyed it, been informed by it or found it helpful then I would greatly appreciate your financial support. You can do this by:

Taking a paid subscription on my Substack - a weekly newsletter helping people have 'Permission to feel'. You'll receive tips on how to navigate our human tricky things, recorded poems and other goodies.

Buying my book ‘Stop the world I want to get off’

Or buy me a coffee 🤗.

Joining me today is Dr. Debi Silber and we are talking about betrayal  Dr. Debi Silber is the founder of the PBT (Post Betrayal Transformation) Institute and is a holistic psychologist, a health, mindset and personal development expert, the author of Trust Again, and is a 2-time #1 International bestselling author of: The Unshakable Woman AND From Hardened to Healed. 

Her podcast: From Betrayal to Breakthrough is also globally ranked within the top 1.5% of podcasts. Her recent PhD study on how we experience betrayal made 3 groundbreaking discoveries that changes how long it takes to heal. In addition to being on FOX, CBS, The Dr. Oz Show, TEDx (twice) and more, she’s an award-winning speaker and coach dedicated to helping people move past their betrayals as well as any other blocks preventing them from the health, work, relationships, confidence, and happiness they want most.

We talked about her 3 discoveries with the research that she has done, how betrayal is a different kind of trauma because of how it feels so intentional and personal and therefore relates to trust, how it affects one physically, mentally, spiritually and emotionally - and she shared some really sobering statistics around that and how it is possible to move through from betrayal to breakthrough with her five stage process.

Support the show

Click here to go to my Substack page.

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Click here to buy my a coffee and show your support

Listener support: I love making The Therapeutic Poet podcast, but it does cost time and money. If you have enjoyed it, been informed by it or found it helpful then I would greatly appreciate your financial support. You can do this by:

Taking a paid subscription on my Substack - a weekly newsletter helping people have 'Permission to feel'. You'll receive tips on how to navigate our human tricky things, recorded poems and other goodies.

Buying my book ‘Stop the world I want to get off’

Or buy me a coffee 🤗.

This episode is different! Unfortunately my recording for this week with my guest ran into difficulties, so I had a think about what I could offer you instead.
I write a weekly newsletter for my paid subscribers on Substack so I thought that I would give you an insight into what I write about.

I have always said that what I am trying to do is 'rehumanise, one poem at a time'. Whilst it's tempting to focus on one key thing such as addiction or trauma or even poetry, I want to help remind us that being human is a whole merry mix of things and so is our experience of being human. Whilst we may have a bunch of experiences which cause us to react or behave in a certain way, such reactions are not 'disorders'. I believe that we need to de-medicalise emotions.

So I have developed a weekly newsletter called 'Permission to feel' for my paid subscribers on Subtack which focuses on one emotion at a time.  I bring in various different psychological insights, poems that I have written and tools that you can use straight away, in my hope to educate, empower and entertain.

I have a bit of fun with a short story in this episode, along with sound effects. It was a lot of fun to do!

Have a listen and find out more on my Substack page. 

Support the show

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Listener support: I love making The Therapeutic Poet podcast, but it does cost time and money. If you have enjoyed it, been informed by it or found it helpful then I would greatly appreciate your financial support. You can do this by:

Taking a paid subscription on my Substack - a weekly newsletter helping people have 'Permission to feel'. You'll receive tips on how to navigate our human tricky things, recorded poems and other goodies.

Buying my book ‘Stop the world I want to get off’

Or buy me a coffee 🤗.

I met Dan when we were at the Edinburgh Fringe Festival in August 2022 and

I went to his show 'Patience Zero'. The description of his show was:

'Dan's always wanted to be a father. But now he and his wife are going

through constant loss and IVF, he starts to ask the question: is he good

enough? But in a year with a serious accident, an NHS-induced bad K-trip, a

letter warning of impending death and, oh, aliens, he begins to wonder - is

the universe telling him no? It's a comedy. Somewhere between stand-up and

theatre, this show explores how far you will go for family.' I was

interested in having Dan speak on the podcast because it is rare to find

places where men share about this experience. In this episode I speak to

Dan about writing his story as a comedy show; how he and his wife dealt

with miscarriage and loss and what impact his show had on other people.

I met Dan when we were at the Edinburgh Fringe Festival in August 2022 and I went to his show 'Patience Zero'. The description of his show was:
'Dan's always wanted to be a father. But now he and his wife are going through constant loss and IVF, he starts to ask the question: is he good enough? But in a year with a serious accident, an NHS-induced bad K-trip, a letter warning of impending death and, oh, aliens, he begins to wonder - is the universe telling him no? It's a comedy. Somewhere between stand-up and theatre, this show explores how far you will go for family.' and was given a 4/5 star review by Chortle who said, 'I love this genre of thoughtful, emotionally truthful shows that come from unexpected directions. They always deserve a bigger audiences, and punters lucky enough to find these little gems will remember them long after the bigger, later, louder balls-out comedy shows have blurred into one.'

