The Thing Doers

In this episode of The Thing Doers, Sam and Pam start off by touching on the thrilling topic of cleaning (yes, you really should be wiping down those baseboards more than once every 10 years). But let’s be real—that’s just a warm-up. The main event is all about Thanksgiving as we roll into the holiday season. Pam shares her hot take on why it's high time to ditch the tired traditions in favor of something a little more untraditional. Together, they break down the good, the bad, and the hilariously ugly sides of holiday rituals. Whether you love a classic turkey day or you’re ready to give the whole thing a makeover, this episode's got you covered.

Marriage. Finding the one, figuring out how to live together, learning how to fight fair, and somehow managing not to kill each other over the little things. It's a beautiful institution. Allegedly.

In this episode of The Thing Doers, Sam and Pam bring their better halves (a title still under review), Austin and Steve, into the conversation for an honest, funny look at marriage, relationships, and what it really takes to go the distance.

From first dates and breakups to moving in together and eventually saying "I do," both couples share their relationship stories, communication styles, disagreements, and the lessons they've learned along the way.

We talk about maintaining your independence while building a life together, why having separate interests matters, and how hobbies like surfing, coloring, or organizing a drawer (yes, Pam insists that counts) can actually be good for a marriage.

There's also plenty of discussion about being yourself from the beginning, growing together over the years, and figuring out whether you've really found "the one."

It's marriage advice from people who've actually been married, complete with questionable wisdom, honest opinions, and a few things our husbands probably wish we'd kept to ourselves.

Because marriage is for the long haul. Apparently, so is putting up with each other's nonsense.

This week, Sam and Pam share their plans for the 30-day challenge to rid their homes of clutter and they’ve added an extra twist by committing to a no-spend month, meaning they can only buy things with the money they earn from selling some of their own treasures. Pam drops some wisdom on minimalism (a.k.a. owning two things instead of twenty) and the difference between wants and needs. There's chat about magic wands, peaceful spaces, “buy days” vs. “look days,” and Sam dishes out two tips that you didn't know you needed but will be glad you heard.

Even while recording this episode life is in full swing as Pam’s family and Sam’s husband provide some background ambiance with their dinner in the next room. It’s a Thing Doer class in getting stuff done, because what’s productivity without a little chaos? Welcome to the multitasking circus!

In this episode of The Thing Doers, Pam travels from California to the Lone Star State for an in person recording with Sam and special guests Wendy and Chris to discuss the massive migration of Californians out of the Golden State. They talk about why they've made the move to Texas and the many others that have been heading to states like Tennessee, Idaho, and Utah—where there’s more space, more freedom, and fewer reasons to roll your eyes. They dive into why so many are ditching the overpriced chaos and fake smiles of California for the promise of something better.

They laugh about how they went from dodging earthquakes to dodging hurricanes, all while navigating the wild, wild world of Texan hospitality—where neighbors bake you bread just because your kids sneeze. But let’s not get too sappy; they also rant about the horror show that is Texas driving and how the local Mexican food makes them long for a real California taco.

And stick around for a bonus tip from Sam on how to cap the night with your kids to ensure a full night’s sleep. With a mix of snark, sarcasm, and a few "bless your hearts," they spill the tea on why Texas isn’t perfect (but is definitely beating California for them and their families).

Today’s episode asks the questions…Is that weird? We admit we are all weird but some of our “normal” may seem odd to others. We're airing our dirty laundry on things we love, hate, and cringe at—because normal is overrated.

From Kidz Bop: 12-year-olds butchering Top 40 hits to wire hangers and what is this about brushing teeth Sam? We’ll touch on the foods and shows that are our guilty pleasures and dive into the strange things that fill us with irrational fear. Urinals, elevators, and manhole covers which are the potential urban death traps.

We also share some PSA’s and safety tips that you may not have been aware of so you might learn something or at least become aware that you may be doing something that might make you an A-hole. We love our listeners and want to all become a little better humans to those around us and enjoy each others weirdness.