I was interested in having Dan speak on the podcast because it is rare to find places where men share about this experience. In this episode I speak to Dan about writing his story as a comedy show; how he and his wife dealt with miscarriage and loss and what impact his show had on other people.

Helpful resources;
www.tommys.org
www.sands.org.uk
https://babyloss-awareness.org/organisations/
https://themuttonclub.com/childless-not-by-choice-through-grief-to-acceptance/
https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=uufXWTHT60Y

Support the show

Click here to go to my Substack page.

Click here to buy my book

Click here to buy my a coffee and show your support

Listener support: I love making The Therapeutic Poet podcast, but it does cost time and money. If you have enjoyed it, been informed by it or found it helpful then I would greatly appreciate your financial support. You can do this by:

Taking a paid subscription on my Substack - a weekly newsletter helping people have 'Permission to feel'. You'll receive tips on how to navigate our human tricky things, recorded poems and other goodies.

Buying my book ‘Stop the world I want to get off’

Or buy me a coffee 🤗.

Redefining what it means to be emotionally resilient, Josh in an ambassador

for NACOA, the National Association for Children of Alcoholics. He works

with individuals and corporation to help people improve their emotional

resilience. His down to earth, highly informed videos on social media have

attracted hundred of thousands of followers. He joins me on The Therapeutic

Poet podcast to talk about being a child of an alcoholic, addiction

recovery, what it means to really listen and the importance of community.

Redefining what it means to be emotionally resilient, Josh in an ambassador for NACOA, the National Association for Children of Alcoholics. He works with individuals and corporation to help people improve their emotional resilience. His down to earth, highly informed videos on social media have attracted hundred of thousands of followers.

In this episode we talk about:
Addiction recovery
Trauma
Dysfunctional families
Breathwork
Classism within the mental health world
The importance of supportive community
How listening like a labrador is so important!

You can find out more about Josh at his website, on Instagram and Twitter and on Youtube.

Support the show

Click here to go to my Substack page.

Click here to buy my book

Click here to buy my a coffee and show your support

Listener support: I love making The Therapeutic Poet podcast, but it does cost time and money. If you have enjoyed it, been informed by it or found it helpful then I would greatly appreciate your financial support. You can do this by:

Taking a paid subscription on my Substack - a weekly newsletter helping people have 'Permission to feel'. You'll receive tips on how to navigate our human tricky things, recorded poems and other goodies.

Buying my book ‘Stop the world I want to get off’

Or buy me a coffee 🤗.

We cover:

Trauma Bonding

Being on the receiving end of the silent treatment

Emotional abuse

Narcissistic abuse

Covert sexual abuse

Addiction

Complex trauma

Trauma responses

Toxic shame

Going from not having a voice, to reclaiming it

Parenting

The healing power of writing.

Dr. Ingrid Clayton is well known for her informative and entertaining reels on Instagram about healing childhood trauma from narcissistic abuse. 

In this episode we discuss the impact of abuse that happened to her as a child and adolescent; the impact of not being believed by her mother; how, even as a therapist it took her time to understand that she was enduring complex trauma.  

Such trauma has a long lasting effect and we discuss the different ways it impacted her adult life and how she has recovered and is still recovering.

Ingrid is an entertaining expert and although this episode deals with difficult issues, I'm sure you'll finish listening to it feeling inspired and hopeful.

We cover:

• Trauma Bonding
• Being on the receiving end of the silent treatment
• Emotional abuse
• Narcissistic abuse
• Covert sexual abuse
• Addiction
• Complex trauma
• Trauma responses
• Toxic shame
• Going from not having a voice, to reclaiming it
• Parenting
• The healing power of writing.

You can find out more about Dr. Ingrid Clayton at www.ingridclayton.com. Ingrid regularly contribute to Psychology Today and her book Believing Me: Healing from Narcissistic Abuse and Complex Trauma is out now.

You may also find the following useful:
For incest survivors : https://siawso.org/
This book for childhood sexual abuse survivors.
This book for trauma bonding.
Information on Internal Family Systems

Music accompanying the poem is 'Drop it' by Coma-Media.

Support the show

Click here to go to my Substack page.

Click here to buy my book

Click here to buy my a coffee and show your support

Listener support: I love making The Therapeutic Poet podcast, but it does cost time and money. If you have enjoyed it, been informed by it or found it helpful then I would greatly appreciate your financial support. You can do this by:

Taking a paid subscription on my Substack - a weekly newsletter helping people have 'Permission to feel'. You'll receive tips on how to navigate our human tricky things, recorded poems and other goodies.

Buying my book ‘Stop the world I want to get off’

Or buy me a coffee 🤗.