Night Owls or Early Birds? In this episode of Pam and Sam delve into the eternal debate between early birds and night owls. They sarcastically praise the early risers for their supposed productivity while pointing out the absurdity of waking up at 4 a.m. for anything other than milking cows or solving world crises. They discuss the joys of a quiet gym at 10 p.m., the terror of alarm clocks, and the joys of kids who sleep in. They champion late-night creativity, arguing that nighttime inspiration can sometimes surpass morning productivity. It's all about finding balance and embracing one's natural rhythms, Pam and Sam conclude by advocating for personalized routines and the value of sleep, leaving listeners with the thought: "If we were all meant to wake up early, coffee wouldn’t be so strong" And a BONUS Dishwasher tip too!

Ever been told that grocery shopping counts as "me time"? Join us on the latest episode of "The Thing Doers" as we break down the ridiculousness of what society deems a "break" for moms. From the "luxury" of showering alone to the "relaxation" of running errands, we're calling out the nonsense. We'll also explore the absurd types of breaks we get: Bathroom Time-Out, Car Cry Sessions, and Actually Leaving the House (without kids!). Spoiler: Moms need real breaks, not glorified chores. Get ready for some eye-rolls, a couple of tipe and a serious reality check.

In this episode of The Thing Doers, we dive into the glamorous world of parenting across state lines, comparing the high-stakes, fast-paced life in California with the charmingly disciplined realm of Texas. Ever wonder why kids in Texas listen to their parents and those in California seem to run wild? We've got personal anecdotes, playdate dramas, and a touch of cultural critique to keep you entertained.

But that's not all! We also tackle the modern-day dilemma of survival. Spoiler alert: constantly chasing more money and stuff might just mean you're missing out on raising decent human beings. Who knew? We question the necessity of the latest gadgets and shiny cars, pondering if our minimalist-minded selves are onto something. Join us as we sarcastically navigate the chaos of contemporary parenting, and maybe, just maybe, figure out how to raise respectful and responsible kids in today’s oh-so-demanding world.

In this episode Sam and Pam tackle the question of self-identity with a touch of sarcasm. Sam shares a curveball thrown by a new friend who asked, "Who are you?" Realizing she can describe others but not herself, Sam fumbles for an answer, realizing she can easily describe others but not herself. This challenge eludes Pam too who is stumped beyond answering "I wear black everyday and I'm an introvert"

They mock the typical "What do you do?" query, noting that job titles don't tell their whole story. Sam shares her struggle of saying she's "just a mom" despite taking her role seriously, complete with nightly guilt trips. How do we recognize personal traits and passions beyond professional labels, which can lead to richer human connections.

The conversation also touches on balancing work and life, sharing relatable gripes about skyrocketing living expenses and budget reassessments. They highlight the relentless pursuit of success, and when is enough really enough?

In this episode Sam & Pam delve into the overwhelming world of mental load—the never-ending tabs open in their heads managing home and family life. Mental load isn't just about tasks but the constant mental gymnastics required to keep everything running smoothly. The daily struggle with the barrage of thoughts and responsibilities. They reflect on the absurdity of it all, balancing the necessity of routine with the fear of missing a beat. This provides a lighthearted look into the often unnoticed complexities of mental load and its impact on personal sanity and ask “do men carry mental load?”

Ever feel like you have 47 tabs open in your brain, and at least 12 of them are playing music you can't find?

Welcome to the mental load. That never-ending collection of responsibilities, reminders, appointments, plans, and random thoughts that comes with being the person everyone depends on to keep life running.

In this episode of The Thing Doers, Sam and Pam tackle the invisible mental labor of managing a household, family, relationships, and everyday life. Because apparently, doing all the things isn't enough. We're also supposed to remember, organize, anticipate, and worry about all the things before they even happen.

We talk about the exhausting cycle of overthinking, the pressure to keep everything running smoothly, and the million little details nobody notices until something gets forgotten.

And we ask the important question: Do men carry the mental load too? Or have they just mastered the art of closing all those mental browser tabs?

Sam also shares how the book Don't Believe Everything You Think helped her gain perspective on overthinking and managing the chaos in her head. We explore how our thoughts affect productivity, creativity, and our ability to function when life refuses to slow down.

It's an honest, slightly sarcastic conversation about mental load, invisible responsibilities, overthinking, and the questionable wisdom of becoming everyone's designated Thing Doer.

Because if we don't think about all the things, who will?

Actually, don't answer that. We're afraid we already know.